₦airaland Forum

Mistaken identity...... hmm

Every family has what works for them though I grew up seeing my father being the one going to get the gas refilled before it shifted to my older brothers. Personally, I feel buying from a credible gas refill shop that offers home delivery service is the best option rather than physically going to do it and that has been it for us for the past 8 years.

jasent:
I don't knw why she brings pastor into this,this a case of emotional instability/depression..Tell her to visit any psychiatric hospital and ask for a clinical psychiatrist.

Nah, e neva reach psychiatric hospital. She needs to see a clinical/counseling psychologist who should conduct a depression screening and score it, if the result points to clinical depression that is where the psychiatrist comes in for medication which should be combined with talk therapy.

Inspiring.

Very careless of them, who goes switching off things in a hospital without being a competent staff?

Artiiclebeast:
The way this Alex my man sabi hype himself ehn

If he doesn't hype himself, who would?

Kriss216:
She needs a therapist not a pastor.

If she's a friend and you truly want to help, don't just sit at the phone and be telling her what to do and what she needs, reach out to her.. Visit her and help get a therapist for her.

Don't wait till she kick bucket, then you'll fly down, and even buy aseobi and start shedding unnecessary tears.

Well captured, she needs a therapist who would professionally help her release repressed emotions and cognitively restructure as that is where Cognitive Behavioural Therapy will help her a lot in addressing her depressed state.

Based on Nigeria's reality, it is like chasing whirlwind but the painful thing is that when the dad becomes drained, broke and sick, OP and his siblings will be preached unto to forgive and go take care of a prodigal father. Such is what influenced my term paper Cultural Subsidization of Dead Beat Parenting in my undergraduate's Family Therapy module

"All Lives Matter"

techtechh:
Please let her go. If it was just one family that don’t like you it could be another story. What’s er father’s opinion about it. Racist are very dangerous, especially the ones who are vocal about it even in your present. They are even orchestrate your death to protect their daughter depending on the country laws.

Go to where you feel loved

It is not just racists but also tribalists as we have in Nigeria, we also have people from the same tribe who discriminate against one another when it comes marriage because of some beliefs.

Tales by moonlight.

"He pleaded guilty to the three counts and thereby admitted to the conversion of an aggregate sum of about N24 billion to his personal use".....

Firstnebo:
Yes my dear. Where do you practice?

Outside Nigeria.

Touching.

SOJOSEPH:
She should be charged for attempt murder immediately please

She cannot be charged for attempted murder, was any weapon found on her?

coputa:
last december,during one end of year party held for children and was air in NTA,the children were told to greet their friends and love one's,do you know that 80% of the children greeted only their mother's. Men should wake up to the antics of the women folks.,they should reap the fruit of their labour.

It is not antics but intentional parenting from fathers is needed. I believe you know there are kids who make effort to stay awake so they can have supper with their dads because they look forward to the joy it evokes. There are things those fathers have been doing that have developed secured attachment. Bond with your child from birth, sing while carrying them as your singing voice registers in their minds, roll on the floor with them, make time to participate in their feeding time etc. No matter how a man is so busy, he should make out time to emotionally bond with his children in their formative years, once those formative years have passed by, it becomes game over as you will have adult children who are disconnected from you.

lala45:
[My dear,the woman is not mentally sick anything, she has seen hell in that marriage,she knows everything she's doing, the family doesn't want to say the truth. quote author=Mindlog post=90918557]There is more to this story. There is a Psychiatric Hospital in the state, in Nawfia if am not mistaken.

I understand because I feel the family was trying to deflect focus from the marital relationship by substituting it with the mental health story.

Firstnebo:
They handle people like mad people.

We need more psychotherapists, not just psychiatrists

I understand your direction because I trained as one and also work in a psychiatric hospital as they are patients who have been brought in but ended up not being medicated by the psychiatrist because what they needed was psychotherapy.

LadySarah:
Op you are a liar. Mention your village and let me prove you wrong.

It has been abolished. If you and your pseudo friend believes a human like you is Osu then your existence, education, travels are wastes.

Nonsense

Don't call OP a liar because subtly it is still a factor for some families and one of the things they "investigate" about families when issue of marriage comes up, even families you believe are enlightened.

It is odd for a woman to go buy a coffin on her own, there is more to this story and feel the mental health story as a means of cover up but if they insist, there is a Psychiatric Hospital in the state, in Nawfia if am not mistaken.

Beyond the monetary, some fathers feel lonely without even being widowers in their old age even where the grown up children make material provisions but emotionally disconnected because their fathers did not emotionally bond with them during their formative years.

I recall attending the burial of a Catholic Priest's father some years back, while delivering the oration the Reverend Father broke down in tears while other Priests held him. He recounted how despite them being a poor family how their father struggled to raise them, every evening took out time to follow up with their academics despite being a Prison warder and his directions helped him and his siblings not to go rogue as was normal with children growing up in the barracks. How he led prayers every morning in their home and always encouraging them that no matter what they were going through he believed his children' hard work through education would turn things. That he had lost hope of sitting for his form 5 (SSCE) as the exam fees was not paid up to the last day of payment but the father went to sell the bicycle he rides to work and gave him the money and told him as long as he was alive he must complete his secondary school education in order to stand the chance of being admitted into a seminary to train to become a Priest he had always dreamt of. The father passed on 14 years after he was ordained a Priest in Italy and he really pampered the father while he was alive.

Sighs.....So any local can enter any embassy/ high commission to display his madness? Were there no security?

Discrimination within a tribe but they would be screaming black lives matters!

Behaving like the Nigeria Police Force that would be shouting "whey dem, whey dem" after armed robbers have taken their time to perpetuate crime and left the scene!

How could the High Commission not physically resist the demolition?

On top gambling?

Heartfelt appreciation to all the fathers and father-figures who inspire us to #AchieveMore in life. #HappyFathersDay.

Glad no life was lost. Area H is close by, police case.

LLMG:
May the deserved candidate and people's choice win.

Sadly, people's choice tend to be secondary in most elections in Nigeria!

Hilarious!

Faithful007:
It has been attempted. There are a lot of tragic and paranormal events regarding that.

Please do share such events.

Both APC and PDP are presently oiling the machinery that would be deployed to massively rig the forthcoming election.....may the "better rigger win".

@REB3L, what is the name of the university?