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Even his previous threads are about dick. You guys that are always saying the female gender are the ones with fish brain. Come and see your brother o.

Happy Birthday! May you have many more wonderful birthdays to come. Enjoy your day to the fullest!

occfx:
With the level of AI and digital businesses... I don't think there should be anything like full time house wife again. Your wife can be in the house and still be controlling mega businesses. I am currently targeting to be a full time house husband after setting up my business structure. My phone and laptops does a lot for me

You made a very valid point. I don't even have any objections to a woman choosing to be a full-time housewife but women should not be coerced or manipulated into such a role. Women have to discuss this topic with their potential partners before marriage because marriage is not supposed to compromise a woman's dreams.

Collinsaik:
Oga as far as say na you senior her, even if with just a day, u are good to go. But if the reverse is the case, abeg comot body. Make she no go "jokingly" call u "you this boy" in the present of your friends and family. .

It is natural for couples to get accustomed to respecting each other regardless of the age distance between them, similar to how individuals respect and adapt to their younger boss in the workplace.

philo3:
Hey Good evening , please I need experienced and matured minded answers on this thread
.
I have a girl I love and if God willing marry her
She's humble, submissive , and posseses good qualities of a wife material.
I senior her with just months in age . same year of birth.
Can that marriage work out well because I have this ideology that the husband should senior his wife by some years at least 2years.

If she was even five years older than you, it wouldn't have made any difference because age is not the determining factor in a successful relationship. What truly matters is maturity and understanding. Based on your description of her, it appears that she possesses all the qualities you desire in a woman, so I would advise you to consider marrying her.

enemyofprogress:
okro soup post yours first

Us we no get na why we dey admire, you wey you get post.

NewDea4:
I cannot start my week by arguing with a subhuman emilokan slave like you.

Cheers!

NewDea4 I guess my previous thread is what is making you cry. You go cry cry cry taya, bitter leaf oshi😂🤣🤣

Merry100:
My petition is out.
https://thenationonlineng.net/group-petitions-tinubu-on-discrimination-against-left-handed-persons/

https://von.gov.ng/tag/young-queen-innovation/

https://www.thepointng.com/forcing-left-handed-children-to-use-right-hand-can-cause-psychological-distress-low-iq-medical-experts/

https://healthwise.punchng.com/stop-discrimination-against-left-handed-persons-group-tells-nigerians/

You can also view it on today's newspaper (Tribune and The Nation)

NewDea4:
Oloriburuku wetin concern agbado-eater for my post? Na guilty conscience go kill una

Brainless zombies

😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣E pain am.

enemyofprogress:
Boat of them no even fine self. Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew

Bitter leaf go and post your own.

Acidosis:
You know any married woman in that category? Many are out of job because of the situation of the country. The few "housewives" I have met, they are either looking for a job or trying to figure out a business.

😂Mr statistician, so you concluded that full housewives don't exist anymore based on the few housewives you had a personal encounter with.

Wow, this is beautiful.

My petition is out.
https://thenationonlineng.net/group-petitions-tinubu-on-discrimination-against-left-handed-persons/

https://von.gov.ng/tag/young-queen-innovation/

https://www.thepointng.com/forcing-left-handed-children-to-use-right-hand-can-cause-psychological-distress-low-iq-medical-experts/

https://healthwise.punchng.com/stop-discrimination-against-left-handed-persons-group-tells-nigerians/

You can also view it on today's newspaper (Tribune and The Nation)

My petition is out.
https://thenationonlineng.net/group-petitions-tinubu-on-discrimination-against-left-handed-persons/

https://von.gov.ng/tag/young-queen-innovation/

https://www.thepointng.com/forcing-left-handed-children-to-use-right-hand-can-cause-psychological-distress-low-iq-medical-experts/

https://healthwise.punchng.com/stop-discrimination-against-left-handed-persons-group-tells-nigerians/

You can also view it on today's newspaper (Tribune and The Nation)

NewDea4:
Stupid threads for stupid people, to complete the dumbing-down of the Great Unwashed

Bitter leaf no need for all this big big grammar jare. Just use your eyes to look around for the post that suit you.

GreatAchiever1:
I'm speaking the truth as it ought to be. Yes, they were the jobs accessible prior to industrialization. And sure, both the husband and wife were more focused on the home; but, although women handled the more feminine tasks, the husband was in charge of providing for the household, which is more concerned with what to eat, wear, stay etc. When industrialization first began, men were paid to take care of the homes, but when war broke out, they had to hire women. After the war, they resolved to hire both men and women since doing so would increase tax revenue and the advancement of women's rights would advance the cause. Feel free to read up good books or even videos on this to gain more insights. Probably on the waves of feminism.

You don't have to clarify that career is more important than family or not, with the way you keep making more emphasis to career than family, it clearly shows where your priorities lie.

😂You are a clown. From quoting the Bible to recounting the history of gender roles during industrialization. I get you, you will say anything just to feel right.

The good thing is that being a working-class woman is not a sin, nor is it a crime. Just do what is best for you and your partner, and let others also do what works for them. Case closed.

Allisgud:
People wicked o,even the the travel agent don collect him own for back

Azzzzzzzzin.

Dshocker:
A lot of naive people are cooling their feet in prison, for a crime they know nothing about, all because they rendered help to carry someone else's luggage.

Such is life.

Baronthecelebri:
You self Na thief

😂🤣

GreatAchiever1:
Aside from the political and leadership roles in the bible that we have examined in Deborah, how are the other points you made career-oriented and more important than family? You described a skill set that is demanded of everyone.

You are very good at twisting words, but I want to clarify that I never said a career is more important than family. If midwives, cooks and musicians are not considered career-oriented, then it means that most men in the Bible were not career-oriented either. The available jobs during those times included midwifery, nursing, cooking, business, baking, carpentry, fishing, farming, hunting, and so on. Lydia was a businesswoman. Another good example of a prophetess is Hulda.

GreatAchiever1:
I don't think you understood my posts concerning this issue.

In the Bible women also worked outside their homes and held leadership positions, they were political leaders, prophetess, midwives, cooks, musicians and so on.

GreatAchiever1:
Agreed, but show me a good woman in the bible that wasn't family-oriented. Be careful what the media wants to impose on you.

How does being a working-class woman make a woman less of a family-oriented woman? You are going off the point.

GreatAchiever1:
Even if she doesn't want to, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting his wife to be a full-time housewife as long as he is able to provide whatever is required for the family's maintenance. However, these things should be discussed before getting married; otherwise, what is the point of courting?

If anything, he didn't make it clear from the beginning, even when he was broke, what he desired in a woman. And after he made his intentions towards you and became aggressive and demanding to you about it, to me, that kind of screams neediness, which is a red flag. I don't believe that only one person is God's will for anyone to marry. But I won't criticize him for his preferences in a woman.



Naturally, dissenting opinions are always welcome. I didn't say a woman shouldn't use her potential, but if it takes precedence over the requirements of her family, that potential has to be considered. Women who are focused on their careers often make references to Deborah in the Bible. Although I haven't personally studied Deborah's character, I can say that just because something is the exception to the rule doesn't mean it always is. Additionally, Israel was experiencing God's judgment during Deborah's rule, which should tell you something.
Even though the apostle Peter cited Sarah as an example of a woman for leading a godly life in 1 Peter 3, I don't understand why modern women no longer utilize her as a case study.

And if you claim to be able to strike a balance between the two, please explain how you achieve it without sacrificing either your career or your family. One must unquestionably come before the other, and in my view, this means that women should prioritize their families, putting their husbands and kids first.

There are several options in the Bible, Sarah is not the only good woman in the Bible. We are feel to select our preference. I don't even accept the concept of God's will concerning marriage again; God does not force His will on us.

Khd95:
Wetin you wan carry metal aooon from Dubai come do, survenir?

😂Na survenir o.

GreatAchiever1:
I really disagree with you, sir. Being a housewife is a full-time profession, thus there is nothing wrong with it. As long as hubby can support his family with the necessities and keep the house safe, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting a housewife and it isn't in anyway bringing down his self-esteem

Nobody ever claimed housewives were dullards nor nonentities; they take care of the family, help their husbands, nuture and educate their kids, which makes the house functioning, which in turn makes society functional. Yes there are ways they can make money for themselves, with handskills like tailoring, hairdressing, making stuffs, baking stuffs, online business etc, they can easily earn some cash from home while building the home.

Lastly, the wife is supposed to only be useful to the hubby first and the children, these should be her top priority after God. Lets forget about modern wokism culture.

There is a lot wrong with a man wanting his wife to be a full-time housewife if she doesn't want to, but if she is personally willing to become a full-time housewife, there is nothing wrong with it.

Your last paragraph reminds me of a Church guy who was assumed to be God's will for me. When we started our friendship, he was completely broke, and I even assisted him financially. However, as he became financially stable, his expectations changed. He suddenly desired a wife who would be a full-time housewife and he even quoted Bible verses to justify his decision. He became increasingly aggressive and demanding, to the point where he had issues with all my friends and demanded that I stop befriending them.

Despite his behavior, some people around me insisted that he was a good Christian brother and that I should try to understand him. They failed to recognize that being religious and one's personality are separate aspects of a person. At that time, I was generally very nice, but I also had a stubborn side. Although I was naturally an introvert, I forced myself to break out of my shell because I didn't like the fact that people were infringing on my rights.

I totally disagree with you. How does a woman trying to achieve her potential make her less useful to her husband and children? Women also have dreams they aspire to achieve, and the Bible does not limit women's potential; in fact, God Himself appointed Deborah as a judge over Israel.

Walking step.

Bad cook

weblord1900:
But you sef ... After traveling to Dubai why you go carry hotel spoon. They still need to arrest you sha.

😂

When I was nineteen years old, I visited Dubai for both leisure and business for a week. During my stay at the hotel, my roommate, a middle-aged Nigerian woman, approached me with a plea to help her transport her luggage back to Nigeria. She explained that she couldn't exceed the permitted weight limit. However, prior to her request, I overheard her revealing to someone that she had smuggled pure gold worth ten million naira into Dubai when she first arrived.

Despite her persistence, I firmly refused to comply with her request, but she kept persisting. She told me she loved me because I am just like her and she even shared stories about her daughter. At one point, she handed me her phone to speak with her husband, who also pleaded with me to help. Meanwhile, the agent who had processed my visa had departed for Nigeria to visit his family the day after my arrival. He had arranged for a replacement agent to attend to me during his absence. When the replacement agent came to the hotel to check on me, the woman privately spoke to him. The agent also started urging me to assist the woman with her baggage and emphasizing that it is good to help others.

The woman and the agent were attempting to exploit me because I was young. It became increasingly evident that she was trying to persuade me to transport something illegal when she later offered me $300 just to assist her in carrying the luggage. If she genuinely wanted to transport her load, she could have simply paid for extra luggage.

To my dismay, upon arriving at Dubai airport, the immigration officer flagged something suspicious in my bag, leading to a thorough inspection of all my belongings. My heart raced with anxiety as I suspected the woman had set me up for trouble in order to punish me. However, after careful examination, it turned out that the item causing concern was merely a metal spoon.

Danisaint112:
Hmm thanks for the advice. But I'm not the over religious type. Why should anybody even wait for God to provide them a spouse. We put in the work and finish the rest with prayers.

The thing is I just have certain believes about women that decided to remain chaste.

Trust is important in marriage and driving force for a long lasting marriage so for me to actually love and marry her she must possess qualities that must make me trust her completely. I'm aware of this as regards to my parents marriage.

But I get your point though and really do appreciate the advice. 👍

Good to know you have the right mentality. Do what works for you, there are lots of virgin sisters with good characters, go for the right ones, don't be deceived by virginity. Also make a vow now to always treat the right one with love and care. My friend that got married as a virgin five years ago just makes me want to hit every religious guy (extremist) in the face, just kidding I know there are a lot of good ones.

Danisaint112:
It's hard to believe right? Na God. I made a convenant with God that I will remain a virgin till marriage so he will give me a virgin that wouldn't make life hell on Earth for me.Hope this explains it?

On the other hand having a woman in your life when ain't ready for marriage is you entangling yourself with distraction. The reason 99% have girlfriend is because they want someone that would readily satisfy their sexual urge when aroused. Let be honest that's it.

If you can control your sexual urge and be patient to avoid distractions you will definitely though my path.

You are a bit lucky that you are a guy. My advice for you is not to wait for God's will but to find someone whom you love and appreciate and who also genuinely loves you. After you have found your potential partner, take her to God in prayer.

When I was a teenager I also had the wrong mentality, I was waiting for God's will, instead of accepting one of those amazing guys that genuinely loved me. I only befriended Church guys that were presented to me as God's will. With time, I realised that some guys that are extremely religious are narcissists. I consider my relationship with those Church guys mere friendship. Though, they were extremely religious but their personality was off. They were cocky, rude and unapologetic. I felt so restricted and suffocated. I experienced my worst relationship moments with them.

I started realizing what I have been missing now in my twenties as I started experiencing what it is like to actually date. I was made to feel so beautiful, loved, valued, and appreciated. I have a lot of beautiful and memorable moments. Relationship should be fun, when you are ready for marriage find someone that you can enjoy every moment with.

yahmohy27:
Why not show good example by stating yours

I was already in my twenties when I started dating.

oneman2k7:
How are we sure u will be able to pay when he turns 3 years?

Kindergarten children pays a meaggre sum for fees.

May I ask, how much is that meager sum kindergarten is likely to cost?