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Family / Re: Norwegian White Woman Living With A Nigerian Man And Having A Child Together. by MMotimo: 5:51am On Jul 07, 2022 |
7 months ago, you raised this issue here. Based on your account, the only thing that has changed is that he makes more money. Nordic women are very smart so I assume you already know that you are being played. The real question is what (if anything) are you going to do about it? Will you continue to open new threads every couple of months? Be honest with yourself - are you living in denial? Are you looking for comments that will convince you to accept the status quo? I think it’s time for you to decide and own your future. With the 7year age difference, that makes you 40 this year and him only 33. You have to make up your mind about your future. I have little doubt that he has firm plans for his own future. It doesn’t take a genius to know that having more kids he won’t cater for is a no-no. There are very few Nigerian women (I personally know none) that would agree to co-habit with a WORKING MAN who barely contributes to the household. What you are doing for him is almost unheard of. It would be different if he had no income. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 8:56am On Jun 19, 2022 |
kopell: In summary, if you don’t bother to vote, don’t complain. . .chikena! If enough is enough, this is the time for everyone to do their part |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 8:48am On Jun 19, 2022 |
EgunMogaji2: Naija’s problem has never been money, just greed and an inequality that’s unconscionable. A few have everything the masses don’t and more but they have weaponized poverty against the majority. 1 Like |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 8:47am On Jun 19, 2022 |
Happy Father’s Day to all the gentlemen. May God bless you and your seed and may your offspring go farther than you. May their tracks be seen in places you never wandered. May you be able to look at your kids with a smile and tell yourself “I did well.” 4 Likes 1 Share |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 1:40am On Jun 19, 2022 |
Una weh done o! Naija people, the race is on for 2023, don’t dull o! Do your best and vote, that’s the least you can do. Whether you think your vote matters or not, get your PVC and vote whom you think will serve in your best interest. It’s better to vote and have a say than leave recipients of paltry bribes to decide your future. Whether you trust the electoral process or not, be like Nike “just do it.” US people wey dey build, the Lord is your strength. Gas prices be like choose: “fuel ya moto or send moni to buy cement” P.S. This is not a campaign for any candidate 4 Likes |
Family / Re: Men,Please leave people's wives alone! by MMotimo: 4:08am On Jun 14, 2022 |
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Family / Re: Why Are some Men Neglected In Marriage By Their Wives After Having Kids? by MMotimo: 12:45am On Jun 14, 2022 |
DenreleDave: Good! Consider modifying your OP to remove the reference. |
Family / Re: Please Help � I Can't Handle This Alone by MMotimo: 12:42am On Jun 14, 2022 |
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Family / Re: Please Help � I Can't Handle This Alone by MMotimo: 12:42am On Jun 14, 2022 |
I salute your intelligence in seeking to establish a level of financial comfort before adding kids to the mix. That is excellent thinking. Having kids before you establish financial comfort often perpetuates poverty since the resources and opportunities you can offer the kids are severely limited. The only thing wrong with your post is the wuruwuru abroad connection you alluded to. Too bad you allowed yourself to be pressured into marriage but no use crying over split milk. What is done is done. Now, you have to looking forward with a clear mind and choose yourself first when making future decisions. You and your husband are obviously not on the same page in a number of key areas. Couples do not always agree but you have to be in tandem when it comes to certain critical areas. A comfort with poverty is a red flag and frankly alarming. It’s one thing to be poor, it’s another level to get comfortable with the condition. The lack of drive on his part is also very concerning. Perhaps you can somehow convince him to change and be more driven? If not, then you have to decide your next step(s) and take responsibility for it (them). Best wishes! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Why Are some Men Neglected In Marriage By Their Wives After Having Kids? by MMotimo: 6:56pm On Jun 13, 2022 |
BigBashiru: There are no secrets, just insecure, immature males spreading the experiences of those men that made the wrong choice of partner! Misery loves company! |
Family / Re: Why Are some Men Neglected In Marriage By Their Wives After Having Kids? by MMotimo: 6:53pm On Jun 13, 2022 |
DenreleDave: Zero need to refer to the Nairalander in your OP. That is extreme mischief! 1 Like |
Family / Re: Men,Please leave people's wives alone! by MMotimo: 6:51pm On Jun 13, 2022 |
This nonsense needs to stop! Male strangers actively practising their misogyny and sexism with no controls yet there is supposed to be a moderator on here. I have reported this offending post but let’s see if the moderator agrees that it doesn’t belong. Monday morning for goodness sake! An able bodied boy gets on the internet to start harassing a stranger he doesn’t know and then descends into threatening a fellow male that is bold enough to stand up to him! The problems of Naija are a lot more than Buhari, see “leaders of tomorrow.” *modified* Thanks to the person that beat me to the report button 2 Likes 1 Share |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 4:04pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
AngelicBeing: VERY, VERY TRUE. Illicit funds and goods 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: The American Dream: A Mirage; Only Racism, Poverty & Gun Violence Are Realities by MMotimo: 2:44am On May 31, 2022 |
Don’t be fooled by the thread title. Read, digest, think. Who goes and lives in Chicago’s south side? The multitude of Nigerians doing very well in America nko? It’s the story of asylum seekers that takes front page. That area of Chicago is VERY ROUGH. That’s no man’s land but for every neighborhood like that, there are tons of others all over the US that are nothing like described! The only thing to learn from this thread is to do your research, know where you are going and how to get there without too many mistakes. Many Nigerians live a very comfortable and sometimes luxurious life in America. If you wish to live there, focus on those stories and how they achieved what they have, not beer parlor threads. 2 Likes |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 8:10pm On May 22, 2022 |
mufutau55: E shock me 1 Like |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 5:36am On May 14, 2022 |
hamtabfawaz: Sorry for your loss. May the memories provide you with a measure of comfort. 1 Like |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 11:13pm On Apr 25, 2022 |
money121: Haji Roofing, I hail o! I like your style, you don’t allow customers’ funds to stay unnecessarily long with you. You collect money and you mobilize quickly. Very, very good model! Well done, Sir! Oju o ni ti yin, God no go shame you! For those with sticky fingers who have a hard time separating customer’s money from their personal profit, you are advised to seriously consider this model. No dey add customer moni for labor and materials join your profit! 15 Likes 1 Share |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 11:11pm On Apr 25, 2022 |
kalu61: Amen! |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 7:30pm On Apr 23, 2022 |
money121: Lol let me tell you one major difference between a financially prudent Naija woman and a Naija man - we treat #1 like it is #1000 and we handle #10m like it is #1b. There is no small money, all na big moni! We watch over every kobo and treat money like we worked for it. Even scammers know such women are not worth the trouble, e get why! I will share a secret - when it comes to marriage, aim for a financially prudent woman because that is easily, at least half of your financial worries solved. If you are a premium man yourself, you can even find (yes o, better ting na task) one with looks. These women are willing to partner with you in planning and building financial security if you are a worthy partner. I am not saying they are cheap and won’t spend money o, don’t misquote me. I’m just saying that if you treat them right, you will enjoy what it means to go to sleep every night without trust issues about money. You will have peace of mind that your wife is working with you and not against you. Well done, Redgem. 11 Likes |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 10:21pm On Apr 16, 2022 |
Happy Easter, Ladies and Gentlemen! God no go shame us o! 3 Likes |
Food / Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by MMotimo: 6:19am On Apr 10, 2022 |
FireRain: Madam, dis method go hard me o! When I see yam to buy, it’s strictly for boiling 1 Like |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 6:17am On Apr 10, 2022 |
Godisgreatest1: Thank you, bros. I didn’t fight him, I just schooled him 11 Likes |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 6:10am On Apr 10, 2022 |
DrGoodman: This Van bottel na crazy guy! I gave up on him when he asked me to bring out my shoe collection to compete with the okrika ok Anyway, nice to see your energy directed to where it’s needed. My beer parlour analogy from 6/7 years ago still applies. Honourable gentlemen should not allow a club member who has shown his stripes over and over again to mix freely. It’s not that hard to make money in this industry and on this thread. You just need to gb’ori duro (set your head straight), behave yourself, execute with excellence and see referral business expand your coast. Many can testify to that. When you treat your customers well, it’s easy for them to testify and recommend you. . . . . . easy money! Unless you are a fly by night vendor, there’s no need to get greedy. Be fair and honest in your dealings and watch the money come, along with peace of mind, the sacred alafia that money cannot buy. Make money that you can enjoy without disgrace and abuku, insults. Just because you are a builder does not mean you should make all the money you want in life from one project. Slow and steady is not a bad term. The thing about dishonest money is “easy come, easy go.” With all the millions that have passed through his hands, what is N3xt’s net worth today? How much liquid cash can he boast of after more than 10 years as a builder? Not customers’ money o, money that 100% belongs to him. The thing about riches is when you are jeje doing your own thing, working hard and with integrity; one day you’ll look up and realize that you have more than you could imagine. True, enduring, peace-accompanied, permanent blessings are from God not from theft. Thanks to all that have spoken and continue to speak up against this scourge. Special mention to Dunka and Stopthecap, may God protect all that belongs to you. It’s easier to just keep quiet but you gentlemen have not. God bless una flenti flenti. 18 Likes |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 4:32am On Mar 30, 2022 |
Godisgreatest1: 4 Likes |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 4:28am On Mar 30, 2022 |
Paris, such fond memories of that city. We vacationed inside that I see you did the WH too, it’s almost as big as my edifice. I will await your bid for my monument, Sir! Let’s see if you can impress me with your pricing. I hope you are not 419 o! But even if you are sef, if I pay my housekeeper $300 a month, why can I not pay way above market price to better the lives of poor people #howmuchismoney This is a direct call out to those painters that engineered the Tesla. Jealous people are confused, they don’t know that one person can be an auto engineer, builder, plumber, bricklayer, painter, borehole driller, roofing merchant, inverter specialist, welder, etc, etc. Don’t be afraid to send your bids, my current home in Silicon Valley was painted by a NASA engineer and I have an appreciation for jacks of all trades. Talking of NASA reminded me of what my old NASA professor of advanced quantum rocket science said. He pulled me aside and said “Nne, dis life na once! Na who quiet lose! Never stop talking, there is always a mugu out there, they are all you need in your quest for self validation. Embrace your imagination, reality is nothing.” #Howmuchismoney Stopthecap: 9 Likes |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 2:49am On Mar 30, 2022 |
Adedward: Good, now stay out of trouble. Efin ni iwa, behaviour be like smoke. It travels fast. Protect your reputation. 10 Likes |
Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by MMotimo: 2:45am On Mar 30, 2022 |
The fabulogists have completely taken over. If it is not the people displaying bend down select auction merchandise as luxury goods, it is the gbese-laden quack builder going back to do thank you after 7 years (now turned 10 years because sometimes keeping these tall tales in line is not easy). Anyway, my number is open for interested contractors to help me paint this never before seen world class wonder, my #80billion project. We need this painted as we move towards the house warming date. . . . . . . . Turkey vacation package and free Elon Musk satellite internet access for my Nairaland guests. The budget for the painting is max #1.2 billion and preference will be given to the more expensive bids. For poor people who don’t understand, it is called DOINGS. Don’t get jealous, work harder Nobody should 15 Likes
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Family / Re: Husband Built Home In Nigeria Without Telling Me. Should I Divorce by MMotimo: 5:44am On Mar 28, 2022 |
Dear Lady, your pain is palpable. I can only hope that talking it out like this is helping you, such a sad state of affairs. I am a woman like you and I can put myself in your shoes. It would hurt a lot to experience this. I don’t have advice but I commend your fighting spirit and perhaps even more, your financial intelligence. The fact that you are still able to think clearly where the money is concerned and that you have financial records. A lot of women tend not to pay attention to the finances but I’m happy to see that you have a paper trail that can be useful if it comes to that. As for the person telling you the house needed to be built or that your name does not have to be on the ownership documents, take that with a grain of salt. The US and EU are filled with Nigerian men impoverishing their families abroad while building white elephant projects at home for their ego and self validation and because their brains never really developed from trying to out do the village Joneses. It’s the “big man syndrome “ pretending to be what they are not. I doubt his friends in Nigeria knew his wife was working 2 jobs to enable him build the house. It’s even worse now because some of these US/EU based Nigerian men are trying to out do/compete with the buildings of established fraudsters who don’t even work for money. This is 2022, the house has to be in your name for you to claim ownership and even that does not guarantee you can take it over if you wanted to. The law is slow and not guaranteed to be fair if litigation ever happened. If it’s in the village, chances are that marketability is very restricted, especially on ancestral land, so it’s not like you can just sell and recoup your money, never mind the fast eroding exchange rate that means the $1 of six months ago is like #580 today so the conversion would be less than USD60k sale price. I wish you peace and I pray this works out for your good in some way. XOXO 5 Likes 2 Shares |
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