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RamessesIV:
Thank you,Nigerian's case is different,in other countries women are looking for men that will give them full devotion and love but here is always money,am not saying money is bad as a lady financial security from a man is a good thing but entitlement over here is too much,imagine one saying her vagina is her value lol sex that is very cheap

I see where you are coming from

Juell:
One thing I don't get is, ok you give a man sex..... But is it only the man who enjoys the sex? Even during sex it's the man that works more to please the woman enough for her to get the promise land, some or many don't even really participate in the activity and will just be there like log of wood.

Cheii. This your Analysis caRRy ReD CAP & Ph.D with walkinG StiCk

tunjilana:
There are two ways to live with men

1. Is to be in a relationship and be committed and work to be one
2. The other is to be available for all men and increase your finances from what you get from all of them

What you are trying to do is deceiving a man that you are doing 1. With him while doing 2. As well. That is the issue here. If u want to be available for all men, let it be known so no man takes you serious and sees u as pay-and-go, hopefully you will enjoy living that way but as long as you are deceiving somebody that you are in a relationship with him, he has every right to seek loyalty from you.Though I blame the guy, these days men dont do all that silly checking, once she shows you those behavior, simply stop taking her serious and convert her to your play mate while you seek a reasonable woman....

God Bless you for your two points up there. That's what I've been trying to explain ,though scenarios and circumstances make them overlap.

sexylassie2:
I think you don't understand what I meant.

Some Nigerian men do not provide nor give anything in a relationship but they act entitled to sex like it is their right.

okay Dear. Please leave them. I've spoken to some of the guys on here to take a chill pill with you . They have also admitted that a guy shouldn't feel entitled to sex if there's no money especially when there's less expectation of tying the knot or sticking it out with you.
Shit. This is messy. Many guys can lie about marriage proposals in order to have their way with you. Which is why the old-fashioned way of no Sex before marriage pays out.
Sorry I have to find out if you are strictly Business, looking for/willing to find a long-term partner i.e. marriage or both. Because I may be giving wrong advice. Didn't mean to aggravate you. There is no hard and fast rule.

sexylassie2:
So why are men feeling entitled to sex?

Thanks for staying calm, hun.
SimPle. We Should AVoid that GRoup.
I went out of my way to prove it wasn't about the money. If he is a good or reasonable person(who we should strive to be with as our Significant other), he would reciprocate and not bother you for sex.

I'm not against Sex for money if one really has to do that to suRVive. If that was the case, I would promote this thread and it would make more sense. Then there is a Catch. It's confusing though. There is no fine line because This can be implied in a relationship for a man to take care of his girl. But you're not going to be over the top all up in his face bugging him with this attitude everytime. You can request nicely once in a while what's within his means, I'm sure he would oblige. Anyone would.
I am talking or speaking exclusively for those who want to settle on a Real BOyfRienD leading to holy matrimony state-0f-mind.
Let's not mix things up

sexylassie2:
Go and marry a white lady, let's see if she will tolerate you not bringing nothing to the table.

SPOt on. My point is, don't make it look like it's all about the money. ElSe, we may miss good people God sends our way.
PeaCe, Sister. One lOVe.

21cents:
the question is what are you giving??

don't mention kpekus abeg.

I give money, good looks for your kids, resourceful, independent, educated with a good grade, Street smart, intelligence.

if I can't have at least money in return, little to no demands, and a hard-working trait from her, then there's something wrong somewhere with the lady.

she's only looking for a well to do Messiah to lay her entitled broke ass self on..

let's settle this. Both of you are correct. It's just the way Lilian worded the thread that would make guys interprete it the wrong way.

RamessesIV:
Ahh there a still Nigerian women like this,and you aren't even in Nigeria

people assume it's because of scarcity of men to marry here but nahh. Even if the economy was not as good, there's a right way to get a man to spend. Not by feeling entitled. That's if you Really want him.

sexylassie2:
It seems you talking from the side of your mouth.

But you are married to an old white man

Why don't you take your kid and be a single mother instead of attaching your self to a man

White girl wannabe.

Please DOnt attack me dear,
I am only stating my opinion.
Do your thing. I have no Qualms.
JUSt Be CaReful so you don't make same mistakes I made. I want you to be OKay. We have a family. I didn't feel entitled to his money. Betterstill, don't make it GlaRinG. I Retreated. Had to suffer at my job and didn't ReQuest for money. That is when they would be touched to go out of their way to assist. Even if they Don't ASsist, no good deed goes unappreciated. They would CheRiSh you. And no, that is not being foolish and CRaVinG for Attention. EQuivalent to having a BeSt fRiend you don't want to hurt. Which is the BaSis for maRRiaGe.
I know there are some guys who just want to take advantage of GiRls and not root out for them. But we shouldn't use the method of requesting for funds to weed out Real from fakes. We may end up sending away few good men with our message. I was overdoing it and it led many eligible bachelors in my life to flee. That was before I came to my Senses ontime. Otherwise, I won't have had a man to call my own. If your final Goal isn't marriaGe, there's no need for you to take my advice. It just passes a negative message across that you are with him for the BaG. You feel me? And that may not be your intention, it's not like you are a bad person who wants to Drain his finances., you may just want to check if he's Real or not. There are ways situations like this should be handled.
There are exceptions to this. For example, if the guy may be a millionaire and he hasn't handed out nothing to you that's like Chicken change to him and you guys may have dated in a SeRious Relationship for like 5 years. That's a little odd . You Can approach him about it, but always in a mild and subtle manner.

Deoboss:
You will go places, GOD has already blessed you for your right mentality

Amen. Thanks. GoD Bless you tOO

Tozic:
FRUSTRATED SLUT, WETIN NA?
NO WORK AGAIN? ABI DEY NO DEY PATRONIZE YOUR SLUTY BUSINESS?
TAKE HEART DEAR, EVERYTHING WILL BE OVER.



FIRST_CLASS ODE.

it hurts when the man I love doesn't acknowledge my existence. HuRts more to be with another man even when he has more means.
This is not low self-esteem

ChrisLegacy007:
broke ladies n' entitlement are inseperable.. if your boyfriend is stingy then go get yourself a f*ckin' job

I Believe these People don't tRUly love, BeCause if they do, they would overlook. Even if it means going hungry, they would source out another means to make income.
I don't like mixing transactions with Relationships. Which brings me to the point of not being able to sleep around for money.

newman0017:
ode wi yu get LOST relationship no be excuse to dey wash pussy cat dey wait who go say hello make him come buy toiletries or do your hair.. Better still go barb your hair use am the carry pure water you go get toiletries money.

GUys guys Please pray for this GiRl. I USeD to Be like this B4. She would change. We should ASPiRe to be with a man who's COmfortable but not the way they are going about it making it look like that's the foundation for A RelatiOnShiP

Oluromantic:
2, 4, 6, 8, 14, 16, 20

longer thROAT..Ole BReaSt [code][/code]

lefulefu:
whizkid never give this woman belle yet?

lefu my guy

macaranta:
Particular with iphones (generally phones with metal casing), it's really a sad one.

yeah , couldn't help but notice iPhones having a lot of metal.

joshjc:
Rip to her, our health workers attitude this covid 19 period is very bad, my mother passed away because of it,we rushed her to the hospital,they didn't even attend to her, she didn't make it before we got to another hospital,
I made a promise that day I must make it in life,and then build good hospitals with very good workers and less charges

Thanks for not taking it out on them and moving on, making a POSiTive move from that experience. GoD willBless you and your family ABUnDantly.

Alexaonfleek:

Na really horrific scents

On a serious note,it's something she'll stop as she grows older,don't worry.
When I was a kid I used to like sniffing dust on nets that they put on the window.

Even now,I still like sniffing fresh clean money from the mint

I feel u

Surfondsystems:
Bro these your keys won’t work if you don’t have some certain basic things in place like a good job or means of livelihood, your Accomodation, sometimes with some ladies a good car. Your dress sense must be up to date e.t.c.

A lot of ladies look at these things especially the beautiful ones who have lots of suitors approaching them. When you have these things in place then you automatically make the top of their list of potential suitors but if you’re lacking in one or any of these, your chances might be slimmer.

Talking about the beautiful ones who have guys coming at them in droves.

SUitoRs or you mean use and DumP?

OP you didn't tell us whether we can get husband from here

Gadafii:
Only wives have the right to say "he cheated on me"

I rest my case

mumu. Who tell you say those ones even get right,? At this time of male scaRCity and confUSiOn

donbachi:
Why did u "sister zone" her...if dem do u like dat,u no go like am...go and beg her.

hehehehehe

bobontop:
I had a similar experience. But everything changed when I recieved Jesus into my life. I was set free from that cage of fear and timidity. My most sincere counsel is this, receive Jesus into your life. It makes you a brand new man.

God Bless u

Shiver99:
Reading threads like this reinforces in my mind that many of the males that frequent Nairaland are truly the dredges of society.

Imagine an able-bodied man advising his fellows to go and marry old established women to give them pocket money, feed and clothe them.
Instead of standing up like a normal human and finding work and thus protecting their dignity.

You think you can try to act like a child in someone else’s house and not expect to be disciplined when you step out of line?

Too many babyish, parasitic, low self esteem creatures running around this country.

Thank god I’ll only ever see 90% of participants of this thread behind a screen door.

Ah aah. You Dey woRk wor emBaSsy? BiKO, BRos link Mii. I no dey yaBuna like them. One luv

lefulefu:
i always laugh when i see the stress some nigerian guys endure with their naija girlfriends .spending money for their hair monthly,money for menstrual pads,rent money,money for school fees,make up money ..money for clothes,shoe money etc and these expenses they spend it weekly or monthly minues house rent which is spent yearly.the black american man will just run if he experience such expenses

yes, Sex is veRy eXPenSive in NigeRia

Thastie:
And why is that?

Please DOnt mind Dudd. They lOve Us

pDudd:
Next tip: Be ready for drama anytime. They are full of it. They will take opportunity of anything to try to make money from your misery.

Akata will make money off anything they can, irrespective of who you are. Let me give you an example.

Last December I was at a church parking lot trying to reverse, next thing out from nowhere one Akata girl came and scraped my bumper with the side of her car. When I looked at her from my back mirror, I saw that she speaking on her phone and that was the reason she scraped my car bumper. She was obviously not paying attention while driving. While I was still trying to figure out the situation, she jumped out of her car and immediately snapped my plate number and immediately entered back into her car quietly while continuing to speak on the phone.

I smiled to myself because I understood the game. Akata wan use Warri + Igbo man make money abi?

I came out of my car, checked on her and asked politely if she was ok. She said yes she was. I checked my car and hers. There was no single scratch on her car or mine. Both cars looked like nothing had happened. We both exchanged auto insurance information as per protocol and I thought that will be the end of it cos no damage was done right? Nope .

Remember akata and drama go hand in hand.

A month later I got a call from my auto insurance company saying that someone reported that I had crashed into her car and damaged it and she was seeking damages and possibly a lawsuit. The insurance wanted to know all the details of the accident such as the damage, the location, time of the day, what happened prior to, and after the accident.

I simply told my insurance agent everything about how she was on her phone, how nobody was injured and I also sent her all the pictures I took of the scene and the body of the cars to show that there was no damage done to anyone.

After a week of investigation, I was called and told that both the Akata car insurance company and my car insurance company had determined that the accident was completely the Akata's fault and that if I needed to file for any damage claims or lawsuit.

I thought about it and just said No, I don't want to claim any damages or Sue her. God has blessed me above looking for small $2000 damage claim.

The Akata was trying to sue me after she hit my car but God put her to shame and put her at my mercy but I chose to forgive.

Stay away from Akata o.

wOw. VeRy touching. God would always vinDiCate the innocent.

khia:
That's all they are (stereotypes) I can guarantee you he doesn't have any black American associates to make these claims. He is the type (Coon) Black Americans would shun. It all stems from low self-esteem and envy.

I feel you. Just ignore them. It can be annoying at times but I take it as all fun and games

DriggityDre:

Why do you mix lowercase and uppercase letters? Very weird

so as you be AKaTA u no dey feel flow?

DriggityDre:

Why do you mix lowercase and uppercase letters? Very weird

what level or kind of weird though? Please expantiate