₦airaland Forum

Brandonx:
True. I once met someone who probably due to health issues couldn't breastfeed her baby.
The baby really wanted to suck
Breast milk is not even sweet compared to formula.

For babies, it is not about the taste but the suckling motion because at that stage of their psychosexual development they derive pleasure from such oral stimulation.

The man certainly needs to spend some time in a psychiatric facility.

Not surprised.

Sixfeetbelle:
If the video was made by someone else, a random visitor in the hospital, would your stand change?

The security personnel of a hospital should not allow a regular or random visitor to record the video in the first place. Both health care workers and visitors (regular and random) have no right to record people without their consent. It is WRONG irrespective of who recorded it!

Sixfeetbelle:
There's a video, if I'm not mistaken.

Asides professional whatever, it hardly changes anything as anyone else could have made the video. In that case, would his argument stand?

There is nothing like "professional whatever".
when it comes to such because it violates patients' privacy. What if it had led to physical confrontation where the 2 women got to hurt each other or damage hospital equipment, who becomes liable?

Sixfeetbelle:
I ain't demanding nothing. Only that I don't see the use of chastising the midwife in this case as if she's the man or his side chic or his wife, even. People video more horrible things and hardly get called out for it when the matter on ground hasn't been dealt with. Example, video of Man confronting his wife about a paternity fraud.

This move to berate the midwife is a classical act of deflection. I won't see you do such if the case was reversed just like in the example I stated above.

This is no gender war. If she stands before the disciplinary committee of the Nursing and Midwifery Board, what will be her excuse for the action?

Deflection? Nah, am not applying any defenses mechanism here. She as a health care practitioner is DUTY BOUND to not to record nor share such content!

I work in a psychiatric facility and you think I don't on a daily basis experience situations that once I record and upload, it won't go viral? That people record and share horrible content, does not justify the midwife's action. The big question is, what was her "noble" intention that motivated her to record and upload such content? Was she taught during her training that such was okay?

Sixfeetbelle:
Of course. That's the line you'd use. That's the only thing you'd take notice of. What about the scumbag that's cheating on his wife? What do you have to say about that?

So you are demanding I share your anger towards the man? Do what I have to say about the infidelity, child outside marriage, count? It is up to the three to sort out the mess.

I still stand by my earlier position regarding the unethical behaviour of the mid wife, what did she stand to gain from recording and sharing the video? If she jam lawsuit, after paying for the violations, you think another hospital would easily employ her?

"The video was posed by a mid wife".....So very unethical! The husband, wife and the mistress, any of them have the right to sue the midwife and the hospital she works for , after which she would realize that confidentiality is a professional requirement.

Well captured.

Nice one.

EastanPower:
You can say whatever you like.

This is real and I am looking for matured people not your type

EastanPower:
Lalasticlala, what advise do you have for me?

One does not need to have a doctorate in Psychology to know you had to come up with a fake story to draw attention to yourself and would get your high seeing your concoction getting on to the front page.

If truly you have an issue with your marital sex life, you and your wife should go see a professional marriage therapist and discuss it, not seeking attention here.

Iyanu6000:
Thank you but one of the requirements of the school is UCAS should be 120 points.

For Postgraduate studies?

akaahs:
Please op allow the man be if he has paid everything on ur sister. U re unnecessarily paining urself and ur brothers. Face ur life and allow him take care of his responsibilities if ur mum insist on seeing them then let her go talk to him in a subtle manner.

Based on what the OP wrote, the man is not living with his children.

"Meanwhile the first born that is staying with his street uncle he also order that man not to let any of us to see him........He says that those kids are in the house of the woman that used to take care of them in the boarding school"

Where systems work, it is either those children are living under the same roof with him or they would be taken away from him. Why give out his children who are minors to persons not even related to them so that he doesn't have to be bothered nor be physically involved in their day to day living. Their mother is now deceased, why outsourcing the parenting he owes them?

Relaxation galore for those who can

bestmutiu2019:
he says that those kids are in the house of the woman that used to take care of them in the boarding school

Your family needs to sit down with your brother-in-law and see to it that you all resolve issues that are hanging.

Outsourcing maternal care is not to best for the well-being of those children, do also seek the advice of the family department of your state's ministry of social welfare (or whatever it is called) and your mother must also sign and video recorded that she WILL NEVER get the twins inflicted with tribal marks, those 3 kids also have a right in this circumstance (being the kids' maternal blood relatives) to also relate with you folks as their mother dying does not mean relationship with their mother's side be severed.

Sighs.

bukatyne:
See?

Marriage to her answers all issues.

Instead of you to pray that your dad would so love your mom that she would not have time for pettty things, you are praying she is dragging front seat with your wife.

Ire o!

Reality is that most women whose voices are very loud in their son's/daughter's homes, do/did not have a healthy marriage themselves and do find "validation" in being a visible third person in their child's marriage.

@OP, now schools have closed down for months, where are the twins staying? I am just trying to wrap my head around a boarding school that accepts 2 year olds! I have a feeling the kids are with a female relative of his as he does not have the capacity to be a caregiver.

donstan18:
Lucky woman!! 3 girls and a boy.

It would have been useless without a boy.

So If it were all girls, God's blessings would have been useless so says a fellow mere mortal!

doggedfighter:

When family sells properties and valuables to send you abroad.
They will kill you with pressure.

Even those who didn't contribute a kobo or even words of encouragement also do feel entitled.

Jsholly:
Please I need advice on which European countries I can migrate to with high possibility of getting something doing there and less stressed in getting the country visa.i have #1million now to do the Visa processing.

With the amount stated, you are setting yourself up to be scammed by "agents".

t00dugged:
thank you for something he didn't ask for? Na market wey person prize e go buy but in this case Mr Akin nor even smell market not to talk of to prize am .


Besides,even if Mr Akin asked the artists to draw him ,Mr Akin reserves the right to like it or not. If a customer not liking his art work will deflate his self confidence ,then the artists is not ready,a good artists will see it as a challenge to improve on his passion for a better delivery.

Yes, he didn't ask for it while the artist was aspiring to get some money from the art work which didn't meet Mr. Akin's standard and has every right to reject it, commissioned or not but our humanity do also beckons on us to convey our displeasure in such circumstance to encourage the artiste not by paying him for the work but constructively give a feedback that would fire him up to see his flaws and improve on his skill.

WISD:
Can you allow your wife who divorce you because you are poor take care of your child?After getting married to another man who richer than you?

It is not about "allowing" but who the court gave custody of the child to and more over the ex-husband will still be expected to provide for the child, making payments on a monthly basis as determined by the court.

A thank you would have been more appropriate and DM the artist over his not liking it rather than openly deflating his self-confidence.

Shame does not exist in the mind of the regular Nigerian politician.

This lady is really pulling her weight.

Dangrace01:
how can no be a complete sentence

You lose the assertiveness when you begin to explain why you are saying NO, giving the other person the opportunity to whittle your resolve.

Personally, I have internalized it and learnt how not to feel guilty when I say NO to whatever/ whoever I can't say YES to.

If their own biological brother who is also resident outside Nigeria have given up on them, why continue to enable them?

So both father and mother are below 18?

Today will end in smiles and tears.

EbonyCy:
Which kind yeye course did I study....anatomy has finished me....u hardly find anatomy in any job vacancy be it public or private in Nigeria...
Now look at these ��...no recognition of an anatomist�

You can always switch career path.