Please I'm looking for a solution to water ingress in the walls of this property. I don't know the right way of going about correcting this problem. The plaster and paint is flaking off, could this be as a result of low-quality mortar being used? There is also an open flower bed around the building.

IconicR:
I deal mainly on dried cat fishes and fresh ones for pepersoup. The locally bred ones is still safer because it won't have to undergo some kind of preservation processes which is dangerous to our health

Just so you know, some farmers use dead fish for smoked fish.

bukatyne:


Not excusing them but the teenage wife can go to school after childbirth. That's what most of the notable Northern women did.

Bold of you to assume that such a man would have allowed the girl to go back to school.

Mhistasaints:
I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

It is not always greener on the other side, the lady you've suddenly fallen in "love" with will also have her shortcomings.

Marriage is a long-term commitment, for better or worse. I think you should build on your communication with your wife, let her see things from your perspective and help build her. It is your job and duty to correct and guide her.

Regarding your affair, it's left to you to decide but trust me, every person has his/her baggage. There is no perfect mate.

For all your wife's faults, she has been faithful, you're the unfaithful one. The problem lies with you.

Mhistasaints:
I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

Granted exeat not 'exeated', there is no such word.

Okortor:
Calm down, it's no big deal, do add a screenshot of the debit received for proper guidance as regards, however;

They haven't been any approval or implementation by the Apex bank (CBN) which gives any Bank of financial institution the right to debit anyone's Account with another bank.

The issue I see here is, your cheque with first bank was tendered as a collateral measure to access a loan in form of you being a guarantor which only by that, can any financial institution tender such cheque in a case of clients loan default. And if your account wasn't funded as at that time, it would have been a bounce cheque (dud cheque) which is equivalent to a criminal offense.

So have a rethink who you dropped your cheque with and confirm from your cheque leaflet and if that be the case, much money can never be reversed nor returned by the bank!

I think this isn't correct. There was a recent act that empowered banks to collect their money from any account connected to a loan defaulters bvn. I can't remember it off the top of my head.

Be fearful when others are greedy and greedy when others are fearful. - One wise guy

Following your passion is bad career advice, a better advice would be to build passion for whatever you find yourself doing.

kyber:
I still wonder how this bike got up there and how does the bike owner move his bike to and fro those stairs for his everyday job.


Something must have thought this guy a lesson.

What do you think ?

Where there's a will, there's a way.

budaatum:
Nigeria will be awash with crude and Dangote will refine it into petroleum, and some day in the future somewhere we shall anoint him Messiah and God, of petrol, at least.

I see what you did there

Omenlon:
is reading a big problem to you?

Please do point out where it is mentioned in the post, my comprehension is severely impaired

Lanrelagboi:
Clean, no pollution, easy to maintain and no fuel

I do wonder how the electricity used to power them is produced.

Take it with a grain of salt, Hindenburg releases these investigations only because they stand to gain financially. Their recent ones being against Adani Group and Icahn Enterprises.

zeenaman:
Personal opinion:

The relationship between cars and Petrol is complementary in nature. Complementary in the sense that, one is needed to augment the other, just like garri and kulikuli.

Going by basic economics principle, there is an inverse price relationship between complementary goods i.e an increase in the price of one results in decrease in the demand for the other. With this, it is conceivable that with increase in the price of petroleum, there will be less demand for cars, hence result in price crash occasioned by excess supply over demand.

Also, from the angle of the Federal government, the rich benefit more from the subsidy. People with ten cars will now find it unfunny fueling the convoy, and this may result in selling off some of the vehicles. This should further increase the supply of cars and drive down the price.

Let's talk about this, do you see the price of cars crashing? Let's leave out the Nigerian factor, corruption and base our argument on fact.

It might be just like the energy (oil) crisis in the 70s. There might be stronger demand for smaller, more efficient vehicles (4-cylinder vehicles). Bigger vehicles will remain a status symbol, in fact, owning a car is fast becoming a form of "status signaling". Anyone with 10 cars is either a rich person or a politician, I don't think either will feel the effect- they already spend more on less important things.

gbadexy:
You can't really blame the doubting Thomases.
At that young age, the friend too should still be with a guardian. Didn't they ask if why he/she brought a friend home and be concerned her people would be worried.
I expected you all to go over to know the identity of the person she went to stay with and don't just take her word for it so as to take the next best step for future purpose.

Gbam!!

This says a lot about the family and parenting style, believe it or not. As a parent or guardian, it is your business to know your child's friends.
No reasonable family would allow a stranger or in this case their daughter's friend to sleep over without a good reason, I wonder the reason she gave.

If I had the heart to pull a stunt like this at her age, not only would I have been disciplined but my parents would have made sure to go to my host and strongly reprimand them.

To the OP, your niece has a bad character. You can rave all you can about her academic exploits, but if you don't correct her now she'll sure end up on a wrong path.

Also, don't put kids on a pedestal. They are kids and are bound to make stupid mistakes, I'm sure if someone had told you that she could run away from home before now you would have sworn to the contrary. Your role as a guardian is not to be blinded by the love and admiration you have for them but to let them be children - let them make mistakes but correct them with love and guide them towards the right path.

Skankamola:

Added to the man sized pot holes the govt leaves on the high ways.

Exactly, I don't think legislation alone could fix things like this. Nigerian highways are deathtraps.

LeoDeKing:
Necessity is the mother of invention.

Incidents like this are the reasons for some enactments. I'm expecting legislation in respect of precautionary measures against similar incidents.

Why are these containers merely mounted without actually fastening them on the trucks?

The report says "zero survivors".

But the screenshot above says, no life was lost.

Which do we believe?

From the image, it seems the the whole truck was upturned, not just the container.
The problem with laws in Nigeria is that they are seldom obeyed, most especially by those with 'connections'.

Are you shitting me?

I wouldn't dare surety someone as erratic as Portable.

JasonScoolari:
Only a charge and bail lawyer will go out of his chambers to defend the certified lunatic called Portable...

Na God dey help MUMU, Na only God fit help Portable.

This last paragraph cracked me up!

RenaissanceGuy:
Let every state generate their own power and let those who have more than they can use sell to other states. Abolish that scam called national grid! And you don't know the difference between state grid and national grid??

Oga you're not making any sense. That is how it is done in the US and other developed countries. Check your facts before talking. Home owners can generate their own electricity and sell to the grid.

States that can produce electricity can sell to the discos, it's that simple. Or do you suggest that each state should build new infrastructure because they want to sell power? Do you know how much it will cost? When will the recover that money?

As it is, all the infrastructure that connect your houses to electricity belong to the discos and the power company. They already have the hardware on ground and it will take a stupendous amount of money for any state or independent company to replicate their reach. So their is no such thing as state grid.

RenaissanceGuy:
Let every state generate their own power and let those who have more than they can use sell to other states. Abolish that scam called national grid!

You still need a grid if you're going to sell excess power you don't need.

Kobojunkie:
1. The fact that even after being given a 2-month notice of her plan, he still goes ahead to make an issue of this speaks volumes. Also, that he claims he will not be back in time for his wife to go on her 1-week course in two months' time also speaks volumes.

Like I said, I feel there are deeper issues here, more than meets the eye. It might not even be the course or her absence but just that he wants to latch on to it to pour out his annoyance over something not remotely connected. Same thing with the woman.

These things might seem simple but they're usually not.

Kobojunkie:
1. Does the man also consult his wife first before registering or considering any matter? You didn't answer this question, did you?

2. He can't be available then the woman can get a nanny or have the kids stay over at her mum's or something. This really is a non issue.

What makes you think he doesn't, does it also say so in the post?

Kobojunkie:
1. Does the man also ask his wife before deciding to register or go for everything he does in his life? Does the story tell you that?

2. The story says the course takes place in 2 months. Isn't that early enough by your assessment? As for deeper issues, we don't need to try to resolve all of our life issues everytime a concern comes up. According to Op, this is simply a trip to go do her course. I get the sense that if she has said she was headed over to see her family in the village or something for a week in 2 months time, that wouldn't have been made an issue of.

I don't really see how your first point ties to what I said but nonetheless let me clarify. I would expect that a wife or husband would take any such decisions that could alter their living arrangements, even if it be just for a day, together with their partner. It is important to note that the post says the husband "can't" be available to take care of the kids, not that he chose so.

Kobojunkie:
1. They can't seem to come to an agreement because the one who is currently benefitting from the agreement he had with his wife is clearly refusing to allow her to same freedom she did him. Meaning the marriage is not a partnership but something else — not all marriages are a partnership by the way.

2. What makes you think there are no plans to tackle potential issues? What potential issues do you imagine could exist in this case?

3. The man is already doing this. Recall, OP said that the man traveled meaning the woman already agreed to him leaving her to be alone with the kids for a period of time. So, all he needs to do here is come back and let her do the same for a period of time. Simple!

I agree with kozmicity on this. The post stated that she had already registered for the course long before she intimated the husband about it. If she had told him earlier, would they not have had ample time to prepare towards it? I think there are deeper issues as someone had earlier said, but what I can say from the story is that the woman is manipulative.

dailybuzzng:


Following all efforts to reconcile the duo, Moses' mother identified as Mrs.Perpetual Amiebenomo flied abroad where she has been living in America for years.

The past tense of "fly" is "flew".

Evestar200:
You are very lucky that she is not just a religious woman but a good and understanding one.

What does "religious" mean?

Insultme:
This is a true life story and it's really a long epistle, so take your time to read it. Insults and advice are welcomed as well.

There is this girl we're dating in Nigeria, which I intend to Marry though eventually. It started that I got my student visa in Nov 2021, so instead of me coming alone and leaving her alone back home, I decided to get Married to her same Nov 2021 and same year I did my house warming, that was in December. So she moved in to my house and I traveled for my Masters in January 2022.

So I came in alone to put everything in place, renting apartment and starting my studies. It was really an heculeous task, my eyes see shege as I was unable to pass through verification / affordability check, so I had to offer 6 month upfront before I was later considered. By end of January, she started with she is feeling lonely and can't stay alone in the house, so I started processing her visa February and I went back to Nigeria during Easter to bring her myself, just to avoid unnecessary wàhálà at the POE.

Count whatever you've spent on her as sunk cost and move on. People like that hardly change

It will never be well for those who spill blood in the name of politics.

erico2k2:

We are talking high data usage not tik tok or WhatsApp are aiming for true unlimited internet at 5G speed not 2G, something that fast.
and dont forget, most of us dreaming of this do not live in Nigeria and so farStarlink is the only thing that can match the kind of data flow we are used to.MTN is shyte

Starlink has a fair usage policy i.e it is capped. Imho, you're better off going fiber, it'll still be cheaper, faster and a better investment than Starlink. I've gotten speeds close to 1 gigabyte per sec. over 10GbE running on fiber. Or better yet, you can hack the various offers MTN and co. are giving with the purchase of their routers - you can get up to 3Tb on MTN for just 150k.

Starlink will only make sense for me if I'm stuck in the middle of nowhere with no cell coverage and even then I'm sure I'll have bigger problems than internet.

belcom10:
I laugh at ignorance of some people here, always comparing Western way of life with ours.

It's a sign of respect for each other family, even though you are calling her name before.

I don't think your friend is not looking down on you .

Some phrase to use:

Your Madam, your woman, your wife.... or let say you visit your friend , maama, our wife.

I just wonder how you would refer to them in the first-person. Nigerians and our convoluted cultures and practices.

People are all in here defending this as "culture". Because it's culture doesn't make it right, same reason why a lot of cultural practices have been abolished.