₦airaland Forum

I clean mine everyday. Arrange it well but we all end up eating at the sitting room using side stools.

Guests get served there.

To eat in front of TV na him sure pass.

olaBC007:
You are in the state of ibsima ibsima afeba of the hullabaloo invoked on you by the ancestors of your nomenclature and you can't say cabodo rejecta menta

Mtcheew.. You think you can bombard someone with big grammar

Calm down biko, no let the grammar pain you reach this level.

Triniti:
Seems like the mod on duty is stoned on some good high grade kush

Ah swear.

Congratulations ayeyid. God bless your home with all good things from above.

Just an aside, are you from Eket or Oron?

Modified***
I just realized this thread is from 2014. Biko, the mod wey bring this come front page, you well so?

Police and customs

Police don't like good things, before you realise it, this beautiful place will look like it was built and habited in the 1920's.
Their maintenance culture is in the mortuary.

I doubt this story biko. Nsima who is alleged to have stolen billions from NDDC will suddenly go broke and sell off this property? If he is selling the property, it may be for another reason. Probably offloading all assets he has and funnelling the monies to the Caymans in case he loses and EFFC comes for him due to pending allegations of mismanagement in NDDC.

Nigerian hunters always eating every animal without the thought of preservation.

Devil didn't want to make a deal with them.

Modified.

Nothing from the devil is free. Sharp sharp the guy don conner him sacrifice. The rest can go on to use the charm that was made potent by the blood of their comrades.

thatigboman:
they cant do that without contacting the account owner

It happened to me o. They didn't even contact me, just reversed the transaction the following day after the depositor informed them of his mistake, na me go ask questions sef.

I don complain for my house tire. I bypass NTA with the speed of light whenever I am browsing for channels. No be me dem go remind of my childhood biko.

Reminds me of Phina, my corper friend during service year. She always went about with spoons in her bag, wouldn't touch an eatery's spoon with a pole. She couldn't fathom sharing a spoon with strangers even when the spoon had been washed.

Whether you returned it or not, bank would still have issued a reversal after realizing the mistake.

I miss his brand of rap. Where hin dey sef? Happy birthday gramps.

This man is just like my father o. Kudos to all the brave men out there.

Early exposure to sex and all it's attendant problems is always disastrous. RIP little girl, I wish your parents had been more aware and strict.

This guy still get mouth to talk so. One hard slap will reset his brain.

Can a leopard change it's spots?

Girls are getting madder by the day.

crownwealth:
He is so clueless and bereaved of action

It's bereft not bereaved.

Tattoo and dreads are not new to our culture. Henna leaves and the like were mainly used by maidens and warriors for beautification, same concept of tattoo. Those with natural dreads were regarded as special beings to the gods. The police spokesman is mad.

How does this work?

He will soon come and deny it like the GOD statements he made. Dysentery mouthed senator.

DeeMain:
OP, from your 3 posts on this thread there is a chance your wife loves you but doesn't like publicising her marriage. There is a chance the crucifying majority are wrong. Stay open to this possibility till you get to the root of this.

There may be a psychological reason for her behaviours - her not wanting to show you off, her not being excited about your gifts. The reasons might be quite different from those suggested by most posters here.

Humans are complex beings.

You need more information. To get to the bottom of this.

Has she always been this way? Is this weird private behaviour exclusive to you in all cases? Is she excited when she receives gifts from other people? Has she always been this way even in her childhood?

She may not even know why she acts the way she does. But you can lovingly partner with her with loving probing to get to the root cause. It may even be as a result of something that happened in her childhood or adolescence or family. It may be a coping mechanism against a past trauma.

Maybe she needs help and understanding. Maybe.

Or maybe they are right.

All you need is more info.

Bottom line, I am not saying people saying she doesn't love you are wrong. All I'm saying is "what if they are wrong?" All I'm suggesting are different reasons that can make someone act the way she does.

God's grace.

PS: @megareal your post motivated me to write this. I initially felt the topic had been overflogged till I read your beautiful piece. There are 1001 possible reasons for her behaviours and there is a possibility that the crucifying majority are wrong. Humans, I repeat, are complex beings.

Thank you. Glad to know someone else sees this from a different angle. What we often think as pertain other individuals may be far from the truth. Humans as you said, are very complex individuals. I know I am.

davide470:
Just one question: Does your husband show you off on social media? If Yes, do you untag yourself when he tags you to pictures?

He doesn't, he knows my stance on that.

Hmm Reno, baba, this is too much.

Lord have mercy. The way it's going, life expectancy in Nigeria will average 25years soon. Again, Lord have mercy.

gaby:
Do you also show off your pics and crop off your husband from the photograph or go chatty chatty with male colleagues online?

Yes, I go chatty chatty with male colleagues and friends online and I don't post any pix we are together no matter how nice it looks.

My intention is not to argue. I'm only calling your attention to the fact that you and others here may be wrong. You can't say for a certainty that you know what's really up in that marriage.

gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".

Sorry, I have to quote you. Your analysis leaves me perplexed because I am just like the wife of the OP. I have never shown my husband off on social media. No wedding pix, no cute lovey dovey stuff. I don't wish him happy birthday or comment on his post cos we are not friends.
Apart from our circle, folks on social media don't know I'm married to him. I love hubby like crazy, I'm proud of him and would sacrifice anything for him but in my mind, social media is a taboo when it comes to family. I hide my family like kilode. Hubby has never complained nor commented. I don't need to announce to the world that my marriage is good.

I am also very none enthusiastic when given gifts. They don't trip me, reason I couldn't be bought by any man when single. I used to react that way when hubby gave me gifts, even when he bought me a car, now I muster up a little excitement to thank him just so he wouldn't feel bad. I am not demanding neither do I care about his money.

Why I am writing this is because I see myself in that woman, and since I am just like her I'm wondering if your analysis is wrong. I do not have a secret lover or love interest. I've only ever loved my husband in the real sense of the word and the thought of cheating has never crossed my mind, so I'm wondering, could you be wrong about her?.

@OP, your wife MAY just be like me. I don't presume to know what goes on in your marriage, but I'd advise you take most of the advice given here with caution. An innocent woman may just be accused wrongly by folks whose first explanation to everything is cheating.

boiz2men:
It will be my pleasure. It felt so good seeing someone I introduced get his first order.

Can you help guide me in doing this? Like you, I opened an account with them two years ago but was confused about the whole thing. Would love someone to guide me.

Sibling rivalry taken too far can turn to hate. This is a classic example.

Bia OP, her own father's undies is now taboo? It's little help like this that makes us responsible children.

Your friend needs a lesson in family life.