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judetov2:
I see no case here.... did he touch her?

Public masturbation is a no case?

Are you aware such exhibitionism is psychiatric?

When arrested, he needs to be taken to the Yaba Neuropsychiatric hospital where he needs to be admitted and administered Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and offered Cognitive Behavioural Therapy .

GeneralPula:
I’m kinda surprised that a lot of people are saying 55k is nothing..

Everybody dey form audio money..

I’ve seen some families wey kids plenty wey the husband no dey even see 50k a month.

The OP's wife gets N25k monthly, which covers food for 5, baby clothings, medication, washing and bathing soaps, kerosene etc......that breaks down to N830 daily.......in today's Nigeria, how do you spread this N830 to cater for these 3 babies at once, not to talk of the parents?

Bebson007:
my own take is the money given to her is too small and u still feed frm stuffs she buys out of this small money. Get her a small job even if its 30k so she supports u and also see that its not easy.

If she gets a job now, who would take care of the triplets when she leaves home or would the firm/individual she will be working for allow her bring the triplets to work?

Toks2008:
My mum was nursing twins with older siblings that were still young and she was still doing her hairdressing business.

What sort of question are you asking? There are lots of business she can do. She can open a small business like small shop to sell provisions or food stuffs as well as other types of businesses even if she is still breastfeeding the children...

The guy is trying abeg.

Am glad you mentioned older siblings which was a plus because they served as minders even if they were minors themselves so your mum could focus somewhere else and was running her hair dressing business before the twins but a first time mother with triplets which no extra hand (at least the OP didn't mention they have). I am imagining a woman breastfeeding triplets, cleaning them up regularly, cooing them individually to sleep will effectively run a business.

Toks2008:
Why can't she find something to do at least to assist the family?

I don't understand.

Suggest what she can do with 3 babies that needs round the clock attention.

Even a psychiatrist would have difficulty diagnosng this!

Sighs...

More Mothers' Day loading!

Commendable.

As if he is being expected to admit to the misappropriation!

Well livestock is not limited to cows, Southern states can key into to get the resources for pigs, goats, rams and poultry. Wanting to venture into cows, their indigenes should be trained on best practices.

klausserklaus:
Can you expatiate more on what play therapy is? And how can one procure the services of such a person? Are they specialists or can any child psychologist do this?I might have to look around here to see who is a play therapist.

The video will give you an insight of what play therapy is about.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4ovwAdxCs0

klausserklaus:
Thank you! I was 28 when I had him. Do you think that matters?

When kids with neurodevelopmental challenges are brought in for intervention, the attending specialist during the history taking session is very likely to ask the age of the father when the child was conceived because studies have given insights on how "old sperms" are more likely to lead to adverse outcomes for a child, neurodevelopmentally.

ediko5:
The truth is crystal clear.
The dad hates her baby daddy either because he's a Yoruba or disabled or for being both.

The baby daddy himself has a reputation here on Nairaland!

@klausserklaus, alongside the need to involve a speech-language pathologist as it has been suggested earlier, also get the professional help of a child psychologist who is skilled in Play therapy (sadly, we have few certified play therapists in Nigeria).

Your son needs play therapy sessions where he is free to explore in a non-directive way as it is evidence based that play is a child's natural means of communication and there is so much in your son that he wants to express. That is why Lego toys is being used by specifically trained play therapists to help autistic kids with social communication deficits and the results are amazing!

Newoldme:
Understand,dat i disapointed him by getin pregnant,but his punishment is getin me depresed

Is your baby daddy not the same.one that went to Facebook to say he wants a wife from.his tribe, which you are certainly not?

The fact is that your family of origin is toxic and going by the shenanigans your baby daddy displays here on Nairaland, it is like going from.frying pan to fire, you are not better off with him because you know deep dowm.you are "marrying yourself" because he even came here on Nairaland to raise funds for your bride price, is that not even a waving red flag?

You know by the tradition of where you come from, those kids belongs to your father until your baby daddy comes with his family to do the required traditional rites of marrying you.

You have been advised severally in different threads but it seens you are so fixated on wanting to continue with the baby daddy that has not made you grow as a person.

It is your life, your decision.

Free fish!

neutralmind:
If I may ask what state do you reside?

I'm in Lagos. Maybe the Lagos state ministry of education should borrow a thing or two from your state.

Public schools in Lagos teach Yoruba language, that am very certain and I know back then there were Igbo language teachers in many secondary schools for the junior clasess, don't know if it was sustained.

The private schools are of a different ball game!

But in all, the transmission and maintenance of mother tongue is the primary responsibility of parents and they must be intentional about it.

Despite being born and raised in Lagos, Yoruba was the most prominent language around while growing up but my parents made sure that no matter our proficiency in it alongside the English language, they must not be spoken in our house as the Igbo language was the only language allowed for communication. So unconscioudly we became good at switching to Igbo when we got home and today, am so happy we didn't lose that heritage and with confidence I communicate so easily in Igbo language with some.of its dialects to boot!

What a Country!

The North is.giving off the feel of Somalia.

Increasing Nigeria's problems.

Oluromantic:
You just showed even you a man has incomplete understanding about this issue

Oya Dr. Oluromantic, PhD (Marriage and Family Psychology) share your complete understanding about this issue make I read.

That is no excuse as the money still belongs to Deltans, what stops setting up a process where people impacting projects are identified,.for example renovations of selected public primary schools across the 25 local government areas of the state without the state government soley awarding the contracts but a tripartite of the UK's Department for International Development (DFID,), the Federal government and the Delta state government so that the children can enjoy conducive learning environment, what Ibori and his successors have denied them.

Lycanowner:
Ma, what do you mean by outgoing? I have a budget for me, but what about her? How do i fix her budget into the monthly income?

Both.of you need to sit down and see ways she can earn an income.

Coughing....

PuZZyNegro:
The surviving son is married with children and they're all living in the same house. The case of inheritance is no longer a problem as there are too many males now.

Sadly, the surviving son does not have what it takes to take care of his nephews and nieces.

The mother was doing that before her sudden death.

So in all, he has 3 nieces and 3 nephews? The oldest being 25 years old while the youngest is about 10 years old.

One a brighter side, I feel your grand aunt died happy with the number of children and grandchildren she left behind as the once quiet compound became bubbling with children running around despite how their conception came about because tradition did support it.

@PuZZyNegro, where is the surviving son of your grand aunt's wife? Being an acceptable practice back then, that son has the right to inherit because your grand aunt married his mother in the name of her late husband and the children by the wife bears the man's name.

Many communities in igboland practiced it before Christainity influenced the abandonement of such practice. Even many communities in East Africa practice it.

studentofTruth:
Okay, thank you.

You are welcome.

studentofTruth:
Is hammock sold in Nigeria?

It is sold on Jumia.

studentofTruth:
I believe it can be helpful in sleep initiation.

But the way it's curled up, won't it cause body pains?

How much is it? I may have to try it too. Just last week, I spent 10k on an experiment, but since then, I haven't had any refreshing sleep — not even one!

Proper hanging distance is key, so you don't fold up in it.

Also Ball Blanket works, don't know if it is sold in Nigeria, you can google it.

studentofTruth:
Does it work?

How effective is it for difficulty in falling back to sleep, maintenance insomnia, and early wakefulness?

It does work!

God knows all.