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AdoOloro:
HI mrphysics, pls give me your whatsapp number. I would like to ask a few questions. I am a newbie on that platform and I have been learning the basics for about a month now. Or kindly respond to my pm.

I have replied to your email boss. I would prefer you ask questions here so people can learn from your questions and the answer that will be given.

MissJoy29:
Lol @ enough is expected. He must have felt he has to hold enough or at least act like he does In order to maintain a fine girl like her

Guys most times are tired of women, their requirements, and their needs. Hence they just do anything they think. Generally, money is now the new age among men, everything they do revolves around making money and money. So I won't blame him for doing what he did because, the general notion is that Nigerian ladies are very much interested in rich guys

MissJoy29:
Yes I agree with you @subjective. The guy may have been making an innocent share like you said. But then, he could have been boasting. It's none of my business

I fault her for coming to social media to complain. Everything is now made public. No privacy anymore

Remember she was crushing on him. She was actually the one that might have initiated the date and the guy knew that enough is expected of him. To whom much is expected from, much is given. So he was trying to maintain that state of being crushed on.

Guys tend to behave like babies when they are with women especially those they admire, and blablabla.

I don't blame any of them, they just failed to understand themselves

Munae:
You're right. God bless you.

Pls pray for me.

We have prayed for you

MissJoy29:
Hmmmm...who said he was "innocently sharing?" If I'm not mistaken, the lady said he was bragging/boasting. Not sharing. There are two different things

They are two different things in the mouth of one person. Remember everything is subjective and what she sees as boasting might be an innocent discussion to keep the date active, but ladies are complicated beings so she saw it as boasting. As matured as she thought she is, she kept silent but only exploded on social media.

Munae:
Am usually jealous but not violent.


I can snub u for one month, even if we live in d house, or even sleep in d bed.

You are not yet married, so you say anything. When you are married, try to snub him for one month and we will read your story on nairaland

Feminist evolution

lizakon001:
But I have no one to stay with. I don't have a friend, is just me and myself neither do I have money to get accommodation outside

Then you need to feel relaxed in your fathers house. I have not had such experience but I know how it feels, trust me.

When he starts talking, ignore him and keep living your life. He will soon get tired of talking

lizakon001:
thank you so much but I am a girl not bro

All right, sorry for addressing you as a guy. Same recommendation still apply. The most difficult step to take is the first step.

lizakon001:
Please someone should advice me here before I die of depression. I have a very bad mouthed and negativity father, his words are harsh and all that comes out from his mouth concerning his children are negative. Any small mistake we make the whole neighbourhood will hear and what we did. Even when we do good, he ridicules our goodness. Seriously I am tired of this man, he makes me depressed when I am at home during holiday and when I go to school I don't just want to return back home because it is hell no happiness at all. His attitude drains my happiness please what can I do. Feeling so depressed

Parents most times are very expectant, and when their expectations are not forth coming, they become frustrated. What I do in life is taking that hard and harsh decision. Your life is very important both to you and to him, you can't deny the fact that you are a blessing to this world and your family.

I strongly recommend that you give him some gap. Learn not to take everything he says very serious and if you have somewhere else you can stay for now, kindly do so. I have a friend during my undergraduate year, he was the only issue the mother had. The father is long dead but the mum's expectation is very high. He lives far away from the mother in the same community. This is because, each time the mum sees him, she starts saying all sorts of things even against his future. I remember being with him when he was having issues with his undergraduate result and the mum started saying irrelevant things. You might as well do the same. Take some time away from him and learn to be silent when he starts talking.

It is well bro, things we be better.

banjo022:
nonsense apart from ur pussy what else can u bring to d table

This isn't necessary. You have to indulge in a healthy conversation.

MissJoy29:
It's the first date for goodness sake. Why talk about your life achievement that early? And remember, there's notjust a WHAT to say but a HOW to say it.

There are so many things to talk about on a first date. You just have to find a balance otherwise you will end up creeping out the person.

Let's be sincere here, just like Mynd44 rightly puts it, the problem of you guys is inflated expectations. Most ladies are not so clear on their needs and requirements.

Another girl might find the guy interesting and even wanting to see how she can grow higher than the guy through his secrets to success. While to others which you belong to, his personal experience he was innocently sharing isn't necessary.

ggoldmine:
I don't have a laptop for now, it's bad.
I had to learn graphics design few months back for this fiverr.

You need laptop for it actually. You just have to know how to sell on fiverr so that when you get a laptop, it will be easy to start selling.

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MissJoy29:
After boasting about what they have & who they are & eventually land a girl who is with them for the money, they will start shouting that Nigerian girls are materialistic.

Wait o, do these guys think every girl gets tripped or hooked by money? I have seen situations whereby the guy was thinking he had & was bragging about it only to find out who the lady he's bragging to was. He was forever humbled by the fact that the girl was way above him but never showed it. He felt stupid.

Besides, guys who brag about what they have know that THAT IS ALL they can bring to the table. Apart from their money, they are just liabilities. Lol. That's like one of the fastest ways to turn me off & away from you.

Money is good & necesary but not enough abeg.

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If he starts talking love, you will say it's too early, if he say marriage, another wahala.

Perhaps the guy was trying to tell her his life story and how he became successful but ladies brains will interpret it to be boastful. What stops her from learning from his boastful life?

Smellymouth:
Person nor talk na problem, person too talk na problem.

I dey tell you. If the guy was silent, she would say that the date was boring. Now the guy spoke up, she says he is boastful


If we chop them go talk, if we not chop them go talk - Osita Osadebe

Nigerian ladies are something else

ggoldmine:
Aiit. Thanks.

Welcome boss. What is stopping you from taking the first step?

cadre88:
Assess my account https://www.fiverr.com/danwriter

Just checked your gig. And I have the following so say:

1. You only have one gig, consider making it 3 to see more offers in Buyers Request Page

2. Your gig is only a $5 gig, you are therefore limiting clients who may have need for a bigger service. Why not use the 3 gig price option? Basic, standard, and premium. This might be the reason you only made sales in the last 2 months.

3. Check your search tag, edit your gig and see how it changes

4. Try using videos on your gig. A white board animation can increase sales

5. I strongly recommend that you create other gigs with other writing service that sales.

ggoldmine:
That's nice. I'm not good at it.

You can find another niche and start selling. Writing is not the most selling niche on fiverr. They are areas you will make $1k just be completing 5 orders. So visit fiverr and check out things you can do.

My suggestions though

ggoldmine:
Pls, what's your niche?

Creative writing

Abduletudaye:
Yes, i know doing it throught the app isnt possible.
I have to try a whole bunch of browsers then..

Alright

Abduletudaye:
Alright... I will do as you have said but can i atleast edit on my phone as i dont always have access to a laptop. I do have but i work so im not with it..

Well, depending on the browser you are using to access fiverr. But if it is true fiverr app, I do not think there is an option to edit gig through the app.

Chrismario:
I believe its possible. I joined fiverr in October and made only $24 =5 weeks. Surprisingly in just 7 days, I don get $185 order. 101 completed and 85 to be completed within next 3 days.

Fiverr Dae one kind

Sure, fiverr is unpredictable but sellers should never give up.

My first order was $70, and it opened the way. It's not easy, but sellers should persevere.

Abduletudaye:
Mr physics.. Thats like 421k for november.

Anyway, thats good but i have two gigs for the past two months and no body has ordered.

Please help me as i feel im doing something wrong.

You are funny, you had to convert it.

I registered February 14th this year and I got my first order came May this year. How many months? 3. But I was always online, and I was always changing keys search words.

I was living on buyers request page. Sending customized offers until it started.

Do the same, and you will see a change.
Also, editing your gig is very necessary, very necessary. Check those gig on front page, you will see new sellers or level one sellers there, check the keywords they used and use the same.

Don't give up bro

ELff:
Same old.. Same old. Please can we hear something new. How do u send traffic to ur gig, the new front page ranking system, etc.

This long epistle is great but without orders u can't execute them. Thanks.

Your review increases your impression which increases your gig appearance. My gig have been in front page for the past 4 months even as a Nigerian seller. You get reviews by first getting orders and you get orders as new seller through buyers request page.

I would have suggested that you advertise your gig on LinkedIn and facebook but Nigerians won't order. So, it's through buyers request page for new sellers. You must also be patient as it comes slowly.

Secondly, you must keep changing your gig search tag. Edit your gig always, change the key words and your impression and visibility will increase.

Bro, there is no magic here.

So this month, I made more than $1000 on fiverr. I know so many sellers make more than this, but for those just starting, I would love to share my some helpful tips to help beginners make more sales.

1. Always visit the buyers request regularly. Buyers request is always updated between 6 - 7AM Nigeria time. This time is subject to change with time. Make sure you keep refreshing this page between this time and send customized offers.

2. Always communicate to buyers before submitting any order. Fiverr already provided us with a prepared submission message, I strongly recommend that you avoid using them but send a customized message as you deliver your order. I always tell buyers not to mark as complete until they are satisfied with the work. I also promise them of my readiness to redo the job if they are not satisfied with it. None has asked me to redo a project, it was an emotional game.

3. IF you are a new seller, kindly devalue your gig price until you make enough sales and review to gain the trust of buyers.

4. Once you have started getting good reviews, do increase your gig prices

5. Always strive to provide buyers with quality deliverables

6. Always keep in touch with buyers. Suggest to them where and how they can use their deliverables to achieve success. It means that you care about them.

7. Try to deliver on time. A day before the deadline or even earlier. Also, always visit fiverr forum, ask questions, and see how other sellers are doing.

8. Remember that you must always cancel works due to buyers ordering wrongly or due to works you can't do.

9. Check buyers country before taking up their projects. Some countries are sadists and they can give you a review that will take time to overcome.

Wishing you the best as you make more money on fiverr.

pweetiedee:
Small small. Its okay. But you know Igbos know how to do this too. In fact, they started this shit.

Any you joined? How are you different from them?

Xend:
What are you saying

Hian, did I confuse you?
I said we shouldn't judge them. They found love at such an early stage which is beautiful. I also posited that most of such relationship is always liberal, experience reveals they are all for sexual purpose and the lady give herself up for the guy which I advised the gut to make the best use of the time.

After such relationship, most ladies become so stubborn after giving everything, they start attacking the male folks with some of them becoming feminists and what have you.

This is nice. First love is always thick. Both parties are free to themselves and are genuine. Most times, the relationship ends after they are tired of bleeping each other.

I think they should enjoy it while it lasts and the guy should take everything he wants from the girl now. Just talking from experience.

This is love in it's undiluted form.



Our Nigerian guys and ladies would even suggest the wedding proceed without their sick father. This is fast changing and yet we are not being productive or helping humanity achieve its goals.

Nice one. Meanwhile, some ladies are playing the game of chess with their pre-wedding photos

This is a cheap threat meant to subdue the man. He should take a sharp decision and forget the rest.

I feel you are the person anyway. My suggestion from experience
1. Tell the lady to go ahead with anything she plans to do.
2. Act as if you don't care as you definitely don't care. The arrow of time moves forward and we get to meet things as they happen.
3. Know that they must always be a family problem and this one won't be an exception. Whether your wife gets angry or not, if you choose not to end the marriage, it won't end. So be prepare that something bad might happen.

This is what I will do if I am you. Nothing moves me and I get to worry about nothing in this world. Anything that want to happen should better happen. If she senses any act of cowardice or fear in you, she takes advantage of it. So forget her and move on, this is just a cheap threat from women.

Nah so my guy complain of a threat from a woman, lol, I already told him that she will do absolutely nothing. My guy dey make noise, I will go with CID, team of lawyers, etc. I told him he was just dancing to the plan already prepare by the lady. All this men turned women can be moved.

Guy, to be frank, nothing will happen, even if it happens, you will overcome it.

Just remember there is tomorrow and you can make it to tomorrow. Don't give up today when you can still live tomorrow.
The world is becoming so busy, people move and careless of others. I was confronted to see what is happening in the US, I had to make a research and come up with a book on aging in the states. Truth is, old age in US is like living a life of misery.

It is the same with frustration in Nigeria. There is tomorrow, there is tomorrow, don't end it today because of what you are currently passing through. Life is the opposite of entropy: it look scattered today but with time things become ordered and everything takes it place. Do not end your life today because of how scattered life seems to be. Remember it will be organized and better tomorrow. Hold on to the fact that there is tomorrow, there is help tomorrow, there is joy tomorrow, there is life tomorrow.

We keep moving, we are not the ones to give up in life, life gives up in us