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Sanandreas10: Sister.Do you also Indulge In it?

indulge in what now?

omonori1: What is your reason....

its sounds strange

way tooo Revealing

djeezy: Forgiveness is a thing of the heart, it's never easy expecially where the offence is grave. Infidelity is a very serious issue and it can be a basis for divorce but I'm not advicing you to resort to divorce YET. With respect to the issue of forgiveness, it can be in two ways.
1.Some people will forgive her and still send her AWAY.
2. Some will forgive her and still keep her as a wife.

If you choose to adhere to the later, you should weigh the likelihood of the repetition of her act, and furthermore ascertain whether she has truly changed and will not go back to such act. Finally, you have the final say and you should do what is in your best interest and that of your family.

hahahahahhaah m sorry but u say divorce. How can u divorce the person u not married to? coz now reading the thread this is pparently a girl friend, and a young one for that matter. @OP the babe aint your wife sugar she is a young girl trying to lv her life and have fun. Deal with it. U sound young too and can i just tell u, this is just the begining honey, u r yet to see more. NB: She ain't your wife dude. She is just a kid having fun. plzzzzzzzzzz




@djeezy please do not get offended as the hahahah aint for u, i am just tickled by this childish post

nop

experience is the best teacher. what don't kill u will only make u stronger

Kingslaw: thanks.above all,she must love her mother-in-law.

I do not know about this one. I know most of the time the daughter in law is supposed to love the mother in law but there are some people who are just impossible and sometimes u r busy trying to love her and she is busy trying to hate u so in this case i would say, a good wife material is that who can tolerate the mother in laws including some of the sister in laws who might be bad. She should be able to tolerate and know that her emotions must not get the better of her no matter how tempted and at no stage must she ever make her husband choose between her and his family. She must have some form of compromise in her and the ability to turn bad situations into her advantage. We all know that most of the time in laws are full of crap so u need not make it seem as if u r the first or the last person this will happen to. Just handle it like a woman but plz never force or beg them to like u. Just deal with them in a civil manner

honey often we loose out on good stuff just because we are scared of what people will say. I am sure u do know that after all the song and dance that yo friends and family will make about a certain person at the end of the day u r the only one whose gona have to take that person home ( if u know what i mean). I gues what i am trying to say is u must put yourself and your feelings first coz everyone will always have something to say and most of the time those around us always end up respecting our decisions coz there is nothing they can do about it. Can i share with u briefly. When i met my sweethearted man i was a bit scared too coz then he was soo pooor and did not have the right look . He did not rally have clothes and even though he was trying to build his body he was not really all that big and i suspect its because he never really liked eating much but what i saw in this guy was more than what my friends could see. I remember one day he brought me something to my work place and 2 of my co workers were mocking me . Saying some bad things about how he looked that i did not like. I jokingly told them that i was the one fucking this man so they need not bother their minds with my relationship with him. I was a bit offended but i did not show them coz there was just this potential about this men that no one could see. To me i saw someone i loved, i would not want to change him but i would want to improve him and gues what. If u can see the guy in question today , you will not blv that its the same man, even my co worker's mouths are shut and i never and to be honest i never really gave a damn about what people said coz at the end of the day i was the one inlove with him not them

and y would u wana do that dude? goshhhhhhhhhhh

Harbosede02: dat depends on ur definition of "immediate needs"

wise responce

CrazyMan: First of all, you need confidence.

When you approach them, treat them like wild animals, expect them to scratch and claw you, but be firm. Don't go and just start talking to your target as some silly guys would do. You should know that by doing that, you've not only made yourself a subject of ridicule, you’ve lost their respect as well.

Go into their midst, introduce yourself, depending on where you are, find something to shatter the ice, and don’t stay for too long. . When you have them a little relaxed, apologize to the rest and tell them that "so-so lady" caught your eyes and that’s why you came up to them. Make it look like you are taking their permission without asking, and then turn to the "target babe", in 30 secs make your killer speech and leave her with a business card and plead with her to call you. Also, give her friends one (preferably the second finest in the pack). If its at a bar, leave them with drinks, if its a restaurant, pay their bill or buy them a bottle of wine or something.

Good luck.

wow i like

if one has some things their are not comfortable with in their life, its easy to be an insecured lover but as the person who is in love with that person i am sure there are some good qualities that u have picked up from this person that just make u feel like ''WOW''. SO why not try help your loved one. Try understand the route of their insecurity and help them work through it. Even if the person relapses u can still give it a try, even though if the relapse occures too often u will feel like just giving up and living the whole situation. I gues what i am trying to say is try save it before u let it go

Ab025: @omega.....u re very right, eye contact and boldness works out for me most times.

But I want more ladies to comment cos we want to know how they want to be approached by guys when they are wit their galfriends.

Is it by the guy;-
•being bold and walkin straight to her in d midst of her friends?
•stalking them for d main time b4 approachin ur dreamgal when she is alone?
•driving ur car over to them and offering for a lift or whatever?
•saying to the group "excuse me ladies, pls can I take just minute of ur friend's time..?"
•getting friendly to all three ladies to be friends with them b4 focusing on ur dreamgal at a future date?
•or walking straight up to the ladies and offering them a huge sum of cash to hang out with them or their friend in particular
Etc

I want ladies to tell us which of d approaches they prefer and if they can also tell us a different approach that is not stated here which they feel is better.

I hate the driving your car for a lift part.It makes a girl like me feel as if u take me cheap or like a material person. Its like u r using what u have to attract me and for me i hate that sooooooooooooo much. Its much better for u to get out of your car, walk with me, i do not even want to see u do the whole getting out part. Honey blv me when i say most woman hate guys who flaunt material things

joeydozzy: HABATICALLY!!!!

Hi, My name is Joeydozzy and I'm a clapaholic

hahahahah funny

funkyjms: Noted....buh em demn shor dhisis nat wha she meant by "will still lose"

yah maybe u r right

Ab025: @monicasque....ur point is well taken and I admire ur sincerity. Am sure many guys reading this are learning.

Thank you

checkerwork: Everyone loves to present themselves as a dating coach when they're asked questions like this.if you're not sure,it's better you keep quiet because you'll pay for the number of people you mislead..

A person comes to nairaland so that they can get other people's views before they make decisions in their lives. At the end of the day its the individual's choice whether they take advice or not. I disagree with this your statement because problem shared is problem halved. We might not have the right answer but when we put our minds together and debate our views one can make a choice better for their situation

funkyjms: lol...dunno yu read that too...that's wha promted ma previous post

loss is part of love. We give birth to kids who we love so much but at one stage we will loose each other. They might lv the country, get married , die etc. I can never deprive myself of love just because i am scared of loosing. I love my legs but one day i might get in to an accident and loose both. So u see loss is part of love.

Harbosede02: helo miss,won't u thank me 2?

hahahahah Thank you so much to you too Madam

Enegod: you're welcome

that is so kind of u. Thank u again

wat do u have to loose?

brosss: they better not were this bra to a church,concert,class etc. don't ask me why but imaging the pandemonium.

hahhah hahah

i agree girl. Imagine i will be busy clapping and worshipping in church next thing my bra thinks am telling it to come off

Enegod: hope you are no longer lost?

ohh. I c. Thank u

Enegod: it means, she likes your post

maybe i am too slow buh m still lost

most of the time if i am with my girls and a guy seems interested. If i allow him the chance to talk to me, i am just gonna take advantage for that day, maybe make him buy us drinks or make him do stuff juist to impress me but after it all i ignore him and if i am not in the mood of toying with people's feelings i just ignore u from the start. So i am not trying to get insults here but all i am saying is, its better to win the lady's respect from the start. How you would ask. Well if u feel she is really worth it, just follow them a little maybe more than a little. Maybe until u see where she stays and one day just intentionally bump into her even if it means u have been following her for sometime. Most woman hate a guy who just approaches u out of the blue coz sometimes we just feel he is just '' one of those''

Afro connect: All these Brazillian hair,excessive make ups and eye lash cutting is rubbish.
keep your natural looks as much as you can,only bitches try too much to be attractive.

this is a free world and one can do whatever they want to themselves. If u do not want a lady with Brazilian then do not approach one. Who r u to dictate how she should look?

honey any age is fine. U can be 20 or 40 it all depends on u. As long as u feel ready. Most people would like to explore life first before committing just to avoid u having a huby and kids but still wanting to go out clubing with your girls. There is a way a wife should act and it should differ from how an unmarried lady would act. You also have to check if u have satisfied all your ambitions e.g: varsity, finance etc. If u have not but are willing to juggle being a wife and still chasing these its still cool and if u wana achieve all these first so that u focus on your marital duties once u tie the knot its still fine. Just make sure that u do not regret anything in life coz u lv once. You just have to be ready and never allow the society dictate coz u will be one miserable woman

sex is a matter of choice. Different strokes for different folks. Both partners must understand and respect each other's values and decisions with some compromise to it ofcourse from BOTH parties. We have to remember that not only 1 person will be the ruler in the relationship. Love is a two way street

a man is not gele that u will wear on your head for all to see. The beauty of a man is cows

#9 - Its fine , i am not angry / sad