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NEPA was founded in the depths of Hell!

mbulela:
they will call you a pessimist but at least you are realistic.
However, there will be a little chance of change if the 'good' guys come together and join forces.
As long as each is satisfied sitting in his own little corner and doing his own thing and feeling good with himself, your prophecy will forever come to pass.

Nigeria's REAL problems can only be solved by REAL people. I am a realist to the core. No amount of hope and prayers will change things unless enough of us are ready to roll-up our sleeves and get our hands dirty. Pat needs to step away from him grand rhetoric and show us some credibility.

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If Pat wants to be considered a credible candidate then he requires a complete overhaul, a kind of mental retrofit. We can see from the VWN and PHB experiences his ability to influence corporate decision making is highly questionable. If you cannot do this in a board of say ten to fifteen, how do you handle a five hundred strong house, this three hundred tribe clap trap, a hundred and forty million hungry people. This is the reason his type are at home with smaller parties of distinct character where his limited political and inter.relationship skills cope. Unfortunately the bulk of the electorate will not understand how and why such purported competence is not popular.

A better balance between intellect and politic is needed from him. You place honesty and intellect on the table. I will pick honesty any day. You can always find competent men and women anyday.

Like the saying goes: "There is no smoke without fire". This man has a history of leading failing corporations. The track record speaks for itself. No amount of "story-story" can change that. I was willing to let go of the VWN issue because Nigerian executives of foreign-owned entities often have little say in major investment decisions. However, the subsequent near-failure of Bank PHB under his watch is just unforgivable. If this man can't control ordinary Atuche, how is he expected to control a nation of clever, fearless and heartless crooks like Nigeria?! His cabinet will empty out the Treasury under his very nose and he won't realize this until his presidency is over!

Pat can scream all he wants and the educated elite can applaud him as loudly as they want but he is not getting anywhere near Aso Rock unless he can out-spend and out-maneuver the touts and louts. Nigerians like to hold on to this delusion that some great, intelligent, honest man is going to rise from somewhere and sweep the elections in a great showing of democracy. It's NOT going to happen. Nigerian politics run on patronage. Patronage needs lots and lots of money. In short, our political offices are for sale to the highest bidder (and it should be no surprise that it's only former military dictators and their friends that can afford to pay for the office of the President).

You guys can continue arguing until tomorrow comes, good luck!

What exactly is this exercise supposed to achieve? I just don't get it.

Oh wow! This is really good news. I am so happy things are looking up for you. Please don't forget to keep up intense prayer both on your own and with your husband. A family solidly built on God is better able to resist and overcome storms. Your husband is a good guy. Both of you will look back at the last few years with laughter in the future. Again, congratulations! I am really happy for you.

@Chaircover - I must say that I have been REALLY impressed with your empathy and quality of advice on this thread. May God continue to bless and increase you and your family!

oyinda.:
yea you're right. things change sometimes. that makes things tricky.

that's why marriage can be luck sometimes. sometimes, it takes a few hours of conversing with the person to know that they are perfect for you. sometimes it takes years. yea it's confusing.

to me (everyone is different), the right person is the person who is easy to love. Even without them buying you earrings or gifts, you want to do so much for them. I see this in one of my male friends so I know what love is. he's taken though by a very wonderful girl too so I do feel very happy for him. but I know that when I meet the right one, I will know. you just know. It's not a selfish love or even a romantic love. it's just unconditional.
but then, most people marry for convenience sometimes. not because they met "the one."Like the OP's husband, the suspicious side of me tells me he partially married her for greencard. lol

for the part about waistlines expanding or contracting. if you stop loving your spouse because her waistline expanded or because she got into an accident and has to be amputated. then sorry. u never loved her in the first place.
this thread for example, the husband seem to have unconditional love for his wife.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-565393.0.html

I like the "easy-to-love" part. Thanks. Good luck finding your true love.

oyinda.:
if you marry the right person, marriage is rewarding.
the problem is when you marry the wrong person. maybe out of stubborness, initial lust (that always wear out after 3yrs or so) or whatever reason people get married without knowing their spouse well. or thinking that they can change their spouse. those are recipe for disaster.

So how do you know when someone is the right person? People lie to get what they want. Interests change over time. Waistlines expand or contract. Some times success surges and ebbs. What is the most important criteria for you?

@ OP - You have received a lot of really good advice. Take them to heart. However, a few issues worry me.

1) He's not chasing you around the house for sex: I don't know about other guys but I have an insatiable libido. If my girl would let me, we would be doing the do three times a day, everyday including Sunday. A man that is not trying to make love to you until you're running away from him might be getting it elsewhere. Are you sure he's not up to naughty things at these clubs? It's wonderful that you trust your husband but trust should not equal blindness and foolishness. I would recommend you investigate this a bit further. However, whatever you do, don't get paranoid because your husband might just be a low maintenance guy (unlike me!)

2) You: I might be reading too much into this but you come across as if you don't have anything in your life worth getting excited about and that's a big problem. Like other posters have said, you can't find happiness from outside, only from within. Is there a hole in your life that you're looking to your husband to fill? Are you passionate about your career/job or about raising your child? Do you have any married friends you like to hang-out with? What are you extracurricular activities? Do you go to church? Volunteer on the weekends? Go to the gym? Take dance classes? Fill-up your life with things that excite you and you'll begin to welcome your husband's low maintenance attitude a little bit. You have to take ownership of your life and your own happiness. Everything else will follow. A bored wife is a sure recipe for mischief and disaster. If I were your husband, I'll get you pregnant again, quick-quick, so you have something to keep you from disturbing me (just kidding!).

Overall, stay in your marriage. Persevere and fight for it because it's worth fighting for. From what my parents and older ones have taught you, you don't really begin to fully appreciate your marriage until you are in your forties and fifties and all the kids are out of the house. It would be a foolish thing to throw away your marriage before it matures into sweet wine. Good luck dear!

obasy09:
TO ALL THOSE THAT MOCK THE BANK

WEMA Bank operates primarily in suburban and rural areas. They seem to be in the forefront of rural banking. If not for WEMA, many rural areas would have remained without commercial banks. The fact that they are restrategising apparently to focus their resources in their stronghold areas in the South should not make the bank a laughing stock.

I BELIEVE THAT BY SO DOING, THEY WILL BE MORE EFFICIENT. THE ONLY REGRET IS THAT SOME OF THEIR WORKERS WILL BE THROWN INTO THE LABOUR MARKET. I ADVISE THAT ADEQUATE COMPENSATION BE PAID TO AFFECTED WORKERS.

It's only a poorly run, ramshackle bank that only an illiterate farmer will bank with! An illiterate bank run by illiterates! A shame!

Is he taking her shopping @ Peckham?! He better make good friends with his hands; his is going to need them after all that singing and disappointment.

I question the OP's commitment to the marriage in the first place. There is no way you can love a woman, marry her and then react this way when it turns out she's lied about her age. We know the kind of pressure women in Naija face when they hit thirty. Why is anybody acting surprised that she pretended to be younger so she can get married?

You need to prayerfully seek God on this issue. As far as I am concerned, this is a non-issue but then I am not you. I don't know what kind of psychological hang-ups you have about being younger than your wife. Just tread carefully. Divorcing this woman might be the worst mistake of your life (I know way too many men who divorced their wives for flimsy reasons and their lives NEVER rebalanced again after that). So you think you're thinking about looking for an undergraduate to marry? Good luck with that Mr! You might just find yourself jumping from frying pan to Hell fire!

This is just tragic. May his soul R.I.P.

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This post is just full or errant nonsense! People make stupid mistakes like this all the time and their countrymen are not "disgraced" because of it. BTW, you are a big fool for posting this with so much detail. I know who exactly you're talking about (it's a small world, and Osun politics is even smaller).

My people, why are we so gullible?! I salute this lady for fighting for her rights. With these mad men, it doesn't matter if you're calm or angry, they are lawless animals and a terrible shame to the country.

Ranoscky:
You dey mind that maggot?

And maybe when we check where she stays and thinks she's in abroad, it might be "HAITI".

Oh, you seem very upset at something. What is it that's making you mad? Poverty? Ignorance? Erectile Dysfunction? Let it all out on nairaland so we can get you some help, brother! All that pent-up anger is not good for your health.

Wow! Those vids are just embarrassing! Even the medical doctor had a shaky command of the English language. I am pretty sure he was trying to describe necrotising fasciitis at the end of the video but couldn't come up with the right words. Poor Nigerians and their upside-down country!

redsun:
That is why i have always said that there are ample loads of opportunities in nigeria.We are just beginning but unfortunately on a wrong foot.

Every where a i look at is a way of making a cool living in nigeria but for corruption.

Well, good luck trying to make your fortunes being a paparazzi in Nigeria! All you need is one good run-in with Area Boys or the Police, I am sure your demise will be well-documented!

invisible!:
its true, they said it washed many cars and buses with passengers into the ocean. This is a real tragedy. We need to go out and help those affected.

And this is how false rumours get started! Before you know it, Sun newspaper has this on its front page.

There has been a Tsunami in a remote part of Lagos!!!! Thousands feared dead!!!!


Nigerians will believe anything!

How much does it cost to throw weddings as glam as this? I hear different estimates ranging from NGN 5 - 30 million. What's the realistic budget? Nothing too outlandish, just a typical glamorous wedding that looks as nice as these ones?

freeman07:
2moremi
U dey vex ooo,
Anyway by friday your Visa will be ready.
Say Amen
come share your good news

Many thanks Freeman. I see that you'll be @UMBC. My sister attends graduate school there and she loves it. Good luck!

Thanks to everyone for this very helpful thread. I have an urgent question for you guys:

I am scheduled to interview on a Wednesday @ 7am. If I interview successfully, when is the earliest day I can pick-up my visa? Is it Friday or Monday? I am asking because I live far from Lagos and would like to know for how long I can expect to remain in Lagos to pick up my stamped passport. Many thanks.

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