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CaveAdullam:
Men are the problem, hence, more than 70% of divorce is initiated by women.

Men are the problem, hence, a man can unknowingly commit to a woman and raise three kids of 30+ in age and later found out that he was not their biological father.

Men are the problem, hence, paternity fraud. Men should have nailed their wives to the cross and go fvck them there.

Men are the problem, hence, their wives cheats and fvck around as they travel from states to states in order to source money for the family.

Men are the problem, hence, nice guys are useless to women.

Men are the problem, hence, the only way a woman can destroy a man's reputation in seconds is through false sexual accusations.

Men are the problem, hence, women are more neurotic regardless of what biology says.

Men are the problem, hence, the only way a woman can reciprocate a man's kindness is to friendzone him.

Men are the problem, hence, the 40% of unreported domestic abuses suffered by men. If women are the victims, men are the problem. But if men are the victims "me, my father and grandfather" are the cause.

Men are the problem, hence, women betray them at the last lap all because he wants a happily ever after.

In fact, "men are useless, scums and bast*rds".

The world will be at peace once men are neutered and begin to serve a living God in heaven.

"Men are scums".

Thank you.

Shit happens to everyone. But if he let's the fact that his wife cheated on him or any other sh#t that happened consume him it might influence his actions in some ways negatively, mostly. Then he becomes a problem. First to himself.

Tonnyray:
Truth bro.
Pristine truth.
Men, like GOD that we are patterned after are creators. Women conform to whatever it is we create. Whether or not women assume traditional female roles as birthers, nurturers home-makers and keepers will always be a function of the quality and caliber of males in that clime.
The cliché "stay Taliban" that rules the airwaves here simply highlights the ideals of a society where unadulterated patriarchy has unrestrained expression. The question is, do you think Afghan women are really any different from say American women? I laugh in Swahili. They are so NOT different. They have merely conformed to raw power of masculine might that is ruthless in its expression. The exact opposite of which we see manifesting in Western "so-called civilized" societies. In the former we have strong men, in the latter we have pussified men. The difference becomes as clear as crystal. No one is excusing adult bad behavior. We men are the creators, history alone gives credence to that. Women only use what we create. The social ambience to be traditional women with impeccable values expected of wives, mothers and daughters will be created by a preponderance of strong virile men of strength and character, much the same way as the pandemic of pussified, emasculated, irresponsible, purposeless males ruled only by social media-fuelled lusts and avarice has given rise to the scourge of cancerous females we are saddled with in modern day society.

It is true. Women are birthers, home makers, nurturers. It is blueprinted into them since their birth. What we see in Afghan is not the effect of positive masculinity but oppression stemmed from religious dogma. If you have time you could check the book "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover" . It is about the masculine archetypes. One interesting archetype there is the KING. He represents the leadership qualities in all men. He is the father who runs his household well, he is the governor or the president who rules his people with wisdom and nobility. The king fertilizes and blesses the earth(on which some cultures symbolise as the feminine). He is the master, first the master of himself. When the king slacks in his duties or adapts the ways of a Tyrant (the shadow king), it shows on his domain, there would be chaos, suffering and disrespect. But when a king is strong, wise and noble the people and the land flourishes.
As men, I believe that the king energy is in all of us, though it is dominant in some than in others. We must first have mastery over ourselves before we can exert mastery over the society. I have seen homes and businesses go haywire because the leader was irresponsible. What we see in the west and Afghan are negative versions of the king archetype. The former is too weak to exert control, while the latter is brutal and rules with an iron fist.

Zabiboy:
I get your point bro...
I honestly did think about this whole scenario too some years back...
Like i always say, Everybody is a hypocrite. Me, you, our parents, children etc.. It is what it is...
The bolded is where i disagree tho, i (my opinion, i could be wrong) dont think men paying is actually the only factor that breed hoe's, so even if men stop( which i really really hope they would), Maybe a slight reduction, but yeah, they'll still detect a new weakness in men to exploit by which they can cash-out..
Also, for sure, we all have our part to play. But the question is, does this change the Bigger picture?, i mean, those in power are the main people killing the society, making men weak with their laws, making more children grow without fathers due to restrictions and stuffs...

Finally, you'll have to take away social media and technology if the world is gonna have a chance to return to what it was like back in the days.

Hmmm...
You have a strong point. But about the men in power, it is true that they are always messing up the world. They have always been since the dawn of mankind. But are we going to do? Are we going to keep dancing to their tune? It is individuals like you, I, and everyone who make up society. We cannot to a great extent control the actions of the people in power but we could control our own actions and and the way we think. I quoted someone yesterday about the importance of taking personal responsibility. What we do and what do not do has great effect.

Martinez39s:
A yahoo boy shouldn't be held responsible for his actions. It is the credulity of his victims and the corrupt politicians that are responsible for his criminality. If these weren't there, he wouldn't be a yahoo boy. That's how his argument sounds.

He should be responsible for his actions. Yes. But that is how people think. Many humans especially the fragile minded ones do not like to take responsibility for their actions and tend to give excuses for their misdeeds by looking up to bigger misdeeds that were done against them. Ask a yahoo boy why he is into internet fraud and he might mention ten corrupt politicians doing worse crimes. Why shouldn't he go into crime too? , he would ask. And we can't force him to take personal responsibility for his offense unless he decides to.

CaveAdullam:
If men are the cause of women's poor character and attitude, who then should we hold responsible for males' poor character and attitude?

Negativity feeds upon a previous negativity to grow
Hatred feeds on hatred
Mediocrity feeds on mediocrity
Like fire, evil needs evil to justify itself to grow
It's a cyclical thing
Modern day feminism won't be this strong today if there weren't men falling hands, raping women, cheating on their wives or girlfriends, domestically abusing their wives, inability to control themselves in public when they see a woman, and not chasing after greater causes but embracing mediocrity.
After the saga of the gospel singer who was battered to death by her husband many "empowered women" have now come out online to condemn marriages and encourage women to stop being submissive to their husbands.
It's the same with the redpill, if there weren't manipulative and wicked women
who suck men's money and emotion, or even 4th wave feminists out there this thread might not have existed.
So to your question:
As long as you're an adult, male or female, take responsibility for your actions first. From your waking up to your going to bed. Be watchful of your actions and reactions especially in times of pain and negativity. If women are putting up a lot of nasty behaviors around, make we no follow do our own in retaliation, think first, mind your actions. You might end up turning an innocent woman nearby into a bad person, or worse, give a already bad woman the opportunity and excuse to wreck society.

Smartb0y:
Your Statement is very very biased.

From time immemorial,majority of us men have made sacrifices,bore the burden of responsibility,hence why we have civilization today.

All I'm getting from your statement is that women should be left unaccountable.

Smh

Straight road doesn't apply anymore in this present times,I hope your naivety doesn't cost you.

Your eyes will eventually open one way or the other

I may sound biased or naive but I am only standing by what I believe. No man has all truth nor is an encyclopedia of wisdom, and we learn everyday. It is true that there are men who make sacrifices and carry the burdens of responsibilities, thumbs up to them and I encourage them. But there are also vile and irresponsible men undoing the efforts of these good men. Many are in these men are in this romance section and the society
The problem with the redpill is that it tends to portray men as innocent "victims" of feminism and womanhood. It is true that this current brand of feminism is destructive but "victimhood" is not the way. Some men today are just simply reaping the seeds they sowed, they won't tell you they had a hand in their own downfall.

I'm not saying that women should be left unaccountable for their actions but have you accounted for yourself first? Isn't it hypocrisy to point fingers against an harlot when you have lust within your own heart ?
And when I mean the straight road I'm talking about what the Christians could call righteousness or being upright. It is better to be a naive man with a clean heart and mind than one who thinks he is wise but is crooked.

The masculine is action. The feminine is reaction.
Why am I saying this?
I've observed that some of the bad habits of women(reaction) were influenced by the weakness of some men (action). There won't be hoes on the streets if there weren't men patronizing them. Girls won't be flocking to sugar daddies if there weren't men unfaithful in their marriages. OnlyFans and Pornhub thots won't be raking so much money than tech startups if there weren't men pouring their time and money into them. Your girlfriend won't have a Love Machine in her handbag if you weren't masturbating to porn (she might still though). Single mom parenting that we criticise won't exist if we as men took responsibility and be careful with our choices. Women won't be manipulating men with their bodies when there are lots of men who value character and personality over "breast and yansh".
I'm not trying to justify the sexual amoral attitudes of women nowadays but I'm saying that as men we have to check ourselves first. Sometimes we say "women did this", " women are that " but what about us? Hating women or acting blackpilled would not solving anything especially if you're financially and morally infertile.
Men are meant to create order in the society but today a lot of we guys are morally, physically, spiritually, and financially weak. A lot of 4th wave feminists and gender crazies use some of these weaknesses to justify their actions. Rather than complaining about women we should learn to take responsibilities for our own actions too and carry our cross lest we feed the all consuming power of chaos.
We have to become superior men, uphold strong values and stand for the truth (our own truth especially). If you're a frequent patron to porn don't cry if you see your girlfriend featuring in one.
There would be a lot of hoes in the name of "female empowerment" and destroying destinies at the end but you will choose to be the better man and chose to follow straight road.

Talking from experience
Being "nice" will not get you a girl. If you think a girl will just fall in love with you for only being nice and caring then you'll be disappointed. If it was so, many women would not be suffering from domestic violence in their marriages. For showing nice gestures you might get an "awww" from her and maybe a hug (rarely). She may smile and laugh at your jokes (women are better at playing nice) but don't expect her to fall for you, be your girlfriend, talk less of even having sex with you. She would put you in the friendzone position or make you her emotional pillow to cry on.
Please have a good heart and be altruistic but don't do it with the intention of pleasing some girl. It would look cute but it won't be enough to attract her because no masculine energy is being radiated.
In my university days I used to simp for girls, I would be nice and do favours for them, act gentle, listen and understand them but they always ended up dating guys who don't even perform these qualities. These got me baffled that I had to Google "why do girls prefer bad boys".

As much as I condemn crime I don't see anything wrong in organising a "pageant" in a female prison. Chidinma and the other female inmates lives are already messed up by a far margin. No sensible man would want to take any for a wife, they could remain childless and lonely for the rest of their lives. Even if they are set free, no establishment would want to employ them nor would they be able to start a business in the society, especially someone like Chidinma. Its just a one day event and it could be the only thing keeping them sane.

Sorry if i would sound cynical, but he did it for himself. I believe that no Corper just wakes up and gets moved by altruism to build a road for a rural community that does not share the same culture with him, without gaining something in return. Its very rare especially in times like this. What about his own his own community or state?
He would be the biggest benefactor of this project as he would gain the recognition that could get him connections and make him sit with kings.
Yes, NYSC is meant to be like this; a humanitarian programme meant to promote patriotism and unity amongst Nigerian youths. But today's NYSC is just a grand scheme for hiring cheap labour, so cunning that it removes every trace of patriotism from your heart when you realise that your whole "service to the Nation" is just to work in someone's establishment for peanut.

emmaodet:
We aren’t stepping up any game bro.
Enough is enough. Let us stop putting more pressure on the male child biko.
Step up game, step up game is what has landed us here today.
Before, all you need to have is a room in your family house to have a faithful woman as wife, then they said we should step up.
From family house room to renting one room face you and face me, to self contain and as if that is not enough, we have gotten to 2/3 bedroom flat now of course with the hope of having your permanent house in not so far off.
Should we talk about mobility? From legging, to having okada in early 90’s that you will be yashing women and not to a decent car, some are even selective of the car.
Dating - from coming to my room and give you Garri with groundnuts to indomie and now fast food joints like Mr Biggs.
Should I go on?
A lot. We have been stepping up for so long bro and any further stepping up will means raising the bar more and more.
The question is to what end? Why we are regularly raising the Men’s bar, we are lowering the Women’s own.
For all the modern men are passing through- trying to have a nice apartment, a good car, taking his gf to a nice date, gifts etc he is even getting a more promiscuous woman, unfaithful, more lazy and unproductive woman back.
My grandmother would be turning in her grave if she is seeing all the juicy things the modern women are getting with treatment for not even being a virgin, unfaithful, ability to pull out from a boring relationship and marriage etc.
Our grandparent have too much for too little.

When I say we should step up, I mean we should increase our value as men. I'm saying we should invest in ourselves, go to school, learn a skill, or start a business rather than chase women. No woman would point a gun to your head if you don't spend incessant money on her, if you're unhappy you chew more than you can swallow just to please a woman whom you are not betrothed to then it's your fault.
Majority of the men who come to this thread have needy tendencies and strong desires to have be in a relationship or have sex with women, they may hide such desires but most of what they say here revolves around women and dating. Lots of men come here complain because their dating life sucks, and use the redpill to console themselves.
But women are stepping up their game in order to grab the few high valued men and so therefore we men too must step up our game, not to attract women but to become wiser, wealthier, healthier and more actualized.

LutanFyah:
Nigga, take your bluepill shit outta here.

incel, step back and take some bluepills

LutanFyah:
Take your bluepill bvllshit out of here.

This isn't bluepill. This is reality as it is. Think.

We are entering (if not already in it) the "friendzone era", where the highest peak an ordinary guy can ever reach in a relationship with a lady is being just friends. Forget the romance and intimacy you're looking for in a lady, I've noticed that women hardly fall in love like the way men do, in fact they almost never fall in "love". Women mostly married for social and economic benefits (and not love) but in today's generation that problem has been solved. An unmarried woman without children (but a proud mother of a cat) can enjoy more social and economic benefits than her past counterparts.
So what am I trying to say with all these epistles?
If you're a struggling average guy your chances of getting a woman into an intimate relationship is thin, unless she's ugly. Because the factors like shelter and protection that could make a woman subservient to a man is gradually being solved everyday. More women are getting educated, making big money, going into politics, these things are great. So what could you offer her ?
The standards of women have gone way higher, so what chances have you got with her other than being friends?
Step up your game.

I believe that human beings unless they change are products of their environment. As much as we say that society is crumbling down because of the unavailability of fathers in the home, I might have to correct that by saying that it's a "dysfunctional family unit", not the unavailability of a father figure that is crumbling down the society and creating simps.
Human beings by default are products of their societies, and societies are rooted from the homes and family unit. A family consists of a father who teaches, provides, protects and makes decision, and a mother who nurtures, calms and cares for the children. The father teaches how to lead, the mother teaches how to care.
But I have seen families where the father is an idle jerk, while it's the mother who does all the work. Some women can spoil their children but I have seen responsible men who were raised by single mothers. It's not a matter of single parenting or full parenting, it's about raising a person with good values.
In THINGS FALL APART, something was said about the power a mother (I can't really remember sha), but Okonkwo ran to his mother's village after he was exiled from his own. There is also a saying that when a child does good, its the father's child,but when that child does wrong, it's the mother's child. Many fathers (like mine) have very high standards and tend to withhold their love when we don't meet those standards.
In conclusion, I'm not trying to exalt single moms or fatherless home, it's not easy to raise a child, but generalising every single mom as bad for society is not just right.

Guys if you have a girlfriend, still cook and do your laundry by yourself. Do as many possible sh!t as you can without her help.
...e get why.

Majority of Afghans and the Islamic world wanted Taliban. There is nothing to be afraid of, this is what they wanted.
If you see, most of these Afghan "refugees" are nothing but opportunists going to Europe to enjoy and cashout from the freedom and better lifestyle their Islamic societies deny them.

And that's how men become SIMPS. Treat her like a celebrity and she'll treat you like a fan in return.

Chaos.

Masculinity is action, feminity is reaction. It's natural and healthy for a man to be attracted to a woman who displays a healthy dose the feminine essence, and vise versa for a woman.
The more masculine a man builds himself, the feminine his woman would become or the more feminine women he would attract. I believe for a man to develop himself he must discover his purpose, his core of being first. From it he derives his mission, and from his mission he derives strength.
No matter how red pilled you are and complain about feminists or gynocentrism , if you are not following your mission, if you are not living by your values or trying to improve yourself women will never respect you. You will become needy and give in to other things like porn, alcoholism, drugs, illicit sex and other addictions. And many women can smell weak and needy men.

The way people on this thread are justifying bullying and oppression as a "normal thing" explains why the corrupt rich and powerful in Nigeria, and forces like the police always get away with their with their wrongdoings against the masses.
Buhari is not the problem of Nigeria. Our mindset is.

let's accept the benefit of doubt that he's Chinese, but his intentions are not pure. I've heard lot of nasty things about chinese people and their communist government. These east Asians are more racist and oppressive to black people than rednecks.
Either to fulfill a fetish for black women, or some other darker agenda like human trafficking, why would he come to nairaland?

The reason why many fat people don't love them self is because they have low esteem and thus they see themselves inferior. In our society today, thin and curvy (sometimes) are celebrated by the publicity. The narrative given to something controls how the public sees it. Films portray thin as more beautiful and superior, and fat people as dirty, lazy, gluttonous and less appealing. Fat people see these stereotypes and reenforce upon themselves that it is what they are, these creates a low self esteem and thus they don't take care of themselves.
All sizes are beautiful, it's just up to one to carry his/her self well and change the narrative.

Waking up everyday with a purpose for living and meaningful work

Africa as usual blaming the Western civilization for their shortcomings and inferiority complex.
Standard of beauty is complex topic. It's something that evolves over time. To me nothing is wrong.

If northerners are bagging every federal political positions either merited or unmerited, do not complain, do not envy them. Upon all their political influence the north is still the poorest and the most unstable region in the country.
it's not politics we need, its economy. Anybody seeking political office only does it for himself, not for his tribe.
How many of buhari's northern cohorts whom he gifts offices to can do what obi cubana did?

This has nothing to do with IPOB or buhari's hatred for the south, or whether the huasas/Fulani's want to enslave the Southerners. This is nothing but oppression and bullying by the military against civilians which has been happening way before Buhari was elected. Forget tribal sentiment, this also happens in the north. The police could be bullies most times but they are more reasonable than the military. I'm surprised that the government is taking this matter lightly, this is oppression happening before us.
It has always baffled me why the government and the society always overlook military brutality cum "drilling" and let them get away with it . If we truly live in a democratic country let us the "bloody civilians" fight against military brutality and oppression. Police may collect bribe, government officials may play nepotism, but soldiers will beat you dead whether you're ibo or hausa
We must reform the way the military treats civilians or else we will have more Odis and Oyigbos in the future

Giant ass
Big breast ( big enough to bury your face)
Fat rolls and curves
Tall
Fat, flabby arms
Delicious and thick thunder thighs
And a nice comfy belly or two to relax on

Why would anybody want watch porn or simp away when you enjoy a full plate of goodies
#TeamFA

This is my take:
It's not that the pastors are thieves or false prophets, I don't know, but the thing is that religion or being religion is a core value in Nigeria. The kind of energy and priority that Nigerian Christians put in their churches and denominations, if such were put into other sectors like economy, education, healthcare, security etc we would have been a second world country at least.
Christians here are always willing to put all their faith, talent, energy and dedication into the development of their churches and it's pastors, they are always willing to make sure their church or denomination is the best and thus they find an identity with their church, and what you put love and dedication into grows. Sadly we do not channel so much loyalty like that into our country, our communities and even our personal lives. It's funny when people contribute money to renovate or rebuild their churches but find it hard to come together and contribute money to fix the bad road or electricity problem in their streets. People never forget to appreciate pastors but not people like nurses, teachers or security men.
Most Pentecostal churches came into prominence during the 90's in Nigeria when poverty and bad government were becoming mainstream, poverty straightens religion. The music, the vibrant gusto, the messages and miracles in the times of peril attracted a lot of people to Pentecostals and their influence continued to grow in wealth and number. And as things are going south in Nigeria, more and more churches are popping up and growing because people need miracles in their life, they need prosperity, they need encouragement during this hard times. The church is immune to some level of scrutiny and criticism because when it comes to religion people tend to abandon logic and leave the thinking to the Divine, and those who tend to raise questions tend to be seen as pagans, lost souls, or agents of Satan.

Being ugly is a big disadvantages for a young woman, especially in this era of the internet and Instagram models. Beauty is the measure of feminity, I believe, as power is seen as the measure of masculinity. The more beautiful you are as a woman, the more feminine and fertile you tend to be seen. Beauty is one factor that must make a man climb a woman and make babies from her.
Unless for other factors, I believe many men who go for ugly or below average women are just "managing" or haven't gone past first layer of attraction which is sexuality (the primal need for sex).

And don't mention good character, everybody has good and bad character. Human behavior is very complex.

Let's stop all these madness.
The irony is that it's the poor, the ignorant and the illiterates that do these this things. After much pleading, the governor will go home and enjoy international cuisine with his wife, same Nnamdi Kanu. While the poor masses will stay at home and soak garri with their family because they didn't go out to do their trade. Many people haven't realized that it's the haves vs have-nots.

The redpill is nothing but a new age philosophy. It only reveals certain truths, it doesn't have the solution (or most of it). In the Matrix, the redpill revealed the truth to Neo but it didn't give him the power to defeat Agent Smith or the Matrix. The actions of weak men created third wave feminism or feminazism. A lot of men here are attracted to the redpill because they believe it will show them the secrets behind becoming an "alpha" for the sake of attracting girls. Another set of men are here because they've had failed relationships with girls or are not getting the sex they want, rather than take responsibility for their failures they blame women.
Most of us are weak again lust, or are financially broke, or mentally broke. Some of us undisciplined, and are addicted to porn, fapping, video games, gambling etc. Many of us are spiritually weak (not in the religious sense). Some of us have unhygienic physical and social lifestyles. Even if you take the redpill and you fall into these categories, your life will never change, it may even get worse because you'll become a depressed doomer. The redpill is beyond male-female relationship. Besides, most of these tips to help you "manipulate" women to do your bidding only work for a short while. When the charm wears off, the woman will see you for who you are and perceive your weaknesses (if you've not been working on yourself).