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Family / Re: Busybody My Twinny. On Behalf Of Family Section, Happy Birthday Darling by moremi2008(m): 6:46pm On May 31, 2012 |
Tacky cake. Besides, no one cares! |
Family / Re: This Question Is For The Men! by moremi2008(m): 6:43pm On May 31, 2012 |
al-ahamad: Spoken like a true illiterate aboki! It's only bloody illiterates that equate rational thinking with "Oyinbo" mentality. First, you weren't married to this woman; and she was smart not to quit her job until your married her. Second, even if you were married, in your particular situation, the best thing for the FAMILY would be for her to quit her bank job (it's a win-win for her because she would have made more money running your company with flexible work hours). Your story is not a particularly relevant one and does absolutely nothing to support your "oyinbo" mentality claims. There is no cut and dried answer for issues like this because every situation is different. Both the wife and the husband must put heads together as ONE to figure out what's best for the family as a whole. There is nothing "Oyinbo" about sacrificing your manly ego to do what is best for your family. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: What Do I Do? by moremi2008(m): 6:35pm On May 31, 2012 |
Daresh: Correct woman! Happy for you! |
Family / Re: Have You Ever Being Faced With Challenges You Cant Share With Anyone? by moremi2008(m): 6:34pm On May 31, 2012 |
Busy_body: Feelings ko, estrogen ni! Abeg, comot! |
Education / Re: 16yr Old Shouryya Ray Solves 350 Years Unsolved Maths Problem by moremi2008(m): 4:11pm On May 31, 2012 |
I have heard that this is mostly hype. Please read article here: http://cosmiclog.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/05/28/11920006-16-year-olds-equations-set-off-buzz-over-325-year-old-physics-puzzler |
Family / Re: Have You Ever Being Faced With Challenges You Cant Share With Anyone? by moremi2008(m): 6:24am On May 31, 2012 |
Please, don't confess your PE problem to your family!!!! They will never forget and will bring it up in future to mock you. As a man, there is a limit to how much you can divulge to your family. Every man needs his own secrets. If you need help with PE, go see a trusted medical doctor or do some internet research. Good luck! |
Romance / Re: When A Man Can't Take A No For An Answer by moremi2008(m): 6:20am On May 31, 2012 |
Can the moderators please move this to the Romance section? Thanks. |
Politics / Re: GEJ Launches Energy Saving Bulb To Conserve Power Supply by moremi2008(m): 11:15pm On May 30, 2012 |
Oloriburuku President! Instead of fixing Nepa, he is "introducing" things that have been in existence for many years!!! What's next? He's going to introduce "computers" to the country? |
Politics / Re: Fashola Reverses Firing Of 34 Doctors (Out Of 788) by moremi2008(m): 11:13pm On May 30, 2012 |
Are those the few doctors with connections? Bloody thief-thief governor! 1 Like |
Family / Re: by moremi2008(m): 11:12pm On May 30, 2012 |
^^^^^ Madam CC, see the madness you don unleash now?! |
Family / Re: This Question Is For The Men! by moremi2008(m): 11:10pm On May 30, 2012 |
Men should not allow their egos to get in the way of family progress. Both of you are in this institution of marriage TOGETHER and it is this notion of togetherness that should influence your decision. Two issues are salient about this situation: 1) It's a slam-dunk positive for your wife (career-wise and income-wise) 2) The move will be relatively hassle free for you career-wise because your skill-set is in high demand anywhere and you won't have any difficulty finding another job In this situation, the best thing for the FAMILY is to move with your wife. Depriving your wife of a great career move without any good reason will only breed future resentment and marital strife. Men need to start seeing marriage as a true partnership between two individuals with perfectly aligned interests. You decision-making process has to progress from being "husband-centric" to being "family-centric". You should always make decisions based on what's good for the family as a combined whole because what's good for your wife is also good for you and your children. In this particular case, given the facts provided, the OP should move with the wife. PS - I recently ran into an old friend who quit his engineering job last year to go be with his wife who is completing a cardiology fellowship at a top-notch hospital. He found a new job after a few months of searching. They are both very happy and the wife is particularly grateful for the sacrifice. That family is probably one of the happiest young families I have ever seen and I look forward to seeing them emerge as a top power couple. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: A Super Private Lesson Teacher by moremi2008(m): 8:16pm On May 30, 2012 |
LOL@ this thread. Nigeria is truly anything goes! All na packaging! Buyer Beware! |
Family / Re: Can You Point Out Where I Was Wrong? A Loose Loose Situation???? by moremi2008(m): 8:12pm On May 30, 2012 |
You know what... it just occurred to me that this "clearing my head" reaction is a bit odd for a woman that is so eager to marry you! Are you sure she hasn't found somebody else? |
Family / Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by moremi2008(m): 11:24am On May 30, 2012 |
Tgirl4real: But then you can make the same argument for things we hear on TV or even on the streets! Nollywood is not going to stop producing foolish drivel and fantasies because they are afraid people will base important life decisions on what they see in the movies! Same thing for the internet! We can't possibly hold ourselves responsible for how people read or interpret our words on here! If an adult reads my opinion and decides to go act on it, the repercussions of his actions are his alone, and not my business. All we offer on here are words, opinions, jokes, insults, stories, lies, propaganda etc etc... readers make of those words make of them what they please. It's a free and very adult world, imho. |
Family / Re: For Married and soon to be married Men by moremi2008(m): 11:18am On May 30, 2012 |
I can't believe some of the "take a bold step of faith" advice I am reading on here! If Nigerians think this way about something that is relatively easy to budget and plan for, I can't even begin to imagine their attitudes towards unforeseen circumstances! No wonder the entire country is upside down! For as many "testimonies" of divine provision for a wedding, there is an equal number of stories of flop weddings/marriages. Our only saving grace is that family and friends usually contribute towards wedding expenses. If you're a man that isn't used to depending on favors and charity, then your best bet is to use your brain and plan accordingly. Your family and friends might chip-in for the ceremony but are they also going to feed your wife and children?!!! At the very minimum, make sure you have a steady source of income and cut your wedding plans according to your cloth. No woman deserves the unhappiness created by a jobless, newly-wed husband! |
Family / Re: Can You Point Out Where I Was Wrong? A Loose Loose Situation???? by moremi2008(m): 11:05am On May 30, 2012 |
I'll be honest with you bros. Sometimes a man has to break away from wife and family to focus on his business/career. You did absolutely nothing wrong to shield your fragile dream/ambitions from an unbelieving or nagging wife/fiancee. Let her keep venting and making mouth; you just filter-out all her drama and stay focused on the goal at hand. This same woman that's screaming her head off at you for focusing on your business will be the same woman screaming at you if you returned home penniless and jobless. Women are emotionally needy creatures; don't allow that emotional need to cloud your vision and derail you from purposeful business. Good luck with your business! Hope there's a big turnaround real soon! 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by moremi2008(m): 10:50am On May 30, 2012 |
chaircover: Maybe because we dont have the full picture and we are not related to people who have these issues, but sometimes we are very hasty to judge situations without reading between the lines. We also fail to place ourselves in peoples positions. There was a thread where someone was asking what people will do if they found another woman in their matrimonial bed. many said many different things, but the truth is no one really knows what one will do until God forbid one gets there. All this internet "mothering" and deciphering of innermost thoughts rubs me the wrong way. You can't possibly have 100% complete information about any individual OP's situation. People reply threads based on what limited information has been provided. We can only hope that whoever is seeking advice on here is also mature enough to take any advice given with a grain of salt. Adults with normal mental capacities don't base important decisions solely on Nairaland opinions anyway. They only come on here to validate previously held views and to expose themselves to opposing arguments. I come here to be entertained and to learn a little bit about my fellow Nigerians. I could care less if somebody jumped off a bridge because of something he/she read on the internet (that person would have committed suicide anyway, with or without the internet). |
Family / Re: From A Distressed Wife, Pls Advice! by moremi2008(m): 7:03pm On May 28, 2012 |
Tgirl4real: Why would you take this guy seriously? The so-called tranny-lover? Hahahaha! The guy is probably mentally unstable. Abeg, leave am. |
Family / Re: Feeling Depressed And Sad by moremi2008(m): 6:57pm On May 28, 2012 |
BlueDiva: Nigeria is not going to go cashless anytime soon! This is just another one of Sanusi's many delusions. |
Family / Re: Long Distance Relationship Not Working For Me – How Can I End It? by moremi2008(m): 6:55pm On May 28, 2012 |
This is a very odd relationship. Please provide more details. How did you guys meet? Did you guys ever live close to each other? Or did the relationship start-out as a long-distance thing? If you have never lived in close proximity, how can you call this a relationship?! From experience, extended long-distance relationships (i.e those over 1yr) only work if the couple has had the chance to bond very well before moving to different locations or in situations where there is some form of quasi-contractual commitment (i.e. an introduction or engagement). Please stop fooling yourself that you have a relationship! I don't think you ever had one, my sister. Free yourselves and only reconsider if one of you can find a way to move! |
Family / Re: Hubby Caught In The Act,! by moremi2008(m): 6:50pm On May 28, 2012 |
maclatunji: I was JUST about to write the same thing. First it's a friend that hasn't had s[i]e[/i]x in 4yrs. Then it's another "friend" that resents her husband and in-laws. All in the space of a few weeks! Na only you?! Haba! Aunty Amebo! https://www.nairaland.com/933021/distressed-wife-pls-advice https://www.nairaland.com/930978/no-intimacy-4-years-dis |
Family / Re: Feeling Depressed And Sad by moremi2008(m): 6:42pm On May 28, 2012 |
Excelboi: Exactly. I bought a Bold 2 6days ago and it had some minor problem so i returned it. I was given a bold 3 and everytin seem okay but sometime i feel like returning it and collecting my money. A guy saw me today and saw the phone and was like this phone is not that good, bold 2 is better bla bla bla.... He convinced me to return it and have made up my mind to return or sell it tomorrow, do it worth the stress and how can i cure such a feeling, pls help. You probably can't "cure" it. Some people's brain chemistry predisposes them to certain types of anxieties and moods. If you were based in the US, I would have recommended going to see a therapist. The best you can do in Nigeria is manage your feelings. Now that you have an idea of what triggers your feelings of depression, try to avoid those triggers. Never make big purchases without weeks of deliberation and without seeking 3rd party advice first. You can also try never leaving home with too much cash in your wallet so you don't buy expensive things compulsively. |
Family / Re: Wife Called Husband "dumb" And The Inlaws : by moremi2008(m): 2:20pm On May 28, 2012 |
I don't even know where to begin. How did the man let the situation get this bad? I am sure that wasn't the first time the woman insulted him. It only hurts this time because she said it in front of her parents. Are you sure she used the word "dumb"? It just seems more likely she would have used the term "know book". That would seem slightly better than dumb. |
Family / Re: Feeling Depressed And Sad by moremi2008(m): 7:24am On May 28, 2012 |
Do you have a problem with spending? Or are you a compulsive shopper? You might have a particularly strong case of buyer's remorse. In the West, you just return the stuff you bought the next day or week or month! But I am sure you can't do that in Naija and that might explain the depression. |
Nairaland / General / Re: Is Tomorrow Public Holiday? by moremi2008(m): 7:22am On May 28, 2012 |
Well, in all fairness, it's a public holiday in the US! LOL! |
Religion / Re: Tithes, Offerings And First Fruits - Do They Apply To Us As Christians? by moremi2008(m): 9:57pm On May 27, 2012 |
Hahaha! The bloody scammers are still angrily defending their 419 practices of fleecing their flock of their hard-earned cash to buy private jets and build fancy mansions! |
Celebrities / Re: Funke Akindele's Wedding by moremi2008(m): 7:51am On May 27, 2012 |
Being a 4th wife has it advantages; your kids have a legitmate father and you get a distracted husband that won't pay too much attention to your side-runs and won't try to slow down your career. Might be a smart move after all. ps - this woman razz small sha! I saw pics of her wedding on another thread and her cake was an outright disaster. |
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