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zexy2030:
Guy, calm down, you treat emotional issues with selflessness. She wouldn't need this, if she had accepted herself. But she doesn't want to be trapped by love nest anymore and after be jilted.

Emotional maturity is giving without expecting a return. Just give what you can loose. That's how to go about emotional imbalance and feelings of not being loved. Love boomerangs if u give it to those the society never cares if they exist.

Though don't start what you cannot finish.

Lollittaa:
and when she puts herself and her needs first, she's then a "selfish b***ch"

zexy2030:
Just one advice for you: Distract yourself with positive impacts on the less privileged.

Forget yourself and develop the less privileged than you. Give a selfless service to those who can't pay you back nor can they give back or you expect anything in return.

Always show that you expect nothing in return.

In doing this, you will understand emotions and attract the right persons.

Women think wearing sexy dresses is what makes them attractive.

It is selfless service to those who can't pay you back that is the sexiest.

Do it passionately but exclude romance from your thoughts entirely.

Drop food for hungry widows.

Pickup an orphan and train in school, not a guy o. But a kid. Definitely let it be a female child.

Adopt a family to bless.

Gifts to gifted children who feels unloved, just like you feel.

The emotion that flows back is much more than what you get from a guy.

TMKsouth:
December 2020

IronGalaxy:
Customs are what hold a nation together, they give us an identity. Imagine right now we permit a woman to merry mor than one husband right? The next thing its permitted to marry your own child or your mother in law etc.. we will lose our identity and become a nation e tsamayang le moya you see? Look at Indians here in SA, no matter how wealthy or educated youll still find them with that red dot on their forehead. What im trying to say is that , age old customs must be adhered to because they give us a sense of an identity. Having said that I understand that culture is not static but we must not veer so far from ou cusltoms to the point we dont recognize ourselves.

shogsman:
My little sister is 26 years old,this is a very articulate, beautiful,eloquent masters degree holder who was born and raised up in naija at least for the most part.for the sake of privacy I aiint going to get into too much details, just enough to show why I am suspecting her.
I watched this girl grow up in a normal typical yoruba household with 3 Male siblings and to my best of knowledge she's always got boys at her heels yearning for her attention as early as 17years of age which was about the time she was preparing to go to college.
What I've always known about her relationship is that she was never really committed to them,it was always a matter of convenience for her,but I just thought she was just different and biding her time.
This is a girl that has never seen any man as attractive no matter how much we or I pry,but like I said we never thought anything of it.
She went to Shreveport,USA for her bsc and ultimately her msc for almost 8years.
Like a responsible big brother I look her up time to time to check up on her and try to see what is going on with her life,because we happen to be the closest in the family, what I notice is that there is always a particular caucasian girl in the background whenever I Skype her which was once in a month at least .
At first I thought it was just a friend crashing at her place because I know she doesn't have a roommate she doesn't live in a frat house or even in school ,but this two seems particularly close cos they post pictures and pretty much everything together.
To burst the bubble, a couple of weeks ago she came back here for a wellness check or an holiday so we really connected, I haven't seen her in like 2 years so we had a lot to talk about which most definitely include relationship talks.but of course she just got back and I have to let her breathe first because my sister loves her space, she's not really the talkative kind.
A couple of days went by she came to my house to spend the night,she wanted to pay for a delivery online, poor girl thought her accounts will work here seamlessly but unfortunately the payment didn't go through so I took her phone to find a way around it.
Curiosity had me so I strolled into her gallery to find pictures of a sexy tall blonde replicating all over the phone, this pictures were personal pictures if I might add,I felt guilty for denying them their privacy but I was curious still so i checked messages, emails etc and yeah my suspicions were true.
This particular girl calls her like 3 times a day,they pretty much talk all the time really, it was during one of this calls I asked my sister who she was, she answered that it's just someone close to her back in the states, I slipped up and told her about the pictures so she got angry and left which was understandable.
What I deduced from their chats and all is that they've been dating for 5 years now and their relationship is pretty much open because my sister is in contact with both of the girl's parent.
Eventually I reached out to my sister again and apologized for going through her emails and I pretty much pressed her until she confirmed everything.
I was taken back a bit so I said to her,it is just a fling right,to which she replied ''big bro i don't do flings I am going to marry her''.
The problem now is that our parents are traditional especially our mother there is no way they will accept she is gay,and I know for a fact that this will definitely not stop my sister because she is a very resolute girl and she and the girl appears to be madly in love with each other ,the girl even had her name tattooed visibly on her neck.
I don't know what my next course of action should be now because I want to try and avoid creating any rift between her and our parents.

adanny01:
Trust me, its not better. Giving the same ingredients, food cooked by different people taste differently. Time is usually the difference. The time to tell is always important to every case. Too early will jinx it, too late is a disaster. Some men are aware even before the ask the girl out.

CHoccolaTE:
Sharrap dia

prodige001:
Thanks boss but the thing here is... The pusxy I get ain't the class of pusxy I want... I tried banging the available but couldn't get my self to release coz mind ain't there

adanny01:
Those girls are naive. When i was dating, most girls told me, but in most cases, i suspected before they said it. There was no fix rule or time to say it. Saying it on the first date has proven to jinx the relationship.

In most cases, I was never in need of a serious relationship with those girls that had a child. So when the revelation came, I cared not.

The two that were eligible, one was a virgin when i met her and the other I can swear she wasn't the type.

If you can read people, you will never fail to notice that she gave birth before. Abortion, you will not know, but a child is not easy to hide if you are not carried away.

Unless you don't know how to read a woman.

CHoccolaTE:
I don't know why women get upset when men say they cannot date single moms or marry single moms. It's a fact of life that most be dealt with, sad fact, but fact all the same.

If you are a single mom get enterprising and do your best to provide for your kids or kid.

Men are more selfish than women naturally, a woman can invest her time and emotions in raising the children of a single dad but lailai, men will not do the same. They always put their needs and comfort first.

Prymestrr:
As if you've not had sex this year at all

adanny01:
I am not calling her child a flaw, her flaw is the circumstances that left her with a child out of wedlock.

Her flaw is the vulnerability exhibited by the fact that somehow she got pregnant by an irresponsible man and got left alone to bear the consequences. She did things that can be said to be a mistake and it is a flaw in her judgement, it is not the existence of the child that is the flaw. What led to having the child is the flaw.

When you are looking for a wife material, an uneducated woman has a flaw, a woman with a child has a flaw, a woman that cannot cook has a flaw, a woman who has no dress sense has a flaw. A woman who is enterprising has a strength, a woman who has a skill has a strength, a woman who has a Phd has a strenght. Do you understand?

Secondly, how did she hide it from you? Did you ask and she denied?

You post is subjective but not objective.

The subject is you don't want to date or marry a single mother, i agree. Its your choice, i have no part in that. That subject ends there.

The objective however still lingers on, starting a relationship is finding love that ultimately leads to marriage. This woman has the same objective as you. She is open to a relationship and even marriage. She has her strengths and flaws likewise you. The objective of every relationship is that the strengths and flaws of each partner is tolerated by the other. You can't tolerate her flaw, so be it. Go out and find the one you can tolerate and leave this one to the right partner who can tolerate her flaws. You also have your own flaws, as little as they may be, the person you meet next might make a mountain of the little flaw you have.

I am married and will not have married my wife if she had a child out of wedlock.

My issue with you is that you believe she did wrong by not telling you upfront and I say she didnt need to tell you and have not done you any wrong. Secondly, that you expect her to tell you upfront is unrealistic and selfish of you.

A friend of mine recently met a girl. On their first date, she told him her struggles, she told him she lost 3 jobs in 1 yr and has a child to cater for. He was open to a relationship with a girl who has a child but the issue he had with what she told him was purely financial aspect of it. By her words, she seemed to be looking for a man to foot her bills because she was talking about renting a shop to open a salon etc. This girl basically dropped all her problems at his feet, who will stay? If she goes on like that, who will date her?

The mystery of life is not unravelled in one day.

mikovo2002:
I am presently dating a single mother, she had never review the father of her son. All she always tell me is that she didn't know the wereabout of her child father. She put her son first. I am just like second fiddle in the house
She even bought a land in the name of her son bearing the child surname. She save her money for towards the upkeep of her child while my money is for us.
She always take offense when ever I deciplaine the young child of 11 years old

prodige001:
I really have an issue lately need drills
















I'd been off the dating market for a while...

All these while I turned blind to women. Lately am back for some puss



The deal here is I really really really hate the phenotypic appearance of the women hurling around...


And the ones my dick wants are too saturated with Simps that I loose attraction


Damn what must the prodigy do...


Luminouz
Martinez39
King0G
CaveAdullam

Really need drills

Tried banging one ystdae junior no gree spew oil and I later went flat while in d process



The worst part is the homo erectus specie have the guts to stalk me to the extent of asking me out who did I offend

SOZINN:
But if it is the other way round she will amplify the little assistance she offered you in your time of difficulty (that is if she did not leave you to die ).

Isaacmacdon:
Honestly, this is enough to break a man to shreds.
That statement alone can come with a barrage of slaps, punches, and what not.

It's sad seeing someone who works different jobs in a third world economy, and gets home to find his wife dicking a neighbor.
On the freaking matrimonal bed.

And this man thinking about all the stuffs he has gone through just to give this woman a good life, and he reiterates, "after all I've done for you and the kids".

Then, she retorts, "what did you even do for me"?.

They say ladies are emotional, but in this case, being emotional can cause her her life.

Men, what a world!

Emmadoc:
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GOFRONT:
Oga forget that thing....If you demand for sex, Say it out.......nobody go kee you

SimeonOTC:
This was exactly how I loss my ex..lesson learnt..

MJBOLT:
https://www.nairaland.com/6744178/man-collapses-dies-after-seeing

ThomasShelby:
My mission wasn’t to get anything from her after discovering that she was a leach. I just needed to teach a lesson, this is how i treat leeches now. If you’re honest with them and cut them off, you just made it easy for them and they go to the next guy who could probably simp hard for them. This is a good way to punish them, trust me.. Waste their energies and resources and let them shiver at any sight of you.

ThomasShelby:
@luminouz
This was after I still promised to give her at 5pm, she vouched not to bother me again and insisted I don’t bother her again ( when it’s obvious she was the one bothering me!) but she still called up to 10 times but I didn’t pick any, I had to just let her be coz she wouldn’t stop. Total calls from this leech was over 80, even tho she looks very clean, curvy and all you’d think she’s a butty girl from a very good home.

MJBOLT:

na Dem dey broke shame guys pass

ThomasShelby:
I dey tell u .. Continuation
Playing along sweet o. I could chop the flashy girl if i kept selling her this dream if I wanted but I chose not to tho.. I was just catching cruise

ThomasShelby:
After the promise of money and playing along.. See this