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Toxicity is the greatest red flag to observe while dating, it has the potential to destroy both the recipient and the perpetrator. What satisfaction do monsters like you derive from seeing someone else in pain? While you are wishing for an unhappy and sorrowful family, reasonable guys wants to put smiles on the face of their family. Many of them are praying for God's guidance in becoming good husbands and fathers, in leading their families, and building a good and healthy home.

There is a long gap between fear and respect. Love and respect go hand in hand, while fear drives away love. When you eventually realize how much you need your love ones, it might already be too late. I hope that you do not end up shattering your own life. If you sow the seed of evil, you shall inevitably reap the harvest of destruction.

Open a domiciliary account. Most banks will convert your money to Naira. I would advise you to open the domiciliary account with Stanbic Bank, they provide withdrawals in foreign currency.

Anwons:
All these virginity talks here and there are just hype and irrelevant.
Be it male or female, virginity does not add value in reality to relationship and marriage.

I bet you, some male virgins are even more experienced than some of their male counterparts who have been in the business for years.
So it is to female folks as well.

The earlier people realize the hype and myth about virginity, the better.

Marrying a virgin won't stop him/her not misbehave and cheat.
Virginity does not having anything to do with character and promiscuity.

What value do men receive after deflowering a lady?
Just the feeling, I deflowered my girl or wife.
What next? The hole also remains, it doesn't anything at all.

Women should wake up to reality and do away with emotional deceitfulness of attaching too much feeling on men you deflowered you. A Randy man will always be a Randy man even you keep receiving back your virginity after each round, they won't change from giving you pains.
A good man will always be a good man even if he marries olosho, Period

Ladies have the choice to remain virgins or not, but what is frustrating is that some ladies are being deceived into preserving their virginity for the wrong reasons. They are often misled into believing that their husband will forever cherish them if they meet them as virgins.

Most virgins who preserve themselves for good reasons, such as religious purposes, invest in themselves and prepare for the future. Rather than relying on their husbands, they even impress their husbands by bringing enough valuables to the table because virginity will not continue to be on the table after marriage; it will fade away.

One of my friends that was a virgin before marriage did not dull herself, she went online and conducted research about sex few weeks before her wedding. She even started going to the gym to physically prepare herself for her upcoming sexual experiences.

On her first sexual experience her husband was impressed because she was so eager and engaged. She said she really enjoyed her honeymoon. They explored different styles and positions. If her husband hadn't seen the evidence of her first blood, he would have doubted her claim of being a virgin.

I don't have a preference. I am just after personality.

TheLordofHost:
She has been staying with me since the beginning of ASUU strike, almost 6 months now and we have been having sex without protection. I don’t even pull out.

I don’t think she is on birth control. I love this girl but I think she is infertile.

Is this normal with some women? Because I don’t want to take the relationship serious anymore .

MODIFIED: To those down there accusing me of being impotent. I AM NOT.
If you check my previous posts you’d see I have a child already. 2 other girls have gotten pregnant for me but ended up aborting .

I would not be posting this if I didn’t love this girl and plan to marry her later on.

Take her to the hospital to find out what is going on.

nicho450:
I have never insulted people on nairaland.

But I feel tempted to.

What came over you to post this?

😂

Kingosytex:
Stretch marks disgust me. The sight of it is just so irritating.

Since you find it so disgusting, what would you do if your wife had stretch marks after child bearing? I was told that they are most likely to appear on a woman's abdomen after childbirth.

My friends were recently talking about stretch marks but when I told them I don't have any, they were surprised.

Berrityga:
Can someone have a brain and not have sense? The answer to this question will give you the answer to your question.

😂

BoboNogoDie:
I'll be a fool to read all the rubbish you typed.
I'm the last person on earth someone like you can school You and I are definitely not on the same pedigree...
One thing I'm sure of is that YOU'RE NOT A VIRGIN AND YOU LACK KNOWLEDGE ABOUT VIRGINITY.
Any frustrated whóre can claim to be a virgin so, I don't blame you.

😂🤣🤣

Athena6:
I have a uncle that have 2 keke and he always have problems with the drivers every week.
Me wey I look calm and I am a woman come join, they go probably think they go use my head and have no strength to start fighting because of Keke.
Thanks for the advice tho

You're welcome.

Rubyjade:
Oga! If she will not ride it, it will end in premium tears. Trust only yourself, even Nigeria doesn't trust her citizens

But it is working for me. If she makes friends with some of those keke napep riders or their association leaders, they will recommend people to her and show her how to go about it safely.

Rubyjade:
if she wouldn't ride it, it will end in premium tears

She doesn't have to ride the keke napep or mini bus herself. There are guys that are interested in becoming napep riders but lack the financial means; she just has to purchase it and give it to them on a weekly installment. She can start by purchasing one first and see how it goes, but she needs to do thorough research to find trustworthy people.

Athena6:
So my half brother sold a piece of my father property and I received my share which was 5M, my intention was to use the money to relocate out of naija but seeing as how things are very expensive I decided to pause and wait till next year so as to be able to add to it.
I am working so I dont need to touch the money but I need to invest the money because it sitting in my account will probably just devalue it.
So is there any business I can do and mind you I am planning on something I can easily just withdraw the money when it is time for me to relocate.
Please advice needed

Purchase keke napeps or mini buses and sell them to buyers who are willing to make installment payments; they will purchase them from you at higher prices. If you do this, you will thank me later.

BoboNogoDie:
Lol
You're too dull to educate me.
If virginity wasn't important, why did God choose a virgin woman to birth Jesus?
Virginity signifies purity. Sex is more than just the physical, so IT'S A VERY BIG DEAL TO BE A VIRGIN, and common sense should tell you that being a virgin doesn't mean you can't be a sinner...
The problem with most of you that have loosely given out your virginity to insignificant people due to GREED and stupidity is, you also find topics and opinions like this very triggering and annoying
Again, I understand your pains

You said I'm dull but you are the one beating around the bush and using denial as an excuse to cover up your ignorance. Anyway, as an about-to-be twenty-eight-years-old virgin, I know there is no physical benefit of virginity because I have not seen any.

This is just one platform o, I plan to spread the truth about virginity on different platforms and TV stations. My dear, you will cry more o because this is just the beginning.

Virginity is not the greatest and most valuable gift a woman can give her husband; there are many hardworking virgins who have more to offer than just virginity. Virginity should be preserved for good reasons. A virgin doesn't need to expect praises or special treatments, in fact, virginity is solely to honour God's word.

Some of my friends, who were virgins before marriage, are regretting today because they were naive and ignorant prior to getting married. They listened to lies and deceit from some relationship speakers and ignorant fellows like you. Instead of shining their eyes properly to select a good, caring and responsible husband, they carried their virginity on their heads and wore it on their faces expecting that they would be pampered by the irresponsible husbands that they married. I almost fell victim also but thank God I didn't. Praise the Lord!

Virgins, let us ask ourselves this question: What will be our benefit if we choose to preserve our virginity solely to marry a guy similar to this ignorant fellow that feels he is the benefit. 😂🤣🤣

BoboNogoDie:
Your have no reasonable point to make. I find you too dull, small and emotional to engage with in an intelligent debate.
Everything I stated are FACTS AND REALITY, and I'm absolutely sure that you're not a virgin but guilt and regret won't make you admit it I understand your pain
There's absolutely no culture in the world that doesn't value and cherish sexual purity, chastity and integrity. Even in the Bible, God loves it.
In the ancient times, a girl might be killed or banished if found not to be a virgin on her wedding night.
God himself didn't choose a whóre to birth Jesus for a reason, HE CHOSE A VIRGIN.

We were all sinners in the eyes of God; Roman 3:23 says "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God", this includes both virgins and non-virgins. But God offered His grace equally to everyone.

If you are a Christian, you should know that the virgin birth of Jesus holds great significance. Don't try to use religion to cover up your ignorance. Only women that made significant impacts are recorded in the Bible. Can you mention a woman in the Bible who was specifically praised solely for being a virgin? Let me remind you that even Mary Magdalene, a former prostitute, is also recorded for the impact she made.

Let me also educate you about virginity a bit: we were all born as virgins, and anyone can choose to remain a virgin. My dear, you cannot determine who is a virgin and who is not—it is not written on the forehead. Even some eighty-year-old oracle priestesses are still virgins. If you like cry from now till tomorrow, it won't change the fact that I'm still a virgin.

You don't know me so you don't have to believe me but stop using denial as an excuse. You just keep beating around the bush, you still haven't highlighted one physical benefit of virginity, no culture will do this and that, what concern me with no culture? Free me jor, you just feel like arguing, you've got no point.

Respect his decision to remain a virgin until marriage, if you can't cope, it is better you break up with him.

anthonyuncle:
rape him

??

opera1:
Nothing like slept someone by mistake please.

Exactly

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BoboNogoDie:
Keep FOOLING yourself
Anybody can be anything on the internet...

Brother Bernard, I understand that you are only use to dealing with naive virgins, the my husband will cherish me and treat me like a queen type of virgin 😂🤣🤣

I will not make an attempt to prove myself to you. The important thing is that you grasp my points.

Mutual understanding is what matters. Some couples might be able to manage a small apartment or a one-room apartment but personally, I can't. I believe in hard work and planning before marriage because the well-being and convenience of my future children are important to me.

BoboNogoDie:
What's causing your pains and frustration on this topic? Am I the one who took your virginity wastefully and free?

From your comment, I can SENSE pain and regrets...
Don't you wish to have kept it for your husband and the person some you want to share the rest of your life with?
Are you proud of yourself?
The decision to prefer a virgin and encourage young girls to not be a shameless loose whórë with multiple bodycount lies with me and it's my business. I want what I want.
It's not everyone that can settle for less and accept you as you are.
I JUDGE PEOPLE BASED ON THEIR PAST AND IT'S THE RIGHT THING FOR EVERY RIGHT-THINKING PERSON TO ALWAYS DO.

I can speak boldly on this matter and expose lies about virginity because I am a virgin myself. Non-virgins have nothing to regret, as there is no physical gain in being a virgin. God is able to forgive all sins, and non-virgins can also decide to become celibate until marriage.

Mr man, you and your types are not the only guys in the world. Many non-virgins are getting married to responsible and successful men every weekend.

I am not preserving my virginity because I want to please my future husband, most guys I have dated don't even care about virginity. Virginity is overhyped majorly online. I would even specifically advise virgins to be super careful, plan properly for the future, not to be rigid and to marry wisely.

BenedictAbajue:
If such scenerio plays out, do you tell her before hand that if her behavior continues you might be forced to break up or do you just watch her and if she continues her behavior you break up and explain after?
I feel informing her may make her more serious about changing her behaviour and it may also cause deterioration if she views it as a threat

If you find any habits in your girlfriend bothersome, discuss them with her and help her understand your perspective. Don't threaten her with a breakup, it will most likely upset her. If she demonstrates willingness to change and improve, give her some time before considering the possibility of ending the relationship. To support her efforts, consistently address the habit when it resurfaces. If she shows unwillingness to change after you have expressed your concern and continuously refuses to address the issue, and if this habit is intolerable and conflicts with your core values, then you can breakup with her.

BoboNogoDie:
It's not compulsory and dating couples shouldn't engage in it, BECAUSE IT'S A SIN!

UNLESS YOU DON'T MIND BEING A SINNER...
UNLESS YOU'RE DATING A GIRL WHO'S NO LONGER A VIRGIN.
THE MOMENT GIRLS LOOSE THEIR VIRGINITY, THEY SEE SEX AS A TOOL TO USE TO GET WHAT THEY WANT...
A guy who practices no-sex with a SLÚT (girls with bodycount more 2) is the greatest fool of the century.

99.9% of times, while you're respecting yourself, respecting her request not to engage in sex and While you're keeping her for marriage, SOME OTHER DUDES WILL BE DIGGING HER BACK TO BACK. Girls with ex and multiple ex are the most wasteful, senseless and stressful to dating. You can NEVER trust them.

A girl who's no longer a virgin don't have a right to set rules of no sex in this relationship or no sex before marriage.

If you want your choice of no sex to be respected, KEEP YOUR VIRTUOUS! KEEP YOURSELF A VIRGIN UNTIL MARRIAGE.

Virginity is the greatest and the most valuable gift a girl can give to any guy but unfortunately, most girls of this generation have lost it to:
Indomie and fanta
Netflix and chills
Ice and pizza
Birthday gift
Valentine gift etc.
You can give a lot of men your Love, children, marriages etc, BUT YOU CAN ONLY GIVE ONE MAN YOUR VIRGINITY.

The decision to be a virgin or not is simply a woman's right, and we do not require your opinion or lectures on this matter. According to Biblical teachings, both men and women are expected to preserve their virginity till marriage.

Your comment is not only bias, it is also illogical. What special gift would a woman receive in return for her prolonged wait to present herself as a gift to her husband? Many non-virgins are married to responsible and successful men. Virginity is not a top priority for men; take a look at some of the most successful men, how many of them married a virgin? Most ladies preserve their virginity majorly for religious reasons not for their future husband.

DonEd:
It works for me!

It works for me too.

AyamGod23:
if to say na me she must Bleep dat nite o, NA SLAP I GO USE COMOT HER PANT

Rapist spotted.

Ask your sisters or aunties.

Age is simply a number. A thirty-year-old lady can attract several responsible and mature gentlemen as long as she possesses elegance and class. These gentlemen will even be the ones emphasizing to her that age is just a number. The term "evening newspaper" is commonly used by lower-class guys.

This is one of the reasons why we need to avoid tribal wars. There could have been a mix-up in your lineage, and you might be unknowingly attacking your own tribe. In the days of our forefathers, DNA tests were not available to confirm the paternity of a child.