Both of you need great humility and the grace of God to work out things together for the benefit of the marriage.
Submission is not only for the wives but also for the husbands. You should learn to listen one to the other.The issue of age is meaningless in marriage.Age has nothing to with maturity.

THE AGE OF METHUSELAH HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE WISDOM OF SOLOMON
You husband should learn to live with the wife with wisdom.Bible calls the wives WEAKER VESSELS making you the husbands WEAK VESSELS and the kids WEAKEST VESSELS.
Every one of us has nagged at one time or the other while few had grown out of it.It all depends on the value you place on your spouse and the marriage as a whole.

Nagging should be a thing that can be overcome if the person will just open up and speak up his/her or mind than acting like a baby who needs attention. If their is true love in a marriage I believe spouses should compromise their policies to accommodate what they term as nonsense or rubbish from their partner

It sounds funny.What on earth will make me to live with my parents after marriage? It is really absurd.
Though there can be problems that can warrant that but i strongly believe it shouldn't be for long. But lets call a spade a spade.It is not the best neither will it ever be the best.
If the guy wants freedom and liberty he should have his own apartment even though it's a manger.I prefer that to staying with my parents.

Some of you guys are getting it all wrong people like maclatunji and sugardaddy.Their is a difference between marital love and friendship love.You should try and differentiate that.You might love a lady but not for marriage,but solely for friendship.
The said lady even got married before me.I was really happy for her while i got married 2 years after.Like I said it all depends on your mindset.Every mature guy should know and learn how to control his emotion.You should make it your SLAVE not your MASTER.

It is 100% possible.I once had a lady friend before I got married.We were so close that people thought I was going to marry her.But we were just close friends.

It all depends on your mindset and maturity.The problem with many people is that they have a corrupt mind program that affects the way they look at things and the definitions given to such.

Their is nothing really bad in it as long as it does not become habitual on the part of the guy.You may end up loosing your self dignity and respect before the lady and her friends and her families if she is "CNN"

A woman told me that she feels appreciated when her spouse tells her I LOVE YOU. At the same time the man is a champion womanizer of which the wife is aware of and also maltreats her.

In my opinion I believe a man's actions speaks volumes of his love for the wife than the hypocritical deceptive slogan of "I LOVE YOU SYNDROME" many men are using to deceive their spouses to keep them in the illusion of they are for them. Women who deny realities prefer this.

I am of the opinion of whether it is said or not true love is more in actions than in words.What are your opinions great Nairalanders?

Sincerity, openness and being a great encourager.

We are in the end time.All gays or lesbians all have demented mindset.Their conscience know the truth they are just living in self denial.Even animals don't practise such rubbish.Obama or no Obama African people should not allow our culture to be eroded by white madness.

My dear it is not okay especially if your husband has female weakness.Don't bring temptation to your man.Na warn I warn you ooooo

What makes man fulfilled is not anything external.It has to do with your personal values and the meanings you give to them.

If a man truly loves himself and God Almighty he should derive joy and satisfaction from whatever he is doing.But for an African man without a child it's not going to be easy to be happy no matter the money he has.

Depressed over what.My dear pull yourself together.Thank God for your father who was able to send you to school and he is still ready to sponsor you to any level provided it's in Nigeria.Not many are that opportune.You should be grateful to God.

I see no reason for your depression you just have to improvise that's all.THERE ARE MANY PRIVATE UNIVERSITIES IN NIGERIA.You can attend any of them.If your dad refuses to approve your plans you can make do with what he want and still pursue your ambition later in life.

Be encouraged when their is life their is hope.

This a case that cannot be fully answered here.The man should think back when the crack started.If it was not so from the beginning then at what time did the pot break.It's something both of them must work on.If both are tired of the show they should end it instead of living in frustration.

But I ASSUMED IT MUST BE A SPIRITUAL CASE.Their is no accusation of infidelity in their homes.Both should go into spiritual warfare and fight against the devil or better still go for counseling and deliverance.God will help the man.

No one is judging you but your own conscience.Remember what ever you sow you must certainly reap.Turn a new leaf there are many wonderful charming good mannered guys still around.Reposition your life to meet them.

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I sympathize with you but I will blame you in one aspect. All those years he was in school did you go to check on him? Did you bother to know one or two oh his friends in the campus. Did you go to check his performance with any of his lecturers?

If you had done one of this things you would have discovered his lies.Many parents just dump their kids in the universities and believe their only duty is to sponsor them.May God help us.Your son needs prayers and serious counseling.God will guide you by his grace on how to help your son find the true purpose of life

LOVE the four letter word that has TURNED THE LIVES OF MANY INTO MISERIES AND FEW INTO BLISS.Many are searching for their true love.Many have gone into countless heart breaking relationships seeking for this JEWEL.So many many think they have it in their relationship only to discover the illusions in what they assume to be love.
Why the so many chaos in marriages and love relationships today?The rate of divorce is alarming even among respected men of GOLD sorry men of GOD.The youth of this generation are caught in the cobweb of LUST AND MISTAKE IT FOR LOVE.
Is love real? Where can it be found?So many books have been written on this subject alone but the tears from broken relationships and marriages are even disturbing the angels above.I want to offer my understanding on this subject from a different angle accept it if you can or reject it to your own hurt especially if you are a female.
Love is NOT something to be sought after outside yourself. It is within you.You might not believe this.Love has to do with the personal values you place on yourself and the feelings of emotions backing the values.LOVE HAS TO DO WITH VALUES.
Until you understand this,you will never experience lasting inner peace.No man can devalue you when you love yourself dearly. YOUR SELF WORTH IS NOT DETERMINE BY OTHERS BUT BY THE PRICE YOU HAVE PLACED ON YOURSELF.
Until you love yourself base on your positive values you may Keep on searching for love from outside source.When people cry of broken heart it amazes me greatly.How on earth did your heart got broken if you did not sell it cheap?.That’s hard.I know.
Base on my research of broken relationships over 90% had involved sex.All in the name to prove your love to a guy you go to bed with him thinking that will make him to love you the more vise versa.Listen to this weird truth SEX IS NOT A PROVE OF LOVE.
You need to look deep down within,DO YOU REALLY LOVE YOURSELF?,DO YOU HAVE STRONG VALUES YOU WILL NOT COMPROMISE FOR ANYTHING ON EARTH?WHERE DO YOU DERIVE YOUR JOY OR HAPPINESS FROM?
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Capital NO is my answer.

Sex is an act that must be mastered by both couples.If the man is not performing up to expectation it is the duty of the woman to teach the man how to do it by giving him advise or buying books for him to read or even take him to a marriage expert for counseling.

Though there are some who can never be satisfied by their husbands no matter how hard they try.Such have infidelity problem.Like they say in the Yoruba adage
"OkO KAN O KUN CUPBORAD"
That is one husband is not enough.

But to the real godly women you can help your husband to learn all the tricks about sex if you are an expert or go for seminar on the issue.

Many home would have been saved if not for selfish motive.God help our marriages.

You cannot woe a morally decent girl with money.I have said several time money is not

love.Any one you woe through money will one day be woe by a someone who is

financially more than you.

HE WHO PAYS THE PIPER DICTATES THE TUNE

My answer is very short.

When that individual can stand on its own,making personal positive decisions,mature in thinking and sees life from a broader view,live independently with positive image.

Many entered into it a naive mindset thinking it is just for the fun of it.

WHEN PURPOSE IS DESTRUCTION IS INEVITABLE

Emotional relationSHIP is not something you enter without knowing what you are getting your self involved into.

A natural ship is a big thing that can only move on the sea or ocean.The one one of love is a bigger ship than you can imagine.Do people have the sea or ocean in their heart for it to move freely.THAT IS A GREAT QUESTION FOR ALL LOVERS.


Many not all will end in tears because when they do not have what it takes for the relationSHIP to keep on moving the THING will become grounded.

If you are man enough to put it their you should be man enough to accept the pregnancy

Marriage is a business you must learn to run successfully most of the time.It should be handled the way a natural business is being handled.
Many women cannot take nonsense from their husbands at home but they can tolerate it from their bosses in the working places.WHAT AN IRONY.

To much familiarity brings contempt they say.The same goes for marriage.Love in the home will always be tested by so many things.For the love to keep on standing depends on the genuineness of the love in the first place.A lot of people thought they married out of love only to discover to their horror that they find it difficult to love their spouse after few years into the marriage.

IF YOU TRULY LOVE YOUR SPOUSE NOTHING ON EARTH CAN BREAK YOUR MARRIAGE LET ONLY TO WEAR IT DOWN BELOW ZERO LEVEL.

The many divorce in marriages and lost love in homes is making many to believe that is the common trend today.

By December 4 next month I would be clocking 12years in marriage.I still love my wife and she still loves me.Though we have faced so many challenges that are enough to wear the novelty down but like I said it is difficult to kill a real love.

SONG SOLOMON 8:6-8 SAYS,

"SET ME AS A SEAL UPON YOUR HEART, FOR LOVE IS AS STRONG AS DEATH,MANY WATERS(troubles,people,trials) CANNOT QUENCH LOVE, "

That is what I believe marriage should be and not the many lies being told by people who are weak in nature and cover their evil indulgence with fake eloquent words.

However you must learn to be creative if you want your home to be interesting.Tolerate the weakness of your spouse,get use to his or her verbal language until change come.I strongly believe genuine spouse tend to change as they grow older in their marriage and laugh about their childish behaviors in the early years of their marriage.

In summarily you must know how to run a home and keep it aglow with joy.MUCH OF IT LIES IN THE HAND OF THE WIVES.

Life is simple and complex depending on the level of your understanding.Cheating on the path of women in marriage may be for several reasons which are baseless from the AFRICAN POINT and BIBLICAL VIEWS.

The following are the reasons why some women cheat in marriage.
1. Infidelity spirit in the soul and mind
2. Just for the fun of it.
3. Inability of the husband to satisfy her sexually.
4. Peer pressures(bad friends influence)
5. A revenge for the husband's cheating
6. Due to financial problems at home or husband not meeting up to her financial demands
7. Trend in the society
8. Inherited habit from their mothers
9. For no just reasons.Sounds funny but true.

These are just some of the reasons why they do it.But as far as I am concerned such women have no respect for themselves.They should remember their is always a consequence for every evil you do on earth.

They all will certainly reap the reward of sin either now or in their old age.

Hi! you gals and guys in the house.It's really been a long time.I missed you all a great deal.I have been very busy.Thank goodness am back for good.

There is no marriage without wahala.It is a business you must to run successfully.Base on statistic 90% of startup bizs fold up after 5 years.At 10 years only 1% is really making great profits. That is really amazing and shocking.

 What made the 1% to succeed and the 99% to fail is due to so many factors which cannot be listed here.But one thing is certain.The 1% that did succeed studied,learnt,applied creativity,adaptability with flexibility, knew what they wanted and were not discouraged in the face of trials and turbulence.

So it is with marriage.It is the most difficult biz to run and the most profitable if ran well.

 Once again I miss u all.

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The problem with so many people who have such problems is because the don’t really know what they want from a relationship .Especially the male gender. Many have gone into relationship and even marriage with fallacious beliefs. For example some believe when they get married it will stop infidelity but to their amazing surprise it only fueled it in some cases.

This problem has to do with low self esteem, lust, greed, lack of contentment, misguided orientation, weak mindset and wrong mindset .Sexual problem has nothing to do with the outside factors but the inward ones. Two men can see the same thing and think differently, one positive and the other negative. Why will one begin to fantasize about sex by seeing a lady who is well dressed or not? It all depends on the mindset. The definition you have given to certain things about life rules the way you see things and act.

I will like to ask you the following questions.
1. Will you be happy if your son takes after you?
2. Will you be happy if your daughter gets married to a spouse like you?
3. Will you be happy if your wife is doing the same thing as you?
4. What kind of family do you want to raise up?
5. When you are old and on your dying bed will you be happy that you have live a good and godly life and ready to meet your CREATOR?

If you sincerely answered these questions, I believe you can summon all the courage you need to break such a negative habit. I believe you love your wife and you truly fear God. With His grace and your own self determination you can overcome it. I am not going to tell you it will all that easy but your determination will go a long way in helping you. GOOD LUCK.