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Oluromantic:
She will bro. Be optimistic

This is the mistake a lot of people make when picking a partner, they believe they can change their partner's attitude. He is doing himself and the lady a favour if doesn't marry her. Why force things? She will find someone that loves her the way she is and he will also find someone that his compatible with him.

This lady will end up being a full housewife. Don't marry her, except you can cope with a full housewife. Tell me you are joking, you don't want to leave her because she is nice and she is a virgin. Guy, marriage is deeper that.

SultanOfAbia:
I'm an igbo guy in Lagos.
There is a Yoruba girl in my workplace
She is too loud and dramatic.
I later found out she has 10 siblings from the same father and mother.

This girl talks to me without respect 50% of the time.
If I ask her anything,she will ridicle me.

To make matters worse, my boss paired me with her, and I don't even know how I will survive this Yoruba girl.

Please my Yoruba brothers
How can I handle Yoruba woman wey get sharp mouth and is dramatic

Handle her the way you will handle your Igbo sisters that are loud and dramatic.

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fyzaila:
Very true! He couldn't have said it better. Virginity is the best gift a woman can give to her husband that shows she is a pure, untouched and a virtuous woman.

It is ordained by God Almighty that pre marital s3X is a sin and depicts moral decadence of an individual.

Note: A virgin woman should make sure the man she's marrying is truly worthy of it.

I hope you are a virgin. Make sure you also give your virginity to your wife and allow her post it on social media that your virginity is the greatest wedding gift you gave to her.

GeneralPula:
It’s good if your girl is a virgin!

Whether she is a virgin or not, it is not good.

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This man totally disrespected his wife, virginity is not a gift and how valuable is virginity that he called it the best wedding gift any man would receive from his newly wedded wife?

Since some guys have decided to be ignorance to the extent that they believe that virginity is the best wedding gift any man would receive from his newly wedded wife, then the best wedding gift a newly wedded virgin bride deserves is ten million naira or more. If the bride price of virgins is ten million naira, ladies will be motivated to keep their virginity.

faceLAGOS:
You try.

Btw, you can forward that 12k into my Opay account.

It will go a long way.

91278..55246

Thanks.

I have not seen the video.

WatchYourSix:
This is funny. the op can't even see how awkward and pathetic this thread is... shalaye-ing to strangers that don't even care about her life because of unimportant nairaland gist they are all engaging in...

I nearly fell of my chair laughing when op even added she's a virgin and now posted viju products...

like wtf

This is my timeline, say what you want on yours.

Ogechi98:
omoh werey

I be your mama

AdvanceDNA, Ogechi98, Harddiskng, and faceLAGOS due to your comments in my previous post you have a chance to win a paid meal worth twelve thousand naira. The first among you to post a video of yourself begging me for money will receive the prize. My Twitter handle is @Merryondred.

I don't understand why you see such little spending as a big deal. I have assisted guys with their school fees and helped guys who are still struggling with their businesses financially. I did not attach any strings to my help. In fact, I am still a virgin. I am not rich, but I spare a part of my little earnings to help others, regardless of their gender. I made my first million by grace and I help other people in order to show my gratitude to God.

At the age of twenty-seven, going on twenty-eight, I have gained several business and travel experiences. I struggled very hard to make money, and I ventured into several businesses. I have never requested money from any guy.

Before taking a lady out on a date, let her know your financial capability. If a lady orders beyond your budget, ask her to pay for her own food. You don't need to publicly embarrass her. It is inhumane and unfair to spite someone because of food. If everybody decides to behave like this, the world would be so unbearable.

I would like to take this moment to express my gratitude to Viju Milk Company and Rite Food Limited. They gave me the opportunity to become a distributor at their reputable companies without any connections. I made my first million through these companies.

flokii:
Let's be realistic.. can the babe eat food of that amount with her own money? Your guess is as good as mine.

While some guys will just use their cards to clear the bill, others might see it as big deal.. So know your date well before going to embarrass your family in public.

If I decide to disgrace a guy this way and post it on social media, I'm sure you be among the first set people to condemn me. He could have just told her he cannot pay for her food, he doesn't have to disgrace her publicly.

Guys, stop showing off and pretending to be what you're not. Let the lady you're taking out on a date know your financial capability. I always feel disgusted when I see guys insult ladies because of the amount of food they order on a date. As a lady, I have paid for meals for guys without insulting them. I don't ask guys to pay for my meal, but if a guy insists on paying for my meal, he does not have the right to insult me no matter how much food I buy. I will not form because he is paying, I will buy my usual.

There are some immature guys out there. Ladies, buy only what you can afford, don't be extravagant and always remember to bring enough money when you go on a date so that you can refund the money for your food when necessary. If this lady had enough money to refund him instantly, she would have been the one disgracing him and insulting him.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iI4I6pmx004

Try to tolerant unbelievers and show them love but don’t accept their views and religious beliefs. Preach the gospel to unbelievers and answer their questions when necessary but don’t have unnecessary arguments with them. When we participate in heated arguments, we can easily forget that the purpose of spreading the gospel is to win souls, not to justify ourselves or prove that we are right.

Don’t be bothered if they don’t tolerant you or they reject you; always remember that Jesus was also rejected. Use your loving character to bring people to Christ, don’t try to force the truth on people. When Jesus came to the world, He did not condemn sinners or participate in unnecessary arguments. Instead, He made friends with sinners in order to win their souls.

Last year, I joined a group of Christians in the UK to visit bars and clubs. We made friends with unbelievers and invited them to Christ.

Evangelism is not a means of condemning sinners; rather, it is a way of advertising Jesus. Instead of frowning and condemning people during evangelism, share the gospel with love and respect. Use the same energy you use to advertise your business to advertise Jesus. When we advertise our goods and products, we smile and use sweets words to convince people to buy them. We should be able to humble ourselves in the same manner to share the gospel. We can't force Christianity on people, we can only convince them to see the light.

Timothy 2:23-26

smokinloud:
I'm not quoting the old testament. I'm quoting the doctrine of Paul's gospel which is of Christ.
You can dribble around it but it's the fact!.
Paul didn't say that women shouldn't get married o.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
[8]I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
[9]But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

Read my comment properly, I used the word "Advised".

smokinloud:
I was replying to this. Jesus indeed, treated some sinners badly, he judged some sinners, he called some sinners fools, he condemn some that they will die in their sin, he call some religious authorities "son of satan" etc and these are not friendly words!.
About wearing ear ring, I will want you to read this verse of the bible and leave it to you to decide for yourself without twisting the verse.
1Timothy 2:9;

1 Timothy 2:9
[9]In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

Ear ring is pearl and gold, isn't it?!.
If you consider ear ring to be just a thing of fashion then no wahala but some people consider it a pearl and a gold and consider it unnecessary.

Read your Bible on your own and you will discover some interesting truths. Ornaments of gold were wore by royals and it was also an item used to honour people. Jesus was giving gold as a present and Godly men and women in the Bible also accepted ornaments of gold and wore them.

Genesis 41:42
Genesis 24:47
Joshua 22:8
1 Chronicles 18:7-11
1 Chronicles 20:2
Daniel 5:29
Esther 8:15
Job 42:11

Apostle Paul was the kind of person that was super careful, he tried as much as possible to avoid sin, to the extend that he advised virgins to stay unmarried if they can. He majorly taught us not smell or touch sin so that we won't act on it. If Eve did not touch or smell the fruit in the Garden of Eden, she wouldn't have felt that it looks good to the extent of eating it. In 1 Timothy 2:9, Paul did not advise women to avoid wearing ornaments because it was a sin but because it could lead to sin. 1 Timothy 2:9 was only explaining that our physical beauty is not what matters, it was not condemning earring.

Some of the doctrines we are practicing today are punishment meant for Israel at a time when they were rebellious and some were just temporary commandments used to control specific situations. In Exodus 33:5-6, the Israelites stop wearing earring for a while not forever.

smokinloud:
One mistake you are making is that Jesus and Paul were always friendly. That's not true. No one can change anybody, only the holy spirit can convert soul. The holy spirit can use your anger at times to cause a positive change in the mind of someone.
John 2:14-16
[14]And found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting:
[15]And when he had made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers' money, and overthrew the tables;
[16]And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not my Father's house an house of merchandise.
Acts 17:22-25
[22]Then Paul stood in the midst of Mars' hill, and said, Ye men of Athens, I perceive that in all things ye are too superstitious.
[23]For as I passed by, and beheld your devotions, I found an altar with this inscription, TO THE UNKNOWN GOD. Whom therefore ye ignorantly worship, him declare I unto you.
[24]God that made the world and all things therein, seeing that he is Lord of heaven and earth, dwelleth not in temples made with hands;
[25]Neither is worshipped with men's hands, as though he needed any thing, seeing he giveth to all life, and breath, and all things;

You think it's "friendly" to go to a pagan temple where they have been worshipping their idols even before paul was born and start condemning and preaching against it?!.
No, Jesus and Paul were not always friendly. Even the bible says "our God is a consuming fire" fire is not friendly...

Is wearing earring a sin?

smokinloud:
One mistake you are making is that Jesus and Paul were always friendly. That's not true. No one can change anybody, only the holy spirit can convert soul. The holy spirit can use your anger at times to cause a positive change in the mind of someone.
John 2:14-16
[14]And found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting:
[15]And when he had made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers' money, and overthrew the tables;
[16]And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not my Father's house an house of merchandise.
Acts 17:22-25
[22]Then Paul stood in the midst of Mars' hill, and said, Ye men of Athens, I perceive that in all things ye are too superstitious.
[23]For as I passed by, and beheld your devotions, I found an altar with this inscription, TO THE UNKNOWN GOD. Whom therefore ye ignorantly worship, him declare I unto you.
[24]God that made the world and all things therein, seeing that he is Lord of heaven and earth, dwelleth not in temples made with hands;
[25]Neither is worshipped with men's hands, as though he needed any thing, seeing he giveth to all life, and breath, and all things;

You think it's "friendly" to go to a pagan temple where they have been worshipping their idols even before paul was born and start condemning and preaching against it?!.
No, Jesus and Paul were not always friendly. Even the bible says "our God is a consuming fire" fire is not friendly...

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smokinloud:
One mistake you are making is that Jesus and Paul were always friendly. That's not true. No one can change anybody, only the holy spirit can convert soul. The holy spirit can use your anger at times to cause a positive change in the mind of someone.
John 2:14-16
[14]And found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting:
[15]And when he had made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers' money, and overthrew the tables;
[16]And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not my Father's house an house of merchandise.
Acts 17:22-25
[22]Then Paul stood in the midst of Mars' hill, and said, Ye men of Athens, I perceive that in all things ye are too superstitious.
[23]For as I passed by, and beheld your devotions, I found an altar with this inscription, TO THE UNKNOWN GOD. Whom therefore ye ignorantly worship, him declare I unto you.
[24]God that made the world and all things therein, seeing that he is Lord of heaven and earth, dwelleth not in temples made with hands;
[25]Neither is worshipped with men's hands, as though he needed any thing, seeing he giveth to all life, and breath, and all things;

You think it's "friendly" to go to a pagan temple where they have been worshipping their idols even before paul was born and start condemning and preaching against it?!.
No, Jesus and Paul were not always friendly. Even the bible says "our God is a consuming fire" fire is not friendly...

I am not trying to shade Christianity, not all Churches treat visitors that way, I was even surprised at the way I was treated that day. I am just specifically curious about where God condemned earring in the Bible? I accept that all Churches have their own doctrines but some of these Churches still use there doctrines to rate Christians from other Churches. Is wearing earring a sin or just some Church doctrines? I can't find any verse in the Bible that condemns earring. If you know any please indicate.

Jesus drove those that were doing business inside the Temple out, how does it relate to this? Show me another set of people He sent out?

If you read 1 Corinthians 9:18-23 and Roman 14:1-14, you will realize that they were wrong.

Kooldon:
Every Association has a constitution to be followed by members. Same is applicable to a Church's Doctrine.
Either you abide or you seek your salvation else where.

Church is different from a business. If I was an unbeliever that is attending Church for the first time, would they have won my soul with such an act? Jesus did not treat sinners badly He made friend with them in order to win their souls. Paul was also friendly to sinners in order to win their souls.

Even though I had to follow certain doctrines when I was younger, I have come to question some of them as they cannot be proven through the Bible. I am particularly curious about where the Bible specifically forbids wearing earrings. My parents are devout Christians, and they did not even pierce my ears, let alone allow me to wear earrings. However, one day I felt like wearing an earring, so I put on a magnetic earring and went out. Later in that day, I attended a Church program a friend invited me but when I got to the Church, I was asked to remove my earring or leave.

I am not trying to shade Christianity, not all Churches treat visitors that way, I was even surprised at the way I was treated that day. I am just specifically curious about where God condemned earring in the Bible? I accept that all Churches have their own doctrines but some of these Churches still use there doctrines to rate Christians from other Churches. Is wearing earring a sin or just some Church doctrines? I can't find any verse in the Bible that condemns earring. If you know any please indicate.

Even though I had to follow certain doctrines when I was younger, I have come to question some of them as they cannot be proven through the Bible. I am particularly curious about where the Bible specifically forbids wearing earrings. My parents are devout Christians, and they did not even pierce my ears, let alone allow me to wear earrings. However, one day I felt like wearing an earring, so I put on a magnetic earring and went out. Later in that day, I attended a Church program a friend invited me but when I got to the Church, I was asked to remove my earring or leave.

I am not trying to shade Christianity, not all Churches treat visitors that way, I was even surprised at the way I was treated that day. I am just curious specifically about where God condemned earring in the Bible? I accept that all Churches have their own doctrines but some of these Churches still use there doctrines to rate Christians from other Churches. Is wearing earring a sin or just some Church doctrines? I can't find any verse in the Bible that condemns earring. If you know any please indicate.

damilola4162:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irhiEDGDpfw



Source: https://newspremises.com.ng/no-matter-the-record-you-break-theres-a-way-youll-dress-and-well-know-its-not-just-food-youre-selling-pastor-preaches-days-after-hilda-baci-broke-guinne/

I don’t understand why a pastor will open Hilda’s instagram page without being invited and criticize her. There were a lot of sinners in Jesus time but He did not go to look for them and start judging and criticizing them like the Pharisees expected Him to do (Matthew 9:10-11), He even accepted invitations from sinners that invited Him to come and dine with them (Mark 2:15) but this extremely holy pastor could not even look at a sinner, he had to immediately condemn Hilda and call her names after poking his nose into her business, did Paul call sinful brethrens names? Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 5 were words of wisdom and advice, they were not laws. Paul realized that those set of people were polluting the Church and causing division and confusion in the Church while he was away and they were reported to him on several occasions, he had to take that bold step to stop such an evil from destroying the Church, in 1 Corinthians 5, he mainly referred to an arrogant man who took his father’s wife and was still boasting about his sinful act, such an act was not just Biblical unaccepted, it was also generally unacceptable even among pagans, it was a taboo and an act of wickedness. The man could have dented the image of the Church with such act of wickedness and unbelievers would have thought Christianity is a religious that permits wickedness because instead of being remorse and repenting, he was boasting of his sin and backing it up with useless arguments.

In those days, Christianity had not spread so much because it just started and Christians were constantly being persecuted, it was necessary to keep people who could pollute the Church out in order to set the record straight. Christianity has now spread all over the world and even unbelievers know that we have morally standard laws guiding the Church, so if we can decide to keep our sinful brethrens in the Church and continue to preach to them as long as they are not disturbing the peaceful co-existence of the Church or polluting others by backing up their sins with wrong sayings and teachings, hopefully they will repent before Jesus Christ comes back to separate the goat from the sheep. If you go through your Bible properly you will realize that sinners were permitted in the Church.

This critic pastor is not even in the place to criticize Hilda because he is not her pastor. Before you even denounce sinful brethrens you are expected to first preach to them (James 5:19-20, Galatians 6:1, Thessalonians 3:14-15). He has not met Hilda in person and preached to her once, talk less of constantly, yet he condemned her and even called her names, did Apostle Paul call sinful brethrens names? In 1 Corinthians 9:18-23, Paul explained how he used different strategies to win souls, he even became like the weak to gain the weak. The pastor has not done the work of God by condemning Hilda, he only edified himself to receive praises from his congregation; he did not win a single soul. Jesus hate sin but loves sinners, preach with love if you want to preach, you did not take a nail for anyone, correct people don’t condemn them. Satan is our major enemy not our brethrens. We all were once sinners but we were saved by grace, Jesus died for all of us more than 2,000 years ago, that was a very long time before we existed and did any works, stop boasting and save souls (Ephesians 2:9).

justt:
Two things are obviously in your post:

1. You know some scriptures though lacking the understanding,

2. You are not yet born again.

Every born again Christian has perfect hatred for sin. Are you saying Paul had to sin to minister to sinner?

Do you mean you can call yourself a Christian and still be living (including dressing) as a sinner?

What's your understanding of being born again, does it include submitting to lordship of Jesus? I mean does your being born again include you pleasing Jesus in every aspect of your life, including dressing or do you mean Jesus will approve of a dress like that?

Do you know that Christianity is not a religion; it's a way of life or a lifestyle.

Those who are outside (unbelievers), we know they are outside and we are praying for them. But do you mean those who claimed to be born again should be pampered in their sins? For what, so that they will backslide?

What's is the purpose of being born again and attending a church if you still want to live like a sinner?!

I will sincerely advise you to go back to God and ask for salvation experience.



Did you actually mean this? The Church is now meant for keeping sinners, like seriously?

Please go back to God and ask him to save your soul.
Your understanding is salvation and the church of God is totally messed up. You are not qualified to talk in this matter.

(James 5:19-20, Galatians 6:1, Thessalonians 3:14-15)

I don’t understand why a pastor will open Hilda’s instagram page without being invited and criticize her. There were a lot of sinners in Jesus time but He did not go to look for them and start judging and criticizing them like the Pharisees expected Him to do (Matthew 9:10-11), He even accepted invitations from sinners that invited Him to come and dine with them (Mark 2:15) but this extremely holy pastor could not even look at a sinner, he had to immediately condemn Hilda and call her names after poking his nose into her business, did Paul call sinful brethrens names? Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 5 were words of wisdom and advice, they were not laws. Paul realized that those set of people were polluting the Church and causing division and confusion in the Church while he was away and they were reported to him on several occasions, he had to take that bold step to stop such an evil from destroying the Church, in 1 Corinthians 5, he mainly referred to an arrogant man who took his father’s wife and was still boasting about his sinful act, such an act was not just Biblical unaccepted, it was also generally unacceptable even among pagans, it was a taboo and an act of wickedness. The man could have dented the image of the Church with such act of wickedness and unbelievers would have thought Christianity is a religious that permits wickedness because instead of being remorse and repenting, he was boasting of his sin and backing it up with useless arguments.

In those days, Christianity had not spread so much because it just started and Christians were constantly being persecuted, it was necessary to keep people who could pollute the Church out in order to set the record straight. Christianity has now spread all over the world and even unbelievers know that we have morally standard laws guiding the Church, so if we can decide to keep our sinful brethrens in the Church and continue to preach to them as long as they are not disturbing the peaceful co-existence of the Church or polluting others by backing up their sins with wrong sayings and teachings, hopefully they will repent before Jesus Christ comes back to separate the goat from the sheep. If you go through your Bible properly you will realize that sinners were permitted in the Church.

The pastor is not even in the place to criticize Hilda because he is not her pastor. Before you even denounce sinful brethrens you are expected to first preach to them (James 5:19-20, Galatians 6:1, Thessalonians 3:14-15). He has not met Hilda in person and preached to her once, talk less of constantly, yet he condemned her and even called her names, did Apostle Paul call sinful brethrens names? In 1 Corinthians 9:18-23, Paul explained how he used different strategies to win souls, he even became like the weak to gain the weak. The pastor has not done the work of God by condemning Hilda, he only edified himself to receive praises from his congregation; he did not win a single soul. Jesus hate sin but loves sinners, preach with love if you want to preach, you did not take a nail for anyone, correct people don’t condemn them. Satan is our major enemy not our brethrens. We all were once sinners but we were saved by grace, Jesus died for all of us more than 2,000 years ago, that was a very long time before we existed and did any works, stop boasting and save souls (Ephesians 2:9).