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matrix199:
The reason why many marriageable men still remain single is becos of the calibre of some single ladies out there. Many of these ladies are pure reprobates in disguise.

Do u care to expantiate sir? Meanwhile welcome to the thread.

udysweet:
Hmm deep,quite deep I must say. May God help us all eeven as we strive to be our best. Oya wait sef,seems u go change dis ya name sef o,weda to smtn else,lol! Btw u call me eyen eka d oda day,are u truly an eyen eka,or u dey form I sabi speak ibibibi?lol

Lol, wetin do my monica nah? Abeg I dey form I sabi speak o..(Tho I sabi tiny sha). Btw my mumsy is efik but me no sabi speak am...she fall my hand ni.

udysweet:
Hahahaha! Is not allowed ke? Sometimes its needed o,so we know who's real. A little bit of IGG(initial Gra Gra) can help to spicen up Things but omo if u see say d guy wan bolt,repackage ursef and chase afta him o to avoid storeis dat touch. Hahahaha! See me laffing plenty now,una do well! Erm as for dat rice ehn,me sef no mind o. Some hot spicy turkey stew on top rice wit som nicely fried dodo by d side to wash down wit ice cold chi exotic coconut pineaplle juice sounds like bliss to me now,choi!

Buhahhaahahaahahaaa...kai, dis babe u funny walahi! No be small repackaging tinz.
Hmmm see as u make my belle come dey somersault for here wit all dis food description. Mbok sofry sofry oh!

missbronze:
Lol,udysweet and magneto, if I catch you guys this afternoon ehen.


well,formings, sharakara or "hard to get" attitude is not allowed here.

Meanwhile, Zubinike, you are welcome to the thread. I hope you are single oooo?

Abeg, who cook Sunday rice?

Over the years I've come to learn dat in relationships (as with oda aspects of life) we attract who we are. In other words, the kind of ppl dat come into our lives are usually a reflection of the kind of person we are at dat moment.

Perhaps dis is a big reason why I haven't experienced dat one satisfying and soul enriching relationship yet. In one of my reflective moments, I looked back on some previous encounters and was surprised to discover a distinct pattern. To put it summarily, most of my ex's were d classic "happening babes" "ride-or-die bitches" and "party rider" types, many of whom were capable of winning me hands down in a beer guzzling contest! Lol...
I've also briefly dated some shy girl, introvert types...which I always ended up finding quite frustrating (just my personality, no disrespect to dem quiet sistas)
As for guys, I've had my fair share of outright back stabbers and opportunistic fair weather friends. Can't even sincerely say I've got one who deserves my absolute trust and loyalty ryt now.

But my most amazing discovery of all was when it dawned on me dat I was actually responsible for attracting these ppl into my life. They were simply a reflection of my thots, words and actions. I myself have always had dis "bahd guy" or "guy man" mentality too...and it showed in everytn I did. I'm not saying dat being a cool dude is not nice (of cos it is!), the real tragedy is not being conscious of the lasting effect our state of mind has on our reality. U see, I've always wanted a strong, responsible, high iq, and spiritually alert woman as my soul mate, but couldn't seem to ATTRACT one no matter how hard I tried. The other types I mentioned above were usually easier for me to get, WHY because I was just like dem...mindlessly enslaved to my weaknesses and lustful desires.

MAN KNOW THYSELF!! What an apt injunction from a revered pillar of humanity! The key I discover, is to become fully conscious of the way ur mind works, and endeavour to be RESPONSIBLE for the kind of output it produces (in terms of ur words, actions, and attitude) because dat is the YOU everyone else relates to...regardless of how u may really see urself on the innermost inside.

Pardon the rant y'all, just wanna speak my mind.

Toks2008:
Wow..thanks bro for the encomiia...im humbled.

real recognize real bro, u deserve it.

zubinike:
happy sunday friends, am new in here and i hope this goes well. hope we all having a nice day. vv sorry for the loss .

Ur highly welcome zubi, pls feel free to mingle, twingle, and tangle. If any lady form too much shakara for u, report her to missbronze lol

vivaciousvivi:
Thank you dear. I appreciate.
Thank you Toks2008. U have Bn a good friend through all this.
Thanks missbronze, Halexito, ddshow, melsan, Udysweet and blessedbeads. I appreciate your kind words.
Wish I could type much more but....u understand.
Have a blessed Sunday all.

Anytime dear...be safe


Shout out to toks2008 and siamia, ur dads did a good job of raising two great leaders like u! I doff my hat for them as they RIP...

malele:
I don't understand what am seeing on those tables. Is silver bird for real, sprite, teem and coke

Bros na palmy u wan see?? Lol

Btw, congrats to silverbird on their anniversary! As for saraki and lie mohammed...smh

ddshow:
Greetings to everyone. I want to believe our weekend is going pretty well.

Greetings to u too bro. D weekend is lovely mehn. How are tinz at ur end?

udysweet:
@magneto,hapy weekend to u too dear,hop ur enjoyin it too?

Yes o my swit yellow sisi eko/eyen eka ... Hope u enjoyed urs too? We need to declare state of emergency on dis ur headache o, d mata don dey pass be careful! Infact I support d removal of braids and barbing of gorimapa

missbronze:
I experienced it two months ago, and the pain is still in my heart.

Sorry for ur loss too dear. Its a cruel world we living in...

Toks2008:
It is with a heavy heart that i bring to you all the passing on to glory of the mum of viviaciousvivi who is one of us here.

MAY HER GENTLE SOUL REST IN THE BOSSOM OF GOD...

Take heart dear and we all pray that God grants you and every member of the family the fortitude to bear her exit from this earth.

AMEN

Oh no dis is truly sad. RIP mum, u left a good legacy behind in ur precious daughter. Take heart vivaciousvivi, God is with u now and always. Sorry for ur loss

missbronze:
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you are loved baby.

Mmmmmm....now I can sleep in bliss! Love u too sexy mama cat *meow* *grrrrr*

Melsan:
melsan sends love too

Yes, yes, yes...I receive it with joy! Te amor signorita

blessedbeads:
blessbeads dey also hail u ,hw d weekend and hope it cool over dere

Tanx swithrt, d weekend has been very pleasant. I decided to take myself out to a nice fish and bottle ministry, to unwind and smoothen some rough edges...nah mean?

nouvelle:
Magneto, I like your open mindedness.

Awww ur such a darling... muchas gracias my dear! I hope the good gentleman reminds u tonight of how awesome u truly are.

@nouvelle @halexito...u are duly sighted!

Happy weekend o, my beautiful people!!! Magneto loves u all very much...oya show me in ur own special way dat u love me too!

MYMINDER:
@sparkles003 when something is pushed to the edge from the outset, it kills the excitement and expected uncertainty. If I do a pool party and title it "bare as you dare" and everyone turns up naked, the purpose is defeated.

The hookup implied focus has not allowed many people to participate innocently without inhibition. Yes, some people are interacting, but, many more would have if the thread said let us get to know ourselves within a defined age bracket. Soft landings are typically preferable to hard landings.

MY MIND as always

Bros I understand ur reasoning but can't seem to grasp its relevance to the situation on the thread. Yes there's an implied hookup focus which is certainly appropriate for such a mature gathering of singles. There's no cogent reason why any kind of 'soft landing' should be considered because nobody is hounding, intimidating, or scaring anyone away. If ur 30 and above, ur welcome to join and participate anyway u so choose (of cos displaying ur supposed maturity). Let the hookup minded ppl hookup in peace and let the intellectual minded ppl discuss in peace... At d end of d day everyone is happy, don't u think?

ddshow:
Ohk...work well



I don't want to believe this. The ladies here are not extremely hard in my view, its we guys that a little laid back in our approach maybe.

If a guys sole intention is to hookup without engaging in any form of conversation, I can bet he'll be disappointed. There should always be a form of open interaction before going private.

So you may not necessarily blame any lady that avoid PM's.

I agree wit u, the ladies here are nice. I do believe some of dem just wanna hookup wit no long conversation thing tho. As for me I'm finally enjoying my nairaland time out. Who knows maybe I'll fall for one of our sexy hot bombshells sooner or later. #teamlaidbackalltheway

MYMINDER:
Ladies is being able to make an enjoyable conversation with your partner a prerequisite to romantic bliss? Can someone tickle your fancy despite not having much to talk about? Is informal silence golden?



Your thoughts...

Glad u decided to 'intellectualize' here after all. Well ur question goes to the ladies so I'll just wait to hear their responses.

Melsan:
Type my name here?...rara ooo

Lol

MYMINDER:
I will prefer to start a different thread given that hooking up and schmoozing is the focus of this one which has made it boring and territorial in nature .

To further buttress my point, the WhatsApp group is reserved for those interested in hooking up only. This was never clearly stated on the board. The hookup focus is implicit and not explicit though the hookup emphasis is everywhere.

Cheers

Its all good bro, if u aint interested in the hook up thing its certainly ur prerogative. I look forward to contributing on ur new thread. I love intellectual discourse too. Cheers!

BCISLTD:
my oga it's cool..just trying spice stuff up...ok..i'll ask the next willing babe(fine babe oo) on a date.

Now ur talking my man, nothing do u...carry go!

BCISLTD:
Huh....dude ..think before you type..

Aite I'm sorry bro, I take dat back. But u shuld participate and not castigate ok

BCISLTD:
Wetin happen..u dey fear to ask her out ni...

Mstcheww, i no blame u. All these second hand small boys sef...

MYMINDER:
This page should focus more on intellectual discussions. This will help people to blend in better and loosen up. The focus on romance and relationships talk serves as a hindrance to some. People in their 30s and above should have a lot of ideas about life to offer to each other and the younger generation. The same logic applies to the WhatsApp group where the focus is on people interested in hooking up.

There is a difference between trying to relate with someone and connect with someone. Focus on the latter (at least initially) will benefit more.

This is the same reason why the thread was moved to this section which took some by surprise.

My Mind as always

I believe u have a solid point bro. However u can't really expect to control peoples behaviour in a social group and besides, there is no one best way to interact and find common ground wit somebody. As we are all unique and diverse...so also are our methods.
Just initiate an intellectual conversation here and see if ppl of like reasoning won't jump on it.

BCISLTD:
Ya see...


Well u can spice things u..go on a date with the 1st guy that asks...

Dude u really think we are here solely for ur amusement abi? Smh...oya why don't YOU ask her out?

udysweet:

Dis lil sompn sompn me I'm interested o,abg u don"magnet" info somwer? Hahaha

Udy udy, person no go get secret agn?? Oya u first tell me where u bin think say I get d info...

Melsan:
hmmmmm

Much better now

Much luv to evryone keeping d thread alive and exciting! Hope una day dey go fine?

Never knew melsan was a babe!

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Missbronze mi rudegyal, u knw der be mo dan enuff okpa for every1...but only u gat d very special delivery

Ogas toks2008 and ddshow, I dey sight y'all. I go wan be like una wen I grow up . Abeg extend d soiree bottles reach my side o.

Siamia, u remain d best. Big up to u!


Enjoy ur weekend ppl!