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Helpout12345:
Her display in this video is enough to understand what that man has been passing through.

I can hear their children in the background of that video.

The man should keep this video and used it against her in court so that she can lose custody of the children. He should also find other avenues to provoke her more so that she can display her madness on more videos. Whoever gets custody of the children get to keep the house.

I hope the man also had a video of her threat to kill him too. That will also be good to argue that she can kill the children out of anger.

Nigerian men in western world should learn about the laws these evils women are taking advantage of. These women learned about the laws and quickly takes its advantage of it.

These laws can be used by men too.

They don't own the house because from the video, she claims to be the one paying the rent.

dahmie2013:
Train your child in the way of the Lord. You can enrol her in a boarding house if you think your area isn't safe enough.

Boarding schools are the worst place to protect a child from being sexually active.

Dainy1:
So, we relocated to a new environment. The formal school is too far from us. So, I decided to look for a closer school. Although it was a small school, I didn't inspect the environment very well too, but I was told by neighbors that they teach very well.
I took my daughter there, and made all the payment (35k)
After school the very first day, she came home and said she's not going there again that her class smells an offensive odour. her class mates told her and showed her a broken socker way that is behind her class window covered by curtains. Very irritating and smelling.
Secondly, primary 3, 4 and 5 are merged together and they teach them same topic.
I went there and comfirm everything.

The problem is, I want a refund and the woman told me her husband said, I can not get a refund after payment.
That the only alternative is to leave my daughter's there for this term.
Just a day after payment, I can't get a refund.
I don't want problem with this woman and her school but how can I go about This? I really need a refund.

The school environment is bad and not healthy for children at all. I'm sure if all the parents should check the back side of the classes, they will feel so sorry for their children.

You made a grave mistake of not inspecting the "school" before enrolling your child. the "school" ought to be shut down. Just inform the woman, your daughter will not be showing up on Monday but the "school" will be showing up on social media with the state's ministry of education tagged. They will refund you the money but that place needs to be shut down,

Is her mother present in her life?

Your obsession of wanting her to "keep" her virginity is unhealthy because most times such fathers end up being the ones that disvirgined their daughters.

Sighs....

RedTarantula:
OK. It is Chad..

At least, there is a destination.

This made me smile because my dissertation was focused on children’ play and their parents tolerance towards playing outdoors.

OP, be prepared because she would very soon outgrow this solitary stage of play.

RedTarantula:
You should know the countries Nigerians have been fleeing to

Nigerians "flee" to many countries around the world!

RedTarantula:
My neighbour is confused now and needs advise. His wife wants wants to relocate from Nigeria but he does not want to and this is causing tension. Best advise to them is needed

You didn't state the intended country nor visa type, relocating to Cotonou is also relocation from Nigeria.

Beremx:
I am currently heartbroken. Currently facing marriage crisis but I will surely be fine

You sure will, be strong.

culf:
thank you. please don't ever consider the option to cheat unless you have finally decided to end the marriage.

If she has decided to end the marriage, cheating is unnecessary.

Whoever leaked the video, should be applauded and believe the boy have been picked up and restrained in a mental health facility.

The mother has also been his enabler, the boy ought to have been seeing a child psychiatrist alongside a child psychologist.

I would certainly love to sit on the floor with Briar and talk about her friend, Creepy Chloe.

Zonefree:
So, what do you advocate? Make him a cup of coffee or buy him more phones to pacify him

Child service would take the boy away from the mother, na part of the reason she is crying as the boy is highly likely to be institutionalized.

The end

miccoy:
Kindly give one reference of a case of rape in marriage in Nigeria. The listening judge must be so bored!

How can you say your husband raped you for crying out loud. It's absord!

Sex in marriage is a right. There is no illegality to it. In marriage, nothing like forced sex. If that happens, it means the wife has refused to perform her conjugal duty, which in turn, the husband can have a case against her.

Religion, custom and even law approves and preaches submission in marriage.

Period!!!!

It is not all about gra gra or customs that dictates a wife MUST always be available whenever the husband wants sex.

It is that "absurdity" that has led to some "unexplained" death of some men, while the surviving wife walk away free.

HonNL:
Queen Elizabeth II's mother, Queen Elizabeth the Queen Mother died, aged 101 years old in 2002.

Her lying in State took place at the same place, WestMinister Hall.

Longevity runs in their family.

miccoy:
Madam that is full of wisdom! Quote any law that states there is rape in marriage in Nigeria.

Is it not a shameful thing for a wife to open her and say her husband raped her?!

If he beats you, that one na domestic violence. Agreed! But rape, haba! It's his conjugal right.

Rape is not "his conjugal right", if sex has become forceful in a marriage.....the best option is to end it as soon as possible because deep resentment has set in. Spouses' lives have been ended because of it, some of the perpetrators are facing their prison terms while many are going scot-free (I know some of them).

He has ruined his name for life.

HRprof:
No need to this long episode! What you called adultery has been in practice for both of them before they got married. They did not marry as a virgin. Your definition of adultery could be different from what bible or quora called it.
Female prisons who killed their husband because of cheating are those who don't believe that men are wayad to cheat before they go into marriage when the reality done oin them they couldn't bear the emotional damage and result in killing their partner.
The most important thing is that if God bless you with a good husband who respect you and able to fulfil his obligations as a husband. Leave the cheating between him and his God if you can not take it then leave the marriage. Most women go as far monitoring their husband to find out if he is cheating, what do you expect to see Even pastors are not exempted in this

False, most in the prison are those who reached their threshold of tolerance and the infidelity being rubbed on their faces, not those who thought their husbands were angels.

Enough of the "wayad" theory, God did not wire anyone to be promiscuous as He is not an amateur electrician.

Everyone should take personal responsibility for his or her lack of self-control, if you are comfortable with your genitals being available to just about anyone, carry it with your full chest.

Can your husband leave your cheating on him, between you and your God?

Is that even Margaret Obi's account?

Mayour11:
That's nice.

It is also important that they do aggressive awareness and education on preventive measures and make available contact details that will be swift in response in case there's any threat.

Well said.

Shebi friends from Enugu used to yab me back then because of Imo state and its obsession over autonomous communities.

HRprof:
You quote Christian bible as if there is no other religion.no in the world. Muslims are entitled to 4 wives according to their religious book.
God created Adam and eve for multiplication purpose, if he add another Eve making it 2 eve to one Adam problem go dey for garden of Eden :-)
God wayed men that way even his followers cheated including Solomon, David etc . How many women cheated in the bible ??.
If my store you said ! but in this case is his husband store so privacy is of essence in marriage ,
note I am not in support of a cheating husband but knowing the fact help us make a good home. If she leave her husband because he cheated is not a wise decision is raining every where. If is a case of domestic violets I will advise her to run like tomorrow no dey

By typing "going by the Christians' story of creation" is my acknowledgment that other religions exist and have their own story of creation.

Even in Islam that allows marrying 4 wives, Zina (adultery) is heavily frowned upon in the Quar'an.

Not only did David cheat but the first man to be recorded of his attempt at paternity fraud and despite being known as the man after God's heart, did God not punish his excesses by denying David his heart desire of building the Lord's temple?

Solomon didn't end up well, the consequence of his promiscuity was his "thirst" for variety of women turned his heart away from God and God did let him know that he would be the last king of a united Israel and upon his death, there will be rebellion against his son, Rehoboam and out of the 12 tribes of Israel that Solomon was king over, 10 tribes will be taken away from his heir and for the sake of His love for David, He would allow his son, Rehoboam to be King of the 2 remaining tribes and just about a year after Solomon's death, the revolution did happen and everywhere burst.

When the men who were even the ones having sex with the prostitute in the bible (at least I did not read she was lesbian) wanted to stone her to death, did Jesus not say "he who is without sin, should cast the first stone"? Why dem no gather liver stone am, after all God only "wired" men to be promiscuous.

The FACT is that ignoring a spouse's repeated infidelity has never been a recipe for a "good home"! You may have been socially conditioned to accept that as the "truth" but that does not make that the TRUTH!

Domestic violence is never limited to physically hitting at another but including emotionally abusing them and in this case, one's intimate partner with repeated actions that is causing them trauma.

Go visit female prisons, sit and speak with prisoners who are doing time for killing their promiscuous husbands, why they did not enjoy their "good homes' by ignoring their deceased husband's adulterous lifestyle?

Adultery is sweet wine served in poisoned chalice.

HRprof:
All men are promiscuous in nature. If every woman should know this, there will be no problem in most families. Men's cheating on their wife no be today's matter it has been there during our forefathers. Is a normal thing to men, they are wired in that way. women lets focus more on loving our kids and give them the best parenting and keep ourselves busy making money. meanwhile, if you did not visit his office you might not notice what's happening and your marriage would have been without issues. Focus more on taking care of your kids as far as his a caring husband and he doesn't punch his responsibility on you while spending on another woman.

Why did God "punish" Adam by creating only one woman to be with him in the garden of Eden, going by the Christians' story of creation?

Who "wired" men that way?

If man was "wired" to be promiscuous, then why is adultery regarded as sin?

If in the days of your forefathers, twins were killed as an abomination....do your community still do that today?

A married man sleeping around causes no problem to his wife and children but the wife not accepting his infidelity as his "right" is what causes problem in the family?

If you own a store where you only drop by every Saturday and have a salesgirl there throughout the week, then you drop by on a Wednesday, only to meet your shop locked and your salesgirl has gone gallivanting, does it make sense to blame you for going there on a Wednesday as against your usual Saturdays?

EkelediliBuhari:
Side chick saves lives

Synonym; Adultery saves lives.

Commendable.

Helpout12345:
I agree with you. It's not worth celebrating and emulating.

And @the bolded, in addition to mediocrity, we should stop celebrating bad practices in the name of being "woke".

Should the man say he is no longer going to see her family but willing to play his role as the baby daddy .....mental health crisis loading!

Corridon:
I should be telling you that. You are the only one who has been disgracing yourself with dumb and stupid questions that I have to pity you and step in. I repeat again, if you can't help the OP then STFU and stop adding to his pains. Fool.

Eyah, I hear "worse" daily...so, continue and please don't pity me.

By the way,how much have you sent him so far to register his 3 children in school and plans for January fees?

No matter how irresponsible some state governors can be, there is always at least a public primary school within walking distance in neighbourhoods especially in low income areas, where children walk to school and come back in groups. Where do the children from the low income families in OP's neighbourhood attend school, same Emene whey I know?

Corridon:
Are you that dumb or plain stupid. Didn't you see where the OP stated that public schools are far from where he is staying. If you can't help him why don't you shut up your mouth instead of embarrassing your family on a public forum.

Such outburst is one of the key reasons, internet enabled phones are not allowed in psychiatric wards, your ward nurse should be questioned.

LegendHero:
How did he convince them in 2019 to vote Buhari?

Maybe you forgot, Buhari got almost 40% of the votes in Imo in 2019.

Then how did the 5% and the dot narratives come up?

How will he convince ndi nne nne in the villages to vote for Tinubu? I am just imagining