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On the authority of Abu Muhammad Abdullah bin ’Amr bin al-’Aas (RadhiyAllahu ‘anhu) who said: The Messenger of Allah (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said,

“None of you [truly] believes until his desires are subservient to that which I have brought.”

[Imam Al-Nawawi says: We have related it in Kitab al-Hujjah with a sahih chain of narrators]

But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not. [Surat al-Baqarah: 216]

On the authority of Abdullah ibn Umar (RadhiyAllahu ‘anhuma), who said: The Messenger of Allah (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) took me by the shoulder and said,

“Be in this world as though you were a stranger or a wayfarer.”

And Ibn Umar (RahiyAllahu ‘anhuma) used to say, “In the evening do not expect [to live until] the morning, and in the morning do not expect [to live until] the evening. Take [advantage of] your health before times of sickness, and [take advantage of] your life before your death.”

1: The prevention of knowledge: Knowledge is a light which Allaah throws into the heart and disobedience extinguishes this light. Imaam Shaafi’ee (rahimahullah) said: “I complained to Wakee’ about the weakness of my memory, so he ordered me to abandon disobedience. And informed me that the knowledge is light. And that the light of Allaah is not given to the disobedient. “

2: The prevention of sustenance: Just as Taqwaa brings about sustenance, the abandonment of Taqwaa causes poverty. There is nothing which can bring about sustenance like the abandonment of disobedience.

3: The prevention of obedience (to Allaah): If there was no other punishment for sin other than that it prevents one from obedience to Allaah then this would be sufficient.

4: Disobedience weakens the heart and the body: Its weakening the heart is something which is clear. Disobedience does not stop weakening it until the life of the heart ceases completely.

5: Disobedience reduces the lifespan and destroys any blessings: Just as righteousness increases the lifespan, sinning reduces it.

6: Sins weaken the hearts will and resolve: The desire for disobedience becomes strong and the desire to repent becomes weak bit by bit until the desire to repent is removed from the heart completely.

7: Every type of disobedience is a legacy of a nation from among the nations which Allaah destroyed. Sodomy is a legacy of the People of Lot, taking more than one’s due right and giving what is less is a legacy of the People of Shu’ayb, seeking greatness in the land and causing corruption is a legacy of the People of Pharoah and pride/arrogance and tyranny is a legacy of the People of Hud. So the disobedient one is wearing the gown of some of these nations who were the enemies of Allaah.

8: Disobedience is a cause of the servant being held in contempt by his Sustainer. Al-Hasan al-Basree (rahimahullah) said: They became contemptible in (His sight) so they disobeyed Him. If they were honorable (in His sight) He would have protected them. Allah the Exalted said: “And whomsoever Allaah lowers (humiliates) there is none to give honor.”

9: The servant continues to commit sins until they become very easy for him and seem insignificant in his heart and this is a sign of destruction. Every time a sin becomes insignificant in the sight of the servant it becomes great in the sight of Allaah. Ibn Mas’ood (radiy Allahu anhu) said: Indeed, the believer sees his sins as if he was standing at the foot of a mountain fearing that it will fall upon him and the sinner sees his sins like a fly which passes by his nose so he tries to remove it by waving his hand around. [Bukhaari]

10: Disobedience inherits humiliation and lowliness. Honor lies in the obedience of Allaah. Abdullaah ibn al-Mubaarak said: “I have seen sins kill the hearts. And humiliation is inherited by their continuity. The abandonment of sins gives life to the hearts. And the prevention of your soul is better for it.”

11: Disobedience corrupts the intellect. The intellect has light and disobedience extinguishes this light. When the light of the intellect is extinguished it becomes weak and deficient.

12: When disobedience increases, the servant’s heart becomes sealed so that he becomes of those who are heedless. The Exalted said: “But no! A stain has been left on their hearts on account of what they used to earn (i.e. their actions).”

13: Sins cause the various types of corruption to occur in the land. Corruption of the waters, the air, the plants, the fruits and the dwelling places. The Exalted said: “Mischief has appeared on the land and the sea on account of what the hands of men have earned; that He may give them a taste of some of (the actions) they have done, in order that they may return (to Him).”

14: Sins are the cause of Allaah forgetting His servant, abandoning him and leaving him to fend for himself with his soul and shaytaan and in this is the destruction from which no deliverance can be hoped for.


15: Sins remove the servant from the realm of Ihsaan (doing good) and he is prevented from (obtaining) the reward of those who do good. When Ihsaan fills the heart it prevents it from disobedience.

16: Disobedience causes the favors (of Allaah) to cease and make His revenge lawful. No blessing ceases to reach a servant except due to a sin and no retribution is made lawful upon him except due to a sin. Ali (radiy Allahu ‘anhu) said: No trial has descended except due to a sin and it (the trial) is not repelled except by repentance. Allaah the Exalted said: “Whatever misfortune afflicts you then it is due to what your hands have earned and (yet) He pardons many.” And the Exalted also said: “That is because never will Allaah change the favor He has bestowed on a people until they change what is with themselves.”

On the authority of Ibn Abbas (RadhiyAllahu ‘anhuma), that the Messenger of Allah (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said:

Verily Allah has pardoned for me my ummah: their mistakes, their forgetfulness, and that which they have been forced to do under duress.

[Hasan hadith reported by Ibn Majah, Al-Bayhaqi, and others]

DieRich5:
If Nigeria government no kill us, other countries go kill us


Now Amazon kdp don blacklist Nigeria and so many sites........... just imagine all the Exchanges stop p2p, what's will be our next aim?


Seriously, to be a Nigerian man is not easy at all

A few days ago, someone tweeted on X that your parents are not your responsibility. The tweet generated so much debates and reactions among fellow users. Some users agreed with the tweet, and some opposed it. Those who opposed it argued from religious and moral perspectives.

Some of those who agreed with the tweet submitted that it was the choice of the parents to birth their children, hence it becomes their responsibility to raise them. However, the children are not required to reciprocate the gesture because they never asked for it in the first place.

As Muslims, our thoughts and actions must always be guided by the dictates of the Sharī'ah and not by those of our whims. Some of the comments I read from supposed Muslims on the matter is disappointing and heartbreaking to say the least. So, if we all agree that the dictates of the Sharī'ah are our ultimate guide, what does it say about this issue?

Firstly, Islam commands 5 things when it comes to parents. These are:

1. Obedience: Every child owes his/her parents total obedience in all matters except where such obedience constitutes a disobedience to Allāh and His Messenger.

Disobedience to one's parents is a MAJOR sin in Islam. The Prophet ﷺ said: "A disobedient child will NOT enter Jannah."

2. Respect: Showing respect to one's parents is a fundamental principle of the Sharī'ah, to the extent that it is forbidden to ignore, disregard, cheat, lie to, or raise one's voice at them (Qur'ān 17:23)

3. Dutifulness: The Sharī‘ah obligates every child to be dutiful to his/her parents and submit himself/herself to them completely. Serve your parents is the second of the sacred commandments (Qur'ān 4:36, 17:23). During the lifetime of the Prophet ﷺ, a young man enlisted in the army for an expedition. The Prophet asked him, "are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet ﷺ directed him to go back home and take care of them. That, for him, was the Jihād.

4. Compassion: Being compassionate and empathetic to one's parents especially in their old or weak age is an obligation on every child. In Qur'ān 17:24, Allāh says:
"and spread over them humbly the wings of thy tenderness, and say: "O my Sustainer! Bestow Thy grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me when I was a child!"

5. Charity: The Sharī‘ah obligates every child to spend on his parents first before extending his hand of generosity to others. In Qur'ān 2:215, Allāh says:
The people ask, "What should we spend?" Tell them, "Whatever you spend, spend for your parents, your relatives, orphans, the needy and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, Allah has knowledge of it."

This brings us back to the question of whether or not a child is responsible for taking care of his/her parents. The simple answer is a capital YES! Your parents are your responsibility as highlighted above.

However, the degree of responsibility varies according to the capacity of both the parent and the child. What this means is that where the parents are financially comfortable and can take care of their own needs, the child is not obligated to provide for them. He is not sinful for not spending on them.

My father was so comfortable that even when he died, what he left in his account I am yet to have it even with my pension balance combined. This was a man that was supporting me with ₦100,000 every year for my postgraduate programme frok Masters to PhD until he died. Whatever one does for such a parent is considered as a form of charity to attract their affection and prayers.

However, if one's parents are destitute or weak and cannot fend for themselves or do not have enough to sustain themselves, it becomes OBLIGATORY on the child to provide for them after providing for himself, his wife, and kids. This is a matter of consensus among the scholars of Islam. Ibn Al-Mundhir said:

أجمع أهل العلم على أن نفقة الوالدين الفقيرين الذين لا كسب لهما ولا مال واجبة في مال الولد.

Therefore, before you jump on the trend to support the tweet, know what the Sharī‘ah stipulates. It doesn't matter whether your parents ask you or not. If you have enough to take care of yourself and family, add your parents to your responsibility list. They have sacrificed their active and productive years for you. It is time for them to enjoy the fruits of their labour.

May we not become weak and needy in our old age. Importantly, may we not give birth to ingrates that won't care about our wellbeing because he/she doesn't consider us his/her responsibility!

Parents are a live wire, nay transformer with constant electric supply. Don't go and hug it o!

Verily Allah (Glorified may he be) has said: ‘Whosoever shows enmity to a wali (friend) of Mine, then I have declared war against him. And My servant does not draw near to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the religious duties I have obligated upon him. And My servant continues to draw near to me with nafil (supererogatory) deeds until I Love him. When I Love him, I become his hearing with which he hears, and his sight with which he sees, and his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him; and were he to seek refuge with Me, I would surely grant him refuge.’

On the authority of Ibn Abbas (RadhiyAllahu ‘anhuma), from the Messenger of Allah (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam), from what he has related from his Lord is:

“Verily Allah has written down the good deeds and the evil deeds”, and then explained it [by saying]: “Whosoever intended to perform a good deed, but did not do it, then Allah writes it down with Himself as a complete good deed. And if he intended to perform it and did perform it, then Allah writes it down with Himself as from ten good deeds up to seven hundred fold, up to many times multiplied. And if he intended to perform an evil deed, but did not do it, then Allah writes it down with Himself as a complete good deed. And if he intended it [i.e., the evil deed] and then performed it, then Allah writes it down as one evil deed.”

The Holy month of Ramadaan came like seasonal rain and passed by. This rain did not water the plants and crops -it showered upon the hearts of believers. It is sad, but true, that the hearts of the majority of Muslims are stricken with spiritual drought and spiritual decadence. It is a drought caused by excessive indulgence in un-Islamic activities, immoral behaviour, unjust actions, unfair dealings etc. Drought caused by lack of rain destroys crops -drought caused by lack of piety, lack of fear of Allah and lack of Allah consciousness destroys the SPIRITUALITY of the heart.

Ramadaan’s spiritual rains brought to life the Masaajid and other prayer places. Ramadaan had fanned the dying spark of charity. Ramadaan had awakened the dying spirit of tolerance, patience and sympathy for the less fortunate.

Now that we come to the end of Ramadaan the big question is what to do?

Did we go through all the spiritual exercises in Ramadaan in order that we may have the freedom to indulge, on Eid day, in all types of immoral, shameless and indecent amusement? Did we restrain ourselves from halaal food, drinks and other pleasures from dawn to sunset throughout Ramadaan, so that we may return with renewed vigour to gambling, drinking, adultery and fornication? Will the spirit of tolerance, mercy, patience, charity and sympathy be still evident or will these noble qualities be shelved until the dawn of the next Ramadaan?

Will the Masajids which were filled on most nights in Ramadaan remain the same or will they become empty wondering where the faithful have gone? Our lifestyles after Ramadaan will show whether we used the month to bring about a total reformation within ourselves or are we going to waste the valuable opportunity?

The National and international position of the Muslim communities leaves much to be desired. Muslims are lamenting the loss of lives, destruction of property, oppression, tyranny, injustice and a host of other problems all over the world. They are wondering why the promised help of Allah to the believers is nowhere in sight. Just one glance into the lifestyles of the overwhelming majority of the Muslims is sufficient to answer the question. Millions of Muslims do not have much to their credit besides Muslim names.

Allah’s help comes with action and Islamic qualities -not with names or faces – Arabs or non-Arabs, African or European, Chinese or Indians. On the other hand every group, organization, society or individual who talks Islam, seems to have got its own brand of Islam. The Islamic teachings which were left behind for us, crystal clear and pristine pure, have become so adulterated with foreign customs, alien practices and un-Islamic ideologies, that a new Muslim has to make an effort to search for the Quran and Sunnah brand of Islam or remain confused and ignorant.

May Allah Ta’ala give us the guidance to resolve that we shall make the Quran and Sunnah our guiding lights and practise Islam as much as possible. If the non-Muslim inhabitants of our country see Islam in the lives of Muslims, they will not require much persuasion to accept our beautiful deen

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (RadhiyAllahu ‘anhu) that the Prophet (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said:
“Whosoever removes a worldly grief from a believer, Allah will remove from him one of the grievances of the Day of Judgment. Whosoever alleviates the needs a needy person, Allah will alleviate his needs in this world and the next. Whosoever conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in this world and the next. Allah will aid a servant [of His] so long as the servant aids his brother. Whosoever follows a path to seek knowledge therein, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise. No people gather together in one of the houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying it among themselves, except tranquillity descends upon them, mercy envelopes them, the angels surround them, and Allah makes mention of them amongst those who are with Him. Whosoever is slowed down by his actions will not be hastened forward by his lineage.”


[Reported by Muslim in these words]

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (RadhiyaAllahu ‘anhu) who said: The Messenger of Allah (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said,

“Do not envy one another, and do not inflate prices for one another, and do not hate one another, and do not turn away from one another, and do not undercut one another in trade, but [rather] be slaves of Allah and brothers [amongst yourselves]. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim: he does not oppress him, nor does he fail him, nor does he lie to him, nor does he hold him in contempt. Taqwa (piety) is right here [and he pointed to his chest three times]. It is evil enough for a man to despise his Muslim brother. The whole of a Muslim is inviolable for another Muslim: his blood, his property, and his honour.”

[Reported by Muslim]

EreluRoz:
Lukgaf any idea of what Muslim men likes and cherish as a gift?

Neowanzaeed or so please I just want few suggestions and I'll take the thread down

Maclatunji please help out

Inspirer1:
May Allaah accept our 'ibadaat. Ameen.

Do you mind sharing the appropriate detailed measurement, especially for those that won't have access to the normal mudu measuring tin.
There will be need for equivalent measuring item that is prevalent in our community that can equate the mudu measurement.

Earlier in the week, pictures and videos from the marriage between Josh Bowling and one of the conjoined twins sister, Abby Hensel appeared all over the social media. It is understood that the marriage took place sometime in 2021. Abby and Britany Hensel became famous in 1996 when they appeared in an episode of The Oprah Winfrey show.

The Questions

1. Is it permitted in the Sharī'ah for a man to marry two blood sisters at the same time?

2. Is it allowed in Islam for a man to have sexual intercourse with two of his wives at the same time otherwise known as twosome?

The Answers

1. The Sharī‘ah forbids marriage between a man and two sisters related by blood or by fosterage at the same time (Qur'ān 4:23). If the couple were separated by divorce or death, there's nothing wrong with the man for his ex wife's sisters' hand in marriage. The Sharī‘ah also forbids combining a lady with her aunt in marriage (See Bukhari 5109, Muslim 1408)

2. It is forbidden in Islam for a man to have sexual intercourse with more than one of his wives together at the same time and place. This is the consensus opinion of Muslim jurists derived from the texts of ahādīth which forbid exposing one's aurah (nudity) save to one's post, the natural fitrah of man, and norms and values of a sane society. Ibn Qudāmah in Al-Mughnī wrote:

"وَإِنْ رَضِيَتَا بِأَنْ يُجَامِعَ وَاحِدَةً بِحَيْثُ تَرَاهُ الْأُخْرَى، لَمْ يَجُزْ؛ لِأَنَّ فِيهِ دَنَاءَةً وَسُخْفًا وَسُقُوطَ مُرُوءَةٍ، فَلَمْ يُبَحْ بِرِضَاهُمَا."

"Should both wives agree that the husband engage in sexual activities with one of them in the presence of the other, such act is not permitted, because it is unethical and immoral."

The Complications

Marriage to conjoined twins is one of the most complicated marriages, because of its many twists. Some of the issues are:

1. Does each of them have a fully developed body, or not? In most cases, they have two heads, two hands, a pair of breasts, one vagina, and two feet. This means that neither of them has a full body to herself. The complication here is that, there's no way that Mr Josh is having sexual relating with Abby only. The breasts and vagina belongs to them both, even though they have independent heads.

2. In a case where each of them has a separate vagina, would it be sensible for two separate men to marry them, and each man enjoys sexual relation with his wife? This case is even worse and more complicated than (1) above.

How realistic is it for such sisters to be married to 2 separate husbands? Can each couple enjoy a private session without the other woman knowing about it? Ibn Qudāmah wrote:

وَلَا يُجَامِعُ بِحَيْثُ يَرَاهُمَا أَحَدٌ، أَوْ يَسْمَعُ حِسَّهُمَا

"He should not have sexual intercourse with her where anyone can see them or hear their moaning..."

3. In case (2) above, would it be permitted for a man to marry one of the sisters and enjoy sexual relations with her independently? This, no doubt will constitute harm for the other sister who would witness and feel sexual urge, but whose desire would remain unfulfilled. In Islam, it is forbidden to harm a fellow being without a legally justifiable cause.

This leaves us with two questions:

1. Is marriage allowed for conjoined twins?

2. Does marrying conjoined twins amount to combining two sisters in marriage?

There's no doubt that marriage is encouraged by the Sharī‘ah as a means to achieving certain cardinal objectives of our physical and spiritual existence. It becomes a compulsory duty if one has the means and fears committing illicit affairs. Thus, conjoined twins or not, whoever has the wherewithal to marry and fears falling into sins of the carnal desires is encouraged to marry.

In the case above, the most reasonable thing would be to treat the conjoined twins as one entity and not two. I spoke to a few medical experts to ask if it's possible for one of the sisters to die while the other survives. The closest I've heard is that it's nearly impossible, so long as they are conjoined and not separated medically.

If that's the case, marriage to a conjoined twins shall not be treated as marriage to two sisters at the same time. Consequently, having sexual relations with a conjoined twins whether they have the same or separate vaginas shall not be treated as having sex with two wives together. In the case of two separate vaginas, the husband shall enjoy both as they belonged to his wife.

This, in my opinion, is the closest to law, and sound logic.

Note: I benefitted a lot from the comment of Engr Sulaiman of Tabsirah group which I read earlier today. May Allāh reward him.

On the authority of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (RadhiyaAllahu ‘anhu) who said: “I heard the Messenger of Allah (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) say,

“Whosoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then [let him change it] with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart — and that is the weakest of faith.”

[Reported by Muslim]