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hajimutex1:
Thank you madam for taking your time to put all this up for people to learn from well done job
*as a marital psychologist* several things is happening in various home, some house is either husband is smoking, womanizer, gambling etc
I think your husband has only two variable base on what you put down is* BROKE* at the same time is *INGRATE* person the two are also a problem.
In counseling we give information is left for the client to choose the one that is most appropriate he or she let diagnose the two problem now
the fact that is broke is not is fault I think is general socio economic situation of the land try more to be his friend guide him the way he spent the little that come to his way and help him to reduce any form of irrelevant spending like house rent types of vehicle he use, tuitions fees etc let him know you want best for his family and you are not in her life for a problem seeker you're their for problem solve. There are other question that I may like to ask if it was normal counseling session but this can not be %100 counseling ethics on the issue of ingrate when ever you feel he you does something I he did not appriciaite you try to call him to order by doing first step you will know at time goes on this we change drastically for more enquiry called on 08021067187

Are you sure you're a psychologist because all I see is you destroying their marriage the more. Whenever she see's her husband, the one thing that will race to her mind is "look at this ingrate" because you told her, her husband is ingrate.
If they both commit their earnings to the family and still don't have savings or wearing one pair shoe to work, that means they both earn peanut. The wife sound dumb but all you could deduce from her epistle is "ingrate".
Smart women are known to be creative and corcern. After the birth of their second child, she's to come with plans, pressure the husband and task him that they will be needing more money as the family grow. Men are quick to give-up on life.
Obviously what she was struggling with at that time is love, affection, care, and acceptance from the husband without thinking about what lies ahead.
The husband knows her weak point that's why he seems angry everytime. She can ace her game because is never too late.

crackkhaus:


Well since you're tired of always being the one to ask him why he's keeping malice with you, don't you think it's time for you to start planning your move?

You said you don't have money yet and this is why you're still there... Madam start keeping/saving money aside small small, time dey go.

I bet you're still single....
They're family of six so just do the maths of their journey.
Even you, go ask your mum and she would likely say you guys are the reason she stayed in her marriage. Stop been quick to tell couple to quit their marriage.

juman:
Wicked police officers.

So the new trend now is to drag the dead..

SeverusSnape:
Buhari is a mumu cow.

The Base transmission station in your area will tell us your location so don't think you're faceless.

LOSKYXANDER:
I wish I left Nigeria when I had the chance. My morale was high, then I got distracted and chased something else. With the situation on ground, how can I leave this hopeless nation?

I had the same opportunity too 2012 to go US but I wanted to join Nigeria Navy then which I truly prefer but unfortunately, it doesn't work out as planed.

SeverusSnape:
Ganduje the dollar monger is definitely playing politics with this thing.
Not that alone, He sees it as an avenue to make cool money.
To him, Just like their chief in Aso rock (bubu the mumu), Life doesn't matter, As long as their political games are being played.
Kano people una dey one chance.

You're very stupid for that statement.
A whole president of a Federal republic.

No direction in Christianity.
From what I have read so far, christian fast base on individual terms and conditions. I wonder whether there is any act of worship in Christianity.

Clapping= praises=thanking God
Singing= praises= thanking God
Praying= asking/praising.

Not meant for you to understand if you're not smart.

Ningen:
Are you implying he rather gives his blessings to a poor and jobless degree holder than to a rich and successful school dropout?

You are totally naive to believe it's all about your educational background, its your Bank Account!



Your options —

1. She can find her voice and convince her dad that you are success and marriage material.

2. You can go back to school for a degree.

3. Elope together without his blessing.

4. Get rich quick, google 'Robbin Banks' for tips.

5. Quit and move on. ( Preferred option!!)

Your preferred option is the best..

B

sexylassie2:
I love this your statement, just because some of them speak hausa or pidgin and wear nigerian cloths doesnt mean they are more nigerian than nigerians.

Check what they eat, who they marry?and where they travel to often,where their children go to.they hardly mix with Nigerians. many of them hate Nigerians. they just tolerate us

How many lebenese marry nigerians, or even eat nigerian food or live with nigerians.

It is easy for a Nigerian to be deceived by a foreigner, just because they want to learn our culture or wear our cloths doesn't make them Nigerian.

All the above might be true if they live in other part of the country but not Kano state.
Tahir family can never be so popular and connected if what they do is to treat Hausa people like shit. Hausa man will never tolerate you treating him or his people like a trash.
I am sure you get my point.
Tahir family has been tested before they will be trusted and be giving those influence and power he has.
His children close pals are Hausa boys from well to do families.

RichDad1:
These guys are more Nigerian than most Nigerians.

They way the children can speak better Hausa than some Hausa fellas..

Qudsi:
If you accept Jesus Christ like you claim. Do you accept this about Jesus:
John 1:17-19 NLT — For the law was given through Moses, but God’s unfailing love and faithfulness came through Jesus Christ. No one has ever seen God. But the unique One, who is himself God, is near to the Father’s heart. He has revealed God to us.

Without any explanation, Please;
Is Jesus (RA) God himself.
Is Jesus (RA) Son of God
Or a messenger and servant of God?
Yes or No
Please don't quote anything either from bible, hadith or the Quran

Lyonne:
Is Jesus a Christian?

The question is too technical for him to understand.

Qudsi:
Yes!
All Jews that reject Jesus Christ as their Saviour will be casted out same as the Muslims who reject but you still have time now you are still alive.

Not all Jews reject Jesus. I know you don't know because you don't read deep. The Jews who accept Jesus are called Messianic Jews. There are Arabs who accept Jesus. There are Yemenis, Pakistanis, Lebanese, Chinese, etc.

John 1:9-14 KJV — That was the true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world. He was in the world, and the world was made by him, and the world knew him not. He came unto his own, and his own received him not. But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name: Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God. And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.

I am now convince that your sole aim of reading about Islam is for debate purpose.
Any Muslim that don't accept Jesus is not a true Muslim. No where in the world you will see a Muslim insult Jesus verbally or on a print media.
Please attach a audio file or a script where a Muslim preacher or scholar insult Jesus.
You're ignorant of so many things but unfortunately, you think you know it all.
Wallahi there is more for you to learn about Islam.

Not all Jews reject Jesus. I know you don't know because you don't read deep. The Jews who accept Jesus are called Messianic Jews. There are [b] Arabs who accept Jesus. There are Yemenis, Pakistanis, Lebanese, Chinese, etc.
So the above will see kindom of God since they accept Jesus nut still practice Judaism so also the Yemeni Muslim's will also see the kindom of God since they accept Jesus even though they still practice Islam.
Guy I am more knowledgeable than you interms of monotheism matter but I won't engage you because your sole aim on religious research is for argument and debate not clarification.

Seetto:
Like all the Muslims around you and those you meet everyday in your life are also evil, all these your copy and paste Hadith from fake sites, on this same forum, someone keep bringing Hadith on the internet until I brought same Hadith to counter his claims, he stopped and saw how it was twisted to mislead people.

Read a book about the prophet life, you will learn and pray to emulate his life, the prophet in his life has never wage war against christainity or Jews, he fought against his on people, the people of quraysh, they are idolaters, and he was on the defensive side, he never took war to them, they wage war against him and he never fought back Insisting on peace, until he receives revelation that he should fight back, that is the holy war(Jihad), and God gave him condition, they must not kill women, they must not cut down trees, who ever that is not holding sword must not be touched, and there are days they must not fight, they must treat their prisoners with kindness.

Seriously Christians are lost..
They claim to know while they are dumb.
A prayer session that is supose to be between you and your God, you decided to carry cameraman along.

Qudsi:
You want to find salvation through one who looted and approved murder instead of through Jesus Christ who said that no one I repeat no one can come to the father except through him (John 14:6). You think someone like this can give you salvation. No one my dear. Not Muhammad. Not Moses. Not Solomon, etc. Only Jesus Christ.


Hadith
حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى التَّمِيمِيُّ، أَخْبَرَنَا يُوسُفُ بْنُ الْمَاجِشُونِ، عَنْ صَالِحِ بْنِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ عَوْفٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ عَوْفٍ، أَنَّهُ قَالَ بَيْنَا أَنَا وَاقِفٌ، فِي الصَّفِّ يَوْمَ بَدْرٍ نَظَرْتُ عَنْ يَمِينِي، وَشِمَالِي، فَإِذَا أَنَا بَيْنَ، غُلاَمَيْنِ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ حَدِيثَةٍ أَسْنَانُهُمَا تَمَنَّيْتُ لَوْ كُنْتُ بَيْنَ أَضْلَعَ مِنْهُمَا فَغَمَزَنِي أَحَدُهُمَا ‏.‏ فَقَالَ يَا عَمِّ هَلْ تَعْرِفُ أَبَا جَهْلٍ قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ وَمَا حَاجَتُكَ إِلَيْهِ يَا ابْنَ أَخِي قَالَ أُخْبِرْتُ أَنَّهُ يَسُبُّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَئِنْ رَأَيْتُهُ لاَ يُفَارِقُ سَوَادِي سَوَادَهُ حَتَّى يَمُوتَ الأَعْجَلُ مِنَّا ‏.‏ قَالَ فَتَعَجَّبْتُ لِذَلِكَ فَغَمَزَنِي الآخَرُ فَقَالَ مِثْلَهَا - قَالَ - فَلَمْ أَنْشَبْ أَنْ نَظَرْتُ إِلَى أَبِي جَهْلٍ يَزُولُ فِي النَّاسِ فَقُلْتُ أَلاَ تَرَيَانِ هَذَا صَاحِبُكُمَا الَّذِي تَسْأَلاَنِ عَنْهُ قَالَ فَابْتَدَرَاهُ فَضَرَبَاهُ بِسَيْفَيْهِمَا حَتَّى قَتَلاَهُ ثُمَّ انْصَرَفَا إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَخْبَرَاهُ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ ‏‏ أَيُّكُمَا قَتَلَهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ كُلُّ وَاحِدٍ مِنْهُمَا أَنَا قَتَلْتُ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ هَلْ مَسَحْتُمَا سَيْفَيْكُمَا ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالاَ لاَ ‏.‏ فَنَظَرَ فِي السَّيْفَيْنِ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ كِلاَكُمَا قَتَلَهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ وَقَضَى بِسَلَبِهِ لِمُعَاذِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ الْجَمُوحِ وَالرَّجُلاَنِ مُعَاذُ بْنُ عَمْرِو بْنِ الْجَمُوحِ وَمُعَاذُ ابْنُ عَفْرَاءَ ‏.‏'
It has been narrated on the authority of 'Abd al-Rahman b. Auf who said:

While I was standing in the battle array on the Day of Badr, I looked towards my right and my left, and [b]found myself between two boys from the Ansar quite young in age. I wished I were between stronger persons. One of them made a sign to me and. said: Uncle, do you recognise Abu Jahl? 1 said: Yes. What do you want to do with him, O my nephew? He said: I have been told that he Abuses the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). By Allah, in Whose Hand is my life, if I see him (I will grapple with him) and will not leave him until one of us who is destined to die earlier is killed. The narrator said: I wondered at this. Then the other made a sign to me and said similar words. Soon after I saw Abu Jahl. He was moving about among men. I said to the two boys: Don't you see? He is the man you were inquiring about. (As soon as they heard this), they dashed towards him, struck him with their swords until he was killed. Then they returned to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and informed him (to this effect). He asked: Which of you has killed him? Each one of them said: I have killed him. He said: Have you wiped your swords? They said: No. He examined their swords and said: Both of you have killed him. He then decided that the belongings of Abu Jahl he handed over to Mu'adh b. Amr b. al-Jamuh. And the two boys were Mu'adh b. Amr b. Jawth and Mu'adh b. Afra.[/b]

Sahih Muslim 1752
In-book : Book 32, Hadith 50
USC-MSA web (English) : Book 19, Hadith 4341
Sahih Muslim

Hadith
حَدَّثَنَا هَنَّادٌ، حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ، عَنْ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ بُرْقَانَ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ الأَصَمِّ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏

‏ لَقَدْ هَمَمْتُ أَنْ آمُرَ فِتْيَتِي أَنْ يَجْمَعُوا حُزَمَ الْحَطَبِ ثُمَّ آمُرَ بِالصَّلاَةِ فَتُقَامَ ثُمَّ أُحَرِّقَ عَلَى أَقْوَامٍ لاَ يَشْهَدُونَ الصَّلاَةَ ‏"

‏ ‏‏ قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ وَأَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ وَابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ وَمُعَاذِ بْنِ أَنَسٍ وَجَابِرٍ ‏‏ قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى حَدِيثُ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ صَحِيحٌ ‏‏ وَقَدْ رُوِيَ عَنْ غَيْرِ وَاحِدٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَنَّهُمْ قَالُوا مَنْ سَمِعَ النِّدَاءَ فَلَمْ يُجِبْ فَلاَ صَلاَةَ لَهُ ‏‏ وَقَالَ بَعْضُ أَهْلِ الْعِلْمِ هَذَا عَلَى التَّغْلِيظِ وَالتَّشْدِيدِ وَلاَ رُخْصَةَ لأَحَدٍ فِي تَرْكِ الْجَمَاعَةِ إِلاَّ مِنْ عُذْرٍ ‏‏

Abu Hurairah narrated that :

the Prophet said: "I was about to order my boys to collect bundles of firewood, then order Salat to be held, then burn (the homes) of the people who did not attend the Salat."

Sahih (Darussalam)

Jami` at-Tirmidhi 217
In-book : Book 2, Hadith 69
English translation : Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 217
Jamiat Tirmidhi


You are wasting your time. Don't wait until it is too late to come out of Islam. i did. You too can.

Please don't be too proud of @bolded because you don't know Taohid when you claim to be a Muslim. You know nothing about Islam. You started learning about Islam when you converted just for debate and to justify you loss.
Guy! All your point if they're truly what you assumed, me and you will be on the same page, calling God through same channel.
Stop wasting your time on hadith you can understand, you will just lost the more. Religion is deep and is beyond flip reading.
Reset your mindset and seek for the right path.
Since you can boldly open hadith and read it without the fear many Christians feel toward Arabic scripts, your own don better. Just open your mind, free your mind and be neutral in your search for divinity. Religion is for your own good and personal gain, not for a debate or war. Stop researching just to write down some hadith and maybe some Quranic verses as a tool for debate.
Even Israelis are not Christians, they're jews.
I repeat stop wasting your time about learning for debate purpose. I will urge you to start asking yourself why people of Israel are not practicing your Christianity. Why are they using Torah instead of your King James Bible.
So all the people of the country where you go for religious pilgrimage will enter hellfire, it's you Christians that will enter heaven.
A reminder, they adapt book of moses (Torah) and refused your king James bible the same way you adapt bible and refused Quran.
Please give credit to Islam which acknowledged all the prophets.
Nawa ooo! This maths is so simple.
“ihdinā aṣ-Ṣirāṭ al-Mustaqīm”

Qudsi:
Hahaha!

Omo Werey feeling funky!

"I just confirmed the Olodo I speculated...."

Ooin! You have spoken Cambridge English for your mind.

Don't investigate all the facts I keep dishing out. Keep hiding behind your ignorance. As if you can even discuss anything about your qur'an or hadiths or Muhammad comfortably.

If you are not an Olodo² then let's both discuss on the life of Muhammad or on the qur'an or on the manuscripts of the qur'an.
Circus Clown. Nothing you Muslims know about your religion. Your own is to only go about screaming l am a Muslim. One thing you don't know about Islam.

I swear, assuming I can see you physically right now, I will make sure I beat the hell out of you.
If that is what the hadith really means, you will not know the word 'Islam' cos nobody would even practice it. Stop deceiving yourself and taking religion as war. What everybody want is Paradise as promised by both religion and nothing more.
Remember you will die and be buried alone, you face day of judgement alone and account for all your deed alone.
You say Christianity and I say Islam..
Stop thinking you have facts or feeling like comparative study guru.. Guy! I repeat, you know nothing and you're not equip enough to talk about religion.
Open your mind and do more insight research and not comparative study.
Channel your energy to find true salvation.

Qudsi:
See Research:

Hadith
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ الْمُقَدَّمِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا فُضَيْلُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏

‏ لَيَدْخُلَنَّ مِنْ أُمَّتِي سَبْعُونَ أَلْفًا ـ أَوْ سَبْعُمِائَةِ أَلْفٍ ـ لاَ يَدْخُلُ أَوَّلُهُمْ حَتَّى يَدْخُلَ آخِرُهُمْ، وَجُوهُهُمْ عَلَى صُورَةِ الْقَمَرِ لَيْلَةَ الْبَدْرِ ‏"
Narrated Sahl bin Sa`d:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Verily! 70,000 or 700,000 of my followers will enter Paradise altogether; so that the first and the last amongst them will enter at the same time, and their faces will be glittering like the bright full moon."

Sahih al-Bukhari 3247
In-book : Book 59, Hadith 58
USC-MSA web (English) : Vol. 4, Book 54, Hadith 470
Sahih Bukhari

The rest of you Muslims are just wasting their time. The 700,000 from the companions of Muhammad and all the first Muslims who died in the battles, etc have long been selected. The rest of you and the 1.6billion Muslims today are just wasting their time according to Muhammad here. Once, you are done. Your next destination is Hell unless you clinge to Jesus Christ who said:

John 8:24 KJV — I said therefore unto you, that ye shall die in your sins: for if ye believe not that I am he, ye shall die in your sins.

I just confirmed the Olodo I speculated..
Do go and further your studies! Be there and be quoting what you don't know.

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Stop confronting her, free your mind and do proper investigation. Don't be naive or lazy. Installs a paid spy app on her phone and listen to their conversation or her location on your fone.
Write down the phone number and investigate about the man secretly.
Just have fun with the matter at this stage and if you find her wanting, provide her with all the evidence and then decide on what next to do with her.

TruthinAction:
There is no salvation in Islam. Wrong choice that leads to destruction. No where in the Quran that Mohammed promised his followers salvation. He himself was not sure of his salvation nor that of his followers - Sura 46:9. Only Jesus saves.

Olodo..
Don't go and further your research and be saying no salvation in one religion bla bla.

MashaAllah

This is very interesting..

haywire07:
It's hightime Nigeria stopped international sales of oil in full capacity.
Let us channel ample amount of the oil to a reservoir and save up for a better day.
Cut deals with some African countries and use their reservoirs if ours is filled

When we save enough, the Government should declare our refineries ''out of service".
Luckily, Dangote refinery is near completion.

After this Covid -19 pandemic, we begin to sell from our reservoirs for the main time, while the refineries will be under renovation.

And also very importantly is the need to diversify.

who are those mad people liking this post...
Nothing technical.

Use the same tools she's using on your children. Sit them down and try hear their own side of the story and why you as a father would send them and they disobey. They will tell you the main point your wife is using to brainwash them. Use same tactics to win your kids over "Manipulation" . Afterward, sit your wife down and ask what exactly she wanted, Divorce or what.

charleybam:
My mum told me one certain day dat i am a useless child all because i didn't adhere to one of her orders,she disowned me that moment and i did Same also..she started comparing me to other successful Guys out there,we argued that day alot but we finally reconciled that day but my mom is so insensitive with words most times and i have warned her that her words hurts my self esteem...Most Nigerian Parents needs to learn how to talk to their children


She's Still the best Mother to me though

Problem of 60%of Nigerian parent's. Their unguided,insensitive utterances is very destroying and damaging to their children.

So many children have be detroyed because of parent unguided utterances.

ReverseFlash:
Unsurprising. I'm an Afro-Peruvian but I can't trust nor take anything from a Nigerian. Everyone with his own taste.



Another possibility.

God please give us good leaders..
Even Peru person is so proud of being Peruvian.
Peru! Peru!! Peru!!!
Ya Allah please come and bring Nigeria out of coma.

gloriaunobi:
It shall not be well with anyone who merged me and them together

Childish post Ode!
Wherever you're, whichever position, consultation and communication is very important.

Shibaraba:
We too we are begging them to bring security operatives. Vigilante work Don tire me. I wan sleep.

Dear men, this vigilante work Don show me say if men are scum, women are scumbags . If you see as men dey give people Wife yordi . Husband go dey bed dey snore madam go come outside collect kporor shake body go back go sleep guy man no go know. All those respectable mommies in the lord sef like kondo . They are the real one million boys.

For real?

ALCOHOLKILLS:
that's like 480,000 in naira. Here our fg headed by a grandpa is talking about crediting some people just 5k..... What nonsense

How old is trump?

Please if this is said about your father as a true born son, do nothing and say nothing.

chloedogie:
That is the bit I could personally do. When we turn billiona we go do more.

No thanks to you.
Why sharing on media forum? are you a politician or want to gather follower to become an influencer. Nairaland is not twitter or Instagram abi Facebook ok.
Just do it between you and your God. "Saying from Islamic POV though".

GamalNasser:
Shut up there , are all the states where mortality is high not democrat states ? Did their governor instead of fighting to save lives not refuse to implement lockdown till Trump threatened to send the military in? Did they not all ban the use of chloroquine in their states just so the mortality levels can increase so they can blame Trump...

Is it not the same Cuomo that issued a DNR ( Do Not Resuscitate Order ) just to make sure death rates spike but guess what all you Satanist have failed and Trump is approval is rising , the economy seems primed to bounce back to record levels in just weeks and Trump is coasting to a 2nd term whether gay people , Islamist, terrii sympathizers , illegal immigrants, satanist and dull people like it or not

I will quote you when Biden win..