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If she had been regular with her anti nental and fetal scanning had been done at intervals, i am sure the sonographer or doctor would have seen the deformity right inside the womb and possibly advice against keeping the baby.

earthsync:
Uhm because she kept it a secret and the relationship was long distance?

I meant in her physical appearance, but i later read where the op said she married early so her physique is still intact

Lostchild:
My brother
I know a man who caught his wife with amother man. He forgive and welcome the woman back to his life. When people asked him why he didn't divorce the woman over her cheat.

The man said, he accepted the woman back because of his little children.

Marriage is not boyfriend and girlfriend.

You are in Nigeria O, just think about the well being of the kids.

Betrayal from within/siblings is very painful.

About the former post, so if you catch you wife sleeping with another man or men, you'll just forgive and move on right? Marriage is not boyfriend and girlfriend that is the more reason why any adult who decides to get married should also be ready to abide by all the rules governing marriage.

Adultery is a big sin before God what more of man.

NgHotGirls:
Sis, didn't you see all these before marrying him?

There was no cohabiting, more of distance courting.

How come you didn't detect that she was married with kids? Not 1, or 2 but 3,

GboyegaD:
Just tell them in a reasonable way, show them what to do and do it without complain. They should pick the message over time.

InTheCloudySky:
As a neat freak, I don't tolerate grossness or yuckyness. Unless they're incapacitated, every adult should know how to clean up after themselves.

Not every adult o, some don't care.

bukatyne:
@OP:

1. Keeping nagging till they change;
2. Do something they don't like to drive the impact;
3. Join them in leaving it dirty till big cleaning day;
4. Always nag while cleaning it;
5. Put measures in place to mitigate about repetition;
6. Clean it in peace

Choose either one or all six as you like

You are spoilt for choice

I can do all this except no. 3, i won't even know when i am cleaning it. As in i can't just over look, it will just be chuking my eyes

Richy4:
This got nothing to do with marriage.. even flat mates does things like that...

I remembered sharing common spaces while in Uni, the Chinese landlord that rented the student accommodation wrote in the kitchen " your mother is not here, Please clean after yourself.

i am that landlord.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....I feel you. One of the issues I have with sharing my space with anyone is how they leave the toilet. I always always tell whoever upfront that that's about the only thing I'm fussy about. If it's me, I will read them the riot act in a huge way....no small talk. I will create a raucous big enough to bring the roof down so we can address it once and for all....its really a no no for me. I just become troublesome when the toilet is left untidy.

I swear this gansta approach is ok, it irritates the hell out of me, i can nag on it, keep monitoring their usage, like jump into the mess and nag while cleaning it. Well, correction will be taken, give it a day or two they're back at it. It goes on and on. I wish everybody can have his/her own facilities.

chatinent:
Nice one.

So, you prefer she lives in campus or go from home?

It depends, if the proximity of the house to the school is ok, and she has her own room where she can study without distractions and very minimal errand sending from the parent or elderly ones, then she can go from home. But if it is otherwise, then she stays in campus.

Note, a well brought up girl who is disciplined and whom you are sure is God fearing no pretence, can stay on campus or be on her own without much worries.

Yes as the aforementioned says, some partners boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife have the nonchalant attitude towards cleaning up for example leaving soap scum all over the bathroom door, wall and even floor, not flushing the water closets properly after defecating, not rinsing the washing hand sink or mirror after splashing from teeth brushing, allowing food droplets or crumbs on the floor when eating. If you are the kind of person that can't over look a mess no matter how small it is, how do you cope? Because constantly reminding them is like you nagging.

Well, for me i will buy my daughter phone when she's through with her secondary education that is o'level, i will promise her, if she study well and pass all her examinations, i will not only buy phone but ipad and laptop self. Main while, i will make mine available to her when she wants to do any educational stuff online. Whereas there is a torch light phone at home which will serve as landline.

Very rare

I wouldn't be surprised if this kind of guy will end up marrying the opposite of beautiful as wife. Smh

Joyless004:
Sometimes I wonder why is so expensive to get married and stay married



LOVE is long dead and buried in Nigeria. We just marry to satisfy all righteousness and stay remain single in marriage

I swear, this is just the plain truth

Spider20:
You're a big Fool......................

Is it your opinion or mine? Why is it paining you?

suffering:
Which one do you perform before going to church? A word is enough for the wise.

What does what i perform before going to church has to do with the topic?

Is it necessary to shower of bath before sexual intercourse?

Find true love biko, sometimes it is not all about money. Happiness is very vital to one's life and existence.

Well done, as long as we're under the sun, nothing will be new

What? How? when? After i don buy asoebi, hmmm

Fine young man, o pray any o his friends and family see this.

This your writing ehn

CharisEleos:
What's all these?
This is no marriage. This is slavery. Slave and Master relationship.

Why do you women keep deceiving yourselves by remaining in an abusive marriage all because of sex/fun and claiming it's because you don't want to be mocked?

Imagine, a man who doesn't allow you make or take decisions with him and stick to it, doesn't regard your opinion or anything you do, in fact doesn't agree on common grounds with you generally and the only connection he has with you is sex and spending your money is whom you're still calling a husband?? Wake up, aunty! Your mumu never do?

I think you gave away too much of yourself to him. You really gave him the impression you can't do without him that is Why he using you like foot rag. No single respect. Like, How can you even let him have access to your ATM card? Na wa oooo..
You also tell him anytime you land a big job. to attract him or what?

You're just realizing now that he's ugly and dirty after he don show you ten ten. Who knows what you too now look like? I'm at anger abeg.

See, with this new contract, receive sense and respect yourself. Don't release a dime to him. If he tries to bully you, dump him. Separate from him ( if e go gree you) for sometime while you think of what to do with your life. Stop tying your life around a man like he's the air you breathe.

Now, youve seen another guy and you "tell him things". I Know part of the things you would be telling him is how you make money and land big jobs sometimes. SMH. You're not smart.

Sorry o, but it's obvious you're seeking fun otherwise moving on to another man while still with one man should not be the next thing on your agenda but getting away and recuperating from years of trauma.

This new man will only take advantage of you especially as you're already telling him things. He'll sense the desperation in you and take you on a roller coaster ride then drop you high and dry.

Give yourself some self-worth. Stop gambling with your emotions.

Op @ notoracism, take heed to this advice, it will do you good. The devil you now is better than the angel you don't know. If you eventually separate from your husband, take your time, settle own and construct your life emotionally and physically before letting another man into your life.

Go back to all the things that you did pre marriage, visit exiting places together,keep the kids away either at a family or trusted friend so you can explore things together.

You didn't fear God that said you shouldn't fornicate yet you're afraid of a mare mortal. You never see anything. Someones generation is about to be taking away

Who gave mad woman belle?

Nice one

I know this is all liesssss, you just want to generate traffic byforce by fire. The earlier thread didn't generate enough so you decided to upgrade. Well done you hear. Oni iranu oshi

The surgery site or i don't beliv it

I find this irritating and disturbing


With all this coma - coma, do you need a prophet or sooth sayer to tell you to put a full stop hun?

You beat a woman to the extent of kicking her in the stomach, what kind of man are you? If you can't control your anger towards your sister your own blood, i wonder how it will be if you eventually have a girlfriend whom you're no blood with. If i am that your sis ehn, i will have nothing to do with you again. I can imagine the beating.

As for those your so called sexual feelings you have towards her, dead it, i repeat dead it. Infact bury it before the devil use you. Focus and write your exams, then find your square root.