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bukatyne: @0P: it doesn't matter wat a person's background is, as far as d person is in Christ, He/She becomes a new being. So many people raise above their backgrounds to become d best they can be in life!

Lot of Nigerian men and women tell you they are in Christ
Don't get played by people going to church but don't act in the ways of the lord
look at Nigeria, we all say God. Our actions doesn't reflect the ways of the lord

wife

aloy/emeka:
What if you have cheated on him before mentally and he did the same PHYSICALLy, will you still take the drastic divorce move?. I am saying this because 90% of Naija guys cheat and the remaining 10% are either born again or too broke to afford affairs. If you plan on zero tolerance, better look for a nice Ghananian guy to marry unless you want to raise your kids as  a single parent.


The percentage of married Yoruba guys who will have affair----94%
Percentage of married Igbo/Ijaw guys who will have affair------83%
Percentage of married Hausa/Fulani  guys who will have affair-------------------99%
Percentage of Ibibio/Efik guys who will have an affair--------82%
Edo men---------89%

You still wanna marry a Naija guy?. The chances are very slim.

Where did you get that Statistic?
Please send me the link
Thx

chineloSA: What nau What was disrespectful in my response. You indicated that what I said is BS, and I said as much as I may view your opinion likewise.

Such vulgarityI pity your imaginary wife?

Thanks for your pity
Get help
Nasty B?

chineloSA: Just as much I would say your opinion is BS as well.?
I did not say that Poster must not save, its very imperative. I just highlighted possible things that she needs to consider doing before she settles and before babies come and be an inconvinience.

Yes standard of living can improve after marrige and can also regress, since you have to buy a house, kids school fees, saving for their University fees, saving for their first cars etc. So, improvement is not guaranteed, since God also choose a husband for one ( rich, average or poor ) .

Travelling the world does not need to wait for a husband, she can do it while single. If yours had to wait for a wife, sooory, that was your misfortune.

Thanks for revealing details of your sorry life, who cares, not that interesting. Good for your wife.

One thing I learnt in life is that, Tomorrow is not guaranteed. While you still young, enjoy and be merry.

We can agree to disagree on issues
Don't be FKing disrespectful Fucker

pendo89: no guy you dont have to really.Just find a good girl from a good home.

10.John D. Rockefeller> one of six children. His father was a traveling salesman and was a foe of conventional morality. Throughout much of his life, Rockefeller’s father tried to find tricks and schemes he could use in order to avoid hard work, or any work at all. John’s mom struggled a lot in order to keep stability in the home,

9.Liz Murray> From homeless to harvard.Murray’s life started off on a bad note. She was born to HIV-infected, drug-addicted, poor parents that were not able to provide for her. At nine years old, Murray found herself and her family living in an extremely dirty apartment. At the young age of 16, Murray was left alone once her mother died of AIDS. Her father also abandoned her, moving to a homeless shelter. She went to high school, but often found herself sleeping in subways, park benches, or at a friend’s home. Without a great education, Murray was able to graduate in only two years and was able to attend Harvard. Today, Liz is an inspirational speaker who speaks out about determination and how no matter how hard life is, you have to move on and continue to work your way through the battles

8.Richard Branson>was born to a decent family in Blackheath, London. He had two parents and a grandfather that was the Judge of the High Court of Justice. He received a good education, but he didn’t do well in school. Instead of focusing on school, Branson decided to put a lot of his time into growing Christmas trees and raising budgerigars. However, both of these projects failed.

7.Chris Gardner>Chris grew up without knowing his real father. His mother married a man who completely ruined his and his mother’s life. He was chased out of his home and had nowhere to go, so he enlisted in the Navy. He soon became a medical supplies salesman, got married, and had a child. However, the medical supplies industry was changing, and Chris needed to find a new source of income. He was able to find interest in stock broking, after seeing a stock broker with a Ferrari. At this time, Chris had no money and his wife was gone. His son proved to be his motivation, even though the two slept in subway station bathrooms. Chris was able to pass a licensing exam and received a job at Bear Sterns

6.H. Wayne Huizenga>In his early teens, Wayne and his family moved to Florida, but he soon realized that his father was not the male figure he should look up to. He abused his wife, but the move to Florida was made in hopes to keep the marriage from divorce. However, Wayne’s dad did not change, and he continuously abused his family. Wayne went to high school and afterward moved back to Chicago to go to college, but he soon dropped out. He then signed up to be part of the Army reserves and trained. After training he went back to Florida, bought a truck, and began taking garbage out of his county. Eventually, the one garbage truck he had purchased grew into a highly successful business.

5.Jim Carrey>His father worked as an accountant, but as Jim got older, his family’s situation deteriorated. His family had to move to Scarborough and they all worked at the Titan Wheels Factory. Jim had to work eight hours a day and attend school. Still, it was very hard to keep the family stable. After moving out of the factory to new jobs, the family found themselves living in a camper van. Eventually, Jim had the courage to stand up and decide to act on his dream of being a comedian.

4.Andrew Carnegie>he was once a poor boy from Scotland. His father was a hand loom weaver, but once the industrialization of society reached Scotland, his father’s work was no longer needed. For years, his family had tough times to make ends meet, so they decided to start anew and move to America. At thirteen, Andrew and his family moved to America and he got a job at a cotton mill. He was working twelve hour days, six days a week. Eventually Andrew got a job as a telegraph messenger. Because of his great work ethic, someone from the Pennsylvania Railroad Company offered him a job, which allowed him to earn more money and make his way up the corporate ladder. He soon started investing in railroad companies, and then hit the jackpot by investing in the steel industry. His investments would allow him to have his own steel company, which was able to bring 120 billion to his wallet.

3.Oprah Winfrey>Oprah was born to unwed teenage patents in Mississippi. Once she was born, the two teenagers ended their relationship. Oprah was raised by her grandmother who was poor and wasn’t able to give her much, but she did teach Oprah how to read before age three. When Oprah turned six she relocated to the city of Milwaukee to live with her mother. During this time she still didn’t have much, but she was doing great academically. Oprah became rebellious and ran away from home, so her mother sent her to live with her father in Tennessee. She continued to be a great student and was able to impress many.

2.Obama>Of his early childhood, Obama writes: "That my father looked nothing like the people around me—that he was black as pitch, my mother white as milk—barely registered in my mind."[9] The book describes his struggles as a young adult to reconcile social perceptions of his multiracial heritage.[34] He wrote that he used alcohol, marijuana, and cocaine during his teenage years to "push questions of who I was out of my mind".[35] Obama has said that it was a seriously misguided mistake. At the Saddleback Civil Presidential Forum Barack Obama identified his high-school drug use as his greatest moral failure.[36] Obama has stated he has not used any illegal drugs since he was a teenager

This I have posted to encourage those from struggling or broken homes.Don't ever allow ANYBODY to make you feel inferior.
Your parents may be pathetic but are you pathetic?? Focus on that and rise above.Its your life you are building,that which people are focusing on is your parents life so don't stop you from achieving your goal. When you succeed you will see the very people who despised you come running and begging to be your lovers.
If anybody rejects you because of your background? let them walk!
I d rather marry a sober man from a poor struggling background than a silly man from a stable home

Obama background was not from his parents but grandparents
In America people do drug and grow up to lead Fortune 500 companies
Obama is not a good example

Precious15: An excerpt:

Most women say they want to be a wife. Now the question is...Do you really want to be a wife?...Do you really want to love a Man through all phases...the immature stage, the scared stage, the stage knowing there's no going back, then finally the Man stage where he has come to grips with the oath he took....richer for poorer, better for worse, sickness and in health till death do you part...For some that journey takes awhile for some not so long..are you still willing to be a wife..(unconditional love)..Men have needs also..notice I said MEN....They crave attention at the right times, affection(come here and lay ya head on my chest, rub me down baby)..I mean it is not a hard thing to do...Do you still want to be a wife....ME time replaced by WE time(you still get your occasional girls night out(but no man wants a club hopping bar sitting posting pictures sideways type of wife)...Don't take this the wrong way ladies(do you still want to be a wife)...Unconditional love constitutes...a continual love through all your feminine hormonal changes, your up's and downs, your attitude adjustments, your feeling of wanting attention when He has already given it, your desires to do as your single friends still do...Do you still want to be a wife...Those days when you don't want to have sex and he does..do you?...Do you still want to be a wife..Understanding that He as in your Husband has emotions, feelings, pride and many of the same attributes and desires you want as a wife...RESPECT AND LOVE....will you be willing to put aside your I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T ways to follow a good mans lead..again ask yourself..Do you really want to be a wife?..Unconditionally....r​emember you still have to be a mother also.

God bless you
That is the big issue in UK.Canada and USA

Diving with her or seating down to watch TV

segunjowo: Poster: Drop me a mail thru maxrussells@yahoo.com. I am a system analyst, based in lagos. We can work things out and get married ASAP.

What type of system do you support?

urchilla: lol...how wont she try 2 be his mom?wen she calls him ''baby'' doesnt he answer?...lol

Great comment
love U

Daovris: I honestly feel your pain and understand the environment you are very well. It is not as you stated that guys in London are immature, it is just that most of them have one issue or the other that may influence largely any decision they make, especially when it comes to settling down with a woman. I also think that some ladies do not help matter as well. [img]http://www.dubaa.info/g.gif[/img]

Thx, well said
Not just London, Canada and USA

green tea: What is happening to our young, men?

You telling me they are all the turning gay?


Terrible
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NO
Too know in UK. Canada and USA create a problem for men to marry
It is a challenge
Lot of men want to get marry but !!!!!!!!!!!

pendo89: Ahaa.run a quick scan through some families you know. My question now.
Are you telling us that every young man/woman brought up in a great home ends up becoming a responsible adult??
My answer? Yes We expect that to be the case,BUT it doesn't always happen like that.So what does that tell you?
Never downplay the external influence/environment cz they may throw ur great girl/boy off balance and turn them into something shocking.

I have seen kids brought up in God knows what families rise up to become very responsible adults. I guess the rough environment makes them view life differently??
Now don't misunderstand me.I treasure family values, but when I see kids raised up in stable and good homes end up dead due to drugs and crime I know that at times it takes more than a background to keep one sober.

Please Background is not Behaviour.I repeat,it may build/break/shape us only.
Haven't you seen a home where one brother ends up being a black sheep yet they were raised under the same roof?

Family background is a factor that must be consider
You have some valid point
Background shape behavior that create value
I remember people were talking about a lady I know
A lady said I though she will be different from her mom but there are no differences
So that take you back to her root and her background
Apples doesn't fall too far from the tree like the saying

chineloSA:
My dear at 25, you still have a bit of time at your hands to play with.

But as ladies, we must understand that not all of us are meant to get married. Some are meant to be housewives, single, nuns, etc

What I can advice you to do is to strive for independence, enjoy your singlehood, travel and tour the world, buy yourself a car, wear all the expensive brands you desire, spoil your siblings and thank your parents etc.
There is nothing as boring as schoolfees,investing in some kids boring future, cooking even when you dont want to, driving a tired car because thats what your husband can afford, be limited with finances because of your husbands affordability especially when you didnt have the opportunity to enjoy yourself.

When the time comes, God will send the right person to you.Keep on praying.
But if God never had plans for you to get married, you will have to learn to accept that.

Our ways and plans are not Gods, he may have a totally different plan for you.

But understand one thing not all married people are happy. Poverty is also not sexy in marriage as well.

Ok lot of BS above, some good information too
If people get marry their standard of living might go up some time
Don't buy or wear all expensive brands in the world, catch all good cloths on sales
Save, save , save, save, save lot of money
My wife bought a car put lot of money down and paid off the car within a year (Car of about $55K)
Go see the world
we just started doing trips ( two trips every year)
We both on good finance standing because we saved

pendo89: Those who hate the truth are trapped in what we see in these silly latino movies.Family pride. good girl from good family must marry good boy from good family.
Is that what life is about? family pride?

We marry people not their backgrounds.We only manage their background and if you cant accept/deal with somebody's background you are not ready to marry!

Family background is a big factor
Family background = Family values

mama-gee:
[color=deeppink]What does it mean when an old man in his 50's leaves his seat and sits close to you and intentionally touches her legs while trying to pretend he did it on accident. why did he do that?

Please post your opinions.[/color]

Call Police
How old are you?

Good Girl: ^^^^^
No. I don't. Why would I when I've never generally interacted with them as a group? Lol.

I do have two Edo friends anyway and they seem okay to me.

Good, there are good Edo men or ladies
If you meet the bad one run
In the last 15 years lot of things have change in Edo value and attitude
Sad

bin gbagbo: like, u get to socialise with this cute guy or babe online, become fond of him or her and finally meet him or her personally.u r still impressed by his or her looks only for u to realise later that fine chick or guy be stammerer.
will that put you off?

serious oppinions please.

Can he or she make you happy?
It come down to happiness not what the world think

bin gbagbo: like, u get to socialise with this cute guy or babe online, become fond of him or her and finally meet him or her personally.u r still impressed by his or her looks only for u to realise later that fine chick or guy be stammerer.
will that put you off?

serious oppinions please.

Can he or she make you happy?

Rocktation: When he starts packing his numerous friends to the house, expecting me to play housewife and chief cook for them..

You can stay in your own house
And stop playing wife
You are not paying for the food

timpaker: that's exactly what i'm facing now. my babe hates cartoons which i love very well,
BTW: when i hate is when she tells me she doesn't like some of my friends (maybe dia level over-pass her own)
lastly, forcing me to eat onion which i hate with everything in me.

She is trying to be your mom
Tell her you don't need a second mom for now

"had to go and see her after, I asked why she didn’t even respond to me. She said she wanted to see if I really love her, she knows I will comeback. I was OH that’s it, ok do as you wish. But I love you, nothing can change that. "

Because she can play you
She is taking you for a fool

Who doesn’t sleep around?
Who understand how to make her relationship work?
Who is very considerate, respectful? Good heart but

MarcAnthon
“goodness is in the heart and it manifests in your character, beliefs, reaction to what goes on around you”

Princek12's
“cooks, cleans, and knows her role as a woman”
“wants to be treated (and appreciates being treated) nice”
“has good hygiene, does not stink, and her puuny stays fresh to def”

Guapo: Is it wise to marry a responsible girl who happens to come from a bad home? A friend is in a dilemma on this issue. The girl has trained herself in contrast to what obtains in her family. The parents often fight, tales of unfaithfulness between both parents. Can you marry a good girl from such a home?

Apple don't fall too far from the tree
You need to be very careful
Time would tell
It is a hard call for me but talk to your mom
You know some woman act one way and change after marriage
Good luck

slimyem: I thought all Nigerian girls were the same in your dictionaries..:.you really do not need my answer!

You ask me a question
now you failed to respond
What dictionaries?

slimyem: you really expect an answer to this question?

For sure
It's a question
Please respond

slimyem: ...see as Nl men dey para because oyibo woman dey yeye dem.
lmao!
Y'all just got served a piece of your own cake.
Haha!

Are you one of the bad Nigerian girls?

fatterman: I am married and Live with My wife at Home ,This morning as my wife was sleeping and her phone was ringing, so I woke her up to her pick calls, to my surprise she was rushing very fast and hiding her body, and I ask what is wrong with you, what i saw was so suprsing, she has tattoo all over her body, she never tell me her plans to draw a tattoo on her , and i never like a tattoo, she draw the tattoo on her bosom, waist, private parts, and shoulders, hmmm, I am still at shock, I don’t know what to do, I ask her what is the meaning of what she did, she never responded to me, My question is how can a married woman draw a tattoo without her husband permission? I am very angry now, I just rush out now, and still thinking what to do?

If she is a good woman
You need to give her a break but
You need a heart to heat meeting with her
I was in a mall with my wife and my 6 year old
At a makeup store, my 6 year old ask me to leave the store
I said OK and walk out
Few minutes later, I was walking back into the store and she said leave Dad
It final get done on me why my 6 year old was asking me to leave the store , so that she can get some makeup
She know I don't like her have a makeup

obasijoy: Y r u still single, after playing games and enjoying yourself, you now need a good fearing christian for marriage, do you think you can have true love for your wife at this age? I think you need a single mum like me, though I will be 25yrs by next month. I am experienced and I need a matured guy to hook up with, if you are interested just mail me obasinora@yahoo.com

TO ME YOUR AGE IS A BIG PROBLEM
TOO YOUNG FOR A MAN THAT IS OVER FORTY

jamtem: I am handsome Nigerian man in his mid-forties. I am currently based in the UK and looking for a christian and God-fearing woman for marriage.

YOU NEED TO BE VERY CAREFUL OF OUR SISTER
IF YOU SEE NICE WOMEN IN U.K YOU BETTER MARRY THE WOMAN
MARRING A NIGERIA WOMAN WILL LIKELY NOT MAKE YOU HAPPY
BE VERY CAREFUL
GOOD LUCK