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WinterMinter:
We were both classmates during our secondary school then we lost contact because she left earlier to school at Anambra state, which is both our state of origin.
Then last year when i traveled to Anambra, she was in lagos
I was so bored, I decided to check through my contacts to see if I can put a call to anyone I haven't called in a long time, then I saw her number on my phone and I ringed her up, she picked it up and we greeted, we share some good memories while promising to call her more, which I did.

So I begin to get attached to her, I was catching feelings for her, she noticed it too and was trying to make me say it that I have feelings for her, but I didn't, maybe because I was scared or I don't want to be in a long distance relationship.

Then I came back to Lagos while she moved back to Anambra, because she schools at Nnamdi azikwe University
We talked too at whatapp, the she starts to reply my chats late or sometimes she won't pick up my call or even return it.

It made me to lose interest in her, I also begin to give her the silence treatment too, I don't call nor text her again,we only view each other status.

So today is her birthday, I called and wished her happy birthday last year, even posted it for her, but since she started this her attitude, I don't care again, but I always long to call her, because I love her voice. Because I don't want to seem like a simp or I'm being starved for her attention.

She even posted on Facebook about today being her birthday, that if anyone has grudges against her, they should slide into her dm and work it out together.


What do I do?

Let me tell you something, stop texting that girl like that. Just like you were bored she was also bored, sometimes girls like manipulating through WhatsApp status for attention. Instead try to see her in person.

JovialJune:
So leg chain automatically means what?

No wonder SARS labeled rough looking guys with nasty haircut yahoo boys/cultists, what is the difference between you and them?

Don't be stupid, you know it means she's a prostitute.

Robertgreene1:
so now that I'm in my middle twenties building up my empire... running different hustles at d same time js 2 b successful in life... painstakingly stopped all my excesses..drugs..smoking..heavy drinking..even womanising sef js 2 focus on my hustle...
Then few years from now after I've finally gotten 2 d promised Land..God willing
I will then come nd marry one hoe like that..who wz busy jumping from one dick 2 another all these years that I was busy jumping from one hustle 2 another..hustling my ass out
Am I mad?... them curse me ni?
ur virginity or nothing my dear!!!
u assure me ur virginity..I assure u d fruits of my labour!!!
very simple nd short!!!
u can't eat ur cake nd have it on top my head..
I hate nonsense!!!

I'm with u bro. After all my hardwork, is it one dirty girl, I'll settle down with. Never!

Ilamina:
It's not that intense like igbos

I agree, it's a bit intense. But it's not all Igbos that see things that way.

Having a boy child is very important to the Nigerian culture. And you're very very very very wrong, Igbo men are all that!!!!

Saintmary:
Your first mistake is to take him to your place.

Second mistake, you are too gullible.

Block that liar, and don't try any games or your heart will pay for it.

Walk away and give room for a real man.

This is the best advice I've seen so far, especially 'don't play games'. I hate when good people get taken advantage of. Some men are wicked. Just talk to him, think carefully about what you want to say and be very clear. Do some investigation too and if he decides to be stupid or is using you, then leave the idiot.

TheUndercover:
Whenever I read some guy's story when describing the girl they meet I laugh anytime I come about something like "she's everything I want in a woman". You can never know a woman's or a man's true character until you live with that person. Most romantic relationships started with the soul mate myth too. The woman you marry is not the woman you divorce.

DUMP that bitch as soon as possible, if she can use her body as a business transaction and doesn't feel anything about it, how will she regret it when you get married to her? Do not let oxytocin block your inner eyes. You can see it written all over the wall.

A girl telling you she sold her virginity in exchange for cash is already a red flag. She was even making you wait for sex and she's not a virgin, like seriously?? Because you're waiting until you marry her? This is why Men keep falling to the sex scam. A man in love is incomplete until he's married - then he's FINISHED. A man in love is like a clipped coupon, it's time to cash in.

Men, if a lady says "every woman has the right to do whatever she wants with her body", that lady is 100% likely tomorrow at be a hoe if not already one.

Never venture into "no sex till marriage" scam with any lady that isn't a VERIFIED VIRGIN. I'm not talking about anal sex virgins, romance virgins, BJ virgins and the likes. It's a risky business.

You are the only one I've seen saying something reasonable, if this is a true story (I think it is), that girl is stupid. Being poor doesn't mean you should be a thief, ritual killer or a prostitute.

You are a simp bro. Giving a girl attention is like giving her sex. Has she giving you a peck on the cheek, talk less of sex, lol. She'll continue using you for her ego boost or when she's feeling lonely and bored. You'll continue chasing her until you're tired. I commend you for coming out of your comfort zone to talk to her. You don't need to cut ties with her, just don't tie your emotional energies with her.

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Rozcol:
You are still very rude,anyways have a nice day

You're still acting like your an enlightened princess. I'll be watching out for you now. Snow White.

Rozcol:
You still don't get it and you don't have to be insultive

I get it, you fool. I'm a very good looking guy. Your doing all this to get some ego boost. What on Earth do beautiful girls suffer. I feel like slapping your pretentious ass right now.

Op shut up. Carry razor tear your face na. Idiot.

Op shut up. Carry razor tear your face na. Idiot.

I've posted my own experience, some girls do these things openly some secretly, many men will marry runs girls and prostitutes without knowing it. When it comes to women I just feel somehow.

The answer is Who.

I met this girl in Uniport she liked me, she kept telling me how cute I am and stuff. And she was cute too. We talked for a while and I decided to take her out. I took her out and the date went nice. I remember one day I was talking with her and she misinterpreted what I said, immediately she started saying "I'm not liket that" and I asked "like what?". She started saying how she can never be a runsgirl (prostitute), I had to explain myself very well because I don't know what she heard. After a while like some weeks she started treating me anyhow. If I call she'll not pick, those kind of things. I even offered to take her out somewhere nice for the second time, she told me yes, but when I went to the venue she said she's not coming again. I got over her. After a few months my friend told me she's a runsgirl. I was doubtful so I did my research and it was true, she now has a daughter. She's now a single mom. And upon she's a single mom she's still doing runs. You won't believe what most of these girls do, many men after all their hard work will marry them and these girls can keep a secret. I feel somehow when it comes to women. You can't trust anyone.

Casalindal:
Hello op, I read your story and I really know how you feel at the moment. The said lady might not mean you harm but she just don’t know how to handle the fact she has sin, there are people like that and most of them get closure when the finally get to share what they have done with a close or superior being. Don’t take it to heart or get mad at her, I will suggest you sit down and have a deep talk with her and during which you try to understand why she want to follow through with that route.

So many of us just have conversations without actually listening to another person. Tell her to also understand with you why you don’t feel safe having to let the whole world know what you have done. If you both are truly sorry for what you both had done and have seek the face of God then opening confession is not really an option here. But if she still see it fit to go ahead I feel you should allow her get on with what she want.

You might feel embarrassed and all not but it will just be for a period of time. I personally feel you should even be the one to take the first step and confess don’t allow her do it first that way you might still gain a little respect from those you looking up to.

After you get over this please cut her completely off, block her and do not even look back

Lastly tell your girlfriend first about the whole thing so she could stand by you during this time. Please don’t allow her hear it from someone else please. She will be the backbone you will lay on during this time.

Good night and may God have mercy and see you through

All this your write up. Good advice sha. But be like say u dey fear say he be your boyfriend, no dey fear, it's alright lol.

I'm with you bro, fvck these Nigerian girls. They're worse than bitches. 80-90% all fvck for money. And they lazy as fvck.

488eight:
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The list of similarities btw them is too much, for example:
The both of them are scam
The both of them like getting money illegally
The both of them are greedy
The both of them are very selfish
The both of them are lazy
The both of them are wicked
The both of them are useless.

Truvel:
No.

Is it honey or sugar or KFC chicken?

It's not only poor girls that do it. So many from rich homes or average homes do it. The women in this country are evil.

Sorry for the late reply, is it CHEESE.

Truvel:
Cerebellum & Richmond500, Translate Into Words.

Can you be ready at 5pm or am

They watch porn of course. But I don't think as frequent as men.

Do any of you also have this moment of clarity after sex? After I'm done I go just look the woman and for my mind na this thing wey i dey kill myself for. Especially for guys wey dey spend anyhow for woman or if you dey cheat. At that moment you go just turn philosopher, you go know the things wey no get value and the things wey get.

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Na wa o! Kokomama u really koko.

Leave her

Wittyglam:
Nothing good comes out from the money they borrow

Nothing good at all. They keep saying things like development of infrastructure. Which infrastructure? Do they even understand what infrastructure is.

This country is useless. From the time I started reading newspaper since I was little till now Nigeria has been borrowing.

Leave that girl. Call her and tell her to leave you alone. It's like your already having thoughts that you shouldn't be having, she's married o! And she's very young. A lot of times young girls don't see their actions now can cause a lot of problems for themselves and for others. Continue at your own risk!!!