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k2039: She is my partner because she is mine and mine alone.
I believe in mutual exclusivity.

Do you believe in polygamous marriage?

honeric01: 100% in agreement as long as its vice versa.

the point of my comment has nothing to do with the gender war you guys are on...it is simple logic and common sense....do what you eant others to do to you. In Nigeria homosexuals arent allowed to marry so I couldnt make a broad statement however we have to be conscious of the things we say and do to our partner because they do not have to put up or deal with us.

Real talk.

Tgirl4real: That is not true. Just just mis-quoted and mis-interpreted scriptures.

Jesus and Paul actually said in the bible that it is better not to marry. 1 Corthians 7

Addition to that...in Matt. It spoke about virginity and abstain from sex but if you cant abstain from sex..it is better to be married than burn.
i think she was confusing Genesis...when the bible said Adam was alone and Eve was created to be his helpnate not wife. Eve was not his wife until after the great sin....they didnt have mortal desire dor procreation until God sent Adam and Eve out of the garden. Because they have sinned they no longer had eternal. Life or the tree of life. They had to procreate to to continue mankind. In fact after God said go forth and multiply...Adam and Eve knew each other for the first time.
They begatted two sons and no daughters but in Genesis speak about the land of the giants. There was a woman created before Eve.

How can we explain how was mankind able to continue if only two sons were born and Abel was killed by Cain and Cain had a mark on his back and hid in shame?

You all aint ready for this.

A man should do for his wife that he wants done to him. Simple.

Lmao at one comment.

slimyem: In short,you are not going to tell him anything like the bolded again?

Never share what will trigger your partner.

phineboy1pimple: Self control simply means self denial... Which leads to paranoia...

You failed school didnt you?

Its okay somebody have to be dumb and you filled the position!

phineboy1pimple: But he/she has a clear pics of what he/she is saying...


Like I said earlier U can give or base ur statistics on aggregation....

Huh One person doesnt represent all certainly not the bleeped up ones!!

adegbitown: someone once said that always bathing with warm water can cause the skin to wear off faster than normal. my dad is close to 60 and he still bathes with lukewarm water. is there any negative effect attached to this? let's know the facts.

Warm water help strip skin of dead cells and bathing in epsom salt water will kill bacteria on the skin. Salt is the natural killer for bacteria. Water and soap remove dead cells because your body constantly growing and there are no reports of skin damaged by warm water unless you are scald by extremely hot water.

Just talk to them calmly to figure out the issue.

Yes men crack under pressure too.

Is this why lord reed acting funny

ballabriggs: Hehehehe Mrs Chima, muruanya O. No go dey inside water make soap dey enter your eye.

In fact naija babes, person wey dey cry dey see road O. Make una shine una eye like Bola Tinubu. Faithfulness just like truth in brother done die. lol

Sorry boo boo...the bad batch of Nigerian men didn't ruin for the good Nigerian men.

dmcdad: Bruv... Faithfulness ain't dead neither is truth dead. The fact that majority of men out there are unfaithful and stuff doesn't mean we all are guilty of this menace called UNFAITHFULNESS.

Exactly! They think they represent everyone that is trifling like them. SMH. Some people DO KNOW HOW TO PRACTICE SELF CONTROL.

tayoccu: My Old man had to remove it @ 82, but after running tests, the Urologists discovered it wasn't cancerous.
So having to remove it, or having issues with the prostrate gland doesn't necessarily have to be cancer.

A well-knowledge doctor will not remove a prostate gland if it isn't necessary. If the prostate gland is removed...it is a good reason for it...TRUST ME.

The most common reason for removing prostate gland is because of cancer or threat of cancer.

He is he.

Wish wives can figure out a way to get husbands not to pass the night.

No.

ballabriggs: This Mrs Chima your shakara too much sef.

Dey there dey form closed relationship while your husband Chima dey sample every in an open relationship.

Na you go loose.

Good thing you don't represent all Nigerian men.

slimyem: This comment on a certain thread and my own questions of what is and what should not be births this thread..

It was a response to how much one should tell a potential husband/wife.
We all have our pasts and have made series of mistakes but it sucks when they are used to judge us and a determinant of who gets to be in the future.
Although,i have my own opinions which is not leaving any part of one's past/hiding anything from a potential partner no matter how inconsequential it is....but i have also seen situations where one tells all and the guy/girl takes to his/her heels or its used against them in the most unpalatable ways.
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I have a friend who had had about 3 abortions in school.She dated this guy and told him the truth to the letter.There was nothing he didn't call her and he went to lengths to slander her all over the place before he left.
Now,she's about getting married to some other guy and she has sworn not to tell him anything!
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Another married friend with two kids now had a similar experience so she just didn't tell her husband anything about her previous abortion and they are happy together till date.
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Now,this question goes to everyone married or not...
-How much do you think is too much to tell?
-When do you think its most appropriate to tell it all?
At the beginning of a relationship,before engagement or after engagement?
-What should or should not be left out?
To the married ones here,how much did you tell your spouse and when did you tell?

My husband and I do not tell each other everything that goes on around us or things that were told to us in confident. We share what is important for the family and the rest is nonissue. Couples should know what to share and what not to share. If he/she ask you a direct question then give him/her a direct answer. But too much information can cause issues in the marriage/relationship.

My husband is my best friend so I share things with my husband that best friends share with their best friends. I had to learned how to balance the two because at the end of the day my husband is still a man and my husband. I went to a women outing for the weekend and some of my single friends invited guys to join the outing. I was upset with the fact that I should have invited my husband if guys were going to be involved however one of the guys asked me to be his "date" for the weekend. I waved my hand up and said already taken.

The guy made comments about taking me from my husband and flirting etc. I made it very clear that I wasn't that type of girl and to find someone who is interested. So when we returned home from the outing and my husband asked me how was the outing...I simply told him the truth and he became very upset. I was surprised because I thought that he would appreciate the fact that I told him but confused why he was upset with me and not the guy. Anyways....he gave me the "silent" treatment and I confided in my close sister in-law. She explained to me that Nigerian men are territorial by nature and to give him a few days to calm down. She went on to say that when Nigerian men love...they love hard and the thought of another man touching, talking, approaching, looking, smiling, and mentioning of their girl is a trigger.

So I learned to NEVER share anything of such to my husband and only share important things of substance. The devil find any way to mess up a marriage or long term relationship because when two people are spiritually connected....it is unbreakable.

armyofone: ummmm, marry whomever and don't let it get into your head.

i'm an advocate of mixed relationship/marriage.

white women marry black dude if they have money
black gals don't marry for money but for love and career ladder

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]What I don't get though is why some Black women give interracial couple the stink eye.

What happened to. . to each his own?!

Sigh![/quote]The way I don't get why some White women give interracial couples the stink eye. Believe it or not...there are thousands of Black women who could care less and living their lives.

Bottom line...people have preferences and focus on self.

maclatunji: Can you expatiate? My research indicates that errrr... surgery is quite detrimental if not fatal to a man's "conjugal proficiency" . I am trying not to be alarmist here.

Then stick to your research if that what you choose....there are side effects of ANY TYPE OF SURGERIES however no one have the exact same experience. Yes, it is possible to have sex after surgery.

If a man wait until he is 80 years old to remove his prostate due to cancer....he has three strikes anyways...he is OLD, sex drive diminished, and his prostate cancer have affected other things in his body. The longer a man wait until he check his prostate...the severity is higher.

If a man has to remove his prostate gland...it is obvious the cancer "ate" it up so therefore it is not safe to leave it in the body before it spread to other parts of the body. That is why prostate exam is imperative and the earlier you catch it...the better the treatment.

Women's health education is the first step in prevention and treatment. The largest sexual cancers for women world wise are:

-cervical cancer
-ovarian cancer
-uterine cancer

Annual or bi-annual exam is the first step in detecting cancerous cells in the cervical, fallopian tube, and uterine areas. Thousands of women undergo pap smears and pelvic exams to save their lives from these horrendous diseases. First signs of ailment are:

-discoloration in urine
-pain in the abdomen, pelvic, and vaginal areas
-frequent urination
-bloody spots
-uncommon odor
-changes in pubic areas
-lumps/hard knots

OBGYN professionals are trained to detect many symptoms and signs when preforming pap smears and pelvic exams. It is very important to inform your doctor of ANY changes and discomforts that you have experienced since your last visit.

According to several medical journals reported by doctors women who are sexually active without protection are more likely to experience these horrendous diseases however a slight possibility with protected sex.

-having multiple partners without protection will increase chances of not only sexual transmitted infections but if left untreated can lead to cancerous cell or full blown cancer.
-using chemical products to "clean" the vaginal area instead of using natural products such as vinegar, epsom salt, and baking soda. Perfume, scented soaps, and any product that doesn't maintain the PH balance is not good for vaginal cleansing and shouldn't be used as an odor buffer.
-wearing underpants with dye

There are many factors that have been theorized as contributing variables in sexual cancers however early detection and prevention is the first step in maintaining a healthier lifestyle. According to ABC News, consumers have reported that water base condoms are safer than condoms with lubricants. It would make sense because lubricant is a chemical used to moisturize the condoms for easy penetration if the women isn't naturally lubricated. Condoms with lubricant substance tend to have microscopic holes which a nekkid eye can't see. Imagine a chemical sitting on a product for a long period of time before the product is corroded.

Throat cancer is making its way to the top of the list with cervical, ovarian, and uterine cancer. Or@l sex is becoming more frequent and people are not using dental dams to protect their mouth against sexual infections which can cause oral herpes and esophageal bacterial infection and if left untreated will lead to throat cancer.

[quote author=agoha_vivi]Is it possible for a man to still have a normal life(sexually) after undergoing a surgery to correct this condition?[/quote]Yes...it is possible for a man to have sex after surgery however it is impossible for a man to have pleasurable sex with prostate cancer.

14 men in Nigeria dying with Prostate cancer is fairly low consider Nigeria being the populous country. We have to understand stats are recorded base on documentation, report, and personal stories. I am positive the number is higher than 14 in Nigeria.

According to Center of Disease Control (CDC), the latest report was made in 2008 that approximately 214, 633 men were diagnosed with Prostate cancer and 28,471 men died from Prostate cancer in America.

Highest to Lowest:

-Black men
-White men
-Hispanic men
-Asian men

This is the website where OP got his/her information from: http://www.osundefender.org/?p=53644

Someone had mentioned that USA can't discriminate applicants base on health status. USA embassies or any other embassies have the right to approve or deny applicants. They can simple state that the reason for denial is because of fraud, lack of evidence, or the applicant proved to be untrustworthy.....any of those reasons are acceptable even if it is not true for you. The embassies have the last word unless the Department of Homeland issue you the right to appeal but you have to have supporting evidence of such or they will just simply deny you without an appeal.

The Lottery is a goodwill invitation to non-Americans and they have stricter rules than standard immigration. They can ask for anything they want within the scope of the law if it is not written in the law...they can ask you for anything.

I have friends who work for the Department of Homeland Security and I hear stories all the time about how some people tried to sue USA for being denied a visa.

That's not surprising because Black men in America do not get their prostate exam until it is too late. The organization I am involved with are creating several awareness fairs to encourage black men over the age of 40 to get their prostate examined. We have decided to allow men as early as 35 years old to participate because we believe early detection is the cure to prostate cancer.

The issues with Black men regarding prostate exams is miseducation and ignorance. Many of them do not have the accurate facts about prostate exams and listening to peope who have absolutely no idea what prostate is.

I would tell my clients to thin of prostate gland like a walnut or hazelnut. It is usually located by the bladder and if you were to rub your finger on the perineum...you may be able to feel the "walnut" depending on some patients. Prostate gland is a reproductive gland for men and it aid the development of seminal fluid by providing "transportation" for the sperm. Some doctors have argued that the prostate gland is responsible for the color of the sperm and it creamy appearance. However without prostate glands....it is impossible for sperm to travel to their destination.

It is very important for men to understand their body and I encourage men to study basic antomy because knowledge is power. Anatomy isn't just for nurses and doctors but it is for humans to understand their body and how it works. I believe when people understand their bodies...they will treat it better and take concerns of the things that are harmful to the body. Unfortunately there isn't a cure for prostate cancer but early detection is the cure.

I encourage all wives and girlfriends to support their partners in getting prostate exams starting at 35 years old and you owe it to yourself to have your man with you until rocking chair age. Some symptoms that you can help your partner look for:

=swelling of the prostate gland
-frequent urination
-discoloration in the urine
-lower sex drive or change in sexual habits
-complaints of discomfort in perineum area
-pressure while urinating

Some of the male clients have complained about fear of someone putting their finger in their rectum but that is how doctors check thoroughly during prostate exam. Doctors can't just look at the scrotums and go hmmmm I think that cancer. They have to draw blood, collect urine specimen, and do some basic tests addition to manual exam that may be uncomfortable but it is a life saver.

Men...you owe it to your wives, girlfriends, and children to live a healthier life by getting your prostate check annually or bi-annually. Who is going to walk your daughter down the aisle and give her away? Take care of your prostate and your health.

Good luck. (sorry OP for the seminar lecture)

Po thang. ....

Po thang...

stillwater: How does this have anything to do with what I asked? And where the heck is the negativity coming from? Is this not a forum again? I even put an emoticon thinking I was talking with someone that wouldn't take offense. The question was what kind of marital strife would make one use 'no sex' as a cautionary tool? You said each couple have a reason for it. Good! But what type of reasons? Give examples!!! Then you go on a tirade of men would still cheat if you give them sex. Bloody hell! What does your response have to do with giving examples of why one would deny oneself of sex?

Sorry for engaging you in a discussion, bye!

I see i touched a nerve or seven...its gon be okay boo boo.

You are forgiven.