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I TOTALLY, ABSOLUTELY DISAGREE with the notion that man's the head of a family. Except you just want the title. At this day and age, we are nothing but equals. The man fends for the family and so do the woman. There are alot of househusbands now.... i mean stay at home dad whose job is to look after the kids, cook the meals and keep the house tidy whilst the woman goes out to bring daily bread home. it's not wierd, it's just as normal as the woman doing it next door. 

And as for the Bible stuff, God created man in his image, did he say woman wasn't in is image? And as for creating 1st, that has been sorted out in sheif's post. The one about creating woman from man's ''rib''.....some version says ''side'' which signifies a simple logic which i think God is trying to pass across........

I DIDN'T MAKE WOMAN FROM MAN'S HEAD because SHE ISN'T HIGHER  (Not the Leader)

I DIDN'T MAKE HER FROM HIS FOOT because SHE ISN'T LOWER  (Not the subordinate or follower)

I MADE HER FROM HIS SIDE because SHE IS HIS[b] EQUAL[/b] (side by side, meaning the same)

But u know what ? U GUYS CAN GET TO KEEP THE NAME/TITLE.    Looks more like u.doesn't it ?

Divorce is a really sensitive issue especially when kids are involved. You stay together in an obviously bad marriage, you hurt and probably mess up your kids' life because they won't know wot love is. You decide to call it quit (Divorce), you also hurt and mostlikely mess up their life and future cus they don't belong in a complete circle. Their step-parents might love them but it'sn't always enough.

Secondly, looking well and observing all the rules(so to speak) before getting married doesn't ascertain a pleasant result. I've seen alot of couples, who u would just keep on wondering where it all went wrong, and noone can just say, not even themselves. Emotions can be tricky, and u can only be sure of yourself(thats even most of the time impossible), and it's two can play the game.

So, i conclude that WHERE POSSIBLE, KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE IN LOVE (''in love'' boldly written because it's of no use for yourself, your partner and your kids if it's all hell)
WHERE IT'S TOTALLY IMPOSSIBLE ( I know wot i mean by totally impossible) DIVORCE ISN'T JUST AN OPTION, BUT THE ONLY OPTION. (Though your kids will answer for it now or later

Best of luck in the game of love(which has no straight rules)

pple might crucify you for finding love in places they think are inapropriate but that doesn't make it bad. Once they see ur love thrives, they change their tune. I still maintain Love can be found anywhere......so far it's mutual and u'r not using ur position to force ur emotional feelings on anyone.

sure, rice and soup will dey plenty..na credit card go suffer..lol Thanks guys!

Hey guys......i was expecting those response, i've never lived in Lagos b4 until this year february till around sept......and i learnt alot because it was amazing and interesting to me.

My mom will probably choose a churchy, straight A, non-fashionable, family/church friend's son which is definitely not my type. But my Dad... i guess i'll like his choice because he loves good things but i'm sure NTA, BBC and CNN will all know how the guy came about.lol So NO.i won't allow them choose 4 me. !

Being in Love doesn't immune one from seeing your partner's flaws and a major one for that matter, although not her fault in any way. But i feel the guy's pulse, getting married as a high profile guy to an absolute can't read, can't write lady isn't a fairytale. It isn't as easy as u guys make it out to look. hmmm.believe me or not it will have it's days.
But honestly too i think it's redeemable, just needs time.and if truly as it comes out to me, Henry loves the lady, then he should be able to give it time. I have seen a complete, stack illiterate, househelp who got a nice woman to work for and was taken to London. She now speaks atleast communicable English. She needed an intepreter before but now she's ok with a job. so time and effort will help.........try the idea of sending her to London(esp if she can go to an adult training english school) she'll see alot of foreigners as well who can't read or write like her. So she won't feel like she's the only one with the prob.(some Europeans can't read or write Englis) Best of luck

Honestly, that will be the end. I've seen alot of such cases and at the end it isn't a fairytale as it appears to be at the begining. I kept myself so should my partner. 50-50   I'm not saying others are wrong by marrying a mom or dad.but i just don't like the idea.

Smoking and drinking has got different levels......a social/occasional drinker is different from a binge drinker or an heavy drinker or an addicted alcholic. Likewise a smoker. So it depends on which category he falls into.
Personally i wouldn't dare go out with a smoker cuz i can't stand the smell and also can't risk my lungs with polluted air. Safer for him smoking than for me inhaling. As for a drinker........if it's only socially and occasionally, i don't see any trouble with that.

i have not been lucky with the gift thing 4rm lovers........don't know why

snazzydawn:
Well,love is everywhere,whether school,church,club,market,internet.you never know where cupid will strike you at!!!

You can find love anywhere, anytime, and anyhow.....there is no rules or boundaries for LOVE.

I chose '' I don't care'' cuz i don't really care but if i had to choose without the ''i don't care option'' i would go for the Nigerian raised mostly at home and partially abroad cuz more value is attached to marriage in Nigeria than abroad where d divorce rate is rising daily. But really it's the individual and the home in which he/she was raised that matters more.

Yawa - trouble
yawa don gas- there is trouble
jabo- get down esp from the bus (Danfo)
egbe- novice
esha- worths little or nothing
sofo- nose poker (Not minding your biz)
gbeu dani - stupid
lori owo yen - as we were saying, (to code wot you're actually saying before someonelse came in )
irin - gun
oye - Police
oshara - brand new
ebe - money
panasharp - wise up
ti be - forget it
o ti bo ju.you're too much - compliments
esa oke .... psyching - saying good things to get your attention

Never say Never.......Anything is possible. The world is sick

Working woman = Independent woman = HAPPY WOMAN !!!

are u still on this problem ?

Manchester united jersey with Ruud Van Nistelroy OR Rooney inscribed at the back. (shhhh...don't say u heard.....cuz it's suppose to be a surprise)

i have walked out of about 2 r/ships like that. All because, they made me feel they were desperate. U want someone u feel u don't really worth not some one thats not your worth. Guys and ladies all together want someone nice and nasty not ALWAYS NICE. Someone who will disagree with u over certain issues.....not someone who will leave evrything to be with u...her friends,her family and even her hobbies......

pluto04, The point is, you want independent women, alot of guys do have the same problem like u do but fail to face it. And lots of ladies that get dumped by good guys are ladies that are MISS TOO NICE, TOO CLINGY, TOO SUBMISSIVE. I mean wots the point of being all over a guy, evryone needs a breathing space.

Did u say i think u have a problem ?

Who told u i have a problem ?

why shouldn't she ask her ?

Can it ever stop ?

OLORI