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misunderstanding which led to a temporary disorder in my love life

and why on earth would u accept his money then. When i have a daughter my first lesson will be '' never accept anything from a stranger coz u dont want people to think u r cheap''. Money is a big deal and what your thread implies is that we can use guys for transport money . that is lame

[quote author=2s£xy]Hahhaha... Okay, ma'am. We are cool now.[/quote]thank u sir. I blv we r

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]You can't take a man that does not want to be taken unless by death.

For the most parts, foreign women do not go after African/Nigerian men because of the stereotypes propelled by media or social mouths. Some of them would remove generalizations by getting to knowthe said man whether he is authentic with his motives or not.

Some of them fall prey to African/Nigerian men that are scammers and looking for quick bucks.

Some of them fall for decent African/Nigerian men that are genuinely in love with said foreign women.

I place blame on the African/Nigerian women who are married to these men that are with foreign women. Regardless of dire circumstances, a woman of true integrity will not participate nor condone such ill behaviors that undermine the fruition of their marriage.

I have read threads by African/Nigerian women who expressed delight and satisfaction of foreign women being used for papers and prosperity. I have stated that how can you knowingly welcome a cheating husbanf home that can potentially contaminate you with deadly diseases?

How can you as your children's first teach without shame teach your children about self respect and integrity knowing you are not practicing what you are preaching?

Of course, I was given bullshit answers which I wasn't surprised coming from Nairaland.

In conclusion, a man that respect his life and family will not do anything to taint his family even if he was starving. If he is single...he has every right to be with whomever or whatever his heart desire.

How would you feel if a White woman complain about non-White women taking their men away? It is foolish either way.[/quote]i like what u r saying. Most of the time i have just noticed that its not as if the naija guy will really love that foreign woman as most of the time our men are oppotunists and they would not think twice about getting something from that foreign woman. whether its money or papers whatever. And most of the time its because maybe he left his naija woman back at home but the moment she comes to where he is she is first priority and that forein woman has to share or accept her loss. Brothers am i correct ? please tell us as u r the men and i think u would better be suited to respond to this wonderful thread

[quote author=2s£xy]I am sorry... Just that the way you said it made me respond that way coupled with what I had experienced before. But years later, she came begging me and hopefully wanted us to continure which I declined.

I wouldn't advice ladies to do what you did because they could end up hurting an innocent soul, someone who REALLY cared.

I can't reall talk much but I believe you may have hurt someone in the process of catching fun, someone who really cared. Brb[/quote]sweetheart when we open our hearts to love someone we take a chance. I have taken chances too and got hurt. please do not make me feel bad for catching up to the game. As i said i was going through a phase and my intentions were not to hurt anyone. No one can really avoid pain in life. I have had my own fair share and u do not see me breaking. don't hate the player hate the game

this is supposed to be a joke right? especially your picture? on a serous note thought isn't better to confront the guy instead of fighting another sister ?

most of the time wheni read the things u say, i just end up in cracks but if what u r saying here is true then i gues some people need to change small small

duffie: My lessons,

1. Money can't buy you happiness

2. A man that respects me is worth keeping

Share your views.

babes i agree with u. My own lesson was learning that hot temper or arrogance can never build anything. Humility, patience and understanding can get u far as long as both parties want to go far coz love is a two way street and it can not work if its only the other person who wants to make it work. Both must really wana make it work and expect challenges as the journey is not for the feinthearted

oooookay

Popowaa: Wow,so u can forgive?

u forgive because holding a grudge only hurts u more and u move on bcoz the one who has hurt u before is not worth u anymore and it would only hurt u more if u held on but i am not an expect baby as sometimes some people can change.

[quote author=2s£xy]Okay, ma'am. I guessed you just wanted to have fun then. So that when you settle down, you wouldn't feel there is anymore adventure out there to explore.

It's all good...[/quote]exactly what i have been preaching. In life u don't just get into serous commiment such as marriage if u r not ready. For me i know the difference between wife and maiden behaviour and i always try make people understand that its better to explore certain things before u say i do coz if u gona wana try do those after saying i do then u r in shities. Marriage is a good blessed union and should be respected but because people sometimes just get married even though they r not ready they go and disgrace our womanhood in marriage just bcoz they sometimes feel trapped

[quote author=2s£xy]Why you possibly did what you did, as stated in the other thread. It could have stemed from things like this.[/quote]m glad u understand. Life is hard my dear and love is harder. all the knocks just have a way of changing your persona

[quote author=2s£xy]Well, what can I say? You only gave reason to also use girls and dump them more... It's all about the money and fun after all.[/quote]i so hate it when people make it seem as if relationships are all about money. I have never dated anyone for me darling i have my own

[quote author=2s£xy] i see why now.[/quote]u c what my dear?

NnekaGirl: I am sure there are alot of serious girls who would like to take her place,she literaly killed you by doing what she did.If you forgive her today what if she does the same thing later??
I applaud your maturity,you behaved responsibly kudos!!I pray that God gives you strength to get through this,but remember there are still a responsible woman out there,who would value you and value the sanctity of marriage.

i love this

i gues sometimes us woman tolerate more than we should all in the name of love regardless the status of the relation

walk out the first time he hurt me. not try to stay and see if he will change

have u tried discussing this with him first?

hahahahahah no its not true

Mogten: Now, many believe money to be the lubricant, some say, it goes on for so long as it's meant to be.... But with longevity and recurrence comes boredom and tiredness. One might be forgiven for thinking, "they ain't even worth the stress", but in truth, you come across people worth holding onto for all that it takes..... Not because they are they are everything to everyone, but because they are the best to someone, you...., their imperfections notwithstanding. In a world full of bad people, the good ones are rare, but when you find that special somebody, the one thing you could risk ruing for the rest of your life and the thing to avoid is letting that one person that meant so much to you at one point slip by... Good things don't occur twice. So my country people, how I fit keep my relationship spicy?
PS: I intend marrying this lady, I really do. Thanks in advance!

thank u

Skinni10ne: Regular slim to husky men with flat stomachs; not overweight.

okay. i c

iamswizz: no vex o.. But shey ur papa get six packs?

ohh darling , i would not really know the answer to that. He died when i was 4 so i do not know much about him

forgive and move on. if u love someone u just dont be betrayin dem out of choice. if someone betrays u it simply means she is not that much into u

[quote author=2s£xy] YOU SAW IT COMING[/quote]hahahahahahah nop. i did not. m not lolling because i am humiliated. I do not regret anything i went through because it has made me the person that i am and if given a chance again, honey i would do it again. I m just loling bcoz u dont seem to understand that there r different phases in this journey called growing up and that was my phase and i do not regret it at al. so u have never gone through stages in your life?

[quote author=2s£xy]Hmmmm...

Why would someone date a person they don't love?

PURE WICKEDNESS toying with men's emotion abi?

And you were eating their money while having fun.

I no wan talk pass like this.

Advice to young ladies reading this: if you know you don't love a guy, but you love yourself, DONT even date him. Like play like place headline go read: 'Boyfriend Beats girlfriend to death' ; ' Man Set Wife ablaze' etc.

Be careful who you play with in game and assume you are smart.

The quoted below may have been luck and you may not.

I hate women, girls and ladies who date someon they don't love. No other reason because of greed for something they hope to gain.[/quote]lol

jpiliya: @ monicasque..... am certainly 100% correct for some girls SOME girls is what I wrote

k

me too i do not even want to think about that. Its just too disrespectful for a partner to slap or even speak bad to the in laws. i think i would realy realy get veryyyyy angry coz u know what my mom is my mom and really no one has got the right to disrespect her just as i make sure that i respect other people's moms as well. There is no guarantee that all will always be well with the inlaws but a good partner knows where to draw the line just as family should know family where to draw the line too. Such things r really the reason y i like to keep my distance coz they happen when people r over familiar with each other

mrwils: Since I was Born, and Now I am getting OLD.. i have never seen a BOY with one Girlfriend...
Sisters Have You seen?

lol what a question

Skinni10ne: Plz speak for yourself. I really don't.

k, so what do u like?

lol. I doubt if the reasons u stated here r 100% correct but i am an advocate of ladies working hard for themselves as well. Sisters its okay if u have certain '' ambitions'' in your life but you should really aim at being independent and not depend on the man for your wealth because truth is baby he might die one day or he might lv u or he might treat u like shit coz he knows that the only thing u want is his cash. My fear is that so many people when they reach they forties or something feel trapped and regret not building their own wealth. Sister i am pro sisters development and never depend on that guy for your own coz u know what YOU CAN DO IT. You can be the best woman u have ever seen. u can be the woman who does not fear tomorrow coz u know what your two hands can do. even if tomorrow he would wake up and lv u or treating u wrong just bcoz he thinks u fear loosing him. show him that your two hands can provide more than his can provide for u. he will respect u for that. if he dont then he is looser

I used to cheat on guys soooo much. Everyone knows that. But i realised that i did that because i did not love those guys. Ever since i met the man i love and would hate to loose, i don't do that shit nomore. Mind u , it was just relationships and not marriage. In marriage one should never ever think of infedility. Especially the woman coz the welbeing of your family depends on u. M not usually one to tell people to quit as marriage is a blessed union but me knowing all that i have done and knowing what i know now, i would never forgive such an activity if i wer a man. I know what i am saying might have many insults here on NL but my brother i would think twice about forgiving this woman if i were u. Its not good what she and your friend did. she does not deserve u. lv her. go on holiday just to clear your mind and u will find a wife again. a real one this time

this is why i always say people must make sure they are ready before saying i do. coz marriage is no child's play. u can't get married just because your mates are doing it. u have to know all the responsibilities that come with it and do it only after u r sure that u can handle them


but hey if u r willing to forgive and forget its up to u coz u r the only one who knows the good qualities which r in her which u dnt want loose