₦airaland Forum

olamoses75:
I see no reason why a man would be so much disturbed about a woman who really do not care about him.

If she's not interested, please respect yourself and MOVE ON.

They is no dignity and nothing masculine in trying so much to win a woman's heart using hard earned resources.

A woman already knows what she wants, if it's not you that she want then she will be playing hard to get or forming not interested.

Know when to quit chasing, value yourself, your time and effort.

If she missed your call and she doesn't bother calling back, respect yourself and don't bother calling her back again.

If she leaves your message on read or ignore them, just don't bother yourself, she's not interested. Don't double text, she saw your first message.

If she makes excuses when ever you plan on seeing her, just stop bothering yourself.

Give love to those who is ready to give you love. And I can even tell you less than 5% of women out there deserve love.

Honestly, some men needs to learn how to ignore women and walk away. He doesn't matter if you're rich, struggling or broke.

Yes, move on. You don't have to consistently prove to a woman that you're best options by trying to please her. If you do, it means you've signed up for a life of her on the pedestal. And if that happens, what will be the power dynamic in your relationship? You sef think am na.

You must not win every woman's heart, learn to accept rejections and move on from it.

Respect red flags and take them serious.

Please.

Stay focused!

Read this everyday

He is even happy and celebrating. Kai Nigeria

cnandy:
I like his penis

You need to see a doctor.

BRATISLAVA:
What fight?

Is that why you came out with being rude insults, because this is a fight to you in which your opinion is that of the very heavens and the most superior?

Live and learn.

You see some of those people who are poor with many children? They were once rich. And you see those with one child who are rich? They were once poor.

Nothing is written in stone.

I still hold what I said about you. Anyone who insults unprovoked has deep issues.

Haha No the fight I was talkin about is the “poverty mentality” you are accustomed to.

That is why Nigeria is the second poverty capital of the world. That is why the country is not progressing. All your delusions are taking you no where.

I am sure you already made the mistake and come here to find a fellow misery candidate as you but all you are getting are enlightened people.

I beg you all reading this don’t follow retarded people like this guy above.

Your country Nigeria is a hard place. Your country does not respect you. Your country does not care about you. Your country is facing multidimensional poverty.

Right from inception your country doesn’t even value the basic of jobs. That is why minimum wage is low. That is why a cleaner in the UK can afford to pay rent and feed but it’s the opposite in Nigeria. What I mean is WHEN THE going gets tough in life, you can’t even flip burgers at Wendy’s or KFC out of your predicament.

Your country is anti people. Stomach infrastructure is still a big deal in Naija in 2024.

Your salary job won’t cut the mustard. Inflation is killing your currency.

Please try as much as possible to find a way to earn a lot of money and settle with a partner that is also doing the same. Then when it comes to kids make a plan. Kids are expensive. I am talkin about the right way of raising a kid not the suffering upbringing yall are accustomed to in Naija and think it’s normal.

Use your sense. Naija no send you. You will suffer if you are not careful.

BRATISLAVA:
You are stupid. And naive.

Teenagers like yourselves will post any amount of rubbish they can summon.

Look man if I said anything rude to you earlier I take it back.

I really have nothing to lose in this fight.

To each his own.

Be safe.

LalastiklaIa:
You even get mind o. 70k and u get mind marry still born 1 and even add another one on top. Wow

Let me be earning 500k as a bachelor. I can not have a girlfriend not to talk of wife and kids. Una dey try sha

Some of those people have already adjusted to suffering so you can’t blame them.

Once they see a job that is paying them poverty salary next thing is to be thinking of marriage and giving birth to 500 kids

Then when they are sacked from the job or the worst happens you will see the wailing topics on Nairaland

Let me give you sample:

“Please help my wife is threatening to leave me with 4 kids after I lost my job”

BRATISLAVA:
You are stupid. And naive.

Come on tell me the truth. No more blue balls.

What, you did it already? Trapped? 5 kids? Ugly wife? She ain’t even got a job? Damn you don’t got a job too?

Tell me the truth what happened? We are here to help you.

But you finna need a real job cause it ain’t gona be easy especially if you trapped in this hell hole called Nigeriaghanistan. Things are changing. The world is getting harder.

Man You finna pay child support and bills till your hair coming from your follicles turn pink

Wish you luck a s s h o l e

Kobojunkie:
Studies in the United States have shown that one's economic mobility is greatly impacted by the economic status of the family one is born into.
Try to apply that to the Nigerian setting and you immediately begin to see why it is essential for a man and woman to plan out there family and lives not based on how many children they desire to have but on how many they can afford. While having many children is not the cause of poverty, it has been linked to why many are unable to rise out of poverty. Why do the poor have large families

2. Some can afford the many children they have. However, the vast majority of those who have many children cannot afford to feed or even cloth them let alone educate them.

3. Comparing a family with kids they are unable to fend for in poverty to a homeless man with mental/health issues unable to keep up as a result of the disability is unfair.

I don’t know why you and Lalastiklala are replying that dumb ass BRATISLAVA or whatever the name is on this topic.

It’s clear these are the people that don’t see anything wrong in giving birth to many kids without a plan to raise them. You can’t afford the next meal yet you are giving birth to 5 kids and one idiot doesn’t see anything wrong in this?

I am bored of impacting common sense into these lots. Nigeria will never get better trust me. These people are the majority.

LalastiklaIa:
People blame ancestral curse over their own mistakes and doing. Why breed 5 children in poverty. When you can get 1 and give him the best with your limited resources

Imagine losing your life as a youngman hustling because of poverty. Kai

The children of the G.O you go to their church to shout amen to have their kids in UK with British accent

Many Nigerians are very foolish. Thats the answer. I just can’t imagine. In a country with no welfare and the HDI is very low yet you still breed like fools.

Illiteracy is truly a disease.

tochez24:
I tried uploading the pics but it couldn't bro⚠️
My card details:
5399 4122 9377 1856
10/27 cv 941
Zenith Bank

Please kindly wipe my account, you deserve it sir🙏🏽

You tried uploading the picture but couldn’t

tochez24:
NEVER⚠️

Even the highest hacker in this world can't hack into your bank account without knowing your pin or having access to your alert sim.

They can reset your pin with OTP if they can access your alert sim...

So it's very important to password them both before any other thing, and don't share with anyone for whatever reason.

Alright bro.

Kindly snap the front and back of your atm master card. I want to see some details. Thanks bro

Ballzproblem2:
The day you realize women no send you is the time you will start to live and have abundance mentality.



That girl you are killing yourself for there are different men telling her the same thing you told her over and over again at this point it's one she feels for she will select.


so why bother? talk your mind if she no feel you move on don't stress ,she dey give the guy she select free sex meanwhile you dey there they imagine how you will spend your life with her lol.

You ended everything. Wise words

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar


What da fuckkk. Just stop
Don't get me annoyed
This your statement have caused alot of poverty to so many young men
Na wa o
Why he be say people nor dey get mind to leave a particular place

Na so bros ororo do am come think say things go better in the future begin hope
Come even go rent I face you and slap me kind of house
Before you know it sandra fall In love with am inside I face me and face you room them begin bang and belle enter
Family start poverty increase

Bro Nigerians like poverty leave them jare. All these enlightened talk won’t solve anything.

BRATISLAVA:
You want a first world woman, but are you a first world husband ready to do what first world men do? Or you are in the 3rd world and hungering after the financial status of 3rd world women fantasizing how you will eat their money up?

Men frequently die before women because they are older than them. How many men marry women 10-30 years older than them? It's simple natural arithmetic. Something the logical ones never seem to get.

Bro thinks I am in hell hole Nigeria suffering with him

And wym first world men do? They do something with their two hands to make money in a world that is not kind to Men.

Same as first world women who contribute $$$… Ain’t nobody doin all that obligation and all that goofy nonsense you people in Nigeria do and churn out poverty every year.

You both pay bills to raise a child you both brought into this world. Thats it.

Bro said your wife is your obligation lmao.

UnfairLife7:
stop passing wrong information all in the name of being woke. Your wife is also your obligation. She can only support the family no matter how little


you better go and adopt so you don't have any business with marriage even men takes care of their baby mama that isn't their wives

Que Sera, Sera, cry today, cry tomorrow, cry forever.

This is the mentality that has kept Nigeria a second poverty capital of the world.

No wonder Men continue to die early due to stress.

What useless obligation to someone who isn’t even your relative?

Your wife is a partner who you work together with to build a family. She also works hard to pay bills just like it’s done in the first world countries.

If you like go and have kids with a trophy wife, it’s you who would work and slave and still be under appreciated and still being cheated on and manipulated.

That’s you and your cup of tea.

Ashawoman82:
Oga shut up, most of u are lastborns u don't really understand sup... A factory worker suffering to sponsor his old enough, able bodied brother to school, that's pure stupidity bro... Look no matter how u see it yourself, your future is more important than any body's future, your life is your major responsibility ur only obligation is to ur children.... What happened to the so called hnd brother, y can't he find a factory work to sponsor himself too....

Your major obligation is to your kid or kids. Not even wife

Whenever a man wants to marry in this period you need to find a woman that is doing something with her life. There’s no space and time for liability again. Nigeria is already too hard

Don’t breed poverty like your parents did.

Imagine a son replacing a father just because he’s first born. Just terrible.

Nigeria sha very messed up region.

Why these photos and videos are popping up is what i dont understand. No respect to the family whatsoever.

They couldn't even cordon the area before they started.

Painful thing is the Young Nigerians will have this mentality that this sort of exposure is normal.

Kai.

Openfortruth:
Thank you for this sir. I would appreciate it a lot. This would come at a point of my need, but I cannot find your email to send it. If you permit me, I can drop the details here. Please my email:
johndan4you@gmail.com, if you are not comfortable to drop your own.

I will hit you up very soon.

Cheers!

owunabastard:
bros this is Nigeria settings not the western world family has been destroyed . You are the bigger mumu here

That is why your Nigeria remains a hell hole while you and your family will not last one-day without services from the western world

Let me guess you are using a western world 'iphone or Android' to post on Nairaland? Foolish boy.

My girlfriend saw my replies on this post and said i was insensitive

On a serious mood, your elder brother is suppose to take care of you. Leaving you hungry shows the problem is from his end and not you.

I take back my earlier post and apologize if i was insensitive to your plight.

Sorry about your ordeal and i hope things work out for you two.

My girlfriend also wishes a quick resolution to your predicament.

Good night.

Openfortruth:
Same thing I'm going through this night. I'm going to bed hungry.

Send your bank account to my email

Lets just contribute and buy your wife a macbook.

Nairalanders we can do it.

Kobojunkie:
So, you will welcome visitors or family into your home but will not feed them? Na wa ooo!

Another nonsense mention maybe you should sit this one out cause you are talking off point!

Let me help you,

The topic is about a younger brother whos feeling entitled to help from his elder brother.

I was only letting the younger brother know the reason he's in this predicament is because his parent failed and his country also failed him. Now he has to be at the mercy of an elder one who is NOT interested in taking up any role in his life.

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Visitors? They are not permanent so how's their feeding a problem?

Family? I got an elder brother and if i am planning to live with him for a long time, you best be right i am getting a job so i can help my elder brother PAY HIS GODDAMN BILLS.

And if i cant get a job i would do things that would make my elder one interested in feeding me. HE OWES ME NOTHING!!!

Kobojunkie:
Stop spewing bullsheet abeg!

In which world out there is it sensible not to feed someone you are housing? Which kain brain damage this one dey try sell abeg?

You mean its your duty to feed someone you are housing?? So i kept someone homeless in my apartment so its automatically my duty to feed the person?

Now tell me whos spewing bullsheet between the both of us.

MUMU


Cc Kobojunkie

Mindlog:
You telling me the "world has passed all these".....makes me laugh ....how did child support creep into the story, did OP clearly state he is a minor and neglected by his father?

I mean you probably been in Naija all your life so how would you understand responsibility in the real world. I don't blame you.

The child support was in a (). I added it to explain how parents would understand how demanding and expensive it is to raise kids in the right way into adulthood, not those suffering and smiling upbringing in the Nigerian culture.

If OP was born into a proper setting, do you think he would be be waiting for his elder brother to come home from work to feed him?

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

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No 3 is the real deal. Tell them the truth. This entitlement mentality is part of the reason Nigeria is a mess.

In the States you would see the old people working to pay bills!

When the kids get them gifts its a special occasion and appreciated.

I got an elder brother and i cant imagine asking him to feed me. The shame sef go too much.

He only decides to give me money on his own will and i am always apperciative.

Part of the reason is my dad is a hardworker and made us comfortable right to 21 and explained how its important for a man to be responsible.

Mindlog:
Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city?

Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile.

What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry after trekking back from where he is learning a skill, while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o.

My friend, the world has passed all these - No matter how you guilt trip or use emotions to handle this, fact remains HE IS NOT ENTITLED TO ANYTHING FROM HIS ELDER BROTHER.

OP is entitled to care from his dad and mom. Since the duo have failed in their primary responsibility which should be a serious criminal offense in Nigeria (Child support should be a serious deal in this dead country), OP is now left to fend for himself.

Irresponsible parents and breeding are part of the cause of poverty in ya country.

Back to you Openfortruth , your elder brother owes you nothing. Earlier you realize that the better for you.

As someone pointed out in first page, you have to treat him like an OGA to get something from him. Do things that you know will make him happy in the long run.

The state of Nigeria is the problem. If you were in the States you could be flipping burgers in a fastfood and have a side hustle and still pay your bills and get a nice apartment.

I cant imagine the job you could do in Nigeria to give you a good salary considering you dont even have a degree.

So of course Nigeria also failed you. You better go out there and hustle.

Nobody gives a damn about gender M.

CC Agentgoat

Some Nigerians and over do.

Why cant you just go home after the candlelight procession?

Naira Marley, Zino, Sammy Larry and the gang surely did not expect this sort of attention and fury

That's good. SAY NO TO BULLYING & INTIMIDATION (Which is common in the Nigerian society)

Lets say Mohbad even had a bad side that we don't know about, Naira Marley's antics of bullying and intimidation has over shadowed his defense.

On the side, i saw a trending video of Naira Marley during his days in Peckham. He speaks like someone who did not attend primary school

PLEASE EXPLAIN LIKE I AM 5 WHAT THE ADVANTAGE OF THIS NEW MOVE IS OVER SOLVING ISSUES LIKE HIGH DATA COST FOR THE AVERAGE NIGERIAN?

You would miss the food ofcourse if you the type that is into African food.

Then of-course the social life and your family. Then Naija girls and their entitlement mentality

Abroad can be a different world sometimes but i would always pick it 100 times over this suffer capital Nigeria with no direction under the present party - APC.