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Nodeydopass:
Good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

There's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp (she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation.

So I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". Throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. The date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.

Then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. However, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.

Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable?

As your name implies, no do pass your self. Maybe shes not into you. You know specs thing! Life no balance

All of you shouting that he got it from Twitter should just stop making noise. Who gives a f*** where it came from? Read and learn, male and female. Oya which story did you people bring for us to share. Na u be the original writer? Abeg swerve!!!

Bornsinner7:
Funny.. I was having a chat yesterday with my brother and he was telling me about this same (exact) story he stumbled on somewhere on the social media..

I don't know what marriages are based on.. I always thought it was love and trust..

The woman doesn't love nor trust the man and she only sees him as a tool to be used to fulfill her plans on whatever she's planning..

That man should just separate himself from her because no matter the amendments she try to make he won't be the same anymore.. that's an everlasting scar in his memory.. What's the point being with a cheat and betrayal??

Move on.. sell all the properties you have in both names.. she doesn't deserve a life with the good man..

I mean her dad who is supposed to correct her when she's looking wrong is the one making sure everything is going on secretly.. man! you're caught in a family of doom.. it's a trap!!! the husband should get himself out before it's too late.. they may be apologizing but in their hearts they are not happy he found out

He should make adjustments where necessary . He should go out to where? Its true that hes been betrayed but that isn't the reason to just opt out. Abeg let's be practical. Oga, make you sha watch your back. I cant fathom the betrayal from all your inlaw s. It's too much. Be careful with them

November1857:
A from south south , we have nothing in common with afonja the backstabbers, go and continue your alliance the Fulani's , we know who are our alliance...

Thank God I'm not the only one.

emmabest2000:
End time elders

I love this

Ogbuu101:
This is why I love Oyedepo.
He has been speaking out against the tyrant in Aso rock and against injustice concerning Christians unlike compromised Adeboye.
Adeboye actually led protests against the government of GEJ but has been speaking in parables nowadays b/c they said Osubande is his God-son,Thiefnuubu's wife is a RCG pastor, bla bla
Next thing is these troublemakers will start demanding a change of name for the schools cos the name (Eg Saint Barnabas) offends their terroristic muslim rights

No mind them, suddenly, God has gone for vacation that He no longer speaks. This is what should be coming from them, but they keep mute and the people are so oppressed

kalu61:
As him no talk, you go like do am again ba!

Bros no be say I dey try am. Everythinh na understanding. So what if i was occupied with my right hand? Some people no dey send all that. That doesnt mean i will not give him the maximum. I know in africa. We can be sensitive to some things but aswear, go outside, ur pikin mate go call u by ur name and nothing go happen. I know I will not do it to some people, if not, 'do u know who I am' go dey fly up and down.

Fisher007:
Gbam

Now where do we start from.

I have no problem with him buying or showing appreciation to someone ( mother, father, children close friends, siblings, relatives or wife) who deserves it, if it is really genuine.

Let me start with the man. You see it is clear that he is highly delusional. Most men think all these gifts and cars gets to the real soul or Coeur heart of a women. Error.

It only buys them for a while and their demands increases. If you have a woman or girlfriend that you keep giving and doesn't give even 20-40 percent in return then you must be a special simp.

When things change for you and you can't keep up. Please accept the pain and trauma alone. We have seen men who did way better than that na divorce finish am last last (e.g Jeff bezo who was a billionaire and who gave his wife 37 billion dollars). Last last she divorce am go dey date her child math teacher in school.
Thank God Jeff rose back and his wealth went into 200 billion dollars few month after.

Some people will come here and say she didn't ask for it . But a real woman who loves (If that exist) unconditionally will tell you that is not needed . That the future of you and your kids is what matters and needs to be secured. Leading to generational wealth and legacy from your child to their child and onward. Simple truth.

Now for the woman. If she really love you and as she claim to do ( which real men know that her love is conditional, provisional and in some case transactional). She won't even display or show off the gift you bought for her to the world. She will appreciate it and be cruising it on the low. Highest she will praise her almighty God and give testimony of what the Lord has of done for her with her God.

But nope, she wants to show off on social media to the entire world and indirectly put preying eyes on both you and your entire family. Before you know the world focus on you and your source of wealth. She wants her female friends to envy her and start questioning their own husband and relationship.

Too me this was not needed. But what do I know. I know nothing Fisher007.

With all this epistle , its obvious many did not concur with you. You gave example with Jeff, did the wife ask him to cheat? If the tables turn now, what will you think of her? Your guess is as good as mine, 'fear women gang'. Even if she is a stay at home woman that doesn't bringing any penny, oga, shes keeping a home! which is work. And remember, some men like it that way. Abeg leave matter.

hunterdtoluu:
That's politics for you. The people who benefit the most (politicians) will not let Nigeria break up

Naso! Slaves forever. In all govt agencies, fulani are heading top positions and it's ok with these people. God is good

Benautos07:
Na lie joor

Seconded. People can say what they like to prove a point. To each his own. I gave hubby something today using my left hand. He no send sef so long as I give him his respect. Abeg next!!!!

Sorry isn't this the one a certain country rejected for a better one?

wirinet:
Then the marriage was never build on love but on lure.
I married by wife based on the commitment and love she showed right from beginning. She has her faults but materialism is not one of them. I believe materialism beclouds relationships and friendships. When I became broke all my friends and family ran away. I was alone with only my wife and my mother who was in the UK then. Today, I have no friends. I go to my office and just come home to my family.

When money dey, friends go dey, when money no dey, friends go go.

Cutehector:
bro or sis, there is no best time for marriage please.

What I noticed with the people advocating for it is because they scaled through, so they think it's debatable

yesloaded:
Human wants is insatiable

Have you wondered why people in their 40s who has car, house of their own, stable business but yet to be married?

The thing is, proper planning with little you have will help a lot

Early marriage gives you opportunity to marry a good woman, marrying late comes with some desperation whereby you ended up marrying a mistake

It's not ok to have kids you still send to secondary school when you've reached age of 60. A man who get married at 40s means his first child will be under 20 when he attain the age of 60yrs

We only need to plan properly, work hard/smart & pray to God for blessings

I DO NOT SUPPORT GETTING MARRIED WHEN YOU CAN NOT PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY

What evil has the 60 years old man committed when his child is not up to 20? Oh, he can even give birth sef. What about those that cant father a child? Nna make una grow up with this mentality biko. Everyone is different. Times and seasons differ with people. Igbo adage says' whenever one wakes up it is one's morning '. I'm not encouraging being a laid back, but everyone cant get it right early.

yetunsbay:
lol, who says so ? Then go marry at 45

There is no pressure in marriage. The person u mock that got married at 45 may end up having all it takes to run a happy home. It's not a taboo. There is no competition. The guy might end up being the fertile one and able to fund the wife to give birth in better countries. thereby securing the future of the kids. All these notions of marrying early should just stop. But if it happens, fine and good. Everyone have their own timing
No be everybody fit reach dangote level. So it should not be d only basis for marriage.

elmessiahs:
Gowon is a middle beltan who I think regret most mistakes he made while in power but the advise his giving are on deaf ears.

Thank God the enemy he created are ravaging his place now and its becoming desolate. He should go to hell with his weak opinion

alphaconde:
before I married there was the temptation of just getting a girl pregnant and having a child and continue my life as a bachelor and father.

but I considered that my father didn't do such to me. I proceeded to have a family.

me my wife and my cute sons.

in all my life there's no greater happiness than what I feel around this circle.

baby mama, baby papa, multiple wives multiple husbands, divorce personally are all reckless lifestyles. lets avoid it.

I encourage you to continue prioritizing your family. Theres no greater joy really. Family first before anything or anyone else. I am very blessed when hubby says this to me too. The sense of responsibility and fulfillment I see in him makes be want to be a better wife also to him. E no easy, make God are us through.

dangotesmummy:
If a man starts accumulating wives like shoes,no amount of women will satisfy him


Even if they bring the whole of Lagos olosho and put inside a room with him,he go still dey marry dey go


The moment a man starts spreading his sperm about,he cannot stop.its like prostitution.the moment a girl starts exchanging vagyna for money,she can't stop.not even marriage can change/stop her


He go still impregnate 5,6,7,8,9,10 any so on


Though I won't totally blame him 100 percent.the impact of a mom in a boy's life is very essential and irreplaceable.the moment a boy looses his mom in his childhood/ formative age or didn't have the opportunity to experience motherly love or kindness at a young age,o bo! he will be looking for his mom in the vagyna of different olosho.its that motherly void in Davido that is missing and he's looking for in the wrong places.

I thought its dad for the guys?

HarunaWest:
Which one is courtesy again?
A man that owns his house didn't complain about his friend coming over but the wife that doesn't know their history is complaining...Leave courtesy alone..There are some dudes that even if they decide to come and stay with me from now till 2023, I will gladly allow em..Cos when this same dudes housed me...Nobody was there.

Oga she is the wife! She has rights. What sef. Which history? Tomorrow if the mother inlaw comes, she will go sleep in her sons room while the wife sleeps on the floor.

you rant a lot, that man may even be the one to safe your family from financial calamity in the future, your husband knows better

I cant even believe that adults are encouraging this!!! 7am-9pm, without the friend. What if he starts running shows be the with the wife? Madam with all due respect, not you. If you are not married, you are not supposed to even counter the woman here to start with because you can never understand . My humble opinion !

khaffi2:
Lol. This your own funny sha

I know myself. Hubby kuku tell me jokingly that my laziness is top notched. He knows I cant handle extra stress. He will use his mouth to tell the guy off on my behalf. He is that caring and I love him for that. Ogi ni di?

Badorey6:
From a day tour, it will turn to another tour by another record label, then the cycle continues.

What exactly is the correlation with Don Jazzy and a mathematics student? Is Mavin a sort of museum or what?

There is no correlation, I get! She could just go see him and his crew, eat lunch and get some gifts from Don Jazzy. Life isn't that hard abeg. What if she is his fan? Why do people travel, take a break, leave etc? Honestly, I see no wrong

Badorey6:
I’ll advise she dosen’t go.

They shouldn’t corrupt her with the musician lifestyle that might make her lose focus.

A word is enough for the wise!

Just a day tour? What happens to 'All work and no play......,' guy wake up!!!!

Angelawhite:
My sister is my best piggy bank. I saved N550k in 7 months with her

I'm impressed. Do u mind sharing?

This is typical, one good turn deserves another for gowon. May the guilt Kill him faster

VULCAN:
It's surprising you keep talking of kids, kids!

Don't you know that most of these people are paid agents for Buhari Media Crew?

They receive stipends every month to divide people who are against those who criticise the government.

Sorry, my bad then! Just very pissed

Abeg where vagina take enter the story?

Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?

Tell him bill gate is a man like him! It's one of those things we see in marriage. I know it hurts but you have to move on. If you cant come down more than you are presently, abeg dont kill your self. All bodies can never be the same. He is your husband and you know him more we do here. I will tell mine to add a little like his peers too
which is impossible because he is slim and can never add). Dont sweat it joor.

If we start killing ourselves like this, nigeria will turn to China during the one child per couple era. The mum is not strong enough to over look her kid's offences, let's assume she did it. There are more serious issues like a young girl giving birth outside wedlock( depending on tribe)or some more serious offences . The thing is, we are just third parties who may never know the full gist. Rip

Raysleek:
Sorry, one question, the girl that killed herself, did she give her phone and password to her friend after she died?

Not all use password. I dont

Shameless people!! Be fighting online while the fulani man is stressing and causing chaos in your father's lands. If you are an igbo or yoruba or south southern or middle belts and all you do is disturb the peace in this place, you need to grow up. Kids are too much here. And its because we are not within the confines of the troubled areas or the hardship is not affecting you. So you have nothing disturbing you. Calmdown and reminisce. Nigeria is about to experience a life time change. After na to go eat mama thank you and pick up your phones to start deriding and bringing down one another. Think!!!