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The typical marriage goes like this, stage by stage:

Early in the marriage before kids - your careers are blooming, money seems to be enough so no worries, the sex is regular/frequent

The baby/growing years of your kids - Money worries as you have more mouths to care for, kids take a lot of your attention so you are both easily fatigued as you try to balance everything

Kids are relatively grown up - your finances have gotten better so less money worries, your kids don't need as much attention as before, kids can help with chores and you are both less fatigued = more sex

Beautiful girls and boys
God bless them and you parents, too.
May God grant you all you need to raise and guide and mould them into worthy men and women , children that you will be proud of

Just did # 4

Me: Do we have milk? (getting myself some cereal as I stood at the countertop by the fridge)
Kid: Yes (and started walking away from the kitchen)
Me: where are you going? Shebi I said give me the milk
Kid: You didn't say so ( got it for me,probably wondering how hard would it have been for me to get the milk myself since I was standing next to the fridge)

True African immigrant

horny4u: I work out 6 days a week ....work chest, triceps and back (mon), badass cardio (tues) back and biceps (wed) ashtanga yoga (thurs) legs and back (fri) kickboxing cardio (sat) Rest (sun) .....Mon+wed+fri I work abs for half and hour and build butt and hips for 30 mins too.

I donot beleive in African women being all skinny but flat abs, 15- 20% body phat with a lot of booty to smack

When a lady is over 25 years old she should work out atleast 3 times a week 30 min HIIT and 30 mins weight training. Hormones reduce and sedative lifestyle too cause for weight increase.

Increase protein if you are building a body part and eat complex carbohydrates...NO eating carbs after 6pm.
1 gallon /5 litres of water everyday.

I most times wake up an hour earlier to work out.

Health is the real wealth.

The above is just my opinion.

You go, gal Your body will thank you!

@ Post

Not just after marriage anymore, even before. In the past, you could attribute most cases to childbirth but now? More people eat out than ever before and fitting in exercise can be tough, it takes real determination. As your body gets older, your metabolism becomes slower

My Vicky: Test? That's news to me.

IQ-type tests designed for the child's age, usually for academics. I think you can find such tests online

@ damiso

You shouldn't let any of this weigh you down. I completely understand how the picture looks from your Mom's point of view- In many ways, you were raised to be like her, financially independent, ever generous and accommodating. Now, you're married and,( in her own perception), this husband of yours is changing you into something she did not raise you to be. It's natural that there will be some resistance. You would resist too, if your own daughter, in future, began to adopt a way of life you would never have considered. This whole thing, whether you like it or not, is a sort of battle for damiso, between Mom and your husband. You've been docile so she's used to no opposition but now, she's going to feel like your husband is trying to usurp her influence in your life. They are from a generation where you cannot trust your finances with a man and it's too late for her to change. . . . .

She'll get used to it in the end, just be very patient with her and your Aunties, a lot of "Yes, Mas" go a long way while you are doing your own thing. With strong women, you either have to be stronger or as strong as them, they can be quite formidable. You can't back down, be resolute.

BTW, nice that your hubby apologized.

A lot of the memories relate to TV shows:

Roger Ramjet
The Thing
Sesame Street
Animal Kingdom on NTA
Casper and the angels
Clue Club
Shmoo
Scooby Doo

Cooo-ck crow at dawn
Mirror in the sun
Checkmate
Village headmaster
Fuji house of commotion
Zebrudaya

It was a time when I could not have imagined, in my wildest dreams, that Nigeria would be in this state today smh.

Funmi Adams' "Nigeria, my Beloved Country" brings poignant memories.

Depending on the talent, there may be standardized tests your child can take to confirm

@ Post

Long enough to know where my real home is, long enough to know where our dreams for ourselves and our children can be achieved with the least amount of stress

Naija parents in the West have to do a lot more when it comes to setting their kids on the right path. I don't know where it went wrong in Michael's case but I will say - Get your priotities straight, if you bring kids to the earth, you are responsible for guiding them in the way that they should go. At a certain age, if not earlier, you have to realize these kids have excess energy to burn. Be there to help them channel that energy productively.

If it's soccer they like, enrol them in the local, community league. If it's karate, enrol them in a school, get them extra tutoring for academics, whatever you need to do to keep them busy. An idle mind is the devil's workshop.

Extra curricular activities will not prevent every criminal act but it does help.

For good private schools, that are really (mostly) no better than your average western public school, be prepared to pay a LOT of money. I suggest you do your research carefully before you move. What you think of as average, middle class, western lifestyle is enjoyed in Naija by a class that is, at the least, "upper middle class"

We didn't have any ceremony for any of our children but I doubt that would have been possible if we lived in Naija.

Frankly, I found the lack of traditional naming, liberating. We did the child dedications at church though but that was months after birth and no party afterwards.