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I have seen such situations before. Its really hard for her i know, considering that she is fragile, vulnarable and trying to understand life. My advice would be for you to help her go somewhere far. Where she will know no body, help get her a small job and maybe try enrol her for distance education. By the time she is done with her studies and had saved some small cash , she will be strong enough to help others and be able to look her parents in the eye and let them know that she can't be easly be broken. She is bigger than that. It will not be easy but with determination it can be done

i would ask to be excused. run back home, cry and break up with my bf

kaboninc: There's no harm in that. So long as you remain in one piece, then you're good to go.

I also hope your reasons are worth the risk!

hey K. What is the rist there?

sometimes you get old fools and sometimes you get good young guys. I blv its never about the age but always about the charactor

hahahahaha these pictures are finishing me. guys plzzzz.

Actions speak louder than words and the tongue is a very small organ but it can destroy so much. so i choose both

powertool: There's this lady I really cherish.

Now she tells me she loves me but she is not in love with me.

I have asked her to explain and she is not willing to do so. Am even more confused now

Abeg my fellow NLders, what does it mean to love someone and not be in love with that person. Abi she confuse?

that is hurting. Sorry hey . Sometimes the truth has a nasty way of hurting innocent people

I like the shot form behind most but i do not like his face

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So are you a fan of marriage or are you sort of more for the single life?[/quote]for now i am not ready for marriage. I have a lot that i still want to accomplish as an individual but i know in a few years time , maybe 5 i will be ready. The thing which i seem to pick up most of the time is that people get married when they are not ready and end up having to put some of their plans in the back sit. I have never liked sacrificing and i am not ready to start doing so. I need to lv my life, do all sorts of crazy stuff then when i am done. I wana be someone's wifey and someone's's mama

2 people who are married are a team yes but are still individuals, so they should there for respect each others privacy. You must trust the one you are with remember. I think not being able to respect one's privacy is invading and crowing their space. Marriege is not meant for the couple to suffocate each other. After all we are 2 different individuals hey

[quote author=Atheist:-D]Not to me

I am too smart for that

But it has happened in the West to a lot of relaxed and caring married men. Marriage is becoming too burdensome.[/quote]lol i wasn't saying sorry to you personally . i was saying sorry to those who have experienced it

its never wrong to protect yourself. Marriage does not guarantee that he will not cheat or pass HIV

lovingsoul: We all are guilty; no one is clean when it comes to this. Like a park of cards we fall victim every day to the same mistakes weakness and excuse. To feel good you point accusing fingers at the next person, leaving yourself out of it.

Here there is no saint, we all have been stained by the things we do, if you think you are as white as snow, i oblige you to cast the first stone. I look round searching for a way out, but all route and road that leads to vindication and elevation has been blocked, no mortal can pass this test.

Immediately you took your first breath, instantly you’ve been found guilty, you ask guilty of what? And i say, leave that for another day. A mother gives all to her child, but she is stilled accused and found guilty, if the nation is guilty can the people that make up the nation be innocent or free from this huge sin and mistake.


am very sorry if my question will offend you poster because i really do not want to provoke anyone but i just have a question for you. Is this supposed to be in this section ( romance section)? , sounds to me its something that has to do with religion or poetry

How i wish i was born into this family, nation, continent, race and society, but the more you wish, the deeper you fall into the well of guilt and frustration.

I think we all need a good lawyer to defend us prove our innocence, but come to think of it, isn’t the lawyer a mortal to, the same blood that flows through our veins. Can the guilty try to prove or vindicate the guilty.

There is confusion everywhere, no hope anywhere, all we can do is to beat our guilty hearts black and blue, and some even say they don’t have a clue, so what do we do?

Just know that you as guilty as i am, if a baby that just took its first breath can be found guilty, how much you that have taken thousands of carnal and careless breathe, please give me a break. I know all seem and sound crazy, that is because your mind is lazy, it is not ready to search for the answers to these questions. He stands before a large crowd, prophesying and assuring the people, but right there inside the supposed holy soul, guilt is all that flows.

We all are guilty, believe it or not, but the earlier you start appreciating this cold reality, the better for you and i.

am very sorry if my question will offend you poster because i really do not want to provoke anyone but i just have a question for you. Is this supposed to be in this section ( romance section)? , sounds to me its something that has to do with religion or poetry

[quote author=Atheist:-D]It happens a lot unfortunately... and then they blame the man by saying he is not passionate enough and they never loved him [/quote]sorry about that

hahahahah funny and true, but why would you hang around and wait for someoen to dump the other. Remember if he cheated with you, he will cheat on you

[quote author=Atheist:-D]Sure sure, sounds somewhat ancient but we could go with that.

A more modern interpretation would be if you dont leave her now, she will cheat on you and father 2-3 of the guys kids with you. And then leave you after 10 years taking the kids, house, car and half your income. [/quote]hahahahahahhaha funny Ath

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She would be off once his money expired. [/quote]yep. I have always believed that a man's loyalty is tested when he has everything and a woman's loyalty is tested when her man has got nothing

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Fight, fight, FIGHT



You are right. No point fighting if her heart isnt there. I think it is better to call it all off and end the relationship. If she has doubts before the wedding her heart is not fully in it and all sorts of problems will arise.[/quote]you know the old saying '' if you love something , let it go. If it comes back to you then it was meant for you but if it never comes back, it means it was never meant for you in the first place''.

[quote author=Atheist:-D]Ok. I could go with that. But if they are still close then HELL no.



How long does he wait? What if he doesnt have time? WHy cant he be proactive and go after the ex





That is some scary stuff. What the hell was she talking about and with whom? What could it mean long term?[/quote]fighting never solved anything. Its better to let the fiance's heart decide. Whichever choice the fiance makes, atleast i know that should it bite them in the assss tomorrow my hands are clean and the questio about the phone > long term it means disaster coz i would never be able to trust the person again

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[quote author=Atheist:-D]How can she give him true love if she only wants his money? She does not have that commodity to sell. I have seen true love... it has no stipulations, requirements or barriers. Love, not faith, can move mountains.[/quote]you are correct. Which is the reason why i made it clear that it should never be about the finance. Her post was all wrong as it makes one to sound as if she is selling her self ( prostitution)

These questions are thought provoking but the questions about

1- Fiance having slept with best friend before we knew each other = that is no big issue , atleast we did know each other then and its the past

2- Ex lover coming into town a few weeks before wedding > patience is a virtue and i would patiently wait for the fiance to decide. If i am not chosen , i will cut my losses and move on. Obvioulsly it will not be easy but its better to say goodbye than have a bitter marriage

3- Spouse talking to someone on our wedding night then smashing the phone > helllllll no that is some serious shit and i would probably go mad and scatter the bedroom

true love comes from the heart not money , not beauty. A woman is her charactor and not what can easly be harmed ( the outside). I am not saying its wrong for woman to be pretty. Hell no. I do not blv beauty and ugliness nor money should be the issue.The issue is both their charactors. What is the use of marrying someone you do not love or someone who will not treat you right? regardless of their financial status

they either did the deed or your friend knows something bad about your girl