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For the men who want to raise daughters that do not become victims, take time to know whom you are marrying. Look at her background, ask questions, this woman is going to be the mother of your kids. What you join with is what you produce.

That a woman is fertile does not mean she can parent.

@ Topic

Important to have a relationship with your kids. Giving birth does not make you a parent, make time for your kids. As busy as you sometimes get, you still have to ensure you stay connected to them . Living in the same house or clothing/feeding them does not make you a parent. Let them know that they are a very important part of your existence and their value to you is priceless. As a parent, you should be "a safe haven" for your children, the one they run to if anything ails them.

Pay attention if/when they start acting out, it's a common sign of abuse which could even be from their father/mother, siblings or other people in the neighborhood. Abused people who don't get/have help eventually become a nuisance to society because their psychological wounds never heal.

Who looks after your child is also very important. Some day home providers are there for the money only

Frankly, it is the duty of everyone, whether you have kids or not, to try to prevent peeeedophilia

blushmg: It's a pity. It's clear she is frustrated. Kids need to be trained but not this way.Beating the woman as yellowpawpaw suggested is not the solution, the child should be taken from her and she should be made to pay child support every month after all, she is the mother.
++++Don't bring a child you cant train into the world, rape is not an excuse.

Sometimes, the pregnancy is to entrap a man in marriage. The man eventually kicks her to the curb and the poor child is left open to physical and emotional abuse from the people she was abandoned with. It's a real problem

The fact is that a lot of these women today, cheated with married men before they became married, what goes around comes around. You marry a street girl with no discernible value system other than to be called someone's wife at all cost, she's not going to complain about cheating.

As for beating, so many come from an abused background and have never known true love and affection. Any kind of attention, even if it's a spouse beating or causing emotional abuse, is good attention. It beats the loneliness and dejection that has pervaded their lives from birth.

Mothers, love your children, show them love so that they do not become a disgrace to womanhood and motherhood when they grow up, settling for less than they are worth. The pain of rejection causes lifelong problems for these kinds of people, not just in their marriage but every area of their life.

Just, especially when they are young before they become too hardened at it

babsjnr: i miss my people..i lived where white are majority for 10 yrs.. me and my mixed race partner experienced racism loads of time and i don't feel very comfortable around here no more.

That's unfortunate. I suggest you open this topic in the property section for (hopefully) more responses.

@ Post

Ordinary kolanut and water? That's it? The movies always show blood as a requirement

Sorry can't help you but I'm curious about the "Naija community" attraction. What makes that pecial?

P.S. maybe try the property section

I'm out

Texas.Cowgirl:
I thought jidegirl and mmitoo were friends before.

Oga o......una dey fight for ths section again

I have neither friend nor foe, just another Naija gal minding her business

@ coogar

Aaaaaaw, such kind words, thank you

Sometimes, firewood backgrounders think they can intimidate you with their razzness. This is simply about putting her on permanent notice that I won't tolerate nonsense

Miredia

She's a pathetic mess already, I don't think I have anything to add.

I really just hope she seeks help

Uju,

I have been here for 4 years, avoiding altercations and minding my biz, no fighting. No be my fault

Miredia

She had it coming, I just obliged her begging.

OP

Sorry about your thread, but someone had to donate a thread for this very necessary public service. Thanks!

What a joke, but that is your MO,so no surprises. Same way you called out two women you could never handle even on a sober day and what did you do when they showed up? You spent all night stammering as they pumelled you to nothing. Look at you begging Uju a couple of hours ago, you are nothing but a sucker for punishment and a shameless masochist. I know, you can't help placing yourself in these situations, I know intelligence is not your forte.

I have no doubt that your mysterious disappearance (you are afterall, a 24/7 Nlander) was to determine how you could wriggle out of this one. You are what Yorubas call an "eke", starting what you can't finish and pretending to be the victim. Bushito with tortoise sense.

You are nothing but a coward, a bully and a liar. People like you simply do not realize that everybody sees through your lies but are too polite to say anything (it's that thing called good breeding). So, you go on living in cuckooland and building castles in the air, re-writing the story of your life because you think that will somehow make you accepted. You have no self-esteem and certainly, no backbone. Since you work in mental health, albeit a lowly worker (let's drop the lofty talk about owning homes - it's all in your head), you know first hand what can happen to the human mind. From what I have seen, you are unravelling fast because the stresses you feel are beginning to consume you and if you don't seek help, your demons may destroy you. I had you figured out a long time ago but didn't realise the level of mischief and meanness you are capable of. Trust me, I do not associate with your ilk, too many of you with questionable, shady backgrounds in Oyinbo land.

Now listen good - I do not tolerate nonsense from anyone, least of all a poorly educated refugee claimant.I gave you a long rope, and was very patient with you. Part of my patience was because I could see you were dealing with a lot in your life. Yeah, some of us know! You fight and seek constant attention online because you do not have it in your life. From a troubled marriage to a menial job you hate, it's all known.

You see, what you call age, is that good breeding I mentioned which you have no idea of. I can act mature because my parents raised me together and gave me all the attention and love I needed to grow into a well developed woman.I do not come from a line of abused women like you obviously do. So what if your mother abandoned you and your Dad kicked her to the curb? Drop the victim mentality, the world owes you nothing.

Who are you fooling There is no doubt in my mind that I am not much older than you are but to an under achiever, it looks like everyone else is on the fast track. You did not marry early and your first child is what - 9, 10? You are older than you pretend to be, too bad you cannot act that age and stop disgracing yourself. It's obvious you were raised on the streets, typical street gal turning tricks since secondary school. Which Polytechnic did you go to because I am certain you did not go to a university and I am also certain you are academically-challenged. The first thing you should have done when you reached Oyinbo land was go back to school once you managed to obtain your papers (British passpport ko, Japanese visa ni) instead of settling for a low paying job that leaves you frustrated and too tired to have any meaningful family life. No wonder it's so hard for you to live with the fact that some of us do not have immigration frauds in our social circle. Maybe because we are careful whom we choose to socialize with and not live the airhead owambe lifestyle you spend your meagre earnings on.

Some of us achieved on our own steam, from common entrance to JAMB (one attempt only) to Uni in 1992 (start calculating, if your brain cells can do the maths) without bribing anybody or having to sleep with anybody, smooth sailing all through. Good job straight off NYSC and the perfect husband afterwards and guess what? I'm not even 40 yet. I know-sucks to be you. I know you've had a hard life, let me tell you something - It will only get harder until you remove the bitterness in your heart and learn to be happy for others. That is the key to the breakthrough. I know what you do, I guess it took you this long to respond because you were pondering how I got to know so much about you.

Ta lo ko e? You are the epitome of zero breeding combined with bushito, the worst kind. It took me time to realize that zero-bred have to be handled differently, at least the poorly bred can understand and get the message when they are being ignored. Your mother abandoned you with a step mother that had nothing good for you. Go and settle your issues with your family members and stop deceiving yourself that all is well. The pain of your experience is what you carry all around, trying to attach yourself to random strangers on the internet so that you can have a sense of belonging. As you can see, it ain't working, girlfriend! If your insurance won't pay for professional care, ask and you just may receive!

That I support stay home Moms is such a headache for you. That it's possible in my own household, is a migraine. That I can work and stay home as I like, has become a thorn in your flesh! Come, what is your problem? Not everyone was a runs gal before they met and married. There are still men out there that provide for their family and trust their wives to run their finances. Granted, the concept is alien to you but you should realize that social strata differ. You too, can get there but not with bitterness, jealousy and strife blinding you.

I have got you in my sights now, ta si mi anyhow and I will deal with you in a resounding manner. You alata gals don't know when to stop, it will be a pleasure teaching you some sense.

jidegirl12: *grunts*




Queen bee pls stop asking foolish question for obvious reason and go use the search engine jare part of you that drives me nuts.


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Mmmmmm where do I start the dissection?

MMtimo ummmmm I'm very interested in what you've gotta say with your 2 mysterious shocking posts .... yeye dey smell.

If I drop my epistle I wrote in your honor , I swear your period will flow today ( guess that'll be a good thing) but I will leave you with that one post ( well and this one) and walk away.

Yeah I know people, very disappointing coming from moi but I won't exchange words with an aged Yoruba woman.

Won ko mi , mo de gba Eko, maa fi yin sile but you don't know me oh so keep trying , eyin ni agbaya ton she lagbalagba kiri online, mo pity aye yin, emi oni bayin play show of shame here. I don't owe porinporin yin any explanation bout my profession and upbringing so go haywire all you like with the old cooked up recycled shît. Speaking of upbringing look who's talking?

Ile please don't ever tell me to change, I will never change. I'm who I am. Period.

^^^^ that looks a lot but I have over 3 pages but decided to hit delete button instead.

@ Topic

Several countries still have programs for immigration and education, resulting in papers so it's puzzling that a professional Banker would be so desperate as to marry for papers when he could get into serious immigration trouble if detected.

If he did it because he was not well educated or had no marketable skills, would make more sense.

miredia: u'r officially under my watch and care now.

Trust me, you won't have to do any work. I avoid altercations. What you've seen is an anomaly. Folks don't bother me and I don't bother them but sometimes, you are forced to take care of business

miredia: if anyone gets on ur nerves here again let me know. I got ur back. Shoulda known u were a sweetfaced female.....pats her on the back

Now, you're talking

oyin50: mmotimo u'r the one actually sounding like the woman wrapper here throwing tantrums and baseless grammer here and there like a baby. U don't exchange words with girls. Thats our dept.

Eerm. . . . . . I'm not male.

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@ Ileoba,

She cannot try it with me endlessly, people that know me in real life could have told her she bit more than she can chew. The day I packed her aside was after throwing multiple accusations she could not substantiate. That's when it hit me I was dealing with a truly unintelligent being

Let 's see if she can finish what she started! I will reduce her to what she understands. She's a sucker for punishment, such a pathetic existence. A person who fights this much online cannot have much of a life outside it, that is sure.

You can tell her life is filled with unhappiness and strife, she cannot exhibit anything but that online, this is the only place where she feels relevant, constant attache with people. That is why she's always here 24/7, rain or shine. I don't begrudge people their dependency but when Mmotimo ignores you, it's for your own good and if you are foolish enough to keep pushing. . . . . . .

@ Jeffizy

It's not going south, the coward is going to open a thread soon and you can have your thread back.

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You see what I mean by low IQ? The razzo is feeling like a superstar because you said leave Mmotimo alone. A person with a bit more intelligence would have known it's for her own good.

I chewed bushitos like her for breakfast back in boarding school, the reason why I don't associate with them. Good for you that you can tolerate her, I don't have such patience. I have ignored her all these weeks but she keeps seeking my attention with her snide kurukere comments. Now she's got it, just like she went looking for trouble and spent a whole night suffering her foolishness as all her issues were made public by those smarter than her and she was rendered incoherent with imaginable guests eating imaginary nachos.

Sometimes, these locres just need a smackdown. Her last one was painful to watch, she was shredded and diced and reduced to a pathetic mess. Good breeding is not weakness but how is a person who cannot string a logical argument together supposed to know that? Maybe she can up her game because it's same old innuendo/disinformation. As for my age, keep guessing! I know the idea of thinking you are 30 appeals to you, whatever rocks your boat

A nursing aide/attendant, working 24/7, online 24/7 instead of watching her mentally dependent patients. Has to work so hard that bitterness has overwhelmed her because there are folks for whom life can be easier. These bushitos think you live the same lifestyles as them, leveraged to their eyeballs so they can do owambes.

Such a psycho, my life totally freaks her out! I advise you stop reading my diary make you no wound o! your mental state is already questionable. Enough on this thread, if you want me to tell you like it is, go and create a thread and I will oblige you with 2 posts only. I won't trade words with you, I will talk down to you in the language you understand, and give you some of the home training you missed when you were abandoned in childhood. 2 posts only, that is all I need to put you in your place and give you a lesson you will never forget. Fraudulent refugee claimant feeling funky.

Ok, I understand better, you meant for demon control . Still, the law is the law, make beating no go killam

yellowpawpaw: Do u know why i said @op should beat d hell outa her? I've seen it work in several cases.that's where those white garment churches becomes handy, they will beat out whatever that is worryin her!
We value children and don't deal kindly with anyone who decides to use her kids to learn fightin techniques.
Its just that in d city,nobody cares.
Nigerian police?,social service in nigeria? I wish they r working hence my advocatin for jungle justice!

@ ileoba

Sorry you got caught in the crossfire! Frankly, I was surprised at what I felt was an unprovoked attack from you. You've never struck me as the type with a bottomless capacity for mischief and a need for e-fights to cope with the misery of real life.

The other gal, I know exactly what her troubles are, clear for all to see. I usually just ignore characters like that because it is an inbred thing and it can be hard to outrun your circumstances but I realized this one's IQ is so low that her local, razz, crass, bushito self will keep pushing because she sees herself as an internet warrior and zero breeding to re-arrange herself.

A pathological liar with illusions of grandeur who has been exposed for what she is over and over again, hopefully she gets the help she needs, almost all of her sparring partners have counselled her. This much venom and psycho behavior online, the real life must be truly . . . . . . Now that she has had a chance to call me names, maybe she will feel better and consider getting professional help for what ails her.

Apologies again! Now I know why my conscience was bothering me, I owe you an apology.

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Aaaaaaaaaw, the internet touts aka gutter babes are on heat

Lord, please grant them contentment and happiness in their lives so that they may spare the rest of us their uncouth and uncultured behavior and not constantly misbehave on a public forum . . .

Also grant them the discernment to recognize those of like minds so that they may direct their angst energy to those who find street fighting an engaging sport.
Orisirisi, so they expect Mmotimo to start trading words with two obviously bitter and unfulfilled people with a reputation for gangsterism! Tufiakwa! I was raised better! Egbe isu ko ni iyan

Knock yourselves out, afterall an omo alata is an omo alata is an omo alata

yellowpawpaw: She is transfering her anger and depression to the wrong person. The poor boy didn't beg to come to d world,she gave birth to him so why maltreating him.
@op,if u r a man and u witness this from her again,beat the hell outta her,treten her 2 and I bet u she will cool down by force.wicked woman

I doubt vigilante justice is the solution here

ileobatojo: No way! Surely, you're not trying to say that your social circle does not consist of hungry, criminally minded, fraudulent, adulterous desperados and riff raffs?

How dare you claim your friends are law abiding when we all know these types of people clearly don't exist?

I bet you also claim to be an actual human being living on this earth, don't you? Shame on you..

You got me laughing. For a moment, thought it was sisikill posting