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midnighter:
That wasn't me dear why not get down to Kilimanjaro and give yourself a Friday night treat

midnighter:
Lol what

midnighter:
Thank you Sir, I am flattered.

Ladycewhy:
its not about control, these boys here were already calling their baby daddy friends on nairaland to come and gloat ,lol. Anyway ,i am glad i didnt tho it was tempting to join in the dart throwing sections with the boys

Ladycewhy:
see how you made people to be insulting themselves on this thread ,i dey vex for you o. If to say i nor do investigation now na so i for join ,becareful buddy

maynation:
You are welcome anytime.

maynation:
Exactly.
Very simple.

Sirvingeo:
How do you stoop so low to get pregnant for such a useless fellow ? I know your response will be like "I didn't notice it during our dating ".
Let me tell you your problem incase your response align with what I enunciated above. Next time reason with your brain when dating not heart .

Ariza:
You say what?

cococandy:
Or marry his money and not him.

Ariza:
Awwwwwww ... This is beautiful.


luminouz. you see your life?

BRATISLAVA:
oh shut up. You sound like a gossipy little bitch. What sort of man is this

BRATISLAVA:
why do you all think I need peace? I'm airing the other side nobody wants to look at. The thread that led him to his reconciliation was not a well-balanced one but one written by a well-known female hating MGTOW proponent.
He encouraged people to shun their mothers as women are apparently manipulative liars, while the men need to be listien to, forgetting that in bitter relationships, men will also lie manipulatively about their wives and they are truly cruel to their families. Ryan03, a man can testify to that. But they consider him a woman because he doesn't agree with them.
He had no true reason to reconcile, but that he's scared of what his own kids will do to him. He has simply taken the advice on that thread that men are innocent, even when their actions are evil.
That is why I put that up. And the OP later went to modify his post. What you see now was not always there. It's after the first few pages he went back to modify and now everyone has no peace.

Cladez:
She wanted you hurt after the breakup but your unintentional lackadaisical reply backfired at her.From her reply,she felt the heat instead.

Just move on.....no need for the long epistle.

BRATISLAVA:
lol, but this was before we argued!

BRATISLAVA:
Men only love their fathers because of red pill movements and because they usually become the monster of their childhood in later life.
So you think mother's only nag? Do you know if fathers nag? With the way men complain about almost everything about women from coming to cleaning, who do you think nags most? Even when mother's are bread winners, at the end of the day comes underserved love and respect for a man who prioritized other things over his family. Because people need to recognize fathers. Whatever that means.
I've noticed a lot of hatred for dead beat mother's and love for dead beat fathers. Why? Sexual bigotry. Nothing less. Nothing more. All I see are ungrateful kids. They always think their mothers are evil when they've grown up and swallowed the pills, and that they need to see things from his side, even when he abandoned them or abused them. Men don't suck in emotions; they are downright bitchy too. That is why they take it out on their families by being absentee fathers. If women dared to try this...! And yet, the children always look for them. Not because they are good. But because society has made even evil men have a side. Even murderous men have a side. As if evil is justified simply by fatherhood because if you don't apologize to him you will suffer. Fear.

BRATISLAVA:
Honestly wondering at the strangeness of it all. It's like a ticket to evil and they endorse it. Imagine neglecting you and then you running after the man. Men suck in emotions they say. Rubbish. If he valued his family he would put aside baseless pride and stoop to conquer. Rather they now demonize their mothers and sympathize with the fathers. Some form of Stockholm syndrome. The oppressor deserves some love, eh?

Graxie:
Why are you begging him? What is that thing that you are hoping to learn from him? Why are you mortgaging your happiness and peace just to remain a son to such a father? Keep begging until he finally waste you.

mapet:
Unfortunately this is what children of nowadays are yet to learn. Parents love each other both in strength and weaknesses. My fear for my own aged parents (Dad 84, Mum 79) with the way they "carry-each-other" even at old age is that if either one "caputs" today, expect the other to follow the next..

alramon:
the last picture by the side whose head is inside that bag

truthsayer009:
Bro you are spot on, this is actually a big hustle. Pretty woman with good face is great but once you marry that woman with a gorgeous body [ back & front ]. Mehn you have entered one chance, you will have trust issues for the rest of your lives.

Zukky123:
I really commend your efforts to reconcile with your dad, it takes great courage and serious ego-breaking to that. Don't listen to anything anyone would say on this platform, cos I'm sure you are an adult and have taken time to put many things into consideration having thought this through. This is a bold step, I just hope that your mum would also benefit from this reconciliation and hope your dad does not relapse again, cos it would become another cycle or even worse when you interfere in their matters again. Just know this means you cannot meddle in the affairs of ur family hence forth as you've sold the rights to do so, unless you want to keep sucking up to him.

Me myself I'm a victim of this paternal negligence.
Since 2018 marchl haven't been able to talk to my dad simply because I tried to make peace between him and my mum when they had their usual rift. I tried so hard no to pick sides, I tried so hard not to be rude, I tried so hard not to challenge my dad,, but yet we have become strangers only because I said ""daddy please it hasn't gotten to the level of using curse words".
Because I want peace I've tried severally to apologise and reconcile with him but to no avail. I call, he doesn't take my calls, I text but still no positive response. Even when I got paid my first salary during my housemanship I went with his favourite wine, and again before my service, I went with another wine and he kicked me out, the second time leaving me in front of his officce and driving off at night. Few days back I turned 26 and messaged him, but still no response. I know some people would say certain nasty things, I just need sensible advice regarding this matter because I don't know what to do again. And I want peace and also don't want to sell my rights to resolving family conflicts as I'm the first child and son.

BRATISLAVA:
animosity? Not at all. I just needed to bring out the other side strongly because people never want to face it. We keep talking about getting into his shoes and seeing his side, but nothing justifies negligence of ones children. Nothing at all. He can give any excuse now to counter what he knows could be the truth that the mother told icecoldviens and the OP would believe him because he's looking for the man's favor. Things happen. Men lie, too. He could be lying about his side. But his actions will have spoken louder than his words. If you check my post this is why I said it is foolishness to take it out on your spouse because it's your children that would be hurt.

And please, your post on the supernatural is...

BRATISLAVA:
Why would I be vexed? I am just worried at how easily we permit bad behavior from fathers then go on to repeat it. This permission is only because he is the father, not for any logical reason. I don't see why a man would be so wicked to the OP to the point where he can't mention it, but because he is afraid it will happen to him he is apologizing to the oppressor. It cannot happen to him if he cares for his own wife and family. This is the new age, we can't keep at old crude family methods and expect love. It's a pity that Africans rever even the most wicked men. Out there you kick them out of your life and move on.

Ryan03:
lol, you even had a dad that provided for the family, your own good. My dad never contributed anything, I grew up to know he always tell us to go and meet our mum when ever we ask for anything even to our school fees. He was a womanizer (six wives), had fourteen children (he didn't cater for any of them). When I was 8, mum got fed up ( due to continuous beatings that sometimes lands her in the hospital) and moved out with us. He never looked for us till I was in js2. He tried forming a bond with us but wasn't successful because he was staying in another town. He died just before I could resume js3. How exactly do I forgive? Where do I start from? I try to act like it doesn't matter, peharps my mum did a good job, hustled for me and my sisters to the point where we are today but I know how difficult it was, I know how we go somedays without food, how we a were sent away from school because of books or exam fees, how we do trek long distance because we dont have t.fair and we couldn't afford a house in town hence we stayed in villages without schools, how we sometimes dont eat rice on Christmas day, how we dont usually wear Christmas clothes, how we depend on others to outgrown their clothes so we could have them. I try to forget those stuffs cause now we live more comfortably thank God mummy did her best to educate us so we could have jobs, I just can't lie to myself that I have forgiven him. It hurts, still hurts badly cc Luminouz