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Dshocker:
A lot of naive people are cooling their feet in prison, for a crime they know nothing about, all because they rendered help to carry someone else's luggage.

Such is life.

Baronthecelebri:
You self Na thief

😂🤣

GreatAchiever1:
Aside from the political and leadership roles in the bible that we have examined in Deborah, how are the other points you made career-oriented and more important than family? You described a skill set that is demanded of everyone.

You are very good at twisting words, but I want to clarify that I never said a career is more important than family. If midwives, cooks and musicians are not considered career-oriented, then it means that most men in the Bible were not career-oriented either. The available jobs during those times included midwifery, nursing, cooking, business, baking, carpentry, fishing, farming, hunting, and so on. Lydia was a businesswoman. Another good example of a prophetess is Hulda.

GreatAchiever1:
I don't think you understood my posts concerning this issue.

In the Bible women also worked outside their homes and held leadership positions, they were political leaders, prophetess, midwives, cooks, musicians and so on.

GreatAchiever1:
Agreed, but show me a good woman in the bible that wasn't family-oriented. Be careful what the media wants to impose on you.

How does being a working-class woman make a woman less of a family-oriented woman? You are going off the point.

GreatAchiever1:
Even if she doesn't want to, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting his wife to be a full-time housewife as long as he is able to provide whatever is required for the family's maintenance. However, these things should be discussed before getting married; otherwise, what is the point of courting?

If anything, he didn't make it clear from the beginning, even when he was broke, what he desired in a woman. And after he made his intentions towards you and became aggressive and demanding to you about it, to me, that kind of screams neediness, which is a red flag. I don't believe that only one person is God's will for anyone to marry. But I won't criticize him for his preferences in a woman.



Naturally, dissenting opinions are always welcome. I didn't say a woman shouldn't use her potential, but if it takes precedence over the requirements of her family, that potential has to be considered. Women who are focused on their careers often make references to Deborah in the Bible. Although I haven't personally studied Deborah's character, I can say that just because something is the exception to the rule doesn't mean it always is. Additionally, Israel was experiencing God's judgment during Deborah's rule, which should tell you something.
Even though the apostle Peter cited Sarah as an example of a woman for leading a godly life in 1 Peter 3, I don't understand why modern women no longer utilize her as a case study.

And if you claim to be able to strike a balance between the two, please explain how you achieve it without sacrificing either your career or your family. One must unquestionably come before the other, and in my view, this means that women should prioritize their families, putting their husbands and kids first.

There are several options in the Bible, Sarah is not the only good woman in the Bible. We are feel to select our preference. I don't even accept the concept of God's will concerning marriage again; God does not force His will on us.

Khd95:
Wetin you wan carry metal aooon from Dubai come do, survenir?

😂Na survenir o.

GreatAchiever1:
I really disagree with you, sir. Being a housewife is a full-time profession, thus there is nothing wrong with it. As long as hubby can support his family with the necessities and keep the house safe, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting a housewife and it isn't in anyway bringing down his self-esteem

Nobody ever claimed housewives were dullards nor nonentities; they take care of the family, help their husbands, nuture and educate their kids, which makes the house functioning, which in turn makes society functional. Yes there are ways they can make money for themselves, with handskills like tailoring, hairdressing, making stuffs, baking stuffs, online business etc, they can easily earn some cash from home while building the home.

Lastly, the wife is supposed to only be useful to the hubby first and the children, these should be her top priority after God. Lets forget about modern wokism culture.

There is a lot wrong with a man wanting his wife to be a full-time housewife if she doesn't want to, but if she is personally willing to become a full-time housewife, there is nothing wrong with it.

Your last paragraph reminds me of a Church guy who was assumed to be God's will for me. When we started our friendship, he was completely broke, and I even assisted him financially. However, as he became financially stable, his expectations changed. He suddenly desired a wife who would be a full-time housewife and he even quoted Bible verses to justify his decision. He became increasingly aggressive and demanding, to the point where he had issues with all my friends and demanded that I stop befriending them.

Despite his behavior, some people around me insisted that he was a good Christian brother and that I should try to understand him. They failed to recognize that being religious and one's personality are separate aspects of a person. At that time, I was generally very nice, but I also had a stubborn side. Although I was naturally an introvert, I forced myself to break out of my shell because I didn't like the fact that people were infringing on my rights.

I totally disagree with you. How does a woman trying to achieve her potential make her less useful to her husband and children? Women also have dreams they aspire to achieve, and the Bible does not limit women's potential; in fact, God Himself appointed Deborah as a judge over Israel.

Walking step.

Bad cook

weblord1900:
But you sef ... After traveling to Dubai why you go carry hotel spoon. They still need to arrest you sha.

😂

When I was nineteen years old, I visited Dubai for both leisure and business for a week. During my stay at the hotel, my roommate, a middle-aged Nigerian woman, approached me with a plea to help her transport her luggage back to Nigeria. She explained that she couldn't exceed the permitted weight limit. However, prior to her request, I overheard her revealing to someone that she had smuggled pure gold worth ten million naira into Dubai when she first arrived.

Despite her persistence, I firmly refused to comply with her request, but she kept persisting. She told me she loved me because I am just like her and she even shared stories about her daughter. At one point, she handed me her phone to speak with her husband, who also pleaded with me to help. Meanwhile, the agent who had processed my visa had departed for Nigeria to visit his family the day after my arrival. He had arranged for a replacement agent to attend to me during his absence. When the replacement agent came to the hotel to check on me, the woman privately spoke to him. The agent also started urging me to assist the woman with her baggage and emphasizing that it is good to help others.

The woman and the agent were attempting to exploit me because I was young. It became increasingly evident that she was trying to persuade me to transport something illegal when she later offered me $300 just to assist her in carrying the luggage. If she genuinely wanted to transport her load, she could have simply paid for extra luggage.

To my dismay, upon arriving at Dubai airport, the immigration officer flagged something suspicious in my bag, leading to a thorough inspection of all my belongings. My heart raced with anxiety as I suspected the woman had set me up for trouble in order to punish me. However, after careful examination, it turned out that the item causing concern was merely a metal spoon.

Danisaint112:
Hmm thanks for the advice. But I'm not the over religious type. Why should anybody even wait for God to provide them a spouse. We put in the work and finish the rest with prayers.

The thing is I just have certain believes about women that decided to remain chaste.

Trust is important in marriage and driving force for a long lasting marriage so for me to actually love and marry her she must possess qualities that must make me trust her completely. I'm aware of this as regards to my parents marriage.

But I get your point though and really do appreciate the advice. 👍

Good to know you have the right mentality. Do what works for you, there are lots of virgin sisters with good characters, go for the right ones, don't be deceived by virginity. Also make a vow now to always treat the right one with love and care. My friend that got married as a virgin five years ago just makes me want to hit every religious guy (extremist) in the face, just kidding I know there are a lot of good ones.

Danisaint112:
It's hard to believe right? Na God. I made a convenant with God that I will remain a virgin till marriage so he will give me a virgin that wouldn't make life hell on Earth for me.Hope this explains it?

On the other hand having a woman in your life when ain't ready for marriage is you entangling yourself with distraction. The reason 99% have girlfriend is because they want someone that would readily satisfy their sexual urge when aroused. Let be honest that's it.

If you can control your sexual urge and be patient to avoid distractions you will definitely though my path.

You are a bit lucky that you are a guy. My advice for you is not to wait for God's will but to find someone whom you love and appreciate and who also genuinely loves you. After you have found your potential partner, take her to God in prayer.

When I was a teenager I also had the wrong mentality, I was waiting for God's will, instead of accepting one of those amazing guys that genuinely loved me. I only befriended Church guys that were presented to me as God's will. With time, I realised that some guys that are extremely religious are narcissists. I consider my relationship with those Church guys mere friendship. Though, they were extremely religious but their personality was off. They were cocky, rude and unapologetic. I felt so restricted and suffocated. I experienced my worst relationship moments with them.

I started realizing what I have been missing now in my twenties as I started experiencing what it is like to actually date. I was made to feel so beautiful, loved, valued, and appreciated. I have a lot of beautiful and memorable moments. Relationship should be fun, when you are ready for marriage find someone that you can enjoy every moment with.

yahmohy27:
Why not show good example by stating yours

I was already in my twenties when I started dating.

oneman2k7:
How are we sure u will be able to pay when he turns 3 years?

Kindergarten children pays a meaggre sum for fees.

May I ask, how much is that meager sum kindergarten is likely to cost?

How old were you when you had your first bf/gf?

labake1:
If you didn't rape her, she won't accused you. Go and ask for forgive and sin no more.

#saynotorape
#saynotofornication

My aunt was raped so I know some guys can be very callous and heartless but some guys that were accused of rape were wrongfully accused, I even heard that a guy committed suicide because of that.

timiade446:
Sincerely, a friend once got into this kind of mess which led him to prison.. it wasn’t funny at all but the truth later prevailed

I can't imagine such a thing happening to any of my brothers. Your friend and his family must have gone through a lot. I am glad that God vindicated him. Women like that are extremely dangerous and wicked.

suckmedownthere:
There are many ways to it, you can send him to a public school for now, you can also ask her to join you and finance the schooling by helping with her with some capital or let him do some evening lessons around your neighbourhood and or a private teacher to come home and tutor him or she do it herself ...if she set standards that seems impossible she can make it possible after all there are single mothers out there...

Nice one. He has not even verified the price before concluding that he cannot pay it. Do you have any idea how much some of these neighbourhood schools cost?

Rtk4:
Our last son just clocked 2years just a week ago and my wife is insisting that he starts school by September, so i told her i don't have money to enroll him in a school by September. I also let her know that the basic age for a child to start school is 3years. I sighted example of alot of people within our vicinity who also waited for their children to reach 3years before enrolling them in school. She still maintains her stands and i also maintain mine. Though he is so wise above his age but i don't have money for that now. He can count 1-10 already.... Please guys what is your take on this?

I understand that you are presently broke but two is not too early o, some of his age mates would have started school since they were one year old, do you want him to start feeling inferior later?

Aladeintl:
Shaming a virgin for being vocal about her sexual status is bottom barrel. Everyday you are on the TL telling us about how wet you are or how your next sexcapade will be.
If you can wear your badge of promiscuity with pride, what stops the virgin from wearing hers?

Or is it a case of your conscience judging you? If a person decides to preach purity let them be.

I believe that no reasonable person would shame you for being vocal about your virginity and expressing your views on virginity. However, there are two possibilities: either you are spreading misinformation by claiming that virgins are superior to non-virgins, or you are anticipating that others should applaud you solely for maintaining your virginity.

Anybody can be a virgin. Don't you know there are some eighty-year-old oracle priestesses who are still virgins. Your preserved virginity cannot contribute any value to the society or stimulate economic growth in a country. If you aspire to be recognized and celebrated, focus on accomplishing remarkable achievements or showcasing your talents to the world.

guobe:
A lady was telling me how a guy got her pregnant some time ago.
The guy rejected the pregnancy initially but the lady insisted on having the baby.
After back and forth the guy accepted the pregnancy and got married to the lady.
Few months after putting to bed the first child, she got pregnant again and the guy was not happy as he has never been according to her the guy felt she used the pregnancy to trap him.
They have both divorced now and gone their separate ways.
Who is to be blamed when an unexpected pregnancy occurs?

Both are to be blamed, but I don't think two people should marry because of pregnancy. A baby can't sustain a marriage, only love can.

Marriage compatibility
Rich man + Rich woman = Extremely Good
Rich man + Broke woman = Good
Rich woman + Broke man = Good
Broke man + Broke woman = Extremely Bad

Couples salary
100,000 naira monthly - 500,000 naira monthly= Extremely Good
100,000 naira monthly - 10,000,000 naira monthly = Extremely Risky (If the guy or lady is too proud you will suffer because he or she might call your salary peanut and refuse to value you.

DrAbdulSuleman:
I've been married for 20 years, we've 4 kids . My marriage has been stronger than I've ever seen
Let me tell you how I got such strong marriage to a submissive, respectful wife

1. I didn't settle. I literally didn't waste time with stupid women . I dumped them even it was hard. This was important because it took me 20 years to find one worthy of marriage. If I had taken more than a month or two on potential women, I never would have had enough time to find a woman worth marrying.

Above all , find a woman that's good not one you think you can make into a good woman

I assume you are in your sixties or seventies.

Anyway, I agree with the last point you made. If only others could learn from you and quietly assess their preferences, instead of resorting to online complaints and blaming all women for their inability to shape a woman according to their desires.

wisdomkid:
No tell your hubby this story oh, because if my wife ever said these things about her ex, na to find new girlfriend be that. SoulMate....

Because if he whistles, I don loss be dat.

🤣🤣

DANIEL5050:
Una go still knack if una meet again

No no we don't do that here.

Sirbruno3000:
Overfamiliarity and unseriousness on her part. The guy no get time for all that. Correct guy.

😂🤣Your tears dey sweet my body, keep on crying.

Cloudflare:
This is exactly how poor broke girls talks. Would you ever agree that he spent money on you before? Were.y!

You billed him like the runz girl you are, epah chopped your kpekpus and realized you might end his life with billings, he dumped your broke as$ and moved on. You started wailing and lamenting everywhere! Madam he doesn't want you. Move on and stop being daft!

Why am I even masking it sef? What is so special in the word virgin? I am a virgin, so go hit your head on the wall.

Cloudflare:
This is exactly how poor broke girls talks. Would you ever agree that he spent money on you before? Were.y!

You billed him like the runz girl you are, epah chopped your kpekpus and realized you might end his life with billings, he dumped your broke as$ and moved on. You started wailing and lamenting everywhere! Madam he doesn't want you. Move on and stop being daft!

God, I am tired of flying British Airways, people are mocking me. I need my own private jet this year. Baba God, please help this poor broke girl. Please, look at my condition and bless me. 😭😭😭