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Igbojihadist:
that is the problem because no 1 will believe you no matter what

So the best option is to be in a position where you don't have to explain yourself before a judge hoping that you will be believed.

sassysure:
It's an interesting read indeed.

What caught my attention is that people that are into BDSM are bound to be rapists.
And ladies loved Christian Grey.

(BDSM novels are hot cakes.
The question now is this, do ladies love when force is used on them? Do they secretly crave it and lead the man on for it?
If a woman gets wet while reading hard-core BDSM or watching it, that's the problem. A man who loves BDSM should look for a lady who like that instead of consenting to rape. No excuse. So likewise a lady.
We are still very young in sexual expression)
Sadists,substance abusers, paedophile, paraphilliac etc then under paraphilliac u see people who had abused childhood. I think that's what @op is trying to say. Just part of it.
In all, it's a cankerworm in our society and we have to redefine how we train our children especially our male child in words and deeds.
We don't even have psychiatric Drs or seasoned psychologists that will research on this bearing in mind how our culture influences these behaviours.

May look into it for my dissertation.

newoffer:
... worm don worry u die. As u take remember Benbella... u be Okoko or Orile pikin. What about Dis Ruzu guy. Na aphrodisiac herbal dem sabi

Men themselves should be the leading advocates for the criminalization of sexual abuse of the boy child, so that boys can be bold enough to come forward to report sexual abuses and perpetrators seen to be arrested and prosecuted.

Most times, it is the males themselves that make boys who have been sexually abused to feel effeminate because they dare to open up about the abuse. They make these boys think and feel they are not the victims rather it proves that they are "men" and some of these boys rationalize the abuse and go on later in life to brag about being a "stud" right from their childhood!

Sad. May her soul rest in peace.

kuuljay:
We should be talking of cure, even if na herbal,where are all those Dr igoedor goko cleanser tradomedical practitioners that their Agbo cures everything

Or Dr. Benbella

Igbojihadist:
oga there is this very girl that when ever she visit me she continue touching me even as i will try to avoid her, till my joystick stand up then she will tell me she is going and she will leav what if i didnt control myself and rape her

Before the Judge in the court, can you use as your defence that her touching aroused you and she left you hanging thus you had to rape her to find release.... will that get you an acquittal?

Romangalactic:
Excerpt

Silence confirms position thus reason one should look out for non verbal cues

Romangalactic:
So on the subject of who you are and knowing yourself, do you have an intimidating personality or not?

After going through the DISC personality tests, PTS and Johari Window assessments throughout my undergraduate studies, I can confidently tell you that my personality is not dwelling within "intimidating personality or not".

Just as sounds/noise can be intimidating, so can silence.

Romangalactic:
You and I know this is a big lie,but okay.

You alone believe it is a lie.

In your mind you have done a social experiment!

Romangalactic:
Nairalanders who believe they have strong personalities and should be recognized for it include:

LordKO
Amanee
Plead
Capslocked
Ariza
Mindlog

Nah, I need no recognition on either side as I am who I am irrespective of your perception.

Romangalactic:
Including my name was deliberate to get the exact reaction most of you have provided. As a staff of a psychiatric hospital, one would think you have mastered how to detect mind games and not be a victim of it.

Mind games?

One of the patients climbed the roof of one of the buildings and sat there singing a reggae tune, told him to get down and join others at the lawn and he said he wanted to get such reaction from me!

My responsibility is to let him know he has no business seated on that roof.

shadelek:
Some of these rape victims have to be blamed.

No rape victim should be blamed, the criminal here is the rapist who feels entitled to violate a fellow human being.

Sexual offenders are presently on the front burner.

Ariza:
I don't know which I find funnier, the "action" or the "reactions".


Intimidating personality online? Biko no be the same read, comment and logout everybody dey do again?




Pansophist come and laugh o

You captured my thoughts.

The OP made sure to sell himself as an "intimidating personality" and those he feels uncomfortable with as wannabes.

He doesn't surprise me as many of my patients in the psychiatric hospital where I work often display delusion of grandeur.

Richdee1:
Are u in the UK??

No, hoping to be there come September.

BouharryArtikou:
Care givers earn minimum wage.
STENON couldn’t have earned that much as a caregiver. She is a teacher, she is proudly a professional teacher and she flaunts it with dignity. Correct girl.

Hoping I can start out with a part time job as a Mental Healthcare Assistant and move ahead from there.

arhyur:
Hi guys, please has anyone studied and lived in chester? Someone told me that there are not enough jobs in Chester and that it’s a quiet place. She further advised me to pick another school as my husband may likely to go out of town to work which may cost more cost transport and all
I would like to know if there are plenty jobs and how life is in general thanks

University of Chester is one of the schools I got offers from (Family and Child Psychology) though not yet decided till July as the program starts in October. It may be a quiet place but personally, it will suit me.

akaahs:
Born that thing babe. Most people commenting are saying it out of experience. U can never be too busy for the one U love, I'm currently facing similar situation as d op. But resolve never to ask her to come my place again, this is the lady I engaged ooo. Im sure she is cheating. 99.99% sure, I will frustrate her and see how far she ll go.

Why do you keep frustrating yourself with negative emotions, the thoughts of her cheating on you when you can easily end the relationship and have your peace of mind?

And that same law is pushing some women to stab their husband, nobody wins. There is need for communication between spouses because it is not just about physical release.

LawBreaker:
Is it a good idea to take a child to a motherless babies home to raise the child for you and when she is of age, you will come and take the child.

Where is the mother of the child? This same question would be asked at any motherless babies home.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Please you all should try and convince her to ger a lawyer let them see if there is any case or thing they can do.It won't be right if she worked for it with her husband only for her to be denied of such benefit and suffer a life that should not be hers

Even if she didn't work for it with the late husband, those children have rights to inherit what their late father left behind and not his mother nor siblings.

The painful reality is that 10 years from now, we will still have such situations where a man dies, his family of birth takes over his properties, throwing his nuclear family out to face the elements because many men have been indoctrinated into believing that even in marriage their wives are outsiders.

While trying to prove the wife has no right, the children become victims who struggles to find their footing while the "insiders" who happens to be their fathers' siblings and at times parents live in comfort off the man's wealth.

This is super story! So even the men died of "illegal abortions"?

famousboi:
Hello fellow Nairalanders,I have an issue concerning my relationship and need your intellectual opinions about it,I met a girl in 2018 n I asked her out, and she accepted my proposal, I'm a final year student in Uni and also a fashion designer while she just concluded her OND preparing for her HND,ever since we started dating I'm the only one that put something on the table coz she has no source of income expect her mum,so she also learning fashion designer at abeokuta where she's stay with her sister but recently things have been somehow tight for me financially which is affecting our relationship esp. When it comes to me spending on her thou necessary bills,im just tired of her not having anything done on her own I don't want to be blindfolded by love coz I'm afraid she finds her way out eventually thou she love me now and I do too, please should trust our growth or find my way out, these little expenses is affecting my financial life.

Just concluded her OND, preparing for her HND, learning fashion design......this is not a representation of someone who has no positive direction in life.

You are also in your final year in school, if you insists on being in a relationship why not look for a working class lady so she can also "put something on the table".

NoLotty7:
@op,have you heard about a disorder called AUTISM?check it up on google,it maybe he is suffering from this human developmental disorder,my thought.

I guess you meant neurodevelopmental disorder.

Squillaci:
Mind if I ask?
Do you guys administer legit IQ tests here in Nigeria?

I am presently working outside Nigeria but there should be accredited places offering Psychometric testing in Nigeria.

Galactico4ever:
Tomorrow now they will blame the kid for beating up his father

On a serious note, the man is not mentally OK.

ValCon888:
Why are you waiting for ventilators from Trump?
Why can't you buy your own ventilators?
Almajiri government that's always waiting for handouts.

Begging from foreigners while misappropriating resources at home.

Squillaci:
Lol. Soon intellectual disability will deemed inappropriate, as was once idiot, imbec1le, slowpoke etc.

Well it will be unethical for me as a professional to address a client as an idiot, imbec.ile or slowpoke after conducting a mental status examination.

Squillaci:
Mental retrdation definitely means an IQ below 70.
Learning disabilities can be ish like dylexia, dyscalculia, etc., which do not necessarily mean low intelligence.

Not talking about definitions, just letting you know that you can't use "mental ret@rdation" in mental health circles as it is now deemed inappropriate and offensive. It has been replaced with intellectual disability, at least that is my field.