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I visited my cousin at Abuja recently where she was telling and showing me her neighbour who is always maltreating a small girl of about 8years or so. She said every now and then is beating upon beating and also doing adult task. Sometimes in the presence of the husband and he will do nothing.

So one day my cousin said this particular beating was so intense that she was hearing the sound of the kain on the girls body and the girl was screaming very loudly in pains. My cousin couldn't hold it and went close to where the sound was coming from and screamed " if you don't stop beating that girl i will call human rights for you" that was how the beating stopped o. From that day no more beating. And the neighbour knows my cousin is a lawyer. So she won’t take that threat lightly.

When your crush is about to getting married. You serve a living God.

Your main aim of advertising carepay is achieved. Clap for yourself.

How you still open your legs for a cheating husband still beats my imagination. You aren't even afraid of different kinds of diseases or the mother of all HIV. Just leave that pregnancy and co

Weldon, you don't know ladies prefer alpha men ko?

There is nothing wrong with you getting married now, since she is very supportive and a career driven person, i think she will support you and help you mange your affairs. Most importantly talk to her open your mind to her, let her understand that you have to shoulder your family responsibilities as well.

RenerdLiam:
The problem is that she has a talent. Her parent are not much interested in helping her develop that talent. I am the one that ginger her to work towards developing it.

All her parents do is just to pamper her. She doesn’t have self drive too, but she can be easily pushed to do something.

She is just the homely type.

How about her parent, aren't they keen on her getting admission? Since they're rich, let them opt for private university.

RenerdLiam:
Right.

I won’t think much about it then

Since she yield to advice, talk her into learning any skills while still trying to get admission even though it is NCE it is still something.

RenerdLiam:
I am 23, earning an average of 150k a month (can be more than 200k depending on how work come) and just planning to upgrade my skills and delve into a new career.

Is it right for me to start thinking about marriage?.

The girl I love, (20) who loves me also, suddenly drive my thought towards it all of a sudden. Begin Dey advice me say I don ripe for marriage, to Dey born pikin self.

Someone that is suppose to be thinking about furthering her education. (She wasn’t able to gain admission and she has given up already)

I am thinking of discussing this with her properly or just let her be.

I no get parent, I no get anyone to depend on. I hustle to get here and just started making it this year.(after I met her). Although, I understand that I am good looking and well nurtured, so she won’t want to lose me.

And even though her parents are rich, I don’t like the idea of seeking help. I want to be independently independent before I start thinking of serious relationship or marriage.

150k is too small to rely on. No saving yet or investment because I am still getting stuffs to upgrade my skills and career.

This is a pain in my heart, cause I love the girl. Don’t want to lose her.

Stick to the bold. And don't let any love for a girl pressure you into what you aren't ready for. Marriage is for a life time and that requires proper planning. Don’t be afraid she would leave you, if she does then she was never yours in the first place.

Modified
She is still young and she is supposed to be thinking on how to further her education or acquire any skills.

Dude397:
It's a long story but it started in my secondary school days during in boarding house. And also during my early University days. I wasn't diagnosed of depression at anytime and I don't think I was. Mostly anxiety, ptsd. To be honest I also experimented with weed at some point in University.

Let's say emotions could be a factor. I know someone who is diagnosed of mH and currently on drugs also, same as yours. He was taking the drugs but stopped at some point. The relapse wasn't funny at all. Can it be healed completely?

Dude397:
500 per card. There are three cards in a packet. Thanks

Ok, sorry for the questions. What is the history? Where you depressed at some point?

Sorry about this, i just felt pity for you. But it is 450 that it is written on the pack now.

Bahamas95:
"Your pr!ck go float inside me"

A neighbour told me that when I was in SS3, a girl that's just 1year older than me. He rated me based on my size then forgetting the size of gbola is not determined by the size of a man....... Luckily for me I had the opportunity to hit her, I was just banging her with wickedness. I didn't care about pleasuring her, I made sure I injured her with my long "rod" which I did. She couldn't stand up after the act and I was celebrating like a player that won the world cup.

She didn't talk to me for about a week and I just ignored her. Whenever I see her am like.........

Liesss

Leave her alone shuu. You said she had given up her past and she is now born again so why do you want to come and put sand sand in her garri? Abeg let them be. If she decides to tell him fine if not it is their palava not yours. Just face front and pretend you guys have never met before

Hartman11:
Brother u preach much, it is people like u dat will make someone to advise people not to go church and look for wife or husband

Na truth i talk now

lawrenzooo:
Five years after your own marriage abeg update us...

Sure

How can a married person envy single? In what sense if i may ask? As a married person you only envy a single person if your marriage is full of troubles or you married the wrong partner. If not i see no reason why would i as a married person, want to go back to been single.
Infact a married person have tasted been single but as a single person, you're yet to taste marriage. A marriage that has zero form of any type of violence is a marriage you would not trade for anything. To even make it sweeter, when your partner is heaven sent and you're loving each other as the day goes by. Who wouldn't hope for that? When you're sick, someone is there to take care of you. Someone is always praying for your safety and success. You're sure of the hygiene of your meals. When you attain old age, someone is there to take care of you be it your spouse or children.

The mosquitoes in night class na helele.

kwaso2:
So, my wife and I share similar career path. Though am ahead of her. My office got some new openings which she is qualified. Interestingly, I may be playing a major role on who gets the offers.

So comes my worry:
Can I facilitate my wife who is keen on her career? Do I have to worry about any regrets in future?

Regret shouldn't come to your mind because this is your wife you should know and understand her better

2). My wife manages our family bizness(and is doing very well on it, bringing in all the back up money) and children, what will happen to our bizness?

This shows she is a committed person and can joggle her work and family together successfully.

3). This good offer will require her to relocate, by extension, my whole family relocating. DOES it worth it?

It worth it. If it is relocating abroad then over worth it dey worry am.

4). Will I be accused of nepotism by HR auditors of recommending my qualified wife for the role(though she will be bearing her maiden name, I worry that the secret may not be for long before rumors start flying)

No body will accuse of nepotism since she is very qualified for the job. And she is ready to put in her best since it is her field and career. Anyone who accuses you of nepotism is jealous of you and your wife. Because it is kind of rare to find to career driven minded couple.

The job is quite rewarding, pay is excellent and entails free foreign travels.

Just give her this opportunity and see how she'll do and importantly cherish you for the rest of her life. Because if she here pere that you were in the position to give her her dream job and you didn't because of some flimsy reason then be rest assured the won't be any peace in your home again.

To be clearer, my biggest worry is her loyalty as a wife if she gets very powerful and no more 'fake' office flirting.

Haba now, like i said earlier you should know her better now. Have you had any reason whatsoever to suspect her since you got married? If no, please give her the benefit of doubt.

Married Career people, HR executives pls advice me

Mods, please push to the front for wider opinions

Let me add that, there is nothing wrong in couples working in the same office as long as there is professionalism in your doings. Leave family matters outside office. Infact, i remember doing my IT in one organisation where the husband was a director in the department i was doing my IT and the wife was a staff in another department. Could you believe i didn't know his wife was in that organisation until i was told one day by driver when he drove me to run some office errand. Still i couldn't believe it because for once i haven't seen her come to his office. And they don't even come to office with the same car. Everyone uses their car. Forget it they were all top people in the organisation.

Yes as written in the subject, i want to report this mods for the way and kind of topic they sent to front page is not fair sometimes. Someone will create a topic about real life situations some even depressing issues and beg the mods to move to front page, they will just ignore and pretend not to see it. Whereas whether you mention them or not they will still see it.

But on the other hand, they topic that is very useless and not front page worthy will be move to front page within the twinkle of an eye. Imagine fa, this early morning some one created a topic on "how he is bleaching his skin for girls " only to see it on the front page? Or is it the topic that was created years ago maybe 2 or 3 years ago that the mods will now move to front page this year?

Please mods you guys should stop it and do the needful. Nairaland has helped alot and it is still helping.

Kollins11:
Who is deceiving you that those kind of girls are decent?

Most of these girls that are caged at home by their parents end up being wild when they eventually gets that freedom they're seeking for.

There's this girl I know very well, her parents do cage her at home, when she eventually gained admission into the university.. Omo 100L 2nd semester Aunty don dey sneak go Ghana go collect preek, She pieced her nose sef.

While they're being caged at home, they are already building their wildlife by watching music videos, porn videos and other wild things on the internet... the moment they gain freedom, they begin to practicalize on what watched.

That is why i said some. Not all now. Even some exposed one out there are decent. As a guy na you go do you checkins and findins on any girl to know which category she belongs.

No

For it to be on tiktok, i now say na lie.

Y not? Most of those kind of girls are decent. I will just try and make myself very worthy in her parents eyes, respectful, well-behaved and all that. Little by little i will be welcome to come in and chat with her in the parlour or anywhere convenience for them. As time goes on, i will be permitted to take her out from time to time.

Well there must be a root cause for the waywardly behaviour of that girl. Teenage exuberance comes with all form of act. The best way is to pray hard, lead by good example and give good advice. This harsh way might only mar the situation.

Haakeem:
And how is it your problem?

Na you be op period! If you want people to help you why not come out clean and use your old account. Creating a new account means you're not even sincere with yourself and it ricks all form of deception and scam.

Wait o, pregnancy aside from raping should come as a result of when two grown up adults man and woman come together and plan it and also both parties should also be ready for the responsibilities afterwards. In this your own case now, it seems you were the only one who wanted the pregnancy since according to your write up, the baby daddy have absconded. I am sure he wasn't ready for the responsibility you're about to mount on his head.

How much is condoms for heavens sake that you can't use to avoid all this stories since you can't abstain? Now see, you can open to your people which i am very sure they'll be disappointed in you. Instead of to bring kpali come back na belle you bring. Like wise you can't go to his people who might call you a liar since it wasn't their son that informed them first.

The only solution now is for you to tell your people. Accept all the blame but they'll still be with you and support you through out especially your mum. Don't go to his people because they might not believe you. While your people have accepted your circumstance, keep on praying for your baby daddy's return. If he doesn't fine, just put yourself together and move on.

Most importantly, try graduate successfully with no carry over atleast let you people happy small.

Truvelisback:
Na the water yansh wey u say u get nai dey make me laugh because i know say those wey dey loaded back nai fit get water yansh.

When did i say i have water yansh? Scroll up and check for the person who said it

Truvelisback:
That is, u are slim and moderate at both sides.

You gerrit

Shameless is an understatement, they're a disgrace to the whole human race. Products of leaking cond*ms kawai

Truvelisback:
U well endowed, right?

I am in between. Not boney or too fleshy. I exercise alot