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dasoul:
Iran does not recognize dual citizenship under its law.

There are willing Iranians with a US J-1 visa or Green Card that will happily go and represent the Iranian Foriegn Minister.

TooMuchStuff:

Buhari has just found another Fulani Muslim replacement for the office of that organisation.

Welcome to the......

Fulani Republic of Nigeria

Hahahaha!
This was what was on my mind.

He will replace this man with a Mohammed Modibbo Umar and all will be well
I am proud of Buhari, though. Doing all what Obasanjo and GEJ couldnt do.
So easily, that everyone else in Nigeria are too divided to do anything about it

wirinet:
Will the representative be an official of the Iranian government or a random Iranian picked from the streets?

This move has destroyed the very basis of why the UN was created. The UN was supposed to discuss issues of conflict between members to avoid going to war. It was created after WW2. So how can Iran present it's grievances to the world, and have an opportunity to discuss with the US if it cannot even enter the UN because, it is housed by US?
The UN general assembly needs to be moved to a less war hungry country like Switzerland or it be scrapped altogether.

I do not support what the US is doing. Trump is acting like a dictator and the US like a rogue State. In the past, the US have granted visas to diplomants from Zimbabwe, Venezuela, Iraq, Libya, heck even Iran even when do not like their nationalist policies.
This completely defeats the purpose of the UN.
The UN HQ should be moved to Switzerland. I agree. The US wont like it though. Despite their defunding of the UN, they still know that having the UN headquarters in NY is a diplomatic leverage for them and not a disadvantage.

Racoon:
Ghen! Ghen! Systematic ostracization of Iran has started.

It will be tough.

They can easily use a representative, one who has an American and an Iranian visa and is an Iranian nationalist.
There are going to be countless of them. Especially within the liberalist academia space.

Explorers:
Meanwhile the United States is deploying thousands of troops and equipments to the Middle East.


U.S soldiers loading humvees and gun trucks, radar, interceptor and communication trucks on a C-17 Globemaster III aircraft in Fort Bragg, NC.

Raytheon, Boeing Defence, General Dynamics, they’ve got to pay the bills and test their equipments.

The white man has always considered the black man, Asian man, Middle Eastern man as objects. Not as humans.

zakim:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/bmo-rejects-un-hunger-crisis-report-in-nigeria.html

Buhari Media Organisation.... Then what you’ll see is a Yoruba and an Igbo name

The Fulanis should tell us how they have been able to use Southerners as their willing tools of hegemony and subjugation in Nigeria. It would be an important research topic.

We move.

Next game: Crystal Palace.
Three Points coming up.

Sirjamo:
If all of us in this country have sense, we should pair this man with Osinbajo come 2023!!!

Buhari for 2023!!!!

Sai baba!

Maxymilliano:
Goodluck Jonathan was right after all ...

LOL.
Did you need GEJ to tell you that the Barack Obama-led government sponsored and effectively did a regime change in Nigeria.

hardbody:
I knew where this was headed before I even watched the video. It's been done severally abroad, that guy borrowed the script from YouTube, but the girl appears to be an asset, at least for now.

Please, that girl is an asset.

A lady who will not run from you when it appears that you are being arrested by an AK-47 totting Nigerian Police with all their reputation of shooting people and getting away with it?
That is putting your life on the line. And she did that naturally.

An asset.

NGN001:
CREDIT TO DALLAS INFO-TECH

Nigerian Policemen Help Execute A Lovely Proposal to the Most Loyal Nigerian Girl

Sometimes we don’t realize the blessings we have until we no longer have them. Appreciate all the blessings in your life, take none for granted.

The part where the young Lady KNELT DOWN, poured goosebumps all over me. . She didn't run away neither did she dissociate herself from him.
She was ready to take anything for the young man, imagine she held the officer to an extent.

Stood by him even when she wasn't suppose to, she even knelt down to plead on his behalf, This one is expensive shaa

WHAT'S YOUR TAKE ON THE VIDEO?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dymf7Vnjtgs

The only time I have seen the Nigerian Police displaying some form of usefulness.

PatrickOkunima:
http://patrickokunima.com/top-5-reasons-not-to-apply-for-a-job/

Good reasons.

But these reasons do not understand the economic realities that the applicants face. These reasons should be motivational words preached to job applicants in the West.

obembet:
Source: https://punchng.com/pick-your-successor-bakare-urges-buhari/amp/?__twitter_impression=true

LOL.
Bakare and his Save Nigeria Group of Hypocrites.

Kallmerb:
The sad thing about War is both sides loses

The war profiteers- AKA, the Military Industrial Complex wins.

Boeing, Lockheed Martins, Bombardier, Raytheon, BAE Systems, Northrop Grumman, General Dynamics. ..they all need to sell their shiny equipment. Defence contractors need to get paid.

The US Army, Navy, etc, need to try out how effective their equipments, physical and biological, are.
These are the side that always win.

For example, the missle used in taking out Soleimani cost $64 million. They will need to be replaced. That means contracts, documents, bidding, engineering design, new job employments, etc. The whole miltary supply chain benefits.
Colonialists do not consider black and brown people as human beings. That is why Africa, South America, Asis and the Middle East will forever be the death playground of neocolonialists. The Yellow Vests have been protesting in France for over a year, with violent crackdown by the French government, yet you do not see it on mainstream media. Yet no American or British government have suggested an "humanitarian invasion to bring democracy to France". We know what the response would have been if this were done in, for example, Zimbabwe.
This is the world which we live in.

Soleimani was the Iranian Mastermind that defeated ISIS in Syria and in Iraq.

ISIS are, of course, being sponsored by the West. He had to be taken out.
Watch how a new ISIS would soon "grow"; you will see new beheadings, new videos, etc, which will cause the West (US and the UK/Europe) to "deploy troops." Someone in Pentagon must have simulated all these.
Anything to counteract Russia's supposed growing influence in the Gulf. They needed a pretext. Terrorism as a pretext ALWAYS works.

Explorers:
In two minutes , four sheriff's deputies arrive at the couple's home, making the man jump in surprise and quickly turn around to face the trio.

The deputies inform the man that a nearby neighbor reported hearing a woman's desperate screams from inside the home.

The man quickly brings out Rambo the Screamer (pictured) and explains that his lifelong pet is a talking parrot who can utter phrases.


He revealed that Rambo's startling yells are something he taught the bird as a child.

'Sometimes Rambo yells "help, help, let me out".

Something I taught him when I was a kid and Rambo lived in a cage,' the husband said.

The man quickly returns with Rambo resting on his hand as the deputies light up and laugh at the sight of the green bird.

If the man was black....

Erediauwa:
[color=#ff9999]If they like, let them collect donations from "Sai Baba" zombies here in Nigeria and raise their motherfucking leader, General Qassem Soleimani from the grave, Trump will still outsmart them and deal with those unscrupulous elements ruthlessly.



Zombies, the time has come for you guy's to sacrifice your 30k BMC stipends for these course.


Long Live the United States.

God bless Donald Trump.

God bless Delta State.

God bless the PDP

God bless Chief James Onanefe Ibori.[/color]

I prefer Trump to Hilary Clinton and did support him, but that was a bad, bad, bad move.

odun360:
Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/football/article-7802485/amp/City-like-FBI-Benjamin-Mendy-jokes-club-keeping-tabs-contents-fridge.html

After Adama Traore has turned you up and down you are still showing your face.
Smh.

MylezKayn:
FTC
Why is it peppering Nancy Pelosi that Trump killed a Terrorist who was responsible for the death of Americans such as Ambassador Stephens? Sometimes these Democrats act as though they are on the side of Terrorists rather than USA

Lol.
A “terrorist” that you only knew about after Trump started tweeting that he was one.

If he was a “terrorist”, why didn’t the US Marines pick up his body like they did to Baghdaddi and Osama?

If he was a “terrorist”, why is America sending Oman, the EU, Switzerland and the U.K. to negotiate and plead on their behalf with Iran not to retaliate?


It was a clear act of war by the Trump regime and the failed attempt to demonise and mischaracterise this isn’t working, thanks to social media. America is acting like a rogue state. This is shameful.

Michaeljames22:
Abeg why is the groom's eyes all gazed at her b00bs like that..

Fine bride.

Congrats, your new home is blessed

It is included in the Brideprice which he’s paid for.

He should look

pickatyou:
Nigerian girls are something else but bro you are lucky. Here is my experience with a girl I met and took outing within 24 hours, me I can't shout I rebuked her ASAP

LOL.
Typical Nigerian girl. Tufia!
I block these ones right away.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
I said in my last post that the villainy of the heardsmen predates GEJ but because everything to you must boil down a battle between Goodluck and Buhari, you went to google to look for the date Muhammed Yusuf was killed and who was president then, just so as to prove GEJ is innocent of the insurgency then. Both The herdsmen and boko haram are killing innocent defenceless Nigerians in cold blood, so in the sense that they are both terrorists shows they are the same. The herdsmen are actually going for cows in Zamfara and other parts of northern Nigeria and the issue is still on going. Hope do you explain that? And if I may ask, what like did I tell?

Lol @ looking for the date. You are funny Oga, I know the date and how it happened because I was in Maiduguri that week.

I asked certain questions and mentioned coincidences that you’ve chosen to ignore. It is understandable.

Buhari is the President and the buck stops at his table as President. It doesn’t stop at the table of Nnamdi Azikiwe. Do you lots ever get this at all?

reportminds:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/sport/amp/football/50989513

Antonio Reyes... Now this.
I think Kun Aguero had a crash before.


Football players should stop “testing” if their Ferrari is fast. It is.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
You see these things you mentioned? They happened during GEJ's time and even before then. Muhammad yusuf was arrested several times, brought top Abuja and released. All those things aren't new. Was it not during GEJ's time that people were killed in tens in southern kaduna, soldiers will be a stone throw away, they will only come around after the attack and be asking stupid questions. The day I was robbed by fulanis at the area where this journalist was kidnapped, there were soldiers, just a few kilometers away. The robbers shot sporadically, soldiers came about 5 minutes after the robbery. I am not deceiving myself, these problems have always been there and will get worse over time while we continue screaming Buhari, Good luck etc .

Mohammed Yusuf was the person that started Boko Haram. Boko Haram are actually different from the discussion in question here, and that is herdsmen.

He was killed in an operation that happened on the 20th of July, 2009.

President Musa Ya Ardua was the C in C that ordered the operation.

If you want to lie, at least make sure it isn’t too obvious. If those kidnappers killing and abducting Nigerians were going for cows, this would have been sorted out a long time ago. No one have said that it hasnt always been. Don’t deflect the question. Did you read what you responded to at all? You’ll look silly when you may not be.

Continue deceiving yourself. It’s something you lots are sworn to do anyway.

Tundemuttee:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/chicken-express-texas-employee-says-manager-told-her-she-had-to-remove-hijab-2020-01-03/



https://mobile.twitter.com/naemuulaa/status/1211702462475907072


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uoWK_MpS-rA

Aluta Continua sister.

Don’t worry, MURIC will threaten Trump for you.
The foolishness of young people with access to a social media App and an Internet-connected phone always amazes me. They just seem to loose their heads for the craving of "likes" and "retweets".

Do you realise that you are also black? You see all these racism stories in the US and you still think it’s OK to be foolish?

By the time you find it hard to get into employment in the US— asides being employed in a Mosque, maybe— you will understand that social media clout is actually a stupid thing to chase.

hevisegs:
Your head dey there. What a statement! Has nothing to Buhari he said? He must be smoking weed. How many ops will it take to smoke this ass holes out.

Thank you. If you check the fellow’s history, he is probably a Buharist or an ex-Buharist. Normally, I ignore those people. But he was decent in his language so I was obliged to reply.

Self-deception is a terrible disease.

If those kidnappers spoke Ijaw language, do you think any “phone call” will come from Abuja and get them released? Does he think they will not be smoked out easily and since?

If those kidnappers were kidnapping cows, wouldn’t they be facing an anti-kidnapping riot squad right now?

The worst thing a man can do to himself is to continually deceive himself. It is terrible thing.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Has nothing to do with buhari. I was robbed at that same place by fulanis that robbed charcoal on their faces, it's been that way for long.

Sure. I would almost agree with you.
Unfortunately, the stats says otherwise. Please tell me why, whenever a Fulani herdsmen terrorist is captured by the Police, a phone call is made from Abuja and they are mysteriously released?

Or why soldiers invade communities who arm themselves to protect themselves from these terrorists are always disarmed by the military and, shortly after that, an attack follows?

Then we have cows everywhere in Nigeria, with armed herdsmen— herds of cows that have been more conspicuous and daring since this regime started in 2015.

You see eh, the worst thing a man can do to himself is constantly deceive himself because his feelings don’t like the evidence he sees. The evidence will be there, despite his feelings.

henriettttta:
Don't be too serious in this life. Have a little sense of humor
That was meant as a joke

Oh, forgive me. I apologise.
Didn’t know that someone can conjure up humor after reading what is a very frightening life and death situation with AK-47 armed Fulfulde-speaking kidnappers and another human being and fellow Nigerian. I’m sure the journalist that wrote this too has no sense of humor. Extend your forgiveness to him too.

Please forgive me. My bad.

henriettttta:
Journalist u didn't tell us how much u later paid as Ransome

All this kidnappers na them sabi sha. If they kidnap me, they won't even get up to30k from my family

Never thought I would ever see someone write, “if they kidnap me”.

Maxymilliano:
Continues ...

Facing the killers

Gradually, the sun began to creep out from the East, and as the day lit up, I had to offer the morning prayers from my heart. Islam allows its faithful to pray that way in such a situation. I never expected the criminals who spent the night playing music off their phones, smoking cigarettes, and marijuana to think about praying in the morning.

At about 7 am, Sergeant Sniper announced: “Now is time for you to say hi to your folks at home.” We got back our phones to enquire about the progress made concerning the ransom. I also spoke to my wife and was encouraged by the sense of calm in her voice. She asked if I was tortured, I said no. She asked if I was allowed to pray. I said no. I quickly told her not to worry that I was okay. She said my colleagues had been calling and assuring her that they were working on my release. I knew inside she was broken. But she still managed to take the kids to school. I battled to stop tears off my eyes.

At about 7.30 am, the kidnappers repainted their faces with charcoal, and they asked us to move to another location. We found another rocky space and sat under the morning sun. They had breakfast, and we had nothing.

Since our abduction, the other three captives and I had no time to know each other. It was time to introduce ourselves. One of them, a heavy-set man from Plateau State, had what most of us lacked: the grace to fall asleep easily. The second, more elderly, was an Igala from Kogi State. He understood very little Hausa and relied on us for translations. The last abductee, also an Igala, was about the age of this writer.

As we waited in silence, one of the kidnappers, the second most elderly, asked for our passcodes to unlock our phones. I call him Sergeant ICT because of his ability to frisk phones and apps, searching for information about our lives and what we do out there.

He was able to find some photos on the phones of two of my abducted colleagues, which the kidnappers said did not match their claims of not having money or being rich. For that, the two men were dragged to a rock top where they thoroughly flogged.

While they were away, I and the man from Jos were left with Sergeant Elder who approached us and said, “As you can see, your friends there are suffering because they were not honest people. They lied about not having money but only for us to find out that they live big lives, have big houses, and drive luxurious cars. But for you, we have not found anything contrary; at least you have not lied that you can’t raise the money we are demanding. Your people back at home are assuring us they would do their best to raise something good and substantial. So that is why we have not touched you for now. But should they fail, I’m sorry. You see, every day, I pray that I should stop this kidnapping business. And I pray this should be my last. But don’t make me do what I never intended to do before I quit.”

Our whipped colleagues returned with red eyes, and they were given phones to make calls again.

Sergeant ICT went back to work immediately. He called out at me and asked for my passcode again. I gave him, and he began to frisk my phone. I became worried, then scared, as I monitored if he was done with the phone. He was still on it. At about 8.30 am, my fears came to reality. He had seen something that excited him. He called Sergeant Small and Sergeant Elder to look at my phone.

I knew what it was. A photograph of me in military helmet and fragmented jacket. I took the photo when we were on an embedded trip with soldiers to some towns in northern Borno. Their excitement soared as they flipped through the photo file. I glanced towards them, and I saw Sergeant Small staring at me with a deadly cold look on his face.

Sergeant ICT took the phone to Sergeant Sniper, who was sitting a distance behind us. He blew out a whistle in a surprised tone and jumped up. He cocked his rifle and came in front of me. My heart pounded. I was horrified. I managed to pray – may my last, or maybe for God’s intervention. The armed man stepped back and put his hands on the trigger, and two other captives behind me moved away. And then he said in Hausa, “So you are a bloody hypocrite and a liar. Tell us the truth and deny that you are not a soldier. You hypocrite!”

I don’t know what gave me the confidence, but I laughed out and said, “soldier?” I said, “Oh, you guys saw the photos in my phone where I was putting on a helmet and frag jacket, right?”

I explained my work as a journalist and how I had to use the military kit for protection. I explained in every possible way I could to convince them and repeatedly swore with all that I hold dear that I was not a soldier.

I brought out my ID card and showed it to them, explaining that a soldier does not carry civilian identification. Somehow, God intervened through Sergeant ICT, who said I should keep quiet as he recalled my friend telling him the previous day that I was a journalist.

But Sergeant Small, who never liked my face all the while insisted that Sergeant Sniper should shoot me that I was lying because he had been watching me since the previous day, I looked like a soldier. After some minutes of argument, the ring leader hearkened to the voice of his elders and left me.

Sergeant Elder left a gruesome warning nonetheless. “Well, whether you are a soldier or not, it does not matter. As far as we are concerned, you may not leave here alive.” His words sent a chill down my spine.

First meal
The man in charge of frisking phones suddenly became generous with his skills. He told us how and why some kidnapped persons don’t make out alive.

“You Nigeria people are always the cause of your problems,” he said with disgust.

“Why do you take photos of what you are not? You take photos in places or cars that don’t belong to you and keep them on your phone? That is what we use to judge whether you have money or not. We don’t care if it was real or fake when we notice that what you claim is in contrast with what we see on your phones, you are gone. You guys are lucky we are god-fearing people.”

I was also lucky I left the other phone in the car.

It was at about 8 am. And it was time to move again. We walked back into the forests on the hilltop until we got to a location with tall trees. There, they said we should sit. We had to trample on dry leaves and rotten woods to find places to sit.

After about five hours of periodic calls for updates on each of our families’ progress concerning the ransom, they later brought garri, mixed with salt and pepper fetched from a black plastic bag, and presented it to us to eat. We had no option than to fetch and eat even though it was served as a dog’s food. The oldest amongst us did not want to eat, but I advised him against rejecting the meal. We all ate and drank the water they fetched for us.

From time to time, Sergeant Small would angrily slap or flog some of us if he felt that the ransom being sourced was not forthcoming as they anticipated. We kept begging for mercy.

Suddenly all our phones started running out of power. My Infinix still had enough battery, so the three others had to depend on my phone to contact their families.

It was late in the afternoon, and the rains began to drizzle. Our abductors were not bothered. They understood the jungle and said it would soon pass away, and that the trees would protect us all. They were right

”You Nigeria people are always the cause of your problems,” he said with disgust.


It is very clear that these people are not Nigerians. Since from the time when they abducted and raped that Yoruba woman while she was travelling from Lagos, it was clear these were not Nigerians.

Buhari has empowered his Fulani kinsmen from Mali, Central African Republic, Niger, Libya and the Fulani parts of Cameroon.

Sadly, we warned the Yorubas when they were supporting Beau Harry in 2015. We pleaded with them that in the end, they and the entire country will suffer for it.

Now look at this. How will your hate of Jonathan drive you to cut your nose to spite your face?
My goodness.

midnighter:
All youve stated here bears only passing relevance to that stuff you wrote in your first post.

It may all be true, but you havent refuted what I argued against initially which leaves me to conclude that my assertions were correct.

A "homegrown" Nigerian fellow who travels abroad and starts bowing and scraping and behaving in a timid and stupid manner will attract equally stupid "oyibo" who care nothing for his cultural background. I mean, that "salad and tomato" jibe totally exemplified the whole thing.

Did your friend tell the woman he wanted Eba and soup? Or he was just squeezing his face while chewing the lettuce and carrot before slipping out later to one downtown Nigerian dig Only to come after how many years and accuse the woman of "bullying" him? He bullied himself! Smh

What is the meaning of "inflexibility" here? There is a difference between traditionalism and backwardness, though the two concepts naturally overlap.

Again, if he behaves in a typically chauvinistic manner alien to societies in developed climes, then he cant expect the relationship to work and he'd better stick with his so-called "homegrown woman" who may even also have her eyes open and still call him to order!

There are Nigerian men who dont behave in a crazy or stupid manner towards women and have progressive mindsets, yet still stand by the Biblical principal of commanding respect and authority in their homes. Such an enlightened man would not have a problem with a well-intentioned foreign woman in that regard, though there may still be cultural differences to iron out.

My point is that its true that marriages between foreigners and native Nigerians are often difficult, but not for the reasons you described.

OK.

midnighter:
No.

If you go there and carry a peasant woman who grew up with some kind of inveterate ideology and refuses to accommodate yours, that does not make the idea of marrying a foreigner or foreign-born lady totally out of the question.

Are "scolding" and "telling [them] off" not one and the same

A foreign woman who is actually interested would love to cook all those things you mentioned, come back with you and more.

I have such women as in-laws and they cant act like this. It depends on the persons orientation, background and also how you presented yourself in the first instance.

Some men will deliberately pretend and downplay their cultural perspective in the relationship so that they wont be sounding like "bushman". Pretending they like tomato salad and roast potato instead of telling the woman what it is they want. Later on they will begin to complain

The kind of woman you are describing is a narrow-minded or culturally restricted working or lower-middle class who was never interested in embracing your side of the story in the first place and felt that they were helping you out by marrying you. Those ones who will "absorb" and colonise one into their own family because of the way he presented himself.

When asked about Nigeria he will say "Mtchew, dont talk to me about that stupid country!" So how does he expect the person to be seeing him as anything other that an object of pity?

At least the part about "disrespect" is what I can understand because culturally, we have different ideas about what constitutes "respect" and at times we espouse some particularly misogynistic elements which would be difficult for an outsider (as it is for most of us insiders) to tolerate. A so-called "homegrown Nigerian lady" is somewhat conditioned more to accept certain realities, even if they should not be.

But generally what you wrote does not obtain for all foreign women, especially culturally sensitive ones. I can tell by the way youre describing it, the type of person you ran into lmao.

Hehehe.
I am a happily single man, Oga. Stayed off ladies to fulfil purpose. I’ve written a passage about it before. Now we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s critique your statement.

The experiences I’ve described are experiences from my friends. Persons I know like the back of my hand.

I tried to use the words, “may”, “likely”, “largely”, “less risky”, to suggest that my arguments was not a 100%. This is basic. Nigerian youths in Houston or Atlanta aren’t known for their ingenuity in medicine or sports because they are a small majority in comparison to the larger majority known for 419.

I use words deliberately.

For every 2 foreign women who are lovely, there are 10 who are something else. If we want to be honest, we know this is true.

The OP asked SPECIFICALLY for a “homegrown Nigerian man”. We know what that means, again if we don’t want to pretend to ourselves. That description comes with its good and its “bad”. One of those “bad” is inflexibility. Nigerians are like the Asians in that respect. That is why, in a small community of Nigerians, you will have a shop that somehow sells African/Nigerian foods. When the European come to an African country they are flexible enough to try and manage to eat their hosts foods. Usually, the “homegrown” Nigerian or Asian won’t do that. That is why colonialism was easy for the white man. They will eat your food and drink your water as long as they get what they want— your land and allegiance.

Of course this inflexibility in itself isn’t bad. But it’s imperative we recognise that this inflexibility exists and isn’t just applied to feeding, for the “homegrown Nigeria man”. It applies to marriage as well.

I hope this is clear. Remove the construct “homegrown”, then we can be flexible and liberal with the outcomes you’ve described. Otherwise we are just deceiving people here. Which I wont do because I cant

NB: A peasant Nigerian woman often, are terrible characters when you bring them as marriage partners in the West. Again, from the experiences I know. If you want to get a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, ensure that she is exposed and more importantly is TEACHABLE and naturally HUMBLE.

Else, you are better off getting a non-Nigerian who lives with you in the West.

Gerrard59:


You sound so certain. Why is it so? Are there no successful and well mannered black women in the west that a homegrown Nigerian male can marry? What about other nationalities/races? I would like to know.

“You sound so certain”. Thanks, there’s a reason why I am “so certain”. Can’t state it here.

There are successful and well mannered black ladies in the West. However, being “well-mannered” as defined by the West is different from being “well-mannered” as defined by a “homegrown Nigerian man”.

Those adjectives that I’ve put in quotations are important.

A homegrown Nigerian man expects his black lady to love him and their kids, cook in the home, be homely to his friends and family, etc. A well-mannered Nigerian lady brought up in Nigeria is likely to provide this. However, the “well-mannered” black lady whose growth has been in the West does not think like this. Hardly. Divorce, disrespect, “alone time”, etc, are norms you have to deal with. Unless you want to deceive yourself, that’s just how it is.

And no one should blame them. They are only blacks by skin colour. Anything else, they are not blacks.

It’s up to you. But these are the risks. Well-mannered Nigerian brought up ladies have their own risks too; but the risks on their side are less.
Other nationalities and races are good too; but we are talking about the “homegrown Nigerian man”, who wants to probably eat Eba and egusi and not salad and tomatoes for lunch. The “homegrown Nigerian man” will want to scold his child for misbehaving; the woman will want to “tell the child off”.

Can you deal with these?
Homegrown Nigerian men, can’t deal. Unless they want to lie to themselves. They will pretend and wish they married differently.