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Family / Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by moremi2008(m): 7:04pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
ronkebp: Moremi dear, i was single here in the States before i got married, i met my hubby here, my marraige is not even up to 3 years yet...and i have mingled with ladies that know their worth and respect themselves. Maybe i do not attract nonsense people as friends that is why i find it hard to believe that some women are like that. We have gullible ones' and i have had very few friends that are just foolishly gullible and their arses had been dumped severally by the men in their lives... Hahaha! Thank God not all ladies are like you. Otherwise, awon boys go suffer for town. Madam strict-strict! Sha take-am easy. |
Family / Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by moremi2008(m): 6:42pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
ronkebp: ^^^^^yeah only because you meet loosers and not real women... , why would i ask a guy if he loves me after 1 year of dating? talk more of just meeting him after few weeks...Really who does that?? you must have been seeing all this secondary school girls....REAL/MATURED WOMEN DO NOT THINK LIKE THAT. Ronke you are married! You are thinking like a married woman! You really need to meet more of these single Nigerian ladies in the diaspora! They form grown and matured in church and to other ladies but in private, they throw all caution to the wind when they meet correct bobo! Desperation and insecurity does horrible things to otherwise great ladies (they start seeking confirmations of love as soon as they decide the man is a keeper). Of course, the guys will say anything to gain access. But I only gave a romance example because I have never being married (btw, it wasn't the same girl that said all those things. It was different girls). However, almost all my close friends are married and they lie to their wives all the time to keep peace (I am pretty sure the wives catch some of those lies, but they seem to accept and like things this way.) We go out for drinks after work and they tell their wives they are still are work. They grossly inflate their work titles and work responsibilities. They withhold material facts about their past (e.g. educational accomplishments) and never tell their wives they slept with half the ladies in church before marriage. I could go on and on. Their wives are not complaining; they mistake silence for enigma and fetishize a man with secrets. Works for both parties. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Advice Needed,shud I Go Ahead And Marry Her Or Nor? by moremi2008(m): 6:25pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
I don't even understand your question. You don't want an SS child but you ALREADY have a child with her! At this point, it's too late to use SS children as an excuse. A couple with AS genotype getting married is not the end of the world. There are solutions to this issue if you have access to good healthcare. You can test the foetus before birth and then decide whether to carry the child to term. Even if you don't have access to good healthcare, lots of Nigerian parents have SS children every year and their lives did not end. Do the right thing. Make a honest woman of this lady and marry her. She's already the mother of your child and you don't want her curses trailing you for the rest of your life. |
Family / Re: Do You Prefer An Enigmatic Spouse Or A Straight Forward One? by moremi2008(m): 6:08pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
All bloody lies! Women don't know what they want and even if they do, they'll lie about it and claim the opposite. Women claim they like straight-forward, honest guys but once the guy starts telling them the truth or starts being honest, they start complaining and accusing the man of being too emotional or too harsh or too insensitive. The truth is, ladies love to be lied to. They keep fantasies in their heads and minds and they usually seek men who will fulfill those fantasies even though those men are liars and posers. I stopped being completely honest with ladies many years ago. These days, I just tell them whatever it is they want to hear. Makes everybody happy. My typical convos with a girl I just met a few weeks ago: Girl : "Where are you?" Me: "At home, thinking about you" (what I am actually thinking: "Eating dinner at another girl's place" ) Girl : "Do you love me?" Me: "Yes dear" (what I am actually thinking: "Are you crazy? We just met" ) Girl: "I want to have your babies" Me: "Sure" (what I am actually thinking: "God forbid bad thing" ) Girl: "I want a princess wedding in Paris and a blue box from Tiffany's (2 carats VVS minimum)." Me: "Baby, we can make that happen if you like, no problem" (what I am actually thinking: "Oloriburuku onigbese! You and your family barely have a pot to piss in and you're dreaming of Paris wedding!" ) 31 Likes |
Travel / Re: South-African Policeman Tears Nigerian's Passport To Pieces (Pic) by moremi2008(m): 5:31pm On Jun 22, 2012 |
presido1: Thought Nigeria passport start with letter A plus 8 numbers. How come this one starts with 029 Good catch. Although South Africa is probably one of the most xenophobic places on earth (they don't even try to hide their hostility to other black Africans), this passport might be fake. |
Family / Re: Househelp/nanny Needed In PH by moremi2008(m): 9:17pm On Jun 21, 2012 |
^^^^^ This is also an excellent way to attract kidnappers! Don't you have family or church members that can provide solid leads for domestic help? With the horrible security situation in Nigeria (and especially Port Harcourt), why would you seek someone to take care of your kids on the internet? Or are you part of a kidnapping ring looking to recruit new members? |
Car Talk / Re: Converting Right Hand Drive Vehicles To Left: Any Issues? by moremi2008(m): 9:13pm On Jun 21, 2012 |
vicoloni: VERY URGENT!!! You can also try Paris. Passports are issued there. |
Career / Re: Tribalism In Nigerian Banks' Employment by moremi2008(m): 9:06pm On Jun 21, 2012 |
The recruitment at entry/junior levels is the most equitable you'll ever find in Nigeria. However, at the most senior levels (i.e. AGM and above), a lot of hiring and promotion tends to be based on connections and deposits. Unfortunately, "connections" in Naija is very tribe-centric. I have never worked in Nigeria but I have family and friends that are senior bankers in Nigeria and they pretty much live and die by their high-level Yoruba connections at Yoruba-leaning banks (in particular, First Bank, Wema Bank and FCMB). The one bank that was truly diverse with regards to ethnic groups was the former Oceanic. Mama Ibru (as she was called before her spectacular fall from grace) is a true de-tribalized citizen of Nigeria. She hired across all ethnic groups as long as you could get her government deposits. Oceanic was famous for hiring the family members and mistresses of politicians in power olaheavy: Why do fools keep referring to WEMA? It's a regional bank, for crying out loud! This honorable institution that has stood the test of time is owned by O'dua Investment Group which comprises all the states in the Western region! Why would they want to leave their own sons and daughters and blindly employ Igbo cannibals? My own question is why the Igbo-infested Diamond just didn't stay in Ibo land or the East, for that matter, when they knew they were going to be that tribalistic? At least you can be sure of seeing WEMA branches only/mainly in Yorubaland, why was Diamond bank extended to the West? We don't want any Igbo bank in the West tell them to pack up and leave! You're a bloody tribalist and you should be ashamed of yourself. Besides, you don't know what you're talking about. Wema only JUST became a regional bank. It was a pure Yoruba bank even when it was a national bank (it was known for transferring Yoruba staff to its Northern and Eastern branches). For all its "Yoruba-ness", it is probably the worst bank in Nigeria after Unity Bank. It's a horrible and very backward place from what I hear from current insiders. Its senior management is so distracted with internal politics and fetish practices, that it's a wonder that the bank exists at all! 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Are You Able To LOVE Your Wife Or Husband Kid(s) From A Different Marriage? by moremi2008(m): 10:12pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
2mch: All I hear is a large fly buzzing... keep trying! Going forward, I'll pay attention to you only when you have earned it. Good luck! |
Family / Re: Am A Single Mum About To Get Married To A Divorcee by moremi2008(m): 10:09pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
2mch: Blah, blah, blah... and yet you quoted me! Bloody dunce! Get the fck out of here with your bullsh*T! It's nobody's fault that you're daft and inexperienced! |
Family / Re: Are You Able To LOVE Your Wife Or Husband Kid(s) From A Different Marriage? by moremi2008(m): 10:05pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
If it is almost impossible to love each one of your own children truly equally, how can you possible love children that aren't yours as much as you love your own? The most important thing is how your TREAT them. You should love them and treat them equally and fairly, not necessarily love them equally. If you get this right, you should be alright. |
Family / Re: **learn How To Use Water After Using The Reast Room by moremi2008(m): 10:02pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
Search this forum for an older thread on whether to tell your boss he has body odor. Lots of good advice there. |
Family / Re: Am A Single Mum About To Get Married To A Divorcee by moremi2008(m): 9:59pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
2mch: Blah, blah blah... love is nice to have but you can't base a marriage on a flimsy, transient emotion. If I married every woman I fell in love with, I would be a serial divorcee by now. The type of love you're describing will wear thin after a few years and what's left after that are the true makers or breakers of marriage: harmony, character, compromise, forgiveness, patience, faithfulness, selflessness etc. How old are you? You sound like a bloody teenager. |
Family / Re: Am A Single Mum About To Get Married To A Divorcee by moremi2008(m): 9:47pm On Jun 20, 2012 |
2mch: It is only the end of the world for you if you think it is. Does marriage define you? Does it make you a different or better person? What excatly do you really want? Please dont underestimate the need for mutual love. It is very important. I dont know how people say love is not important. They may be people that have had to settle because no one wants to be with them, maybe badlooks, no money etc. But when they somehoe get one of these things they start looking for love. You see them on NL saying i never loved my spouse and they irritate me etc. He knows what he wants from you an d has seen it, but that feeling has to be mutual. How can you marry someone you dont have feelings for? chei. Dont underestimate certain requirements of marriage if you dont want to be worse off than you are now. Your child deserves happiness and a healthy environment. That healthy environment can only come when mummy is happy. If this is not what you want for your life, wait for it. It will come. Dont rush. 2mch: It is only the end of the world for you if you think it is. Does marriage define you? Does it make you a different or better person? What excatly do you really want? Please dont underestimate the need for mutual love. It is very important. I dont know how people say love is not important. They may be people that have had to settle because no one wants to be with them, maybe badlooks, no money etc. But when they somehoe get one of these things they start looking for love. You see them on NL saying i never loved my spouse and they irritate me etc. He knows what he wants from you an d has seen it, but that feeling has to be mutual. How can you marry someone you dont have feelings for? chei. Dont underestimate certain requirements of marriage if you dont want to be worse off than you are now. Your child deserves happiness and a healthy environment. That healthy environment can only come when mummy is happy. If this is not what you want for your life, wait for it. It will come. Dont rush. Our forefathers had happy arranged marriages. Love is much overrated. Please stop peddling the rubbish your colonial masters handed down to you from Sinai. |
Family / Re: Starting A Family Without Penny by moremi2008(m): 8:16am On Jun 20, 2012 |
Can the moderators just delete this thread? This isn't a match-making service! Go find your ATM elsewhere! |
Family / Re: "Save Me From My Wife" by moremi2008(m): 8:15am On Jun 20, 2012 |
^^^^^ LOL!!!! Nah you now! |
Family / Re: I Need A Comprehensive List Of Wedding Plan by moremi2008(m): 8:13am On Jun 20, 2012 |
chaircover: LOOOOLLLLLLL Moremi you are mad mad mad LOL! Jokes aside, I am happy things are working out in "IB" as my sister calls it. I didn't even know that naija oranges come in baskets! Just like tomatoes from the North? Chai! I learn something new everyday. More power to you CC! Too bad I don't have any friends that would do their wedding shopping in Ibadan! I would happily send them your way! |
Family / Re: "Save Me From My Wife" by moremi2008(m): 7:51am On Jun 20, 2012 |
chaircover: jenny that is the way it should be; the two hands washing each other to make the hands clean. The two covering each others back and being there for each other during rain or shine This is one of the VERY few times I have seen you openly assign blame to a woman! I think if you do this more often, you'll get fewer accusations of gender bias and fewer mentions of your secret affiliations with The Cabal. We have allowed the sensational details of the horrible domestic abuse inflicted on Nigerian women by their husbands to crowd out legit criticisms of the bad things women do to cause marital strife. Although it is highly commendable that most of the regulars here have a zero-tolerance for domestic abuse, we can't allow the well-deserved finger wagging at men to create the impression that we think women can't be horrible spouses and horrible human beings too. In other words, we can't fall into the common trap of canonizing the victim as quintessentially immaculate. We should be as quick to condemn misbehaving women as we are quick to condemn misbehaving men. Perhaps this will kill this idea of a secret Cabal once and for all! |
Family / Re: 13 Year Old Girl Beats Up Her Own Mother! by moremi2008(m): 2:20am On Jun 20, 2012 |
Hahahahahaha!!!! Better warn the man that the woman claiming to be carrying his baby is a she-demon! People like that NEVER turn out well in life. You can't raise your hands to your own mother and then go on to live a stable, normal life. |
Religion / Re: The Pastor & Wife :- Daddy & Mummy Trend In Lagos: by moremi2008(m): 2:18am On Jun 20, 2012 |
tpia@: My initial reply was NOT an analogy. It was an explanation. Stop confusing the two. You clearly don't know what an analogy is. |
Religion / Re: The Pastor & Wife :- Daddy & Mummy Trend In Lagos: by moremi2008(m): 1:17am On Jun 20, 2012 |
tpia@: But it's true!!! I know because I am full-blooded Yoruba! I have like a thousand aunts and uncles and at least a dozen Mummies and Big-Mummies! It's just the way the culture is! We Yoruba people give titles to show respect! You would know this if you were Yoruba or if you had basic cognitive skills. |
Family / Re: I Need A Comprehensive List Of Wedding Plan by moremi2008(m): 1:13am On Jun 20, 2012 |
Last I heard, Ibadan Zoo is empty! All the animals escaped to Lagos! Even my "friends" at the zoo know better than to keep living in that dead village! I haven't been back there in more than a decade and I am surprised that giant, sprawling mess still exists! From a business angle, are you sure an Ibadan bridal shop makes sense? Were you fleeing the saturation of Lagos markets or did you open the shop to capture the under-saturated Ibadan market? You do know that most people from Ibadan village travel to Lagos for shopping right? I know because I have this ancient aunt that used to stay with us on her regular shopping trips to Lagos to stock her fabric shop at a place called Bagi Market. So tell us, how has the experience being so far? Is market selling? Do you take out ads in the dailies or on TV? Who is in charge of your shop while you're chasing Mr CC for kpekus in London? Has the person stolen you blind yet? I am so curious about people that run small businesses in Nigeria, especially in places outside Lagos. Much respect for your entrepreneurial spirit madam! Please make sure the children don't develop Ara-Oke accents! |
Family / Re: "Save Me From My Wife" by moremi2008(m): 1:02am On Jun 20, 2012 |
dayokanu: Classic Chaircover, LOL! I am glad somebody else caught the classic evasiveness! Three gbosas for Iya Chaircover! |
Family / Re: I Need A Comprehensive List Of Wedding Plan by moremi2008(m): 7:05pm On Jun 19, 2012 |
chaircover: n OMG! Chaircover is a razz Ibadan mama, forming Lagos/London babe on Nairaland!!!! The wind don blow oh! And what the wind has revealed is rather shocking! |
Family / Re: "Save Me From My Wife" by moremi2008(m): 6:53pm On Jun 19, 2012 |
chaircover: Moremi Unfortunately that is the reality of life; People tend to do strange things when faced with adversity. Another example is where in most cases, when a man finds out that his wife can’t give him children will change his behaviour over time even if they are slight changes. Very evasive answer! Can't you just call a spade a spade and call the wife gold-diggerish? Classic Chaircover move! Talk AROUND the problem rather than blame the woman! High Priestess of the Nairaland Cabal! |
Family / Re: "Save Me From My Wife" by moremi2008(m): 5:51pm On Jun 19, 2012 |
chaircover: In my little experience, I am yet to see a marriage that remains exactly the same when the husband is out of a job for a long period of time. Shouldn't a good wife be extra sensitive to her husband's emotions and feelings of inadequacy in these trying times? You don't marry a strong, good woman for the sake of good times, you marry her for when times are rougher than usual. It is during moments of trials and tribulations that a woman's true character really shines. Any common trollop on the streets can be a perfect wife if the cash flow is strong enough. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: I Am Breaking Up With My Muslim Fiance by moremi2008(m): 5:10pm On Jun 19, 2012 |
Just thank your lucky stars this came out before you tied the knot! Your eyes would have seen so much wahala from this marriage. |
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