₦airaland Forum

dayokanu: I dey gbadun your write ups.

but dont you think another thread would be ideal for this instead of derailing this one completely?

dayokanu: My view is probably skewed because I have always stayed around women who work as much as if not more than the men. From the "Alarobo" women who get on trucks to buy from interior villages and sell in the market, to the School teachers, to the Nurses, Accountants, etc The Multinational I worked at in Nigeria was almost 55-60% women.

My mom just retired last year at close to 60 and next thing she has already started another one. And everyday she always wake up to go and work for the past 36yrs of her life. She had kids who went to University, Had a husband and a family too

So I get pissed when I see young able bodied women who think nature has given them the anatomy to get fed for life. And in truth its the no income generating ones that have outrageous tastes. A woman who knows how hard it is to make $10 wont open her mouth to tell you "How much is $700 that you cant dash me".

If boys and girls are equally educated then they should both work to contribute to family and society except in those afore mentioned cases



Wake up, Husband goes to work and kids go to school by 8am, Wash 4-5 plates, Picks up phone gist with friend or visit other non working friends, Turns on TV to watch Nollywood, Eat, Sleep again. wake up by 4pm pick up kids back from school, Warm the food she prepared 2 days ago. And complain how hard it is to sit at home

dayokanu: People from various background go through abuse, Xtian, Moslems, Monogamous Polygamous, Educated, non educated etc

And Courtship only reveal so much about a person. Moreover people change. All the couples beating one another and killing one another at a point in time had wonderful courtships and even believed they were in Paradise.

The best thing IMO is to be prepared for eventualities and make it easier for you to adapt. I know Nigerians would say Pray God gives you a good man a decent man a this a that who wont do this and that.

dayokanu: Can the womans income take care of all her needs and wants without depending on the man?

A girl earning 70k a month is also earning an income but is that enough for her Dubai trips, London Vacation, Brazilian hair, BB Z10, Lekki phase one neighbourhood and tear rubber Hyundai Elantra she drives?

ileobatojo: Leave Dayo to be cooking things up there. Even in the video, it was only one person out of all the women that said she will stay if he provides. Several said for religious reasons, because you took vows etc. But those ones doesn't suit his rhetoric so their views are to be ignored.

wonlasewonimi: From who? I don't think teddy bears talk in canada.

jidegirl12: Very funny ( If real) and sad same time.

I Get I love you text everyday thanks babè

Gaggi: Signs of the times. Poverty and hunger makes people take BS. A man who feeds and clothes u will give u shyte no doubt about that. Instead of advocating divorce and women lib and all that nonsense, feminist should pull resources and form an NGO that will empower these women so they can have self worth and independence.

Telling women not to take nonsense frm men and all that crap won't work because the woman must eat. If she files for divorce and isn't doing anything tangible then she will have to depend on a man again who will see her as a liability. It's a chain reaction. Break d jinx and empower a woman financially.