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Why is he talking to Queen Eve?  Is she here?  


Did Tosinville say TALL AND HANDSOME?  (eating my skittles and skip on out the thread)

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=756871.msg9122197#msg9122197 date=1315703753]Also that Skin So Soft is excellent for mosquitoes

Chima when you visited Africa - did you use it there?

I already ordered it last month - and I was hoping the African mosquitoes are allergic to it like the U.S. mosquitoes.

I also have some rubbing alcohol and some powder boric acid ready for the African roaches I hear about too.

Let's hope they aren't immune to U.S. products[/quote]I bathed in SOS when I was over there.  Nigeria wasn't the only African countries I visited and Mosquitos in other countries were just as bad in Nigeria.  I suggest you spend time outside during the daytime and inside during the night fall.  If you must go out at night keep your arms and legs covered.  Buy a few sundresses if you don't have any and get a few shrugs to cover your upper arms and back. It is warm during the daytime and cool during the night fall. 

I was invited to a party almost every night when I was over there.  The circle I was in love to party and have fun.  They are younger though so you may not doing too much dancing seeing your guy is older and have children.  But ask him to take you dancing at least once or twice so you can see how he is with peers in a public setting. 

I am going to Nigeria for the holidays because my bolo (aunt) daughter is getting married and I am one of the Matron of Honor.     So I have stocked up on my skin protection and all.  I will be singing a song at the wedding as well.

No. I wouldn't marry a man that I KNOW is impotent but if he becomes impotent later on in life I will not leave him.

On the second note, Mr. Chima and I need to get busy!

Dondav:
Yeah! I know dat. But i wonder what's goldie about your luks?

You ain't light skinned. You what we call in the States "Brown skinned" or "Caramel skinned".

You definitely look better than Tosinville and Co.

Lawd Sis! You got banned too?

ogugua88:
After the egg is fertilized, it's supposed to travel down the Fallopian tube and implant itself in the uterine wall. That doesn't always happen as implantation errors can and do occur. One common error is the egg nestling itself in the Fallopian tube. It's called ectopic pregnancy, a painful complication that harms the fetus and its host (the mother).

An abortion is required, either surgically or non-surgically. Very rarely do Fallopian tube pregnancies go the whole nine months, otherwise the egg may or may not terminate and the host may die as well from severe internal bleeding.

A and P and Biology rocks!  Did you see the "Hard Truth" video they show in Bio class?  It show the truth about abortion and different methods of abortion. 

What you described was the Ethical Abortion meaning it was necessary.  But Prolifers give nurses and doctors hard time performing ethical abortions saying the babies still need a chance to live.  How can a baby survive tubal pregnancies or Detached Uterine pregnancies?

Without the life support of umbilical cord the baby has no chance of survival unless a miracle is performed.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=756871.msg9122144#msg9122144 date=1315702451]Chima - I don't know about everything you have written.

The children speak to me and are wonderful - sweet, so very sweet.  Precious ones and they already call me mum.  We will love each other.

The culture - I am afraid actually - I just don't know how this will work

He and I have both been married before - and so we are both used to a certain type of interaction and we will subconsciously compare each other to our previous mates.  THAT IS NATURAL and can't be undone - but we have opened our selves up to being with a new mate in the form of each other.

I can make compromises - I CAN TAKE A MILLION HITS FOR THE TEAM - I can, I have and I will.

But I also am hearing and reading so much about Nigerian men - the Nigerian Fight for Public Services that affect the romance of the Nigerian male.

If I can suck his d1ck in the dark, he can eat my punni in the light - THAT STATEMENT MEANS THIS TO ME - I am making all sorts of sacrifices to date this Nigerian man and in turn giving me his energy even when he is tired, being romantic instead of grabbing remote controls to the tv, giving me his emotions instead of holding back - that is eating my punni - especially since we aren't in physical proximity to each other yet.  We can sex,  each other in different ways.

Then just the fact that less than 2 years into the relationship I have to tell him this or even mention it - is a huge slap to my pride and to my face.  Part of being a man and part of being a woman is to know these things.

I will do EXACTLY WHAT YOU SAID - be friends, stop talking marriage to him or dating or anything - focus on the business(s) when I arrive in Lagos and wait and observe the moves he makes - I will not be staying with him in his home while I am there - so I will be able to see him from enough of a distance to see if he ups the ante in the romance department.

If he doesn't - I will just make the money I went there to make and return from my travels with a new perspective - free to actually start dating for the first time in years - which is and will be fun in itself.[/quote]The kids are not the issue however know that his attention will be divided between you, children, and running his business.  If that is not an issue with you GREAT. 

You are doing a wise thing by spending time with him and see where it goes.  If he continue neglecting what you feel that you are entitled to hen at least you gave it a shot. 

You mentioned some things that you are aware of about the conditions in Nigeria and if you are okay with that then you shouldn't have bigger fishes to fry.  Bring plenty of SOS spray from AVON and take extra packets of Malaria pills with you.  Mosquitos there isn't like Mosquitos in the States.  Oooh lawd chile! 

Also be careful that sex may not be a big deal with him as well. I am sure he will engage in sexual activities with you but it won't be a focal activity as you feel is important. So that is something you may have to consider as well. He may not be into MouthAction, sucking the toes, and biting the ear. He may be a simple Nigerian man who enjoys simple things in life without the extra wahala.

Oh my goodness

What is "fresh out the oven"?

Somagirl:
I have a crush on myself tbh!!

Can I have the money that is plastered on your wall?

sley4life:
Thank you all for your comments. I feel more relieved. I have tried explaining to her but she fails to understand. I told her not to threaten me with marriage. A man has his time to get married not someone giving him a deadline for marriage because she is older than him

Wait! She is pressuring you for marriage because she is old? If you are not ready for marriage then do not go into marriage. Marriage is not to be taken lightly and people who make a mockery of marriage should be flogged.

If it is not for you then that's okay but don't go into it because someone ELSE told you to go into it.

One of the issues with dating or marrying older women is the biological clock is ticking and just because 2 women in their 90's had babies doesn't mean your girl will. People need to stop comparing their chances with other people.

LMAO@Motivation being an ashawo song.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=756871.msg9122002#msg9122002 date=1315700018]Chima:

95% of what you wrote COMPLETELY APPLIES HERE and to you I am grateful - because you ARE RIGHT

You better believe I feel entitled - WE ALL SHOULD - because entitlement is EARNED

But he already knows and we have proven to each other that neither one of us is Selfish.

He is spoiled and I am spoiled to a certain extent and in different ways.  Self conceit - neither of us buy into.  We are not full of ourselves.  We just are ourselves.

I need to go and spend time in Lagos before we marry - be there physically at least 6 months.[/quote]Self conceit is self entitlement and it can go either way a good thing or a bad thing.  However the first step spend time with him physically and go from there.  

Hold the marriage talk until you guys resolve the differences/issues because as you stated the guy doesn't believe in divorce.  You don't want to go into a marriage thinking you will be divorce (not saying that's what you are thinking) anytime divorce enter the mind or conversation soon it becomes a realization.  

Children doesn't stop romance but his children were before you so therefore you will have to think would you accept being second fiddle and lose some of the potential romance or be with someone that will give all that you think you are entitled to?

Generally speaking, anyone that get into a relationship with someone that is culturally different must take in consideration of issues that may arise and how are you planning on dealing with them collectively.

davidylan:
how old are you? Is this how you  intend to start your own young life? No wonder the dude has no time for romance . . . he has kids to worry about! You're not the number 1 priority in his life and you will never be so forget all that moaning about no romance.

Unfortunately, you are right. She will be competing for attention with his children. If she continue with him she will have to accept the fact that she may not get the attention she thinks she is entitled to.

Shyone

I have read what you have said and I am sensing that you feel self entitled.  You have used too many adjectives to describe yourself and then end it with distaste how dare he fall asleep and not speak to you in a way that you feel that you are entitled to.  

You can't change a man under no circumstance.  He is Nigerian first of all so the culture is completely different.  Flowers to me is not a big deal because it is a material thing that doesn't show how much he care or love you.  

A man's show his love by actions and what he does after the talk.  If you want that long hour talk and flowers then you really need to spend time with him physically before even discussing marriage.  

Take the time to get to know him and six months down the line after being with him physically then make your decision.  The self entitlement will destroy your marriage before it even begin.  Compromise with him and learn about his culture before skipping down the aisle on the beach or the Registry.  

Communication isn't the only key in successful relationship but learning each other cultures, traditions, and beliefs is also imperative.  

According to you, he said "Americans" after you mentioned the flowers.  He is basically saying you are materialistic, spoiled, and self conceited.  That's what MOST people from the East think of the people from the West.

Can someone tell me the name of the song that Mercy Johnson sang in the movie Sweet Potato after he had her surgery?

Its a native song.

davidylan:
is that the mexico-based guy you have never seen?

Oh my!   

Nayah:
Sorry sister can't reply because I've never dated them but all I can say is they're not the worst and the best pf the planet, they're humans with heart
But yes I need to confess I really like Jim Iyke 

Awwww.  Jim Iyke acts well with Tonto Dikeh. Maybe its the chemistry?  He is cute with the gap between his his two front teeth.

I hear some wedding bells.

If it is a traditional wedding then most ladies would choose white if they are a virgin or want to lie being a virgin.

If it is an untraditional wedding then most ladies would choose off white, beige, or gold.

If it is a themed wedding then whatever colors are for that particular theme would be the color of the dress.

You will never know.

[size=44pt]LMAO [/size]

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=756253.msg9118907#msg9118907 date=1315660567]@ Chima

Male Chatterers?  This is for the women.[/quote]Duh.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=756253.msg9118760#msg9118760 date=1315658860]You ladies know you love this

Happy, Happy Saturday Everyone


[/quote]I don't know about love it but it will definitely generate interesting comments from the MALE CHATTERS.

I guess Love is indeed blind.

dammizz:
How u agreed to start a relationship without loving him beats me, Its high time u swallowed your feminine ego then express your love back to him, *'cos I know u know u love him, if not u wouldnt b here*, and quit criticising d guy 4 using 'em shoes, he doesnt wanta waste love on one who wld not regard it. Shikena!

How can you love someone you don't know? Dating and courting isn't a relationship. Relationship in a real sense of the definition is when people agree to become exclusive to one another potentially leading to marriage if the thought is there but dating and courting afford you the opportunity to date others.

Ego has nothing to do with her not loving the guy. Open mouth remove all doubts.

There are several threads floating on NL about single parent dating. This topic has been chewed and spitted out multiple times.

(still reading)

If you are not ready to tell someone I love You don't say it. You do not need to feel guilty because someone's feelings are hurt. That's a part of life.

He will survive and so will you.

(still reading)