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Question:

is it permissible to annul an engagement after two years because of the fiancé seeing a bad dream after praying istikhaarah?

JazakumLah khaer ustadh. Allowing your wife to make crack an excessive jokes with non mahrom members is inclusive

Refer to last week posts on Brotherhood in Islam:


https://www.nairaland.com/4411881/brotherhood-islam

As continuation

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him): There are different ways of supporting a fellow believer:

* With one’s wealth,

* With one’s position of authority or power,
by means of physical service,

* By offering sincere advice and guidance,

* By making supplication (du’aa’) and asking for forgiveness for them, and

* By feeling their pain.

The level of one’s support will be affected by the level of one’s faith. The weaker a person’s faith, the weaker his support will be; the stronger the faith, the stronger the support. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was the greatest of all people in his support for his companions, so the more closely his followers follow him, the greater will be their support for their fellow-believers. al-Fawaa’id, 1/171

Sampling

* Your family members are Muslims and neighbors, you could imagine how good and happy your family will be if truly they are believers?! And if they are neither Muslims nor your neighbors, then, kindness to them continues…bonds of kinship should not cut.

* Husband and wife that are Muslims; husband treat wife as a sister and wife treat husband as a brother in terms of wealth, power, physical services, advice and guidance, prayer, feeling pain of one another…treatment of family, treatment of neighbor… please who will separate them?! You could imagine how beautiful, peaceful and happy family will that be? But we fail to understand who we are living with and what rights they deserve.

* Tenants and landlords that are Muslims; rights of religion brother and rights of neighbor…you will hardly know who actually owns the property in respect of caring and leniency in terms of payments. In fact, many will doubt the fact that they are not from the same family.

* Employers and employees that are Muslims, what will be the problem in terms of management?

* Leaders and followers that are Muslims, please how will our society look like? But we fail to see ourselves as brothers ….it is always politics that we are always politicizing religion aspect of our life. We risk many things; lives and properties … risking the whole family or community or a state for politics! Had it been we know? Also, followers and leaders see each other as brothers, then, our society will be like society nurtured by Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him.

*If truly we all understand the bonds of brotherhood, kind treatment of family and neighbors in Islam please…*

Who will be killing innocents and call it Jihaad?! Who will be slaughtering another just because the victim is not his/her tribe? Who will be raping another? Who will be kidnaping another? Who will be using other for rituals? Who will not feel sad by the killing of his/her innocent brothers in the crisis areas (Maiduguri-Nigeria, Palestine, Burma, Indian etc.)? Who will deliberately silent in an unjust society? Who will be clapping for lies or hailing looters? Who will be blocking roads where there is possibility of another being on emergency call or visit? Who will not be giving sincere advice? Who will be maltreating his/her spouse? Some have masticated their spouse spiritually…It is not late to repent now, since death has not come, and treat him or her as your brother/sister.

Muslim 1412, al-Bukhārī 5718, al-Bukhārī 5665, Muslim 2586, Shu’ab al-Imān 10379, Muslim 2699, Muslim 2732, Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2736, al-Bukhārī 5719, al-Tamhīd 18/20, al-Bukhārī 6552. al-Tirmidhī 2612, al-Kafi, Volume 2, Page 173, Ghurur al-Hikm, Page 559, Bulooghul-Marām 1539) al-Bukhaari (13) and Muslim (45). Imām Ahmad (12734) Muslim (1844), Haashiyah (2/259) al-Insaaf (11/256), al-Mardaawi, al-Mughni (6/233), Fath al-Baari (10/447), Silsilat al-Ahaadeeth ad-Da‘eefah (1/446), Al-Ijaabaat ‘ala As’ilat al-Jaaliyaat (1/15, 16) Fataawa Noor ‘ala al-Darb, 1/289-291. Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 12/255, 256, Al-Muntaqa min Fataawa al-Fawzaan (2/257, question no. 226).

http://fiqhclass.org/index.php/2017/10/15/fiqh-of-brotherhood-as-a-means-of-peaceful-coexistence-conclusion/

May Allaah grant us understanding of His religion

But can we know your stand. Because you always refute all trivial issues of Islam. Wallau Ahlam, good intention matters

AlBaqir:
# Unfortunately, you are the one that did not read my comment with attention. I never accused the website of calling Muslims (who practice April fool) as Kuffar. Rather, his translation of "Kuffar" to "Non-muslim" was my second area of exposition.

# Kindly read gently again.

Fi amanillah.

Yes

Lukgaf:
I think the statement was very clear, he has never called Muslim that says April fool Kufaar. But try to explain. Could please re read over again

I think the statement was very clear, he has never called Muslim that says April fool Kufaar. But try to explain. Could please re read over again

AlBaqir:
# This website love contradicting itself a times. The same website writes:

"Imam Ahmad (26731) narrated that Umm Kalthoom bint ‘Uqbah said: I never heard the Messenger of Allah grant a concession allowing any kind of lying except in three cases: a man who says something intending thereby to bring about reconciliation; a man who says something at the time of war; and a man talking to his wife or a woman talking to her husband."

Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in as-Saheehah , 545
https://islamqa.info/en/175632


# Be it as it may, a Muslim might not participate in the April fool custom but why would the salafi website accused those with such custom of kufr?!

1. For a fact, the custom of April fool among those who practice it is nowhere considered lying. Its just a teasing in a friendly and playful manner.

2. Why would this bogus website translate "Kuffar (disbelievers)" as "Non-Muslim"? Last time I check, Qur'an in several places refer to the Jews and Christians as "People of the Book". That's one of the best title you could get.


They might not believe as Muslims does but for sure they believe in God, Prophets and hereafter. This make them absolutely different from the Mushriqun (Polytheists), the atheists and the free thinkers who doesn't believe in (God), Prophets and the hereafter. If you care to read Qur'an, amongst the very last verses of the Qur'an reads:

Surah Al-Maeda, Verse 69:

"Surely those who believe and those who are Jews and the Sabians and the Christians whoever believes in Allah and the last day and does good-- they shall have no fear nor shall they grieve."

# Before you get this point twisted, read more on its exposition here:
www.nairaland.com/1906233/islam-only-right-path

Question:

In some foreign countries– there is the well-known custom of April Fools, which happens on the first day of April. Some Muslims are imitating them in this, thinking that it is permissible to tell lies on this day… what is your opinion on this belief and on this custom?


Answer:

Praise be to Allah

Lying is not permissible at all, at any time. And it is not permissible to imitate the kuffar (non-Muslims) and to be like them, on this day or on any other, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.”

And Allah knows best.

Conclusion:
Muslims should refrain from teasing people, telling lies and joining them in saying April fool.

Extracted from https://islamqa.info/en/10834

lol

Shukron yah ustadh. nice one

be ready to come to court to proof your assertion that I am a terrorist. can you tell me why I am terrorist? For sharing posts for you people to see?

new2012:
There's a huge difference between hatred and whatever u smoked.

Freewill to read a course u know so well abhors hijab and kidnap.. Does that make sense to you? Wtf!

How can you compare both scenarios? Are you legally blind?

There's sharia law, why didn't firadus read that? So she can hijab all her days? Do your sharia courts allow women now?


Dude, you're completely not well... The same schooling firadus went freely because it was in an enlightened area of Nigeria is what Boko haram is attempting to stop for Leah. They are pushing those girls out of school or else why should they go to school when they can get kidnapped? Did u not read that they preached to them to avoid schools?


How can u compare someone with freewill to someone beside a trigger happy terrorist?

You must be a terrorist yourself for such!

new2012:
Both you and the writer have bruised mentality.

How can u compare intentional actions to forced actions?


It's obvious your kind are capable of kidnapping such little girls to make a point..

You and the writer have the spirit to kidnap, u may not know it yet.

Clear your hatred then u will understand

femi4:
No sense. At the point of death, she ll remove that hijab

Can you re read my post and see what the writer meant

Nutase:
you will remember this day 28/03/2018 in the nearest future when karma comes knocking on your door. Mark my words.

But you too can pray your daughter be deprived her constitution right and be disallowed to graduate during her graduations in the country you pay tax. You will understand how painful it is too.

Nutase:
you will remember this day 28/03/2018 in the nearest future when karma comes knocking on your door. Mark my words.

Anyway, since I didn't wish for anyone, then God will judge between I and you. That's it. Ire o

ReinaFarine:
What does the Qur'an teaches?

You must cover your hair or You must wear the hijab?

The rosary.... True Catholics always wear the rosary.

Deeper life never wear trousers. Ever. Except they decide to serve their country.

OK let me tell you sir if you were given false point. God asked them to use Hijab to cover their body and not the hair alone sir. I am now asking you sir, do all these people you mentioned wear all those you mentioned respectively to official places rather than their religion places. If your answer is yes and it is their God that mandated them, then Nigeria Government should allow them too but I have not seen any of those you mentioned that will dress like that to a wedding ceremony and other public functions whereas those sisters wear their Hijab everywhere even at home to obey their God instruction. Pls let's understand one another, it is not about fighting for a religion but I think it is something we should all understand. If you are kind that've travelled to other countries with even less Muslims population, you will see Hijab or no Hijab is not a problem there, they see using it as their right. Thanks for your matured debate and time sir.

Nutase:
what hatred are you talking about?? I don't harbour hate for anyone. NBA has notable top Moslems who can fight there case. You should be channeling your complaints to them. Besides hijab doesn't make anyone holy. Go to the north and see what hijab represents. Prostitutes use hijab to stand by the road.

How does hijab now compare to a girl being held against her will.

Be careful what you say NL may be a faceless forum but you are not faceless to God and the laws of nature in case you don't believe in god.

A tested law of nature is Karma. You might just be setting up yourself and your loved ones to be kidnap victims.

You don't need to use another mans pains to prove a point. If you cannot pray for her safe release then leave her and her family alone to suffer in silence.

You are not the kind to exchange words. I was using pain to prove point rather using pain to prove pain because it is so painful to Amasa and we her family for disallowing our daughter be called to bar in the name of her constitution rights in the country we pay tax. Look, if you can hatred or love for a particular can not make you just then stop waisting your hand typing what is not. I rebook all the negative things you have been saying only because of your unjust and hatred. Iree ooo

ReinaFarine:
Two things:

Is the embargo only on hijab? Are there not other religious belief affected by the rules and regulation?

Is the hijab the identification mark of a true Muslim female or covered hair? Can her hair be completely covered by the wig?

Yes, Hijab is the identification sir. Can you tell me other religious belief that wear their costumes to an official function if not only to thier worshipping place. Everyone knows those sisters do.

Nutase:
How insensitive can one be to draw a comparison between someone that is forcibly held against her own will became of her beliefs and someone who knew the rules of a profession and decided to flaunt them.


No one forced the lady to study law but Leah is being held captive against her will.

I believe you have sisters and probably daughters or you will have some in the future if you do not have them now.
I pray none of them goes through the trauma of kidnap were they can be subjected to rape and so many unmentionable things.


Religion has destroyed our humanity. It has made us monsters. You just see Leah as another christian casualty that is why you are so insensitive to draw this comparison.

Remember we are all FIRST human beings before subscribing to any religion.


I kindly appeal to your conscience (think of Leah as your sister or daughter) to delete this post and beg god to forgive you.

Remember we all reap what we sow.

But common sense should tell you too that NBA is a public institutions and all citizens should be not be hindered. We all know, Hijab is part of this people's dressing but your hatred and unjust will not let you reason like that. Off your hatred for Hijab and Muslims then you will understand what I mean

ReinaFarine:
Two completely different scenarios.

If Leah was asked to cover her hair in front of the terrorist because it is against their rules for a woman's hair to be uncovered, it differentiate from saying change your religion and denounce your faith. She can cover her hair even with the hijab and remain a christian. But she can't deny her God when itbi tough and claim Christianity.

On the other hand, if Firdausi had respectfully covered her hair with the wig and design one in a way all of her hair will be covered and respected her religion, then this will be a non issue.

Two,

Leah didn't intentionally visit the boko haram's den. If she went there of her own volition to greet someone there or do some business transaction with them, she MUST respect their wishes. They have laws guiding communication and if they say they won't talk to a matured unmarried lady with uncovered hair, that is their decision that she must respect if she wants to talk to them. But they kidnapped her, and her forcing her to remain there without respecting her wish.

Firdausi chose to study law. She accepted to live by the laws of NBA knowing that they choose the dress regulations for the call to bar ceremony. If she can no longer abide by the laws, the document she signed said she would forfeit being a lawyer. She signed this document without coercion or threat.

If I refuse to accept that I'm a Muslim and believe in Allah and other professions, I'm am not allowed to comment on certain threads on Nairaland. If I don't want to make such because I feel I am denying my God by saying that, I don't commentbon such threads. I was not start suing Seun and threatening riots. I can go to other forums and say whatever I want to say and tag whoever I want yo read it.

The best I can do is try to reason with him to at least make similar concessions for my religion.

No judge will make Seun pay for damages for whatever rule(s) he made on his thread. I read and accepted by them if I want to be a nairalander.

You are comparing what is not comparable. Amass can't deny her God too. And are you telling me now NBA is not for all citizens of Nigeria? Since it is a public institutions, why is embargo placed on Hijab in the first instance when they know it is part of dressings of some citizens who jointly pay tax for the construction. The thing is you guy should be sincere first, then you will understand all these. Are Muslim sisters not Nigerian? Or what are u telling me sir?

Then how is Nairaland related to Nigeria. Naira land is owned by seun. Nigeria is own by all.

I hope and pray our sister Leah Saribu be released by this guy but let's try to be just in this country. Honestly to me, I see no reason for much national deliberation on whether some part of the citizen of this country be allowed to put Hijab on their head or not. Can you kindly ask those against them whether they force them or their children to put on thier head? Honestly it is annoying

Lalasticlala I hope you can see sense here sir.

Yoruba call them Igbo

Allahu Akbar! though we dont need to be told Quran was found in the hand of a baby or in a tree befor WE believe in the oneness of Allah and his prophet

lereinter:
this fanatic shittu will not stop lying

these are the fellow cows buhari is working with

But why is he fanatics? Speak with your sense now

Nigeria movie

Try and be asking what is not clear to you next time

Kolanist:
The Lord Jesus has modified the law of Moses(old testament), Moses(old testament) said "an eye for an eye....." Jesus says "resist no evil" ,Moses said "hate ur enemies" Jesus says "love ur enemies" read MATTHEW 5:38-48.
The LUKE 19:26-27 u quoted that says ".....slay them......." is totaly out of context ,it is just a PARABLE that The Lord Jesus was telling on His way to Jerusalem read that same LUKE 19:11.
You are not ashamed of ur religion. muhamad the founder of islam did many atrocities but tell me one atrocity The Lord Jesus Christ the founder of Christianity did
References to prophet Mohammed’s crimes:

— Muhammad’s marriage to 6yr old Aisha-(Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 5, Book 58, Number 234 and 236).

— Aisha cleans Muhammad’s semen stains-(Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 4, Number 229-233),

— Muhammad handling Aisha during her ‘Menses’- (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 6, Number 298-300, Sunan Abu Dawud, Book 1, Number 0270)

— Muhammad liked to have intercourse with Aisha and his other wives when they were menstruating (Sahih Muslim, Book 003, Number 0577-0579),

— He also loved to recite the Quran when his wives were in Menses while lying between their legs!-(Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 6, Number 296), (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 93, Number 639)

— Muhammad married his adopted Son’s wife called ‘Zaynab’ after lusting for her and then banned Adoption in Islam- (Surah 33:37,Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 6, Book 60, Number 305, Sahih Muslim, Book 008, Number 3330, Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 93, Number 516,The History of Al-Tabari: The Victory of Islam, translated by Michael Fishbein, 1997], Volume VIII, pp. 2-3)

— Muhammad having sex with his dead Aunt in the Grave-( “Kanz Al Umal” (The Treasure of the Workers, by Ali Ibn Husam Aldin, commonly known as Al-Mutaki Al-Hindi. He based his book on the hadiths and sayings listed in “Al-Jami Al-Saghir,” written by Jalal ul-Din Al-Suyuti.)

— ‘I (Muhammad) put on her my shirt that she may wear the clothes of heaven, and I slept with her in her coffin (grave) that I may lessen the pressure of the grave. She was the best of Allah’s creatures to me after Abu Talib’… The prophet was referring to Fatima , the mother of Ali. “The Arabic word used here for slept is “Id’tajat,” and literally means “lay down” with her. It is often used to mean, “Lay down to have sex.”

— Muhammad and the Quran sanctioned sex with your wives and ‘married’ slave girls-(Quran – 70:22-30, 23:5,6, 4:24, 33:50),
— Muhammad speaks of sex with Slave Girls- (Sahih Bukhari – Volume 3, #432, Volume 9, #506, Volume 5, #637, Sahih Muslim, Volume 2, #3371)

— Muhammad disagreed with ‘Reproduction interruptus’ with slave girls- he supported RAPE.

— Muhammad forces a 17 yr old Jewish girl called Safiyyah to marry him and rapes her on the same day her husband and family are killed in the battle of Khaibar (Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 5, Book 59, Number 522, Volume 1, Book 8, Number 367).

— Al Tabari reported in his (‘The History of al-Tabari: The Victory of Islam’, Translated by Michael Fishbein) that even some of Muhammad’s wives and companions were shocked that he forced Safiyyah to marry him after beheading her husband, brother and father

I am coming for you guys

Is chatting with opposite sex on social media comes under Khulwa that is prohibited:

https://www.nairaland.com/4413633/chatting-opposite-sex-khulwa-prohibited

Praise be to Allah

Firstly:

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) say: “No man should be alone with a woman unless there is a mahram present.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5233) and Muslim (1341).

What is meant by khulwah in this hadith is physically being alone together.

The reason for this prohibition is that it is thought that this khulwah will lead to falling into what is prohibited (haraam), because it enables the Shaytaan to instill such temptation. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) referred to that when he said: “Indeed, no man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (2165); he said: This is a hasan saheeh ghareeb hadith with this isnad. al-Haakim said in al-Mustadrak (1/114): It is saheeh according to the conditions of the two shaykhs [al-Bukhaari and Muslim], and adh-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwaa’ al-Ghaleel (6/215).

Al-Minnaawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

“but the Shaytaan is the third one present” by means of his waswasah (whispers), stirring up of desire, dispelling of modesty, and encouragement to commit sin, until he tempts them to commit the act of intercourse or that which is less than it of precursors that will soon lead to it. This hadith proves that it (khulwah) is haraam.

End quote from Fayd al-Qadeer (3/78).

The prohibition on being alone with a non-mahram woman comes under the heading of barring ways that lead to shameful deeds. This is one of the fundamental principles of our religious teaching.

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

The basic principle is that anything that is a means that leads to fitnah (temptation) is not permissible, because the means that lead to mischief must be barred, if that is not outweighed by a greater interest.

End quote from Majmoo‘ al-Fataawa (15/419).

If a man talks to a non-mahram woman in a private chat on social media websites – even if it does not come under the heading of the khulwah discussed by the fuqaha’ – this is still a means that leads to fitnah (temptation) and mischief, so it is disallowed for that reason.

If looking, shaking hands and the like are forbidden, so as to block the means of being tempted by the woman, even if there is no khulwah, then disallowing private conversation, especially among young people and those who are thought most likely to be vulnerable to temptation, also comes under that heading.

There are many religious texts which forbid seeking enjoyment in talking to a non-mahram woman and finding pleasure in listening to her voice and looking at her; this is regarded as a type of zina.

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah, from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), that “Allah has decreed for the son of Adam his share of zina, which he will inevitably get. The zina of the eyes is looking and the zina of the tongue is speaking. The heart wishes and hopes, and the private part confirms that or denies it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6243), Muslim (2657). Ahmad (27430) added: “And the zina of the ears is listening.”

With some people, the matter may go as far as the Shaytaan tempting them to the extent that they take off their clothes for one another (exchanging nude photos etc).

Undoubtedly the Shaytaan has many traps into which people fall, such as mischief, desires and temptations. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me among the people any fitnah (trial) that is more harmful to men than women.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5096) and Muslim (2741).

Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O children of Adam, let not Satan tempt you as he removed your parents from Paradise, stripping them of their clothing to show them their private parts. Indeed, he sees you, he and his tribe, from where you do not see them. Indeed, We have made the devils allies to those who do not believe”

[al-A‘raaf 7:27].

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

So Allah has forbidden the children of Adam to be tempted by the temptation of the Shaytaan, as their parents were tempted, by disobeying Allah and obeying the Shaytaan in going against the commands and prohibitions of Allah.

He stripped the parents of their clothing, and in like manner he may strip their offspring of the garment of piety (taqwa) and their physical garments, so that they show their private parts.

End quote from al-Istiqaamah (2/170).

To sum up, for a man to chat with a non-mahram woman on social media websites, in a chat room away from other visitors and subscribers, does not come under the heading of the khulwah that is forbidden,

But it is disallowed because of what it involves of temptation and the likelihood of mischief.

So Muslim men and women should avoid such contact, unless it is for a greater religious purpose, such as asking questions of scholars, or it is for a legitimate worldly purpose, in which case the conversation should be only as much as is needed, without unnecessary chitchat and going off topic.

And Allah knows best

https://islamqa.info/en/277583