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chocolateme:
thanks luminouz for advice. I will answer your questions honestly...
Yesterday, his eldest sis called me, we talked on a normal ground. She then asked me about me and him. Truth is that he hardly calls, he may call but will stay very long before calling unless it's important, even to his siblings the same thing. I am only hoping he can change, he chats but not often.
I made a mistake now, I have cleared my chats with him just now, I would have shown you something. He once got very angry with me over my constant asking him why he can't change and make effort to be calling always.
He told me that the respect and love he has for me that made him to continue respecting himself always despite the longevity of us been apart, that it takes him nothing to go out and look for any random lady to satisfy his urge. That he has a focus and goal and does not want any negativity that will pull down his destiny and future.
I have always known that he is not a woman person, he loves his work but then is it also to the detriment of my relationship with him? He chats me first every morning and after that, he hardly have my time unless it's important, it's only when I chat that he replies, I can ask him to snap himself and send to me that instant, he will quickly do it.
I am really confused. He shows me the affection and love but my only problem with him is "pick up your phone and call me".
What resulted to the reason we don't chat again now is that last 2 weeks, I got fed up with the morning checking up on me only and not calling, so I typed a long epistle to him, he got angry too after reading it. He asked me what is the meaning of this long write up, that he will block me if I send this kind of annoying messages to him again. I told him to block me that it's the same thing with not communicating always. I now told him to stop talking to me. That's how he ACTUALLY stopped talking to me imagine. Till now. I have decided not to talk to him too, I only want him to adjust small. Only to be going to view my WhatsApp status is all he does. .
Well if I chat him now, he will feel I am desperate so I won't do that.
He is not a party type, he drinks but does not smoke at all.
I am not happy at all thanks

That dude is my twin brother!!! You just described me.
Sis, he even tried. Because I won't wake up first thing in the morning and be chatting you up with good morning upandan. I'm already out to hustle. And calling? Hell,I haven't called my own mother in a year, my dad in what, 3 years? What dafuq makes you think I would start calling my own gf every day? I no get work or something?

I think I understand your kind of person now...you are the type that loves being called often or chatted up first. You love the little poems in the morning, the checkup at lunch time and the super long pick-me-up calls at night. That's your kinda person. That he doesn't do all that doesn't mean he doesn't love you sis. The mistake many women make is thinking doing all that calling and chatting is a man's proof he loves you but nah! He could be fuqin some bigass bitches everyday and dump you for them later on. What you need is to understand his nature and adjust. If you really can't, then break up with him because that dude is most likely a physical person, not the OTA(over the Air) type that loves chats and calls. You went to spoil it by threatening him via your long text to change and all that. How can you change him when all his family members know he is not the calling or texting type? What you should advocate more for is his physical presence because guys like him or me, value physical presence more than calling or chatting. If he can see you more often, you'd know he cares for you. How do you think our mothers and fathers coped when there were no internet or phones?

I just told you I have dated women who complained but had to adjust their schedules to fit my natural impulse and they didn't feel 'desperate or less womanly' because they did that. So calling him first or chatting him up first do not make you desperate for fuq sakes. If it makes you happy, why not do it and stop torturing yourself ehn? This life is very short sis, to be unhappy for too long. Sometimes I wonder why humans have so many restrictions. If it's not race, it will be gender or tribe or religion or denomination or language or status or some other shiit. Before you know it, you are old and death is knocking. In my relationship, What mattered most was that I honestly wasn't pretending about my nature and I value ladies, in my own way. The only threat was if I don't answer your calls,don't call back, don't reply your texts and don't text back.

I have tried for you sis. I normally don't put mouth in relationship matter but sometimes what we want ehn, we already have. We won't know the value till we lose it.

One love

GreenOris:
I don't know her personally but my mom sure did know her and her mom, believe me if she was killed or any part of her body missing I would have known i was in the candle light procession yesterday and still in the area presently

Ok bro

chocolateme:
hmmm... I am very speechless right now.. its as if you know everything I am passing through here. Your experience is exactly a carbon copy to mine. I am scared right now because I have to follow your lead. I can't believe I am going to take this step and end it this way.

Hold dafuq up.

I'm not one to comment on relationships but think twice before following that guy's lead. Is your bf an exact carbon copy of his ex-gf? You said he had very good qualities but you are worried you always initiate the chats and calls? So what? Has he ever given you a reason to doubt him by not replying your calls or texts like that guy's ex-gf?

In all my relationships sis, I have never been the calling or always chatty type. So once they understand me, they don't mind chatting or calling me first, because I told them,I'm naturally like that. Since I'm real and raw, I don't need to pretend to be who I'm not. Any girl I don't like is whose chats I will never read or reply and her calls go unanswered. But as a girl, if you are the type that bases affection on numbers of calls or chats from a guy, you'd have a problem with me.

From what you posted, that your bf doesn't look exactly like that guy's ex-gf!!!! At least, not in my opinion

GreenOris:
Vero has been sick since last year was admitted even last year before she died

Ok. The other guy said her eye and hand were cut off

yanabasee:
This is some fetish nonsense......



I'm sure, these are the type of men that sleeps with their daughter....

You don't see that the daughter is fuqed up too?

An apple doesn't fall far from the tree,you know

GreenOris:
Veronica wasn't killed for ritual, she died peaceful, her candle light procession was held at St. Pius catholic church romi kaduna yesterday 2/2/2022.
I was there live and direct the OP is just a mischievous ediot, he just wants to tarnish someone's image.

So what killed her,if I may ask?

flemsy15:
This is wrong, but like I always say, an average Nigerian is corrupt. But when it doesn't favour us, we call it injustice; when it favours us, we call it grace. If the corp member had the connection of any top official in the agency, I'm sure the family would have taken 'wine' to the official to inform him/her.
Like the person above me already said, you might be surprised she used connection to be posted to Abuja.

You nailed it.

Nothing to add

DieRich5:
Jesus......... greenwood didn't post anything so far but if Dem didn't put law for dis useless female act, dis shit won't stop happening, just see things greenwood don lost

See bae u but he's a fool tho doing online sex with someone u didn't know

E go soon reach the level people won't take rape or any shit from female seriously Even if it real

My hate on female just pump to 70%

Blackmailers only stop when death comes.
Never ever succumb to pay them. Once you start paying, you keep on paying,they are never satisfied

Martinez39s:
LOL. The moment she didn't give you her number the first time, you should have withdrawn and close her chapter (ie. forget about her and move on with your life).

She didn't like him enough. If she did, she would give her number out

UwaMmebii:
You even have time to waste on that dimwit, her comment irritate me eh the best way is to treat her like a nonenetity she is.

And that's what the moniker wants, to rile you up and cause you to lose control.

Well, I'm not one to rush to judge the dude but his travelling out seems suspicious.

Then, why are the girl parents not declaring an SOS with the police and Radio stations to flush him out?
If he is suspected to be foul, why can't the parents launch a search for him? Surely, his FB is still active and he even posted his club stuffs and airport parol! He can be traced and tracked before disappearing forever. Why is the OP being so concerned more than the parents?


Lots of questions to answer but what I know is if that girl wants revenge, her spirit will find a way to retaliate,if the guy is guilty. Girls are so materialistic these days and the boiz are nothing but young killers, just because of wealth.

data1980:
There is a new trend brewing with women doing "fine barra" on social media with their chest and asking their followers to buy them birthday gifts from their wishlist and even tagging their shopper.

Tiwa Savage did it today (as reported on Nairaland), asking for 22 Hilux and a few expensive things. It was inspired by Davido's.

LOL...here's another lady that did it and her husband called her out as a disgrace of a wife: https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2022/2/what-a-disgrace-of-a-wife-lagos-socialite-cy4luv-called-out-by-husband-yomi-for-going-online-to-beg-for-birthday-gifts-2.html

How can you be married to someone who bought you maserati, Rolex, Iphone watch and still be doing begi begi online? (rhetorical question).

Women will always be women....

Zero contentment.

Princess80:
thanks dear, at least there is someone who understands. Not the wannabe redpillers who has redefined redpill to suit their own narratives

Bring money biko.

All this your talk no work.

Yewandequeen:
Seconded, I go join u buy him something @Luminouz

Lemme jor ...

Bayern Munich

Still on cold Vs Hot Approach?




Let's all agree to disagree na

CuteEmma:
So if they have that much power, why not just teleport into a bank vault and get rich and live as you please, rather than looking for a human to use as ritual, using it to hunt bulls, or using it to avoid accident as a bus driver? Something is definitely wrong here, don’t you agree?

I have asked myself this many times due to all the supernatural shiits I have seen. I could only surmise that those powers have specific duties and consequences. Besides, his great-grandfather might not be interested in robbing a bank. Money is only important to those who pedestalise it and many of our grandfathers were content with the lives they were living. Hunting bulls is a Hunter's work that brought fame and prestige back in the day.
A bus driver might have such charm but it will only be used for accident issues,not stealing. There are checks and balances to these things. Violate them and see death.

My own is simple: if I had such charm, I would have deconstructed it for reverse engineering and improvements. I know there are natural laws governing such charms and these laws are the same physical,chemical or Metaphysical laws of the universe. Once I can figure out these laws, then I can make them work in any way I want. Then,maybe, it can then be used to rob a bank or whatever. But I ask you this, if you have the power to disappear to anywhere in this world, do you really need to rob a bank for money, buy cool stuffs and stay rooted in one place like a brat? I won't, because there would be no need to steal shiit when the whole world is your playground.

ObamaMessi:
Few days ago my elder brother went with his side chick to visit his friend only to meet his girlfriend in his friend's bedroom.

He is seriously heartbroken and he has been crying all the time since then.

Any advice?

Lying ass nigga...

He is crying that what?

heartofcity12:
Ohh some men still pay salary to their gfs. The entitlement and disrespect is out of this world. Lol

On top my 20k, this one go dey feel entitled and call it 'little or paltry'

Na guys dey make these girls act snobbish na...why pay her monthly salary when her parents never die....

fattprince:
Your question isn't complete.
...... ABOVE iphone 12 pro max that will one day needs female head for ritual?

Trust me those that make money with sweat and not with fraud will go for girls like that, that are economically engaged like really into high intellect business or she most be very hot to ne identify as a trophy babe. But some simps with money and low self worth can show up though.

Lol, I guess

Kriss216:
That's what we do.
Coming all the way from the Rising Sun to conquer them.

God bless you Nwanna.

Really?
A tribalist quote from you?

Magnoliaa:
An alpha that doesn't want gift from a woman? Are you kidding me? Abi ya shying? Or feeling emasculated?? Woz dat, no? Come off it, joor. I have decided what to buy for you. Carrot jeans, a lemon balenciaga hoodie, toiletries bag, face cap, ''pam'' slippers and shamballa bracelets. (I might throw in some waist beads for a touch of the feminine). So be expecting these on D-day.

Lemme alone, troublemaker

Nice business concept....

150M guaranteed

CaveAdullam:
Funny thing is that a woman that has chosen you will come with her menstrual pad and flow to your room. At day other men will receive curses but at night, she'll be the one acting submissively. Real life bro!

LoL.

You are right...

But these girls are always cranky on their period days, especially when in pain. I guess she could like you enough to give you audience though...mood is everything to a woman

Magnoliaa:
Awwwwwwwwwnnnnnnn. Such a considerate guy. So as an HNG; a member of the Hungry Nigerian Girls Club (HNGC), you wouldn't mind if I don't gift you anything? I like that. You're not greedy. ^_^ Because of that, I'm going to get you something. Yes, no. Even if you don't want. I'm coming lemme think of something. Befitting.

Don't worry Ma. I'm fine. Although if you have a bf and you want to buy him something....check this nairalander profile: bestabigaelever

Hotspotbro:
Yes..
And specimens like this exist..They're the reason why some betas go into fraud..

That's fuqed up man.

Why go through all that for any woman?

Hotspotbro:

Simp food

I don't get you bro.

You mean this c....fish looking mudafucker wants a man using ABOVE iPhone 12 Pro Max??

Lol...with this economic crunch, y'all would be lucky to get anything this year sef.

Valentine is not for me, good luck to those who celebrate it.

enajite01:
DM for yr digital portrait

Seriously bro?

On a redpill thread?

Emu4life:
Yes, a single mistake that knocked us out of the Tournament even as Favorite.
Uzoho has proven himself. He was our Goalkeeper at the World Cup 2018, and as far as we can recall, goalkeeper wasn't the reason we got knocked out.
Akpeyi was given chance in Egypt AFCON 2019, he disgraced us against Algeria.
Now Okoye too just disgraced us when we needed him most.
We can't continue with untrustworthy People within our sticks cuz it is a catastrophe waiting to happen.
UZOHO is tested and trusted, he is more reliable.

Goan sleep...elemu!!!
As if you can keep any ball to save your own life.

Looks like today is gonna be interesting...

Cold Vs Hot Approach Debate

Well, is there no lukewarm?


I like both arguments...my take is you have to be sensitive to her moods when doing cold approach. Trust me, you don't wanna approach a woman with menstrual pain

Is there anything like a brand new Venza in 2022?


All of Ekpoma rejoiced bawo?

Healthrelatedjo:
Aborted 7 times
Still 18years old
Short,chubby,has potbelly,bad dentition
Rude, doesn't take to correction,broke up with my nigga last wk,the guy took us to 214 to celebrate d breakup.

18 years geh with 7 abortions?

Damn nigga!!