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Nyascobar1414:
see this man... All the people praying to get old,are all of em old...??

Bro death is Inevitable..
2moro is not guaranteed.

Nyascobar1414:
How do you know you will get old...
Stop living in fantasy bro..
Be real.

Nyascobar1414:
How do you know you will get old...
Stop living in fantasy bro..
Be real.

ezenwaez:
You will be paid, you only have to be monitoring your payment status but should it become failed payment you have to contact Npower or NASIMS, I posted how to contact them send your Npower verification ID, your detail will be collected and your issue will be treated then when payment is restarted you will be paid, the unfortunate thing is just that you will now be paid as backlog and backlogs have specific days for its payment.

BabaIbo:
Marriage they say is a beautiful thing but if you ask many men out there what marriage is to them or what marriage has brought to them or will they get married if they are given chances to rewind time, their responses will be in negative form or NO.

That same step(marriage) is the next step to be taken by me but I have one unanswered question. I am a young man in my 30s, currently free from any dating relationship and about to begin my search for a life partner, but I like being cleared/well-informed about something before going into it.

Pardon me for this long note I am about to dish out and the question I will be asking at the end.

For sometimes now, people around me have been telling me I am next in line to get married, some telling me to ensure I bring a responsible lady home and all that.
My mom do tell me she won't rush me to get married but as an observant person you will notice she really wants me to bring a woman(wife) home.

My dad told me sometimes ago that if I don't have a lady, that maybe they should search for a young good girl for me early next year.
My younger ones are expecting me to take that step so they can start planning on theirs and all that.

All these are for their own good or benefits, I am not saying they don't deserve it but I have been trying to get a tangible reason to get married i.e what is the SPECIAL thing(benefit) it will add to my life, I am the one getting married not them.
"Na me wan wear the shoe."

A bikeman, popularly known as Okadaman that do come to my place told me story about himself and big opportunities that marriage has made him miss.

In addition to his words and those I have heard from others, the fear of things going south, disappearance of peace of mind and all that are other factors.

Presumed(anticipated) benefits which are not as they are expected to be again are)

CHILDREN: Children can be gotten without marriage, for example: C. Ronaldo, Mikel, and others did that and they are doing well.

GOOD MEALS: Foods can be gotten from outside or prepared by the man or any other person that is not a wife for the man. Moreover, how many of them can cook well like our mothers? I'm a better cook than most ladies I have come across.

COMPANIONSHIP: That is an overstatement in our present society. It is even more noticeable in dating relationship than in some marriages these days.

SEX: That is the cheapest service/thing to get after air and water(clean water is even more expensive). Moreover many marriages are lacking sexually. It is worse if the man has high sex drive aka high libido.

SUPPORT: I don't want to go there because it is an open fact that instead of getting support, the man is being leached/milked of the one he has.

HOME: I can still remember how some married men will pack their cars at the junction, stay inside their cars for long before driving home, some go to the bar/relaxation centers to chill before going home, some don even like going home. You all know why?

With all these in mind, I want to ask this question that has been bothering me because I need to sort it before taking the step...

Now, my question is "WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE TO A MAN IN THIS OUR TIME?"

PS: I used this image because what marriage did to the man in the picture is in the open

Uprightness100:
Christianity is not your problem.
Your problem is being wise in your own eyes.
You Problem is not seeking GOD Face or HIS Choice before you take decisions.

ijustdey:
Former President Olusegun Obasanjo says President Muhammadu Buhari-led government has been overwhelmed by the insecurity challenges....



Nothing less than truth sir. That's why I hold you as the most intelligent Nigeria president ever. God continue to keep you. However you are one of them that brought this mistake upon us. Goodluck is far better...


https://dailytrust.com/insecurity-buharis-govt-overwhelmed-but-nigerians-must-not-give-up-obasanjo


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Kipling:
Please give me tips on how to do that
I'd pay for that

oldienavie:

These are the kind of men that bring shame to the male gender.
So you knew you were the backup option and still prepared to marry her.
It is people like you that post on NL complaining that your marriage is 2 months and your wife is already misbehaving.

Let me give you a golden advise, as a man, if the woman you want to marry does not consider herself lucky to have you and thinks she is doing you a favour by marrying you, your marital life will be filled with pains .
The lady has seen you as a feather weight, that is why she can be doing all that with you.

And you can see that she has zero respect for you by her actions.
Man up, and look for a woman that will consider herself lucky to have you, not the other way round. Be wise, as a man you have the upper hand but if you marry the wrong woman like this lady, you are toast.

Favfables1:
Yet, she wants to marry a man that she can't communicate to/with ... How then would they solve their marital issues if she can't communicate?

And what's with your last paragraph?
He should talk to her? As what?
Why didn't she talk to him before she took this decision?
Mttttttwwwww...

OP...
If I were in your shoes, this would be the end of my relationship with her ...

You don't make such decisions without first putting me on the know, it's unacceptable!

tayo60:
D pregnancy isn't yours. If its yours, she wouldn't hastily used drugs without your consent.

oldienavie:
Sometimes I wonder what kind of mumu men we have raised in Nigeria, how can OP not realise this plain truth.
Is it that there are no women out there that you have to give yourself high blood pressure on a woman that clearly does not send you ?

As a man, once a woman tells you it is over and she comes back later, you are a back up option and you will live to regret it.
Once a woman breaks up with you, and she goes for months then comes back later, never marry that woman, if you do, know that you are only a backup plan.

With the abundance of good women looking for husbands in Nigeria, I dont understand how a guy will still be enslaving himself with a woman that is using you as backup spits...

rickpat:
think well bro, falsehood in the foundation of something like MARRIAGE is not too good...and what's her reasoning for lying and aborting a pregnancy? .. secondly you know she could have married you without telling you about this right? ...so just think about everything well. .the decision is all yours to make. .good luck bro

thorpido:
Who got her pregnant?Why don't you want to marry her again?
She obviously aborted because she didn't want to keep it and you obviously didn't want it too.

Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.
Jacob, Solomon , Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.