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You should be looking at your own parents' marriage not a neighbour's.

akwesenana:
I had an issue with her and left home.

But I believed that it was all good between us.

What you were involved in, in those 5 years before returning home and the non productive way you may have been living since then may be the issues.

abokikhalifa:
If she's well trained, she should know that she's destroying another woman's family. Forget the man, some men think with their dick

We can't excuse the man by forgetting him because he caused it, his promiscuity led to what has become of his family.

akwesenana:
21.

If you are 21, it means you dropped out of school at age 16 (2017)....Why did you drop out of school and where were you between that 2017 you dropped out of school and May this year, you returned home?

abokikhalifa:
I done talk my own. If not for the sake of the man, let it be for the sake of their mom. I hate it when other women come to spoil other family happiness. Why ?

Na who give am access to come spoil the family's happiness?

Glad you created the thread, that it is a start.

garriAndsugar:
Wow.

If you need someone to help you carry it into the fridge let me know

It would certainly get missing in transition.

Scary.....such expands the recruitment pool for terrorism and banditry.

abokikhalifa:
One of the children should look for that side girl and gun her down.

Gun her down, say wetin? The late father was not a minor when he got involved with her and fully understood what he was into.

The sad story of how a man ruined his family. Imagining the trauma the children are going through and what is ahead of them.

"Harvest time".

Those who paid for the accommodation should insist, he does not move in. If the woman insists he lives with them then the apartment should be taken away from them.

oloyeagbaakin:
Meet this girl recently, my mum told me I should not ask anything about her educational qualification, but she is a hairdresser. Got to know after our introduction that she just finished from J.S.S 3 she did not even go to S.S.S 1 in short she doesn't even have a WAEC certificate. And our wedding is coming soon, what can I do guys?

Was it not a red flag to you when your mother said so? So what did you talk about when you met her?

Techgirl29:
I’m only thinking of changing her surname if case be he is against me taking my daughter with me as she has I have been with my daughter till date I need informations as to how to go about it cause I did few research and says they need a consent letter for me to travel with her and my fears is when is he is against and don’t want to consent to that not just that I want to intentionally change the last name thanks

Changing her last name is fraud as long as his name is on the birth certificate.You must
get consent letter from him unless you can prove before the court that he has been absent in the life of the child and such claim must be verifiable.

Cregon:
Greetings to elders and knowledgeable folks in the house. Kindly assist me in this family matter.

There is this person I know who was impregnated by her boyfriend a few years back. She didn't abort the child.

Three years has gone by and yet the young man has refused to lift a finger in caring for the child, who is now in school.

The weight of catering for this child is really telling on the girl and her family.

So advise me. What legal steps can be taken? Can he be charged to court?

Mod: Kindly help me by moving this to the front page. Thanks.

Which state is the mother and child residing?

Since the father of the child is traceable, he can be made to provide for their child through legal means. A child is already in existence and MUST be catered for.

khadaffi:
I didn't say they don't cope well when they sleep alone. If you read what I wrote you will see where I said they slept on their room before I changed strategy[b]. Don't worry, from the way you sound you don't have a child. You are still talking based on what you read. Like I said when you start a family you will see how what you're saying isn't practicable.[/b] Even Bishop Oyedepo once advised against sleeping in different rooms with your kids. Now look at an example of something that happened one day. There was a little hole in the net in my passage. My room is opposite my children's room. Somehow a bat squeezed itself through that hole and started flying around the passage. By now there was no power the passage was dark but there was a lamp in my kids room and a torch. At about 2am or thereabouts my son woke up to poop. He had to pass through the passage to the toilet. He saw the bat flying around and ran back to his room, shut the door and was calling for me and my wife. We had shut our door and was asleep. He kept on calling and calling till his sister also woke and joined in calling. When he could no longer hold it he had to poop in the room. I later woke around 3 or 4 and killed the bat and woke my wife to start cleaning up the mess. Do you think I was happy? Events like these always come up when you have kids at home. I just thank God it was not something that would take their life. That is how I would have woke to hear a different story

I laugh at the bold, you have no idea of my family life. By the way, no one can tell a male gynecologist that, until he is able to get pregnant, he doesn't know what he is talking about.

I respect the dynamics of your own family, whatever works for your unit I believe suits you all.

Ayodele951:
She is saying she's smart enough to start.

Is your baby being at home, affecting your wife's schedule?

Moh247:
During very strong turbulence is when you pray in your heart to God, now imagine praying to God while getting piloted by bobrisky

For "bobriksy" to be at the cockpit, did he/she not meet the professional requirement needed to be there? By the way, God does not care who the pilot is when it comes to your prayers.

Moh247:




Auzubillah Minashaitan Nirajeem,


At this point , I join that righteous guy to say the world might be coming to an end

Imagine experiencing flight turbulence with fear and you get to know your pilot is a skirt wearing gay

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That the pilot is a skirt wearing gay would become a non-issue, in the face of the turbulence.....his dexterity is what counts!

Your neighbour's, no matter how tempting.

Different pictures of men, same 3 ladies!

OJODEL10:
lol, everyone is talking about 2023 you are talking about 3023 you must be from the future
are things still hard
please what are the name of the predidential candidates and their political parties

As if Nigeria will still exist in 3023!

khadaffi:
I don't care what you read in your Masters programme, marriage is practical and no amount of formal education can cover the challenges you are likely to face. When they visit relatives which they do always, they cope well. Except the relative in question is not a parent and personally I would not allow my kids stay over with someone who is not a parent.

I'm older than my youngest brother by about 16 years and with what he experienced staying alone in his room, I actually vowed not to allow such nonsense repeat itself in the family. It happened that my brother was given birth through CS and immediately after delivery the doctor informed my Mum he didn't cry early enough and that at the age of sixteen he might have some complication in his health. As early as 2 years I witnessed him fainting but I didn't know this was frequent when he sleeps. Because we didn't detect on time this frequent seizure that only occur while he sleeps led to schizophrenia at 16. because of this

Marriage is practical and I know what it is! If they cope well sleeping away from you when they visit relatives, does that not give you an insight?

Sorry to read about your younger brother's schizophrenia, I now better understand where you are coming from. Not crying enough at birth is always in an indicator of neuropathology. I hope alongside his medications, he has access to psychotherapy.

See excuse!

Nice one.

The law is too soft on Kidnappers and the drawn legal process when prosecuting them, is not helping matters.

khadaffi:
When you are married you will know the answer to that. The kids have their room and they know it. Must you always get intimate at night when they sleep? During the day, they are in their room playing. They only come in from 8pm till dawn. They also know to knock when coming in because the door is always locked when I'm alone with my wife

Co-sleeping was a topic in my Masters' class in Clinical Child Psychology and the focus was helping children to transition into "owning" their own rooms and achieving sleep independence. When your children go visit relatives and have to sleep over, how do they cope?.

Wisetrue99:
So they should also suspend love making till then

They can demarcate the room with a curtain

Shikena

Room demarcation with a curtain changes nothing, it doesn't block the "audio".

khadaffi:
Oga stop arguing with people. Most of those guys arguing are not married hence they say what is normal but not practicable. I stay in a 3 bedroom with two kids but I stay in the same room with my kids. I also used to have the same mindset that the kids should stay in their room but reality made me change my mind. Most kids less than 10 are always afraid of the dark and knowing the kind of country where we do not have light, if you can always attend to the kids when they need you Goodluck. But if experience teaches them a lesson then they also learn from it. I've seen a situation where robbers broke into a flat and entered through the children's room while the parents escaped through the ceiling and called for help. Sometimes your children needs you, they keep shouting and crying while you are fast asleep and have locked your door. If you can cope with keeping kids in a separate room, fine. If not don't criticize those that do. Those saying "install CCTV in the children's room", I want to ask if the CCTV will not use power. Do we have constant power to achieve that feat?

Whenever you want to get intimate with your spouse, how do you get your children to stay away from your room?

Goldie16:
It's a supplement and not a drug. Helps with my hallucinations

It is still not advisable to take it till she sees a psychiatrist.

Sad.

faithfull18:
Na so, with the unnecessary pressure you world people put on the females.

No matter the pressure "world people" put on females, they owe themselves not to jump into the wrong end because "world people" no send you at the end of the day.

Sweetvie:
Yeah, I understand you
But I feel language should not be a barrier if it can be learn... Am not saying people should not travel to uk am just trying to like generalize it that Nigerians should not just focus on a particular country... They should explore. Cost of living varies... Some people spend some unnecessary money that should be save on trying to live big when they were actually living in ikorodu in Nigeria...

Of the top tier English speaking country, UK is the fastest to immigrate to as at now thus the surge. For me, language would have been a big barrier if I had relocated to a non-English speaking country if I still wanted to work in my field which involves listening to people as I also do think in English.

Relocation needs detailed planning, not just hop into it. Research and research.

On a lighter note, I knew I was heading to Cambridge UK and months before getting there physically, I had "virtually walked" through the streets of Cambridge using Google street map app, I knew where I was moving into, distance to the Church I will be attending, supermarkets, Nigerian restaurants etc