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TisaBone: my name is not spectator. Call me Margaret Mead.

I call you speculation -- queen
Margaret Mead is American Cultural Anthropologist
You know what you need to do to make you a better person

ovo4u: Sometime the truth hurts but it very obvious to say, this nigerian girls themselves know they are golddigger. Almost 80% of them will care about how much a man worth and how much she can get from him when they are in a relationship. Should I say because of poverty or greed? hmm [/b]They eat and grow big stomach and refuse to do sport, I know girls doing sport is not really that nigerian thing but they need to do something about eating and getting fat on tommy.
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[b][b]I'm not going to admit that we nigerian men are the best but if someone is doing something wrong and you don't correct him/her, then they will keep doing that same poo. So that why most people are trying to use this forum to change or educate the Nigeria girls. I think there is love between the nigerian men and women, if not we will just ignore them and their poo but because of this love and that we want them to change so that we have them all to ourselve, that why we have to educate them here and let them know they are wrong. On my side, I think I prefare an africa women to any other races, be it nigerian or any other type. Poster I do hope my reply helps you to comprehend why we are being harshly to our dear and lovely sisters. But I still love you guys but you guys just have to let that ego out, you know what I mean.

Great comment
When it come to marriage, I will tell people to look for happiness
No race, color or nationality

TisaBone: so ur saying the issues you have just described have never directly affected you, and you are merely a spectator in this Nigerian mars vs. venus tug of war?

Speculation is unacceptable
Talk to people
The things you hear in different communities Nigerian and the Caribbean
If you have first hand experience let me know

TisaBone: ok so there are issues uniquely Nigerian in interpersonal relationships between men and women. why not have an honest heart to heart. beneath anger is pain and hurt, and one would not feel pain unless the actions or opinions of a person did not truly matter. I sense Love ,thinly veiled as hatred.

Now i might be wrong, but thats just my opinion.

Yes,You are very correct, there are unique issue to Nigerian interpersonal relationships between men and women
There are unique issues between Caribbean men and women( foreign people in the developed countries)
Anger about what B
I am very bless in my journey
The world would be better place without lying B like you
You think you can manipulate the world, Keep trying

TisaBone: AA's like money too, some have no scruples and will obtain it by any means necessary. I suppose, though i am not sure, that the 419 scammers have no scruples either. just as the AA drug dealers, and the AA strippers, etc have none. White people are greedy, and there are so many Bernie Madoffs. The world drug traid is controlled by the Columbians (or at least used to be) They don't care if a drug mule dies from a fatal overdose caused by balloons which burst, that these individuals have ingested, often for paltry sums. They don't care if said drug mules get caught and have to spend all the rest of their days behind bars. Then there are the brothels in India, where children are sold into prostitution, often times by their own family. I could go on and on. Greed is a trait that all humans share, no matter what race or nationality.

Yes there is greedy in all society
But it come down to the ratio of greedy in all society
Bernie Madoffs is in jail
The ratio of greedy in Nigeria is very high
If Bernie Madoffs was in Nigeria, Do you think he would have been prosecuted ?
Lot of White women are supporting their husband mentality and emotionally who have loss their job
Nigerian people that is a major problem, No support
The issue here is not one size fits all concept but what is the majority ?

ifihearam: This happened in Edo State and its a true life story of a couple living in peace and harmony for well over 10year. They have 2 lovely kids and lives ain a 3 bedroom apartment. The man works and lives up to expectation because he was able to foot the bill of his family until one day when hell got loose......
The compound which they live in is a 3 block flat only for the man to discover that his beloved wife is the owner of the building he has been paying rents for years through an agent who told him the owner of the building bases abroad.
NLanders and guys,what will you do if you find yourself in a situation like this

Move out and said bye bye
Or I will star living rent free

TisaBone: this isn't a phenomenon exclusive to Nigerian men and women though, but i understand a little better now. The same way AA women say all AA men are worthless and dogs, and how AA men say they're sick and tired of AA women's attitudes, and that that's the reason they date white women

how come black folks never seem to be able to get along...it doesn't seem that way with white people, asians, or hispanics.

AA women first priority is her husband and kids
Nigerian people first priority is their family back home not husband
AA women has better education than the men
If you go to Universities and Colleges if you have 10 black in the class , 8 are likely black woman
Poverty is a major problem for AA family
Kids have kids, no values are taught
Kids without skills now have to work for less than $8 hour to support herself, the kids and this jobless dude
To Nigerian Money is God

TisaBone: so basically all of the things that Nigerians, male and female, were taught go out of the window once they settle in a foreign country, and courtship is played by different rules? Women are not required to be demure, but have more freedom than ever before, so they do as they please and take what they want from men, uncaring of their feelings,leaving behind a trail of broken hearts?

You can say that but not just women
We do have some bad men too
both hands have to help wash each other for it to be clean
Lot of it is about me, me, me, me, mentality,
lot of women forget their priority
it is your husband and kids first and foremost

TisaBone: Not a day goes by where I dont see a post entitled "Nigerian women are so ugly" "Why do Naija Girls have such fat stomachs" or "Nigerian women are all goldiggers" I mean im not Nigerian but I find this offensive. Why in the world are you men putting up these types of threads belittling the women? Is it some type of mind game or something to make Naija women feel worthless? Please in all seriousness i truly want an answer.

People's life Experience
The Bashing is coming from lot of people that live in foreign countries
Lot of things are changing not for good but bad
There are great transfer of culture form TV to Nigerian people
No it's not a mind game but people mad has hell

Marriage is about happiness not based on tribal, race, Color or nationality
If you base your marry on tribal, race, Color or nationality
You are limiting yourself
Get what you desire that will make you happy

Need more information to make judgement
Full story not one side story that is sugar coded
If you are going to lie, Please keep your story

rominiyi: It might look like I am not ready to listen, but my heart wants him, Whatever u are telling me is for my own good, I appreciate, How can i still stay with a husband i stopped loving just for the sake of my child,
How can I rekindled my love for my husband? I am lost now ,

You can fight to keep your husband or be a single mother
You can fight him or work out the relationship
The mistake is already made
Tell your husband how you love him
Ask him what him think you need to do to make the relationship better
Make the changes
You go back to your husband, tell him what you want from him and for the kids for make your marriage
help your husband pack his lunch
Send him text telling him thanks for being your Husband
sent him flowers
Reach out to him and Hopefully
He can make some changes to make thing better for your family

stephen121: I was just wondering if people think its ok to live with their mother in law after their wedding day.

Back to You
Will you allow your mother to live with you and your Husband?

Dondav: The full Gist .....My Wife Caught Me When I was about
to Have Sex with my Neighbour – What can I do?
I’m 45 and my wife is 41. We have daughters aged 21
and 19. My neighbour is 38 and single. She is a full-
time primary school teacher and cares for her elderly
mother. She’s gorgeous and I could never understand
why she’d not been snapped up. She called me a few
weeks ago to say that her mother had fallen out of her
chair and asked me to go round to help her.
I was there in a flash and together we lifted her mum
back up and she seemed OK. My neighbour got her
mum into bed for a nap and was then so grateful and
teary I made us a cuppa. We sat at the table and she
poured her heart out – saying she’d never been able to
go out on dates because of her mother and how lonely
she felt.
I wiped her tears away and hugged her, and she
turned my face towards her and kissed me. I felt so
turned on. She asked me to have sex with her so we
did it there and then, in the kitchen while her mother
was asleep upstairs. I felt like a teenager again, and
she texted me the next day and came over to my house
as I’d finished work early.
We were just having a cuddle when my wife walked
through the door and caught us. She was rooted to the
spot, not being able to believe what she’d seen. My
neighbour ran home and my wife was so upset she told
my girls as soon as they came in from work. I feel like
such an idiot. Our marriage is in tatters. What should I do?

Go back and finish it up
Comeback and tell us if the TOTO was good
Dumb ass in your family house,
Smart man will play away match and not bring it home
Your wife ring need an upgrade or change her car
Dude you can move next door to your neighbor O

Uncanny Genius: To hell with women. They are not the only one in the World. I'm not desperate for one. I value many things more than them. They can go to hell.

You not a gay?
Because good 98% of us still love women

In few years your boyfriend mum will have a different story
cut your losses and move on
Let him go marry a Nigerian woman
I have seeing Nigerian women telling their son not to marry Nigerian woman
You will not have peace

agiboma: lolz i could not have said it better myself

OK

Wislet: WARNING: My son, never spend your money on a lady with the notion that you want to marry her in the near future. You are not her parent to pay her school fees, pay for her apprenticeship, pay for her hostel and give her pocket money. When you decide to do that, note that you are doing it for charity and it is at your own risk. She is not obliged to marry you because you have spent your money on her. Infact, it is for your own good for her not to accept to marry you because you have spent on her. That love or marriage will be conditional and deadly. It is about time you young and single guys reason wisely.

If you must spend, let it be because you WANT TO, and not because you want to make an 'investment'.
Invest only in a WIFE and your children. Take up another man's responsibilities at your own risk.
Worse, you could lose your respect along the way. After all, you are 'needed' or useful for something- money.
Much worse, if she ever says the words '' I love you'', Beware. It will be a CHORE saying it cos You are completely invisible/'liked' only because of ur 'usefulness'. Sooner or later the PEST(You) will be done away with. And the ZERO CONTRIBUTOR will be accepted by her family as the 'worthy son-in-law'.

A man that a woman feels OBLIGATED to say Yes to his proposal because he has 'trained' her, should not cry to anyone when he is treated as dirt or her attitude toward him changes later on cos U FORCED her hand.

Could as well be modern day slavery.

God bless you
Good advice
Completely agreed with you

Please don't let looks cloud your judgement
NL will not be able to help you
You need to list 10 things you want from happy marriage
two sheet of paper one for your Nigerian woman and the other for Brazilian woman
Please don't base your judgement on Money and Marring Nigerian wife
Base it on what you think will make you happy
Get marriage prenuptial agreement, You need to protect yourself, nobody will protect you
if you marry the Brazilian woman
Good luck, Hopeful you can get a woman that will make you happy and a woman you can make happy
There will always be women coming through your door as a doctor
Please be very careful
Do you want to marry a woman with Kid?

hawtin: to be candid i have.
i once smooched my best friend's brother while i was dating my guy.
i also cheated on my guy with his cousin who later became my boyfriend.
i cheated on the cousin that became my boyfriend with his best friend's friends.
during university i smooched my boyfriend who was in Ghana's friend that lives in his area and now a known musician with MI but he lied to me told me that my boyfriend in Ghana didnt love me or was seeing someone else so I fell for it.
i lost my virginity not to my boyfriend but my best friend's brother but i told my boyfriend i was raped. i dont cheat anymore i repentedi know no member would be real just thought we discuss cheating in a relationship. it does happen you know.
gist us yours

You down low dirty not because you cheat but the people you cheated with
Lot of men cheat

Sugar Daddy for sure

I am not asking people to comment on this topic base on emotion but facts
Go Back to your husband/Boyfriend; ask him what he want in the relationship—Listen
Your next word should be how can we make it work? address the issue you have problem with
Few day later go back to your husband /boyfriend tell him what you as a woman, what you want from your relationship.
Tell him you want an honest answer how he can make the relationship work

Idowuogbo: Poster am sorry,but u some fat pusssssieeee! U allowed routine checks for wat? Come, u gave her d lead so woeva u get is a bonus to ur handwork.

Rubbishhh!!! Smelly boi!

I like your view of things lot of time

cowgurl: Perfect pretenders my sexy foot! One can tell a pretender if e/she is damn Observant instead of bein carried away by distracters such as sex n money.

Good luck with that
The lord know best

"That's too big a situation to try to hide"
" DECEIT"
Lot of peoples hid lot of things thinking you will not find out
Say bye, bye to her sorry ass

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]And for just finding out, you are a what? A Fool![/color]

You are a dumb B

~Killz~:
[color=#000030]And you must be a little girl. . .[/color]

Great
~Killz~ and MRbrownJay is one and the same?
Right?

MRbrownJAY: if she trusted you she wouldnt need to check your phone...... and letting her check it would never solve her insecurity/trust issues. unless you did something that warranted the phone check (receive suspicious phone calls etc), there is NO REASON under the sun why she should check it.

MRbrownJay is a woman