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Dammmmmmn! I missed the debate?!! Sighs.

DailyNews: But on a more serious note, when a man wants to settle down, to marry, he knows where, how & when to to find a wife simple. Its only women who have difficulty in finding husband because they wait for men to do the chase though thats natures work.


So any lady in search of a husband should pray & make good female friends, & flee from bad girls still out to catch fun, that is the major reason most hardly get approached by good men out for marriage. They class u the same with the kind of friends u keep whether u are good or bad. Flee from bad friends who drink, club habitually, smoke, disrespect & talk down on men, full of themselves etc.

Who's fault is it when society have badgered women for making the first attempt to "woo" a man? How can a woman make a logical decision to chase a male that is too laid back to chase her when he wants her? It is not the women's fault when she has a mother or father that drills daily about how women shouldn't chase a man and if she does....she is this and that.

I have no issue with women chasing men but I have issues with the method many of women today uses to chase a man. Instead of letting it flow naturally many of them use desperation tactics to get the man's attention and to me that is a no no. Simply making a first move is chasing but after knowing his response and still chase is desperation.

Women do not lose men simply because they refuse to chase men....they lose men simply because the right one didn't propose to them. It is on both parties to ensure effective courting...not just one sided.

My husband and I share pretty much everything except a few things. We both deserve to have something that is our own but at most points we share what is important.

DailyNews: lol

[quote author=Duke_Nija]What is happening to Mrs Chima??
She's become less defensive, more Objective and logical.
Nawa O. Best Post.[/quote]When one is in opposition...they will defend their reasons for opposition. Know the difference.

I am ALWAYS LOGICAL AND HONEST. Most people don't always like it and it is okay....I have hate mails from both MALES AND FEMALES. I don't just pick one gender simply because I am a female. If it is logical and truth...I will support it regardless of the gender.

Chefs are okay...but I like handymen better.

Tips? People should find their mate however they see fit and they are the ones will live with their choices.

When people interfere with someone's search for a mate...things always mess up. It is not up to us to determine what, how, why, when, and whom a person should do with their relationship. It is definitely not up to us and remember...do you like someone telling you the same?

I think not. As i have stated before...instead of giving tips on how one should find a mate but we should (those in healthy relationships) should encourage how to stay in a healthy relationship. Finding someone isn't the issue in today's society...but keeping and maintaining a healthy relationship is much complex than Arabian mathematics.

solbil: i do not have a GF yet, but i hope to get one soon. There is something bothering me that i have to understand and deal with before i get a GF.

Anytime i listen to blues, i am thrown into a session of fantacy and at that time, my eyes become misty. I dont like it beocs i THINK it makes me effeminate and the whole thing is embarrasing. I am so helpless against this thing and no matter how hard i try, i just cannot hold it back.

There is this woman i want. She is soooo...............(rolls eyes) And i melt at seeing her. My worry is; if i express my feelings the way i do just listening to blues, how would i express my feelings to her if she accepts me? I wouldnt like to be seen by her as effeminate. That might be a turn off for her.

I want to deal with this issue and i believe you can help me.

***kisses and hugs***

There is nothing wrong with being emotional....there are many emotional manbitches on this site and at least YOU ARE HONEST.

Find out why you are emotional when listening to Blues and fix it. Every time you hear a song...you shouldn't break down to pieces unless it has sentimental meanings.

I can't think of anything other than choice would make a person cheat. I still hold firm to the fact that an unmarried person can't cheat when they aren't even obligated to be faithful to their unmarried partner.

I asked one male chatter on a particular thread...how can he expect his girlfriend to be faithful to him when he won't even provide for her since he is not obligated to?

Marriage is an obligation.....dating/courting is a test drive.

onila: yea the french african men are cool

esp the senegalese ones

Now if I get cuss out for telling the guy he is French African...I am coming back for your ass!

onila: learn from senegalese, ivorian, cameroon, n angolan men

the most elegant men in frica

There is this guy from Senegal and he is dating an associate that I know....he always bring single roses to the girls. He got women panting and shit.

pendo89: I know nothing about nigerian men but girl you make me laugh.

LMAO@Nigerian men being the most desired.

If you don't think the best of yourself...who will.

onila: naija boys try-ya all are hardworking, rich, funny and lively

but you guys are too arrogant when chasing girls N when relating 2 women. .not elegant at all

the only nigerian boys that are elegant are akwa ibom n calabar boys and some few edo men

you guys need 2 learn from french african men-maybe its their french language that makes them sweet n romantic

What's the hell is French African They have Swiss African? Irish African?

pendo89: Okay read here again .
It has never featured in ur communication.

I love these kind of strange experiences.Out of the normal kind of stuff cz they bring about creativity in a romantic way.
But I am assuming there's a mattress on that mat?? If not then can't he afford a mattress at least?
If he can't buy at least a matt.after having worked a month or two, then I will assume that he doesn't like himself and that is scary.

Okay.

pendo89: Read again.It says 'ALL HE HAS'in hs room.
Unless you choose to sleep on the radio,I see no other choice.

Just because it is all he had...doesn't mean I can't get a couch for him. Duh.

I would settle for the couch.

[quote author=tpia@]^ do you mean fulani who are AA (or white), or fulani who emigrated recently from africa.[/quote]The Westerners.

somalia5: watch it this guy is not to be triffiled with. his a moderator.

I don't give a Bleep if he was Dr. Martin Luther King....stay in your lane.

[quote author=*Kails*]You must have fell and bumped your head recently.
lol.[/quote]Look into the liiiiiight sis!

[quote author=Mynd_44]Nigerian men the wisest? Most of us have outdated wisdom jorh[/quote]Your Nigerian brothers and sisters said that Nigerian men are the wisest of them all. I am just going off what croonies are saying.

Copy cat!

kokoye: Dont make me choose.

I want both.

You wish.

You are giving tips on how to find a husband....but no tips on how to KEEP THE HUSBAND. Women do not have issues getting a husband but many of issues of keeping a husband.