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MrSamsung:
Also don't leave your woman for another just because she has multiple partners.

What is good for the monkey is also good for the chimpanzee.

Women are not sub-human and inferior. TREAT them with RESPECT and DIGNITY. What you won't like her to do to you don't do it to her...................else leave the marriage and be with another or you agree to an open marriage or relationship.


Men, don't let your actions create many Delilahs and Jezebels for us .......................... else even you, an acclaimed PLAYER will also be played, definitely.

I pity the man with the way he was boasting. He doesnt know that the woman might have other plans. Its a different thing when you rub it on our face. The woman face be like' hmmmmm, make i enter fess, you go see shege'. We wait a long time to get our pound of flesh

Sunnybay7:
Nigeria is on fire

Honestly, the news is very scary. Violence every corner of the country.

[quote author=meobizy post=101120477][size=12]I wonder how old she is now. She still looks young,
FORTY FOUR YEARS OLD

Grace456:
Never even kissed before talk more of sex

You owe no one an explanation. You ain't a kid madam.

Grace456:
Help Me Before I Make The Greatest Mistake Pls

I'm a single mother in my early thirties, my daughter is just 2year old and the father is not ready to marry me or take any responsibility on her but still hiding me and his secret wife and won't let me go but I have decided to leave becos he's no adding any value to my life n my daughter's either.

Fast forward
I met a guy online who claims he lives in the US and I discovered I like him since I've met him and now he said we should settle down and marry. I own a duplex in a choice area in Lagos, completed though still small loan I'm paying on it. I agreed to settle down with him but since I told him he can't stay in my house that he needs to get a house, he started acting funny.

The second one, I asked him to show me proof of ID or his work ID, for me to be sure he's who claimed he is, he changed it for me. I tried to let him know that I'm just trying to be careful, don't want to fall prey again but he won't listen to me. He stopped calling and when I call him, he will return my call after like 5hours.

Pls advise me, is it polite for a man to marry and come stay in a woman's house because he said he will soon travel back? This is someone I like to support to get another apartment somewhere else but I haven't told him that. He has really changed in days.

No insult pls...pls ignore rather than insult me pls.

If you don't stop that relationship, you will regret it . Aswear

dederocs:
Mugu, good Nigerian men dey, successful, most of them in America live via hand to mouth. Abi na US dey shack you

What is mugu here now? She is asking for advice why insult her? Which kin humanbeing u be sef? I tire for u people that will just insult people without tangible input to their dilema. She is asking for advise, u dey call her mugu for wetin biko nu? I believe you have also sought for advise from people. How will u fewl if they insult u on top the issue bothering u. Dey take am easy

Angrygoat:
U dey yankee and still u couldn't even get her a used benz or g wagon. Na hyundai, not even honda or toyota. Hyundai. Its like gifting a babe a nokia blackberry bold in 2021

I think she appreciates it

BlessedNuel:
Ndi a gwanu anyi ebe fa si enweta ego ooh

Ego a ga erutukwanu onye o bula aka ofu ubosi. W'etuo obi

Are you sure you don't know what to do abi you want to create a bashing thread? Are you giving your mum monthly stipends? If not, baba borrow ako.

[quote author=BluDesk post=100708050]Loan people money


Ask for 40% return. Grow it from 60k to 600k then go into buy foodstuffs from North... Then grow the 600k to 3M


I'm a knowledge-god.... I'm 95% accurate with my synopsis [/quote

When u give them loan, they will not pay back but feed u with stories. If they dont run away, they scatter the money for you. Thats a bad venture. Speaking from experience

Golan007:
His real father is in the village and when he calls he's often referred to as "that old man".

But Eneche is his papa.

I weak

Odua1stson:
All terrorists must be sent to baba god, kudos to gallant soldiers that killed those bastards.

What have u done to boko haram?

kenzysmith:
God bless u my papa Sir may you keep growing higher sir may you keep touching lives sir and may God bless me

'My papa'?

[quote author=Starzo post=101074774]are u daft or what??...if u have any sense you'd actually had decoded my anger that nobody is speaking up for the young girls in the north but everybody wants to catch cruise with a more juicier and headline grabbing celebrity scandal.
I was actually calling out the hypocrisy but ur bile and bitter nature would never allow you see that. Instead you jump on my mention to attack me and all men cuz that's the only thing that gives ur miserable life

Daft like ur mum right? idiot that cant disagree like a human being. Anumanu.Who u dey vex for? Na me cause ur frustrations? U better run along and go and eat breakfast God punish u there. Fool

anigbajumo:
Your first paragraph is pure nonsense, Am a Yoruba man not igbonman and am currently in control of my father's business of which am very much active in it. My father just married a lady from Imo state and she just gave birth to a son, imagine me that's hustling up and down day and night to make the business sustain that he can acquire property will share the same with the son that knows how he acquired the said property. Am hustler infact I will be on my own in a short time and I will av made it millions by God's grace before my father reach old age but the fact is that the new born baby of One year has little say in my fathers property infact his mother can't put mouth for where I dey talk not to even talk of his son. When the first son dey hustle and map out strategy to secured their fathers wealth nobody was there only for last born to come out and say the property belongs to all of us and share it equal is totally rubbish. Mind u, I never plan to share in my father's property coz I would av acquired mine by God's grace in coming yrs.

You dey vex oh, yours is kinda different from the topic. I get ur point though.

oluwaseyi0:
I blamed the Igbo inheritance sharing culture for this

Imagine when the first born is entitled to lion share of inheritance or females are not consider human enough to enjoy their fathers labour





Very good one from your grandfather

I have a friend who usually says Lagos is too tough he will go back to the village and collect all his late father farms, houses and sell them to help himself,. I ask about his siblings he said they were not his business nor problem

He claimed he's the first born hence the rightful owner of everything, this is someone whose father last born is still in secondary school yet unwilling to give her anything because she is a female that don't deserve inheritance

Can I blame his siblings of same father same mother if they poison him? Of cause I can't

The Igbo need to really come together and do things right, if not most family better be ready for the death of their first born

Cc @mpesa

If u at3e a guy, then i must say u are one in a million. I cant still fathom that age long segregation of not giving the female child anything. I tell hubby, that one ehh no go happen for this marriage. I love my boy to the moon but 'ihuru' will, every inch goes to each child equally. Its just myopic and to think that majority of the first sons now rely on it and patiently wait for it. Many female child are even the ones that work more with the parents but unfortunately, get nothing

osamz007:
ogbeni shut up

Correct guy!!!

Starzo:
but children are being married off in the north and nobody is saying anything

Who told you nobody says anything? Is that the right thing to do? So you take what happens down there normal? Pathetic!!!! The fact that something has been existing doesnt make it right. Can you let your 15 year old girl to get married off? The earlier we call a bad thing what it really is no matter whose ox is gored, the better for our conscience

Watch how they will leave the rapist now and attack tonto dikeh. Put ur female relatives in the shoes of this victim before you leave the crime to blast her. If its not godd for humanity, its not good at all. But we chose to follow issues based on our idiosyncrasies

Hotshisha:
See Fendi... Biggest boy in school...


I just hope his father accepts him, Linda ikeji alone can't raise a boy to a man, his Father's input is very important

Says who? How about widows? Abused women? Those by choice like her? Do u know how many people even here that were raised by a single mum that turned out to be gentlemen? My dad's dad died before he turned 10. He came out fine with a single mum. Try. Change your idiosyncrasies

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Im now used to this statement aswear

kendological:
Everything you said is on point, thanks.
You sound like my elder sister, she has always told Nancy that she will know my value the day I wash my hands totally away from her, which I have already done, I feel pain within me when that girl(my niece) rejoices in my presence, because I know when she grows up, her mother, possibly her grand mother will turn her against me.

Who cares? By then you will have ur own family. She will detest them more becos she will hear u did ur best for her. See oh. U better focus on ur self and potential family.

kendological:
My younger sister-Nancy (not her real name) gave birth to a child outside wedlock, for a very irresponsible man. This man is in his early forties, while my sister is in her mid twenties; she is younger than me by about 8 years.
The problem with her started from my parents who spoilt her from childhood. My other three sisters are all married and two of them are younger than Nancy, while one of the three is our first born.
My father has this superstitious belief that his mother reincarnated through this sister of mine, she became very rebellious, manner less and untouchable, my father will defend her against anybody when she is wrong, even against my mother, my father would even insult me just to please Nancy.
My mother was using Nancy to settle scores with me, because I refused to be manipulated by her. I am an irreligious humanist while my mother is a very toxic Christian, all my family members are Christian anyways, and we don’t discriminate generally. But my mum was using Christianity to cover her character flaws, she and my father practically turned Nancy against me. Now they are getting older Nancy have overpowered them, and they still interfere when I try to rebuke her.

I studied through the open and distance system of education, mostly self sponsored and occasionally by my father, I have been working since leaving secondary school, I graduated from the university about 2 years ago, I was disrespected so much at home just because I was still struggling. This is notwithstanding the fact that I still render assistance wherever I can. I started a business last year around June and I am now growing gradually. I am supporting my younger brother who is currently in the university. I have earned some respect in the family too.

I spent money on medical bills Nancy during pregnancy and after delivery; other members of the family have been contributing in taking care of her baby. But she is still meeting and having sex with the man who is responsible for her baby. I have seen Nancy trying to show me that the baby is her own on few occasions (I learnt firsthand how a childless woman feels when mothers ridicule her), she does not appreciate, love nor respect me.
I am an enemy to her now because I am against her lifestyle and choices. In fact, Nancy cannot even greet me for more than 6 years, my parents are aware but always make excuses for her like “we cannot force her”, “she is just immature”, “she will grow up’’ etc.

Now the child is almost due to be enrolled into pre nursery, everyone is expecting me to shoulder the responsibility, as the first son. My father always says that the child will be taken care of just like every one of his children as if he has any plan for her. They always let me know that a first son is an embodiment of patience, endurance and tolerance, just when they are about to blackmail me into doing their wishes.
I love this child but I feel that I shouldn’t start wasting my resources on a child whose mother hates me and may turn her against me later in my life, whose grandparents encouraged her mum to disrespect me and whose father may find his way into her heart when she gets to adulthood, making me a loser. If I find myself broke or in need tomorrow, I don't want to start regretting my past benevolent actions.
I am single and in my early thirties.
Please I need sound advice and sincere suggestions on what to do.

You have your life ahead of you. Dont think you have arrived to be throwing the little you have around. You better save becos in no distant time, you will have your own family. Better do not give the woman excuses even if she is earning. Tomorrow is very big. Package yourself and just support and not to be the major contributor. I repeat, support so that it will not be that you are begrudging her. See this life, you are on your own oh. When you will know the kind of people you are surrounded with is when you dont have. Nobody send you message. Be guarded

Bornsinner7:
On a more serious plate with mental magnitude we should ruminate on the quintessential modus operandi of Ubi in affinity with these vaginold..

Within an ephemeral length for flexing of trade by barter, these vaginold creatures can catapult you into a state of discombobulation..

I here by call on young men to not ridicule the man but rather coruscate the lessons from dealing with this vigina creatures while in search of Joie de vivre or bon vivant

Thank God the topic is self explanatory

I guess she is ok with just one kid. Good for her

[quote author=hslbroker2 post=101043719][/quote]some ho island, alaba and bank dey hustle

PotatoSalad:
Sweet.
But sha this thing caused the parents of one of my friends to rubbish his future. Dad is a doctor, mum is a nurse. They pressured their son to study medicine.
Boy wanted to become an engineer.
Long story short, boy dropped out of med school and is now a depressed 30+ years old man. Doesn't have a job, no career. The parents abandoned him and treat his younger siblings with more respect.
Brilliant kid o.

God forbid that I dictate my child's future. Even if he wants to play games, I will support him. Besides adults like Dream, Ninja and PewDiePie makes millions of dollars monthly by playing video games

engineering is also a good choice. That is the mistake some parents make. Always trying to impose their decisions on the kids. Kids just need encouragement. You can advise them to chose better but when they insist, abeg leave them. This family na fire!

TMSMedia:
A couple from Anambra State, Chika and Chinyere Nwokike, have welcomed quadruplets after sixteen years of childlessness, IgbereTV reports.

Mrs Chinyere gave birth to two boys and two girls last month.

A priest with the Catholic Archdiocese of Onitsha, Rev. Fr. Obum Martin shared the good news on Facebook. He also shared a picture of himself carrying the quadruplets in the midst of their parents. He wrote;


https://www.facebook.com/100000725387138/posts/4216067131760758/?app=fbl

I don't want to know the method. Thank God for this

Agbegbaorogboye:
Zombie!! So PDP ruled from 1985 to 2015?
Did you graduate from university of Lai with first class honours?

I love the way u countered this. People just let bigotry take the best part of them.

Voy:
As the Naira approaches ₦500 to $1, let me remind Nigerians of how we left Nigeria on May 29, 2015:

‪- 50kg bag of rice was ₦8000‬
‪- bag of cement was ₦800‬
‪- Fuel was ₦87‬ per litre
-Minimum wage was ₦18000 which was equivalent to $120
‪- Electricity tariff was half the current rate ‬
-Unemployment rate was single digit
‪- $1 was ₦150 (₦199 in 2015)‬
‪- Lagos-Abuja air fare was ₦10,000‬
-Brand new tear rubber Kia Cerato was ₦3.6 million
‪- A bottle of Coke was ₦60‬
‪- A tin of Peak milk was ₦80‬
‪- Banditry was nonexistent in the Northwest
-Killer herdsmen were being arrested and tried
-Boko Haram were being devastated, not rehabilitated, and elections held in every Local
Government Area of Nigerians on Election Day in 2015.

Don’t you miss Goodluck Jonathan?


Source: https://www.facebook.com/1152008079/posts/10224638040715746/?d=n

Im not sure of that cement own oh! I miss oga Jona! Im sorry for not liking him but i didnt vote this Uk tourist of a president either.

GEEBITE:
I disagree with him calling you mumu but your response s are too harsh. Even involving the parents!!!

I am a parent! I have people looking up to me as well. If he has basic home training. he should know that opinions are highly personal . This forum is meant to share views. I learn alot here. At the same time, I cant tolerate someone insulting me for sharing my opinion. He too will be a parent tomorrow. His parents failed terribly. So guy, we all have opinions and learn from others. Some people come here to pour their frustrations on others over little issues. Kids insulting people anyhow. Pikin dem wey still dey scrap pot yansh. Why should i condescend that low?

descarado:
We had a case worst than this when I was young.

A man from my place dated a lady for long. From what the sister (we were classmates)has been telling us about her brother, he was engaged to this woman, the woman made him what he was. Everybody was aware and they dated for yrs. He changed his mind all of a sudden. Reason; she is old. So he looked for young babe from my town. That lady was from another state.
On the Sunday of wedding, we were on our way to church when we heard the news. A particular room was set on fire after bachelor's night and the target was the man.
Unfortunately, cos of lack of space he found himself on a chair where some cousins and friend crashed for the night and that was how all of them were burnt beyond recognition. One man and six hot babes. Innocent babes.
My cousin was one. Her mom never recovered. 2 girls from one family. Mum had cardiac arrest as soon as she heard the news. You need to see these girls.
2 babes betrothed to 2 of my cousin's were affected.
One of my school girl was affected.
I know everybody there one day or the other.
It was all over the news.

Actually, one of m people came home specifically for intro to one of th burnt girls.

You see the chain of reactions.

As for the wife, she had mental breakdown. Mum is from my family( extended).
For yrs, she was always on black dress and headgear.
After prolonged medical treatment, she finally stopped wearing black and went to school, graduated and is married.
She lost 2 cousins, her friends and husband.

Let him who has ear read and assimilate.
It's not Everybody that will forgive and forget.

That babe was never arrested. It was a mere speculation and she came from a well connected and influential family.
Heard her family came to ask the guy why disgracing them cos he was already part of them and the idiat was proud to tell them name their price and he will pay double.

You see the pride. So before u castigate someone, abeg make ur enquiries. Some people are soft hearted and are easier to please people but dont take them for granted. U hurt someone and u are telling them to name their price. Can u imagine the level of ego and lack of remorse? It will even make one go to the extreme more. So u see this matter, e get underlying issues we dont know