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Why should you worry about his family when the man himself doesn't? If he did he wouldn't steal and risk getting caught and fired. Don't confront or 'warn' him. It puts you at unnecessary risk and you're not his conscience. Tip off the management anonymously. The rest is up to them.

Jenwitemi:
REALLY?! Where is the full truth? Care to show it to me? No! The full truth has not been revealed to anyone. Only bits and pieces here and there.

Just beautiful.

Nuclearboy, you're well-intentioned and I'm not referring to you. The most tiresome people are those who believe they own the patent to the 'truth' and all contrary views are false or heretic. Their view is the way, the truth and the life, and they set themselves up as 'Vanguards of the truth'. The deluded, pathetic arrogance of it.

No religion and no individual owns a monopoly on truth. Feel free to believe what you want. We might discuss divergent views, but we can't impose our beliefs on others as 'the truth'. If there's a working definition of religious delusion and psychosis, seeing yourself as the bearer and defender of 'truth' is exactly it.

They swear by it? I'm going to try it. If it's really good, it's joining my hair-dressing regime.

Like a mohawk lol. I don't get dreadlocks. Seems so fashion-challenged, stuck to the same look for eons. Like Whoopi. You can't even look Goth or slutty with dreadlocks, with its vague rastafarian associations.

The verse says the fullness of God dwelt bodily in Jesus. It says nothing about Christ being God. It only says that if you want it to say it very badly.
I've learned new things here and I'm grateful to those who posted them.

Though Paul never met Jesus, he wrote the letter to the Colossians. How did that transmute him into an authority on the person of Christ? Christ himself had a thousand and one things to say, and not ONE indicated He was God. No man is an authority on Christ but Christ Himself. If Jesus was God I think He'd be the person to know it, wouldn't He? But I was under the impresson He prayed TO God and sought to lead all men to Him. Jesus Christ seems to be a distinct individual from God, with a relationship described as Father/Son so we might have some idea of it in human terms, though it's far more complex than that. God seems to be distinct from Christ, and is not some cosmic schizo with three personalities.

It's a scientific fact. Check any science textbook.

Lol V. Which Denzel movies are we reviewing na.

SEFAGO:
I have a problem with this though. I might be wrong since a scientific breakthrough could have occurred the second this was announced, but when did apes start having logical reasoning . . . ok let me stop and wait for ruba_slipa

Animals do and feel a lot of things na: r.ape, murder, spatial reasoning, fear, lust, happiness, depression, love, fidelity, infidelity, loneliness, rage, sociability, grooming, hope, playfulness, grief, war, terror, agony, parental investment and sexual jealousy. When they sleep they have dreams.

It's a bit silly to confuse and equate two consenting gays with a mother and son having s.ex. Few mothers and sons want to have s.ex. A digust for incest evolved as a biological vanguard against the genetic dangers of in-breeding, which increases the possibilities of defective genes getting selected in the gene pool. We might notice our attractive family members, but we do not want to sleep with them. It's a dumb argument that equates a sexual orientation, be it homosexuality or heterosexuality, with other things like incest and bestiliaty and paedophilism, to 'prove' a non-existent point. If we're arguing for and against murder, we might point out the harm to the victim as one of the reasons againt it. If you're arguing against homosexuality because you happened to be born straight, that's your privilege. Even Balaam's donkey had something to say when it wasn't asked. But try and produce facts that show homosexuality to be harmful, and don't forget to instruct us on who it is harmful to, and stop boring one half to death with what you merely think is 'unnatural'.

kech:
Mad_Max sooooo true LOL!! Even as a girl, I find it irritating when a fellow girl asks another "Is that your husband?" or "I saw your husband today." Or if they see the guy somewhere it's "Where is your wife?"  Bear in mind that they are still dating ooo, as in Boyfriend/Girlfriend. But the one that really grates on my nerves is when I hear or see (especially on FACEBOOK) girls asking "Is that "Him"? and the girl replies, "Yes, this is "Him". What is "Him" bikonu? Him" is a subtle way of girls saying to other girls, "he's the one", as in "this is a done deal." The problem with that is,  if he is not your husband or your fiancé you have no business playing that rough play.

Lol!

Malachi 3 referred to a very ancient Jewish custom. Even the Jews who owned the custom don't practice it today, I don't think. And only farm produce was tithed even then, though money was in use: Jesus rebukes Jewish religious teachers in Mathew 23:23:

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cummin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.

Gold and silver coins were the money in use in Jesus time. But you heard him saying they tithed spices. Jews tithed farm produce only. Don't you wonder what happened to the farm produce all those people brought to the temple in ancient times? Did you think they left it there to rot? Or that God came down and ate the farm produce? Who did you imagine the food was meant for? Why did they have the custom? And what's the basis for you, a Nigerian not bound by Jewish laws and customs, giving a tenth of your monetary income to a pastor? If you're going to pay for God to bless you, go ahead and pay for your salvation too, since it's just as free.

If you reckon God's blessings in terms of material wealth, check out the world's wealthiest people and see how many are religious, much less pay tithe. Youe money would be better spend emulating the One you follow: give to orphans and the poor and needy as comes from your heart, and stop throwing money away to some church. Ask yourself if you serve God better by putting food in an orphan or widow's belly, or by giving away your monetary income to some church or pastor. A church needs money to run, but tithing is a dishonest way to get this money. Did you see Christ demanding a tenth of the income of his disciples? He had a job as a carpenter. That is the son of God, with a ministry and yet working to earn a living and give to the poor. Maybe it's high time you tell your pastor to get a job and stop living off the labour of other people.

You know our local culture. From the cradle women told the goal and validation for their existence as women is to get hitched and drop children like flies. Danged skippy you're getting married if you enter a relationship with those. I've heard with my own ears Nigerians asking a woman, 'Is that your husband?' meaning her boyfriend, with the understanding that, yeah they're getting married. Afterall, they're dating. Sorry about the heartbreak, lady. But sometimes, who's hurting seems to depend on who left whom first. But I think Mr Brownjay's said it all. We haven't heard the other side. Men aren't commitment phobes. Most of them know the woman they want to marry within a very short interval of meeting her. Ask most married guys. No one coerced them. They WANTED to get married to that woman and would've almost died if she'd left them. He shouldn't have led her on and started making wedding plans. That's shitty. But he didn't leave her at the altar. They were just plans and she sounded too needy and overly theatrical. Her life shouldn't revolve around getting married. It's important but it shouldn't be the sole purpose for her existence. My friend's mother said something when I was a teenager. I never forgot and it served me well. She said: Don't ever chase after men or make them the focus of your life. Make something of your own life. The right man will eventually come along. I found it to be true. Really sorry for your pain, lady. Sorry.

AC-DC. Lucky Dawg. Envy youse. Touch another woman? Er, ewww! But that doesn't mean others can't have a meaningful relationship with their own s.ex if they're so wired. We don't know enough to play judge and executioner jere. Cruel, tiresome meddlers. The same set of people will have one wife and ten thousand mistresses and see nothing wrong with that. But when it comes to others they get on a high horse and won't mind their own business. Remove the log from ya own eye first!

Wha-? This yeye spambot had better find job. Thanks sissy.

Welcome 1ne. Interesting. What does shea butter do for hair? Lubricates? Stops breakage?

Once you stop hair abuse, you only need to do THREE THINGS for long hair. Three very simple things, and I guarantee you will have long hair in just a year or two. My hair is only ten inches because I constantly  trim it to keep them all even. Your hair can be much longer than that!

Genetics have a role to play. Each strand of hair grows to a certain length, falls out and another starts. That's the deal with everybody's hair. Because each strand is at different stages of growth, you don't notice. The object here is to grow your hair to its maximum possible length, and maintain that.

The secret to long hair is simple arithmetic. If your hair is growing at 1/2 to 3/4 inch a month, but you're losing 1/2 to 1 inches a month from constant styling and pulling and tugging and breaking and braiding and combing an weaving and heating and relaxing and what not, can you ever have long hair? IMPOSSIBLE. Well explore the three simple things to do in a few days.  (Assuming you;ve stopped all the abuse mentioned in the previous post)

I read there was 'moral' outrage against in-vitro fertilization in the 70s. Test-tube babies. They called it demonic, satanic and unnatural. Children must come from s.ex. Any child not conceived in a womb is inhuman and cannot have a 'soul'. IVF has helped countless thousands of infertile couples realise their dreams of parenthood. Now no one cares. Suddenly, it's no longer demonic and inhuman and satanic and unnatural and evil. Some of those who complained benefited from the science later.

Centuries ago, the word 'ankle' was considered an obscenity, not to be used in polite compnay. It was 'immoral'. In the past century illegitimacy, divorce, using marijuana, atheism, self-service, oral s.ex, sodomy and working mothers were considered 'immoral' and 'unnatural' till people knew better. Of course, some incurable buffoons still consider them so. Homosexuality is as 'immoral' as those things and for exactly the same reason: What is 'natural' and 'moral' is whatever group and views they themselves happened to subscribe to.

Many decades from now they won't bat an eyelid at gays but will have found other meaningless things to label 'immoral'.

S.ex is a biological adaptation. There is nothing inherently moral or natural about either heterosexuality or homosexuality. But here they come again, labelling whatever's not in their orientation as 'unnatural', 'immoral' and 'demonic'. The time and money you waste talking here would be better spent getting an education in biology. Seriously. It's disgraceful.

I wasn't directing the remarks at you ChinenyeN. Only to those who hate blindly without using the sense they're born with. The same bible they're basing their bigotry on has been used to justify everything from slavery to racism to anti-semitism to murder. Still they won't learn. They keep at it.

Flashforward's been cancelled? Heroes I stopped watching after season1. Legend of the Seeker should have long been cancelled. It's terrible.

If anything isn't the way they're used to, it's 'wrong'. If they themselves had been wired gay, they'd be singing a different tune. Like agathamari pointed out, some things people considered 'immoral' in the past look silly now. There's no evil they won't use religion to justify, from their bigotry to mistreating women to outright murder. The bible says this or the quoran says that. They do the evil but lay it all at 'Lucifer's feet. Tear your hair out all you like. Gays are making huge and deserved leaps in recognition and they are not asking for your irrelevant permission or approval.

I thought a country sent an armada to Japan twice, and twice there was a thypoon that wiped out the enemy's fleet. The Japanese took that as confirmation of their race's divine origins and protection. They'd whipped themselves into a frenzy and believed their gods was with them when they joined WW2, initiating their sole surprise attack at Pearl harbour. The Americans soon decoded their war codes and knew evertyhing the Japanese military were going to do in advance. Four years later, the Japanese virtually defeated and in the process of face-saving surrender, America threw atomic bombs on two Japanese cities. Why? Because they'd spent a billion dollars inventing the thing, it was now ready and here was their only chance to see its real-life effect. But war deadens normal human sensibilities and compassionate reasoning. WW2 claimed 35 million souls, military and civilian. America was the only country in the war with zero civilian casualties. Now Japan spends almost nothing on its national defence, investing in science and technology instead. America spends gazillions annually, stockpiling nuclear weapons.

SPARTACUS BLOOD AND SAND

And I thought True Blood had excessive se.x scenes. It's child's play compared to this series. Any reason will do for s.hagging in Blood and Sand. The sky is blue? S.hag s.hag s.hag. Newton discovered laws of inertia? S.hag s.hag. Grass is green? You don't say. S.HAG!

Weave the historical story of Spartacus loosely around '300' film effects, virtual soft p.orn and graphic violence, and you're home! The acting and writing isn't mind-blowing , the plot is a little thin and predictable, but they compensate for that with goryness, the sh.ag, the whole sh.ag and nothing but the sh.ag so help them Starz. Nice to see Lucy Lawless again after her stint as Xena and a reporter on Battlestar Galactica.  

It's based on the historical Spartacus, who led a slave rebellion into Rome, was crushed and crucified, but who taught them a thing or two before that happened. The series doesn't much aim for historical accuracy, but there were some nice audience belly-rubbing moments, like when the widow had the brat who had her husband killed entrusted to her and out comes her knife. And the bully hitting on the poor guy whose lover had been killed? He, er, jumped to a conclusion.

It won't win The Greatest Series Ever, but it's far better than the really terrible Legend of the Seeker.

justkunmi:
. . .did someone mention Foxy!?
*runs outta thread to the phone. . . "is she still on speed dial?"*

What more can I say about Fox? I'll let Santa Claus comment: Ho! Ho! Ho!

Lol, hon. I wasn't using the verse to buttress a point. I said the Jews claimed they were God's own people whom he'd chosen. Other people believe that too. The Japanese believed they were descended from the gods and were afforded divine protection. They complacently went off to throw bombs on the Americans at Pearl harbour.That verse was to highlight the same Jews who claimed God exclusively as their own saying God was with an Egyptian king. Not an Egyptian false god or idol, but 'God'.

Absence of proof isn't evidence of its non-existence. Perhaps. But where a people claim the covenant as basis for ethnic cleansing, I think it's fairly obvious proof is required, since it's spilled over from the group and the so-called covenant is now causing the deaths of other groups. I don't think one is called to approve mass murder on the basis that absence of proof isn't evidence of its non-existence. Absence of proof isn't evidence of its existence either.

He was tremenous in GLORY. Tom Hanks stole the show in Philadelphia. He, Banderas as his lover, and Denzel? Sensory overload!

Don't bring up Megan Fox na. Before JK comes with one of his vomit-inducing sickening love posts about her, and out goes my lunch. Haven't seen any of those three Denzel movies. But seen others. Deja Vu, Malcolm X, Training Day, The Pelican Brief, Man on Fire, The Siege, John Q, Inside Man, etc. Now there's a good-looking man.

johnkent:
haha. U'll be surprised to know that some of the nicest people that you've ever met in life are still in the closet.

Lol. After crooning songs and having thousands of women waste crushes on him, that zaftig Ricky Martin came out and said he was gay.  George Michale did the same thing. Elton John too. For every one that comes out, there's another still hiding in the closet because of judgemental holier than thous. They owe no one explanations or apologies for how their brains directed their sexuality. Another hundred years and it'll be a non-issue.

In the Bible, Judges 19 records a man and his concubine travelling through Israel. The man stayed in an old man's house as a guest. In the night, ISRAELITES came and demanded to have s.ex with the man. In the end the man's concubine was given to them and they r.aped her to death. Where was 'God' to destroy Israel for the homosexuals among them, since that's why he destroyed Sodom? Or you're saying God has double standards? Until it's proven that sexual prefence isn't biologically wired but is, a-hem, a 'choice', all that silly sanctimony hasn't a leg to stand on.

maclatunji:
@medlabgirl, tell them. Gays or Lesbians do not deserve to walk the face of the earth, that's why God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah. In an Islamic state, the law stipulates that they are to be stoned to death. It was when homosexuals started getting bold and having some degree of public acceptance that HIV/AIDS became the scourge that it now is. I can guarantee that if you continue with homosexuality, you will die a slow and painful death by the time your body starts to manifests the foul effects of your abominable act.  Remember. Garbage -in. Garbage-out.

And please all of you pseudo-liberals should stop feeding us with rubbish talk. If your mama and papa followed your own argument, would you be here to feed us this thrash? If your answer is no, then SHUT UP!

Yawn. I take it you were an eyewitness when Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed for homosexuality, since you're waving it in people's faces here as a fact. Fine. Point to the verse in your bible where it said God destroyed the place for homosexuality then.  I thought the complaint was sin and wickedness? 'Sin and wickedness' could encompasses a list of evil things a mile long. Turn on your news and you'll hear of one evil or the other people have committed, from murder to blowing up planes and trains. If 'God' meant homosexuality, I think he would have said homosexuality. Putting words in God's mouth, are we? It's 'God' that supposedly hates gays abi? Maybe you should try leaving the judging to the only Person qualified to do it. Who appointed you Deputy God, to judge and hate on his behalf? Mind your own frakking business.  

ChinenyeN:
Let me see if I understand you correctly, Mad_Max. . . because me, or society in general, do not approve, doesn't mean anything. They will continue doing what they're doing, within themselves. They don't need me, or societies approval. Correct?

I was saying what two consenting adults do is not your business or mine, especially since they seem to be wired that way, and your approval or disapproval of homosexuality is irrelevant.

Well. I don't approve of some of my bank charges but they charge me anyway. It turns out my approval or disapproval hasn't a darned thing to do with it.

There's homosexuality in the animal kingdom too. You should see gay lions at it. Maybe those sanctimonius arguments should be taken to them as well. And what's being a paedophile got to do with being straight or gay? There are straight paedophiles and gay paedophiles. One is a crime people are thrown in jail for. Being gay isn't.

ChinenyeN:
what about siblings, who are of age? Your liberal mentality ought to have no problem with them engaging in sexual activities, since you want to hammer on about consenting adults and homosexuality. In fact, the only way I will take your consent argument seriously is if you show consistency with both incest and homosexuality, in regards to consenting adults. So, do you have a problem with incest?

What two consenting adults do is ACTUALLY nobody else's business. In fact, the only way I will take your argument seriously is if you show consistency with both incest and heterosexuality, in regards to consenting adults. So, do you have a problem with incest?

Homosexuals aren't wired that way but chose to be gay? Fine. It means you too can choose to be gay if you want. It means you're s.exually attracted to people of your own gender but choose not to indulge. Afterall, you've got the same wiring as homosexuals.

Honestly Rome, there are Jews today who'd laugh at you if you tell them their ancestors had a right to kill other people and take their lands because 'God' promised them those lands through Abraham. I mean, listen to that proposition! The same 'God' who created mythical Adam and Eve in such detail, with forbidden fruit and a snake villain? Who said women gave birth in pain because she fed the first man the fruit? It may have basis as allegory, but it's prime after-the-fact myth-making and storytelling. Adam and Eve never existed. We evolved as a biological species.

What's the evidence any God ever promised any Abraham a dang thing? Where's the proof? The Jews probably made up this story, much like the Adam/Eve story was made up, to justify their conquests and recruit 'holy warriors' to fight for 'the lands God promised'. Pascal said Men never do evil so completely and so cheerfully as when they do it from religious conviction. He's absolutely right. There are Jews who don't accept that 'Abraham covenant ' justification for mass murder and ethnic cleansing, who don't even believe there's a God, much less any kind of Messiah, be he to deliver Jews from their conquerors and oppressors, to become their king, or to save the world.

Don't feel obligated to defend everything the Jews wrote in the Old testament. They don't even know who wrote much of the OT. They merely assign it to Moses because it's convenient to do so. They label the author, 'Moses, according to tradition'. They haven't a clue. Some of these OT books were written only a couple of hundred years before Christ was born! Events that ostensibly took place countless thousands of years ago being written about in 150 BC! That's the bible for you. And you'll see some impossibly daft dolts tallying up all the begats from the OT in Matthew and declaring the earth is 6000 years old, as if the bible is a scientific document.

My last post was to you, Rome honey. The Jews are a group like any other group. Christ came through David's lineage because God apparently promised that to him. Not because of Jewish cultural and religious history, or anything the Jews ever did. So what if Christ came as a Jew? He had to come as something: Negro, Arab, Caucasian, Asian or Palestinian Jew, it's all the same. It doesn't mean my allegiance automatically lies with any race he chose to come as. My allegiance lies only with him.

God promised Abraham other people's land. So they SAY. Where's the proof? Writing wasn't invented for thousands of years after Abraham lived, if he actually existed, so where did the writer of Genesis get all the details he put in about Abraham? The Chinese invented ink and paper only in the 
2nd-4th century. Cruder forms of writing were available a few hundred years before that. So where did all the nifty details of this covenant come
from? There may be a covenant where God promised the Jews other people's land and labour, but where's the proof? They conquered in war but they too were conquered, same odds as any other army. They claim God dealt exclusively with them, but other tribes and people claim exactly the same thing in their holy books. But the Jews let a few things slip: 2 Chronicles 35:20-22 records something interesting.

After all this, when Josiah had prepared the temple, Necho king of Egypt came up to fight against Charchemish by Euphrates: and Josiah went out against him.
But he sent ambassadors to him, saying, What have I to do with thee, thou king of Judah? I come not against thee this day, but against the house wherewith I have war: for God commanded me to make haste: forbear thee from meddling with God, who is with me, that he destroy thee not.
Nevertheless Josiah would not turn his face from him, but disguised himself, that he might fight with him, and hearkened not unto the words of Necho from the mouth of God, and came to fight in the valley of Megiddo.

See that? The Jews acknowledged their own God was with the Egyptians.

Listen to Isaiah preaching to the Jews: Isaiah 29:13

The Lord says: These people come near to me with their mouth and honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.
Their worship of me  is made up only of rules taught by men.

Isaiah 30:1:

"Woe to the obstinate children,"  declares the LORD, "to those who carry out plans that are not mine,  forming an alliance, but not by my Spirit,  heaping sin upon sin."

Your son has his own personality to express. But you're the parent here. Disciplining your child and being his best friend is not mutually exclusive. I know parents who don't like to discipline their kids because they don't want their kids to 'stop liking' them. Unbelievable, I know. You owe it to your child to bring him up the best way you know how: All the love in the world without spoiling him or raising a total brat. You can start taking him in hand now, or you can wait till he's intractable and the 'terror' of the house.

Don't punish him when you're angry. There's a difference between discipline and taking out your anger on him to make yourself feel better. The latter is empty bullying and abuse.

Don't make a habit of shouting at your son when correcting him. He'll learn to ignore you when you're correcting him quietly and pay attention only when you're out of control and screaming like a lunatic. Not good.

Don't have adult expectations of him. Don't punish him for every little thing he does wrong. You make mistakes yourself and you're grown up. He's a kid, let him be a kid. But if he does something really bad, let him understand what he just did is bad. Tell him if there's a repeat performance there will be consequences. If he repeats it or persists, kick his ass.

Before we go to how to grow your hair, there are some mistakes you may be making you MUST stop first:

1. APPLYING RELAXER TO ALREADY PERMED HAIR WHEN RETOUCHING
This is deadly for your hair. Even the relaxer manufacturers tell you NEVER to do this. Apply relaxer to new growth ONLY. When it's done, wash and style your hair. The more times you apply relaxer to old hair, the weaker it gets, until your hair won't have volume but will be thin and unhealthy. Strands of your hair will break off at different lengths, and will look as if it's stopped at one length and isn't growing. Stop doing this, don't let your hair stylist do it , and don't exceed the number of relaxer minutes for your hair type because you think you're 'cooking' hair.

2. HARD BRAIDING
Tension pulls the hair out by the roots and breaks it. NEVER let your hair be braided 'hard'. It will break, especially around the temples.

3.THREADING WEAVE ONS TO YOUR OWN HAIR.
If you're fixing a weave-on, don't let the hair extensions be tacked to your own hair. Have your hair woven neatly and THICKLY with straight hair extensions so it can absorb the shock of all the brushing and styling your weave on will be subjected to while on your head.

4.SMALL TOOTHED COMBS
Don't ever use small toothed combs on your hair, or allow it to be used on your hair. You will pull out your hair, or pull some of it halfway out, which will fall out eventually. The smallest gap comb should be a wave comb. Brush hair with a huge comb first, then a smaller comb, then a wave comb.

5. EXCESSIVE HEAT
Very bad for hair. When your hair is in curlers don't sit under dryers set to excessive heat. Dry your hair under the lowest heat setting, or take the curlers home and have them removed and your hair styled the following morning.

Stop these things first if you do any of them.

Lol. I didn't say there aren't products that help prevent hair breakage and loss. I said there's NOTHING you apply to scalp that accelerates hair growth. There isn't.