₦airaland Forum

Kipling:
Please give me tips on how to do that
I'd pay for that

Stop staying alone . Stay around people all the time

Thank you Elrufai. I always like you for saying.


Nigeria leaders are afraid of taking responsibility but they are not a afraid of stealing public find. Yeye people

Honestly! Sometimes I think we don't have a government at all.

Uzoho all the way. He is always my first choice.

oldienavie:

These are the kind of men that bring shame to the male gender.
So you knew you were the backup option and still prepared to marry her.
It is people like you that post on NL complaining that your marriage is 2 months and your wife is already misbehaving.

Let me give you a golden advise, as a man, if the woman you want to marry does not consider herself lucky to have you and thinks she is doing you a favour by marrying you, your marital life will be filled with pains .
The lady has seen you as a feather weight, that is why she can be doing all that with you.

And you can see that she has zero respect for you by her actions.
Man up, and look for a woman that will consider herself lucky to have you, not the other way round. Be wise, as a man you have the upper hand but if you marry the wrong woman like this lady, you are toast.

Ok. Thanks for your advice

I don't read or care about their reason. All I know they are very stupid

Favfables1:
Yet, she wants to marry a man that she can't communicate to/with ... How then would they solve their marital issues if she can't communicate?

And what's with your last paragraph?
He should talk to her? As what?
Why didn't she talk to him before she took this decision?
Mttttttwwwww...

OP...
If I were in your shoes, this would be the end of my relationship with her ...

You don't make such decisions without first putting me on the know, it's unacceptable!

Thanks. I pick a point from your advice.

tayo60:
D pregnancy isn't yours. If its yours, she wouldn't hastily used drugs without your consent.

I will try and probe her about that but I believe I was responsible. Thanks

oldienavie:
Sometimes I wonder what kind of mumu men we have raised in Nigeria, how can OP not realise this plain truth.
Is it that there are no women out there that you have to give yourself high blood pressure on a woman that clearly does not send you ?

As a man, once a woman tells you it is over and she comes back later, you are a back up option and you will live to regret it.
Once a woman breaks up with you, and she goes for months then comes back later, never marry that woman, if you do, know that you are only a backup plan.

With the abundance of good women looking for husbands in Nigeria, I dont understand how a guy will still be enslaving himself with a woman that is using you as backup spits...

Yes you are correct I am a back up option. But I believed she was a victim of bad boys lies. She's a very good girl that is why I welcome her back and accepted her. We all make mistake in our lives.

I don't know why anything noise Yoruba like am. I can't even hear anything in his music all I hear is noise noise

rickpat:
think well bro, falsehood in the foundation of something like MARRIAGE is not too good...and what's her reasoning for lying and aborting a pregnancy? .. secondly you know she could have married you without telling you about this right? ...so just think about everything well. .the decision is all yours to make. .good luck bro

Thanks bro.
I will still ask her

thorpido:
Who got her pregnant?Why don't you want to marry her again?
She obviously aborted because she didn't want to keep it and you obviously didn't want it too.

both of us didnt want it since she insisted on church wedding there is no way we will pass marriage committee screening. But she should have tell me the truth and hear what I will say. To be sincere, my plan was that if she's pregnant I would talk to her to change her stance about Wedding then we quickly do the traditional marriage

I met this girl through a relation 4years ago. She was under graduate then, l always visited her in school and chatted mostly on Sundays after church due to my work. To cut the long story short. She started showing attitude when she was about to graduate and eventually we break up... according to her, her people are not in support. She graduated, served (NYSC) and came back, no calls no chat for over two years then one faithful day around may last year she chatted me up. We became serious again... Honestly I love the girl so much and I want marry her. I wanted to do it traditional this Easter but she insisted on church wedding and I have only budget 500k for my marriage. Ok. She always come visiting, kiss and do the fowl play but no sex; she insisted on no sex before marriage. But on 15 February we did it and unfortunately she miss her period, both of us became worried... I bought test tube for her she did the test and told me it's negative meanwhile it was positive. I was very happy to hear that it was negative. On Thursday she promised to come house so that we can discuss about the marriage but she suddenly change her mind and told me something came up... To my greatest surprise, she told me yesterday that she was actually pregnant and she took drug and blood came out just once. Please my fellow nairaland family, can I still go ahead and marry her? She has been begging since yesterday but am confused I don't know what to do. She's a good girl but this singular act is scaring!! Please pardon my English.

Righteousness2:
GOD'S Standard from the beginning remains One man one wife.
GOD'S Standard is HE hates Divorce.
Jacob, Solomon , Society or whoever are not the standard. The Word of GOD is the Standard .

Read Matthew 19: 4-9 to know GOD'S Standard!

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Marry more than one is never a sin. If it is, how can God call a sinner (David) a man after His own heart?. One man one wife is just a doctrine just like Catholic forbade Rev. Father from marrying at all. Remember our father Abraham is in heaven ( according to Bible) if marrying more than one is a sin he couldn't have make heaven.
You guys should stop making new laws in addition to the 10 commandments. Even the 10 commandment you have not keep it yet.

Ohhhhh shittttt. Liverpool cut 120k

APC is winning my soul but I don't know what I will tell my spirit if Tunibu win their ticket.

Rest in peace young soul. This one is born and brought up in the jungle. The orientation given to him is to kill and kill. I judged him innocent... All his sins are on his father...

This is a very good gesture. Nigeria politivuay like award very well. It will make them to sit well

GoodHardDick:
OP, na man u be abeg!
A quick advice to you bro, marry the new girl, the old girl is a hoe. I'm sure she must have destroyed her womb by now.

E sure me die say that old girl must have been collecting lots of dicks before the one that got her pregnant. And now she's begging you to accept her back after she has finished exploring other dicks. What a huge joke!

Abeg, for your complete peace of mind and sanity bro Marry the new girl.

Hmmm. Do you know what the so call new girl did with her body before he met her? She might be worst than the old girl. Don't be quick to judge. BTW, op please follow your conscience. "Our conscience is God in us"

Boogiebee:
Hello Nairalanders,

So straight to the point. Please I need your advice about two things.

1. I just got my inheritance and I got cash of 8M and there's this popular belief of people squandering their inheritance,I don't want that to be my portion so which business can I invest it into. For context, I currently have a job and I'm not ready to quit so please put that into consideration.

2. My younger brother is still a student so he has asked me to save his portion of 6M in bank until he graduates but I don't think that's a good idea. I would rather he put it in some form of secure investment that will be yielding something. Kindly give us suggestions.

May the soul of my beloved Father continue to rest in peace. Amen

Invest the money on landed properties is best option for you. U don't need to run it. Look for sratigic place and build and give it out for rent or lease. You can better buy already built house

Igbo the problem of their own self

There was Keke 44years ago or am not seeing well?

To me, the death refer to here is the death after this life... Eternal death. The wicked will die and go to hell and spend the eternity. The saint will still live after death.

They don't know what to do in 6yrs+before right? Hmmmm smh

I need same grace oh God!

Midas01:
And it is fools like this that will still open their gutter trash of a mouth to call women hoes on NL.

Lmao. Who is the brolosho now?

Idiot. Stop quoting me

What of the day she was disvirgined?

Ayanwukoma:
The thing that upsets me more is when we start narrating our experiences of been dealt with toxic parenting from our fathers some people will be saying, we were products of manipulations of our mom. but that's a lie... they just don't know our pains.

Here are the attributes of my father, don't know if it's redpill or not.

1) My father swear for us at any slightest provocation (he uses word like, YOU GO DIE, YOU GO USE YOUR MOUTH RUB GROUND, WITCH and so much more) imagine as a kid growing up till this day and this man still uses same languages on us his children.

2) HE'S CUNNY IN NATURE TOWARDS US HIS FAMILY.

You don't dare have an issue with a neighbor in the presence of my dad which he's aware of, because the next morning he be sitting with that same neighbor and talk ill about you in your presence ( how many times my mom has quarrelled with people because of him...but before we know it, him and them have reconciled. my mom would be the bad person in the town)

3) IS WITCH A GOOD NAME TO CALL YOUR CHILD?

This man has called us witch to the extent the whole area is looking at us as one, he has literally made us look bad in the presence of people. compare us with other people.
he has spoiled us with his bad tongue. full area gossiping telling people their papa self dey call them witch...belike them don confess before.
just because of my father toxic tongue.

4) MY FATHER HOLDS HIS BROTHERS CHILDREN IN HIGHER REGARDS THAN US.

you need to see the way he's happy whenever they come around, especially when they give him money like 5k, 3k ... prayers uphon prayers on them.
as soon as they go he starts the curses on us.. I don't know he just don't want us to succeed or not.

DO I HATE MY FATHER? I hate him with every blood in my veins yes, how can I love someone that abuses us immediately he sees us eating his food, looking at us like we are wrecking him from day one.

Any small thing, COMOTH FOR MY HOUSE (you must hear that word)

honestly speaking I myself am in my mid 20s and with what I experience to this day it's affecting me in my life, you can never see me smile.
am always angry, even when am happy.
when I talk, my words are always hard.. except when I try to be nice sometimes.

I SWEAR ON MY LIFE, I REFUSED TO BE THE MAN MY FATHER IS, EVEN IN MY NEXT LIFE TO COME.

Mid 20 still living with your father? Bro go out and hushle, get your own apartment and earn your father's respect.

What size/type of gin? Cos I have seen one man down 10 bottles of big igboya and he stood up and left peacefully

I beded over 70 girls (not olosho) but I can gladly say I never defile or disvirgin anyone. Praying God should bless me with one

Give us the profs. Osinbanjo and Zulum or else...