Kobojunkiee:
The woman was married to the man at the time of his death, so there is technically nothing wrong with what she did.

Being in charge of the bills does not give one legal guardianship so the in-laws are wrong in assuming they should have been consulted on the matter. So the in-laws should probably work on accepting their loss and moving on from this.

marriage Noe gave her right over his mother?

Tina001:


If not for anything, at least respect his age. See the way u talking to a 60years old man. Must you display your lack of home training I blame social media

many are made few are in nairaland. Very stupid human. No respect for age.

definitelyME:
This continent called africa never ceases to amaze me everyday. Corruption in broad daylight is now the order of the day..africans are really suffering. Only someone who has traveled out of the shores of this continent would understand that africans are truly suffering.... I plan on joining the army after my graduation from university although I have the option to travel abroad for masters after graduation, I wouldn't because I feel alot need to be done for my dear country and continent and alot of people need to pay for all the wrongs they have done to us(even if they are dead by then, their children will pay for it), and if it is my destiny, by God's grace I will succeed...

Please if you're reading this, and you are a lover and believer of truth and the fact that nigeria and africa will be better someday, please pray for me and all other people who have the best interest of our dear country and continent at heart...

No matter what difficulty you're going through, just be hopeful because nothing last forever...

I LOVE YOU ALL

no worry graduate first and see if you would be shortlisted.

Judolisco:
Nigeria needs recolonization

honestly. Any western country even Chinese self.all we have are wicked polithifecians.

Nwodosis:
Nigerians feel more for Ukrainians more than how they feel/felt for Biafrans.

get sense Na. Is it everything you people call Biafra ipob afonja. Get sense small. Act matured if you are not learn to be.

Try miss S

gaby:
I pity you and the products of this union (the kids).

This was a union that wasn't supposed to be. You forced it and the repercussions of doing or having things your way is what you are reaping right now.

The signs are always there and that still voice always speaks to us but we are quick to ignore or shut it out while believing in our understanding.

I've been in a marriage more toxic than this.

I jejely pick the few clothes and shoes wey my bag fit contain, abandon everything else and thank God no kids were involved.

I took off for my life without looking back. She look for me tire na. She still dey trail me for nairaland here I know but na she go tire.

The best decision I ever made in my life was abandoning the curse of a marriage and saving my head.

Oga, no be by force to marry or remain married.

Save your head and mind.

boss Abeg gist me. How did you pick up again?

dopeonlove:
I read your story , I shake head. I hope she no get bipolar ? I was very happy when I got to the part you wrote, all the red flags were there during your courtship but you foolishly went ahead to marry her . So you brought sorrow , tears and sadness to your self, thinking that things would change. I don't know how old your wife is , but I know that things ( lifestyle) that did not change over 30 years of her existence would not change now .

Anyways, I don't have much to say but to thank God for my life. My relationship of over a year now has been a very turbulent one from the very first day till date and I once believed things would change, but my brother , things are just getting worst and I am planning to go ahead with the marriage. However, Something very strange happened by she, taking her madness to my family and every one was stunned !

Imagine your wife telling you and your family she can't bear your surname and you should bear hers ?? Baba , it was a narrow escape and really thank God almighty for coming to my rescue. Now reading this your story even makes me feel I am on the right track not to regret my actions very soon .

My advice for you right now is to try as much as possible to stay away from reporting her to her family of any kind , pastors and councillors ( as it has not been working but only makes her more angry ) . Always try to make your wife happy . Be the first to apologize. Put in more effort to be a gentle , sweet , romantic, caring and loving husband . Go with her love languages, just maybe, she may see a reason to love you again. The reason for this is because the old ways ain't working so you need a change of approach to save your marriage. Lastly, put her in prayers! Good luck in your future endeavours.

why did you not go ahead and marry that lady and answer her surname? See advice you are giving someone.

Cheasystickylov:
Hello all, please all I need is your candid advice. I do not think this is the time to ask me rhetorical questions. I would have answered all those questions before the end of the epistle.
I do not sincerely if to quit my marriage or jut keep hoping that things will change in the nearest future.
I dated my wife for three years before got married in 2006. I can say without exaggeration that it has been war, except occasionally when peace will just reign for a short period of time.
Sadly I got a job in a multinational and we moved to Germany in 2014 and that just worsened everything. This made her to acquired more powers to do what ever she likes.
My wife is someone that literally fights with every single person.
During our dating, she exhibited so many of these characters. Despite all these red signs, I somehow just continued rather foolishly in the relationship hoping things will get better. This was not also helped by the pastor of our church who ensured that the relationship continued, he gave very many biblical examples including forgiving someone 7 times 77 times. I must also state that her mother was an elder in the church. So the action of the pastor is understandable.
We eventually got married, and it has been sorry tears and blood. We were able to have 3 children, and the eldest is 11 years, the youngest is 7 years.
My wife disrespects every single living thing I say, every one of them, she can insult me in public without giving a damn. I can not list all the scenario. Just to emphasize this point, her eldest brother and sisters have cautioned her many times , in my house and even when we visit them. To further emphasize, her eldest sister’s husband stop us from coming to his house because he said he can does not just bear the insults and the manner she disrespects me.
We can not have a heart to heart discussion, she is always not ready, or when we talk she just tell me to summarize, or she ignores me completely.
I have suggested counselling, however, she simply refused.
We can stay in the house for months without talking to each other, I have and still has always been the one that tries to initiate peace. Sadly most times she doesn’t even listen and walk away.
She keep male friends that I do not even have any real relationship with them, even if I try to caution her, she screams back. I have actually stopped trying to caution her, I just leave her alone with them. The latest now is a pastor who prays for her for the past 5 years, sadly the pastor and I have never had any conversation for all these years. I demanded for his number 2 years ago, she refused as usual, so I just allow her be. Of course their has been one or two case of suspected infidelity, initially when I asked she just ignored me and was even screaming. I gave her deadline of 5 days and she later cam to me to explain. Although there were still many grey areas.

The sad part is that, there is no single family member to even look into the matter
1.Her step brothers and sisters- they are not in talking terms.
2.Her mum- her mum dare not !
3.Her uncle- She is not in talking terms with any of them
4.Her Aunt-the same story, not in talking terms with them

She does not really have any close per say, and occasionally attend church online. I wish does attend a physical church, her pastor would have been the next person that might probably look into it.

Sadly she believes every one of these people including me have a problem. She feels she is right and we are all just evil people.

I am so confused and frustrated. I do not know exactly what to do.

while you are still young divorce her with immediate effect. Cause when you get old you would probably die of heart attack. Please save your self while you can. The children would be fine.

Invictuse:
Even you father in his hellish grave knows only you as been shamelessly desperate trying to bring down a man your entire household generation n even tribe can not bring down.

oboy how much dem give us.

jimmy74:
I would like to contribute to the topic because I had a similar experience with my fiancee. Prior to our misunderstanding, she use to complain that I am always threatening her ( I will quit, I am bored with the relationship etc) even though I love her deep within me.
I remembered making one of the above comments when we had trouble recently and she took it so personal that all efforts by me to reconcile proved abortive to the extent that she refused to see me when I travelled from lagos to the north to see her (long distant relationship).
However, on the eve of my coming back to lagos she pleaded on the phone , she would like to see me at last which I also ignored and came back to lagos without seeing her again. In the wake all this my sister sat me down and point out my wrongs from the point of view of a woman which I actually accepted my faults and apologise to my fiancee on the phone while in lagos and hence, love like never before.
The point I am trying to make here is that, it si very important to respect the feelings of a woman by looking at issues from their own perspective too b4 taking a descsion. Never allow your self ego to misdirect you. Wish U a healthy relationship with your wife

lol. Ok ooo

FreeStuffsNG:

You are contradicting yourself or being clever by half in a way.

Give honour to whom honour is due especially when you know that you can not do better than those making all the sacrifice.

You will not die if you encourage and pray for the leaders serving you(Rom 12:1-2).

Talk is cheap ,to type, lament and go is the easy part but to go out there daily and serve , to recieve bullets etc is the hard part

God bless Nigeria, our leaders and all Nigerian Patriots.
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small thing don enter your hand

Maiwhile this same cultists they Ukraine dey run from battle. Brainless people.

Jennyclay:
Take it OR leave it... Everybody can't be current about what is happening in Ukraine just like you.

You did a good job by enlightening her. Now that she has learnt something, if she come across group of people discussing it, she would have something to say.

That's how we learn in life. Nobody knows it all.

She's not dumb and why must you bring your private issues to social media.

Yeye boyfriend!!!

Modified: For those of you quoting me, saying the girl is dumb for not knowing Ukraine.

But if a white girl tells you to your black face that she haven't heard of the word Nigeria, Ghana or South Africa, I'm 100% sure you people will clap for her, Infact you would go as far as even mocking your own country and other...

Like I said earlier in my comment... Take it OR Leave it. She is not dumb and I'm not forcing it down your throat like fufu.

But you guys should stop your hypocrisy okay!

Nonsense!!!

wetin this one dey talk?

DuBLINGreenb:
Ehya

But when USA announced that an attack was going to happen last week and they evacuated all embassy staff and sent out travel warnings for Ukraine and also expressly told all their citizens in Ukraine to leave and provided flights for them

Where was Nigerian government? If you no get intelligence or ear to hear
Why not copy from your neighbor? Na so we dull reach?

Ok after failing then, India made arrangements with Poland to allow Indians in and evacuate them from there, Nigeria (giant of Africa) could not do that, they turned Nigerians back at the border this is shameful.

if them they count countries in the world you self go open eye count Nigeria?

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Baby boy you ran off from that thread to display yourself here?
Did you not say you ain't a Russian?keep clowning around.. everyone is laughing at you and your fellow Putin puppet..

Ukraine haven't started grounding Russia you are already crying..
Cute little cry baby..

come Na movie?

AchalugoNwa:
I smell new format from boiz here

you are among the few wise people

FreeStuffsNG:
God bless Asiwaju Tinubu.

Imole gidi de!
#Iyanumashele

In my opinion, Asiwaju Tinubu is the most capable and competent to lead Nigeria to greater heights.



Just to explain to you few of the reasons why I stated that Asiwaju Tinubu is competent and the most prepared,I may need to take you down memory lane of his account of stewardship in public office sir/ma.

As the Executive Governor of Lagos State, Asiwaju Tinubu recovered what is now called Eko Atlantic from the raging Atlantic ocean Lagos Bar beach coast line flooding (for decades that problem even some of the more developed nations explain away as climate change problems) defied all solutions by FG and the highbrow strategic Victoria Island was deteriorating fast with businesses, embassies, hotels etc exiting VI in droves. During that time, the Atlantic ocean flooding reach the fringes of Ozumba after the flood completely take over Adetokunbo Ademola ,it was Asiwaju Tinubu that brought back the Lagos Central Business District and Broad street commercial nerve centre of Nigeria back to life after it was abandoned, it's Asiwaju Tinubu who built major roads from Oregun to Lawanson to Igando LASU to as far as Badagry etc.

Asiwaju Tinubu is the one who fixed the horrible waste problem we had in Lagos and that LASTMA and BRT you see was created by Asiwaju. Asiwaju Tinubu was the one who got Lagos State to be part of the owners of Econet and unlike Delta State where the shares were sold and funds pocketed, Lagos State Shares were warehoused with professional investors in the state investment agency called Ibile holdings.

Asiwaju Tinubu increased bursaries to students of Lagos State origin (NULASS) and made public schools free for all Lagosians regardless of your tribe, religion or political party affiliation after his administration had successfully returning missionary schools to their original owners( other states later copied Lagos) . It was during his tenure that Ikeja General Hospital became a teaching Hospital, upgrade most of the clinics to General Hospitals giving free health to the 5 years and below and Lagosians of 65 years and above age group. .

The fund that BRF used to quickly build infrastructures were the LGA funds withheld by Pa Obasanjo and despite that Asiwaju Tinubu never owed salaries.
When the purchase of FG refineries by Alhaji Dangote was cancelled by HE Yardua, Alhaja Aliko Dangote ran to Asiwaju Tinubu after most state governments and governors in the SS gave Dangote a cold shoulder. Today, through the assistance Asiwaju Tinubu gave Aliko Dangote, Dangote Refinery is taking off to help us stop the petrol subsidy killing our naira and public finances.


Asiwaju Tinubu is loyal to those who paid the ultimate price for our democracy and today heroes like Bagauda Kalto, Pa Alfred Rewane, Pa Abraham Adesanya etc are immortalized in Lagos . One of the most memorable achievements of Asiwaju Tinubu for me was helping to stop the blood letting and recurring Hausa-Yoruba/OPC war in Idi Araba and Agege. Those hellish period of unrest defied even the effort of past military state administrators of Lagos but Asiwaju Tinubu was able to solve it.

That Lagos State Government civil service is regarded as the best in Nigeria is due to the hardwork Asiwaju Tinubu did to reform it, create Tutors General offices, improved harmonized pay structure, best pension scheme for civil servants etc.
I can go on and on to educate you on the legacies of Asiwaju Tinubu still standing till today as my reasons for my confidence in Asiwaju Tinubu sir

That's why my appeal goes to patriotic Nigerians to please vote for Asiwaju Tinubu.
Please vote for Asiwaju Tinubu.


May God bless you and may God bless Nigeria forever.
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get out

Racoon:
Another technological advancement In action while a backward thinking jihadist back home is obsessed with reopening non-existent cattle grazing routes and approving a whooping more than N2billion For Purchase Of Cows To Boost Animal Production.

only cow Na dey him head.

Darkandhandsom:
This Zubby guy needs to be investigated.
His sudden wealth is questionable.
Either he is into fraud or did blood money ritual

mugus would not reason it. Shey aba kyari yansh don open . Small small.

Person wen dem for best.

Coolbreeze1988:
And we troops here in the northeast are suffering. No water no food sometimes, no armor. There's God though. Na to resign sure pass. I can't do this anymore

they waste your time . For this useless country

U are a big fool and a nusiance . I wish that girl had brothers that would beat sense to your skull. Nonsense idiot. First mistake second mistaking.

MadeINchenzen2:
Pls if you need video or visual proof to this thread, just quote me... i didn't post them here cos its absolutely disgusting

Oya video

Guy you dey mad.

Lol lol mumu talk very foolish talk.

See story oi. Because he is your ex and he has money and he is into yahoo. So he is a ritualist

GeneralOjukwu:


It's far better than the cleanest place in SE.

There's a reason why ALL Pigs go to Lagos.

That area you showed must be your area inhabited by the usual pigs.

Na your papa get Lagos useless bastard. Infact Na your papa Name Na Lagos.

GeneralOjukwu:


His curses should start there.

He's should curse them for making their homelands The Toilet of a so-called SHIT HOLE.

He should curse them for making it so bad that Lagos is now Heaven for them

you are so foolish. That everything looks tribalistic to you. You no get sense at all.

Lol nah wah ooo. Let me try and understand somebody have your wife doggy style and impregnated her then she went further for abortion. Nah wah ooo people full this world. I wish God find human verifier people when get sense no plenty again.

infogenius:


U're 30 and surprisingly with lack of sense. Accept his proposal at ur own risk. It's obvious u're the most likely reason y his marriage to ur sister failed.
Better look for ur own husband and leave ur sister's husband alone.

Jesu conclusion of the matter 30years no sense. Go and ask your parents what they would say. Kai bro you finish work