ubunja:
that's a bad thing. Men must be afraid of you and must never feel so much at ease around you that they feel they can say anything to you. You need to rework on your Lady mystique. Your femininity.

But these are concepts I will expand on more on my upcoming writeup The Female Alpha.

Hmmmn....I will be waiting @bolded cos guys feel so free to tell me stuffs too.

Tinyemeka:


She is. Look at her DP.

P.S. The fact that the dude has lowered his guard and has decided to open up his self to you, doesn't quite mean he's also lowered his respect for you. I don't agree that "I feel I can talk to you about anything", should be taken as a bad sign.

The indecent exposures are extreme though. Totally wrong of them.

Gbam!!!!

theadams:



I have this female friend of mine. I don't know why, but I really feel safe talking to her and she's someone I can pour whatever is on my mind to. I think you give those guys some kind of vibe.

This happens with me. I just find myself being confided in by my close make friends about ANYTHING & EVERYTHING! They tell me stuffs even their male best friends, bros, long time friends etc don't know.

To be fair on them though, that's how I like my friendships to be. Deep & trusting. Anyone that isn't ready to give me & receive those from me as well, we don't usually see eye to eye.

MissRaine69:

And what colours are those I wonder? This is on another level?

Pink, yellow, green, orange etc.

EazyFrenzy:

Big head cannot make heaven, there no place for fools in heaven.

The bolded cracked me up!

EazyFrenzy:

Big head cannot make heaven, there no place for fools in heaven.

The bloded cracked me up!

I know WE will turn the whole thing upside down.

donstan18:
They are all the same, just that some are just hiding under the shield of being celebrities.

Not even their president is innocent of the ongoing brutality towards Nigerians in their country.

MrBrownJay1:


But bro...a single man can knack as many single women he desires to, without having to cheat on anyone or without the babe having to cheat on anyone....these cheating demons have got to gooooo

How will you know they are not cheating on anyone with that single guy?

internationalman:

Maybe I just like looking for your trouble alone.

Well done. You have found it!

internationalman:

Don't hide behind native language..

come-on speak what I can understand

Alright...trouble maker
There you go! I have translated it.

internationalman:

OK; says me

Onye nsogbu

internationalman:

be serious for once

I'm serious o. The question was "says who? "

internationalman:

what's the question

"Says who?"

internationalman:

Above 30, not married and not having sex spells weird all over it..

Still haven't answered my question

internationalman:

Unless you are a reverend father/Sister or an aspiring one, keeping yourself above 30 is weird.

Says who?

internationalman:

29 and never had sex before? damn..

better marry on time.

29 is small. There are a lot more people who are more than 30 & still keeping themselves.

It's absolutely commendable in this time

lollybizzu:
Those wey don masturbate their life finish too dey claim say they never have sex before, they're waiting until marriage, and so on...
Is okay o...

God is watching.

My own opinion tho, no sex before marriage relationship is the best even tho it may not be easy for both parties; especially when they are sexually compatible, worse when one has a high libido for it. From my little experience, I was a virgin until 29yrs of age and till today, it still pains me I gave it out cheaply despite the moral standards I uphold.

Sorry

MissRaine69:

Unmanly trousers?

You missed COLOURS . Unmanly trouser colours.

*Typing in abbreviated forms(hate that with passion)

*wearing of skinny & crazy jeans and unmanly trouser colours(turns me off seriously)

*bad breath and being comfortable with it(yuck)

This guy just echoed the same words I told a friend when we discussed this issue just days ago. He was telling me that the reason why men keep side chics after marriage is because the side chic dresses well for him, has time for sex ALL THE TIME for him, gives him attention, generally treats him well. He continued by saying that he wishes all women can behave like a side chic to keep their man. He said that will reduce the rate of infidelity. Well, I managed to listen and allow him finish. Then I started telling him:


1) a man who wants to stray will stray! If you like, be a sex machine for him to use ANYTIME, it won't be enough to stop a promiscuous man or even the average African man who confesses that it's in their DNA & their right to cheat.

2) why won't side chics look glamorous, have time for sex all the time, are always at your beck & call? Do they juggle cooking, washing, market duties, school run, generally tending to the husband & the children as most wives do? Do they? And considering the fact that a majority of these wives don't receive domestic help from anyone including the husband.

3) the most important: why do the women ALWAYS have to worry about keeping their men or their men straying? Are they babies? Are they animals that should be kept on a leash? Why will two ADULTS be in a relationship & one has to CONSTANTLY stress about the other person 'uping & leaving'? Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Everyone should be responsible for their decisions & actions and not be parasitic to the other. Besides, who says only men should be 'kept'? Can't women be 'kept' too? Do husbands EVER worry about 'keeping' their wives?

4)if husbands put as much work or even little work as they expect from their wives towards making their marriages work,....you know the answer.


Ponder on these!

chenzen:
Yes. and I am being truthful about it.

Wow....congratulations!

Majority of the men on this thread need a psych evaluation based on their comments.

carter009:
Lolz, Missjoy, please take it easy on this matter.

chenzen:
u expect to understand life the hard way rather than doing the needful... the hurting part can be avoided if u made the right choice. if u dont equip urself with the right tools then expect ur decisions to be affected.

Do you ALWAYS make the right choice?

Phenomenal16:
..shebi guys want to be on control
They should control everything nah

Exactly!

chenzen:
would you intentionally walk into a toxic relationship? huh?

That's not what she's saying. Sometimes you don't get to choose who comes your way and what good or evil intentions they have to offer until you get close & deep with them.

And truly, sometimes those bad people end up bringing out the best in you. You may never know what you are capable of until you are faced with some people/ situations

carter009:
You ehhhh, always looking for a way to bash guys,, even when a girl posted it....

Truth is truth, no matter who said it.

Even as a lady myself, ladies like that sicken me.

Surprisingly, guys like them like that. Don't mind them saying otherwise here.

Tina26:
its about reality . Most men expect what they saw at their homes. Marriage is based on patriarchy. Either endure or don't marry . See an example https://www.nairaland.com/5360979/husband-boldly-cheating-me

Hmmmm....

Tina26:
they endured all manner of bullshit in form of cheating and abuse

And is that a good or bad thing?

Tina26:
truth hurts. todays women are not willing to take what their mothers took

And what please did their mothers take?